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Be an "I CAN" diabetic

by Gabby
August 24, 2008 9:10 AM
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I was writing to one of our new members and as we spoke, I found another jewel I wanted to share. Here is what I told her:

"I guess the other thing too is to look at what we are dealing with not as a "can't have" life, but a "yes I can" life. What I mean is that if you are always telling people what you can't have, can't do..it gets depressing for you and frustrating for them. What I try to do (not always very successful at it) is emphisise what I CAN have. What I CAN do with them. It helps eliviate the tension that can come when people just don't know what to do. Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.
It's like my husband who is in a wheel chair. When he acts like a jerk because someone does something that effects him or his ability to get somewhere I try to remind him that he can be a good example of what a person with disabilities can be. Or he can be a jerk and make people stereo type all people in wheelchairs as jerks...because people do that. Maybe not intentionally, but we all do it. So I try to be the best example of a diabetic I can be."


Tags: attitude, stereotypes

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DonnaAnn
DonnaAnn
DonnaAnn replied August 25, 2008 6:06 AM 

how true that is. I myself just the other day was telling someone the list of can nots for me to eat. what a great attitude, thanks for the reminder.

Gabby replied August 25, 2008 4:45 PM 

It is an easy trap to fall into, because we look at that way ourselves. Durning my 30 day veggie challenge the first days were so hard because I focused on the "NO MEAT" part instead of the wonderful veggie part. I am still looking forward to eating a nice piece of pork, but I found that I am really craving veggies. So at meal time, I don't ACT deprived because I'm NOT deprived. It helps at meal time a lot to be that way.

butterfly_8
butterfly_8
butterfly_8 replied August 26, 2008 6:01 PM 

Hi Gabby,
and your are an excellent example.I do look forward to seeing your remaarks and sharing. It is always good advice.
Thanks for being you.

Gabby replied August 27, 2008 1:58 PM 

You are so sweet to say so. I have to say that I always look for your smiling face in a discussion too. You just seem to have such a great attitude about things and it always helps me keep an eye on my not so shining moments.

Amy Tenderich
Amy Tenderich
Amy Tenderich replied August 27, 2008 4:11 PM 

Great wisdom, thank you!

You guys might also be interested in a new online newsletter all about "success with diabetes and life through personal motivation, self-discipline, and establishing world-class habits..."

It's called Mind Over Mellitus, and is found at www.mindovermellitus.com

Enjoy!

Gabby replied August 27, 2008 4:55 PM 

What a wonderful article. So eleoquent and right on the money. I wanted to become a member, but couldn't find a way to get registered. Do you know how to do that?

Amy Tenderich replied August 28, 2008 5:31 PM 

Hmm, it's not obvious on the site, is it? I can look into it and let you know.

Best,
AT

Gabby replied August 28, 2008 6:17 PM 

Thanks, I appreciate it.

butterfly_8 replied August 28, 2008 9:03 PM 

Hi Amy,
I also read the article and was waiting for your reply. There was no way to join.

Gabby replied September 22, 2008 5:43 PM 

Hey Amy,
did you ever find a way to sign up for this site? I still can't figure out how to become a member?

Debe Pendice replied August 29, 2008 8:44 PM 

I read the article and also waiting for a reply. I also wanted to say this article is good to distribe to new diabetics to start out with motivation.

my2boyzdd
my2boyzdd
my2boyzdd replied August 29, 2008 7:05 PM 

Awesome and very inspirational. It does get very depressing to go through and tell someone what you can't do and it;s hard for me because growing up we were not allowed to use the word "can't". To my mom everything is possible. So I share the I can attitude.

Andrea

Gabby replied September 8, 2008 11:38 AM 

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That is fantastic. I know I don't always use it, but when I do, in more ways my life is richer. I am a silver lining kind of gal, and when we are that way, we can stand out, inspire and encourage...what better thing to do in life than lift someone in need? Glad you are an "I CAN" person too. Tell your mom thanks for that foundation.