discussions
Motivation/Emotions
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Pat Roth |
Pat Roth replied July 3, 2009 12:41 AM
Maybe I should elaborate a bit more on helping others! It doesn't have to be a needy child across the street, but the friends that we make here on this site--to help ANYONE, ANYWHERE, to me is the main reason we are all here. And NEVER underestimate your own repsonse to someone else--it may just make their day too, or can break it, so I do try to be careful of my words!! I always mean well, but sometimes stick my feet in my mouth-ha--Best Wishes to ALL! Pat Roth |
SusanJ |
SusanJ replied July 3, 2009 1:00 AM
Thank you for sharing this with us. With my job I deal with people of all type of disabilties. When I hear some of what they go through it reminds me how blessed I am not to be worse then I am. Have a great weekend.
Pat Roth replied July 3, 2009 1:13 AM I did work with patients in the hospital, then in their homes, until my health failed and could barely care for myself! I felt so USELESS!! If I can't WORK, what use am I? But thankfully, God seems to be working to help show me the way to help others, even with my limitations. Thanks for all of your support!! PR |
apanda |
apanda replied July 3, 2009 1:08 AM
I think it's so nice what you are doing. We all need to stop and think sometimes how even the smallest insignificant things to us can mean so much to another person. It doesn't take much effort to do something nice for someone else each day. |
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Pat Roth |
Pat Roth replied July 6, 2009 6:14 PM
I would like to tell someone, so you, my friends, are elected! ha--The bond between me and the neighbor kids across the street, is growing~! and for the first time in YEARS I feel useful and capable of handling the little tests that are coming my way!
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Pat Roth |
Pat Roth replied August 6, 2009 8:40 PM
Last edited 3 months ago It has been awhile since I have shared my antics with the 4 children from across the street!
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hbkunkel |
hbkunkel replied August 14, 2009 4:22 PM
The Lord works in mysterious ways and He brought those children into your life just when you needed them and they needed you too! Strange how things have a way of working out. Those children are very lucky to have you there for them. I am rooting for all of you!! Is there anything they really need?
Pat Roth replied August 14, 2009 6:04 PM Bless you, Betsie. There is nothing that I know of at this time, they are pretty independent and frugal, kids want so desparately to WORK and help their mom, and the little Down Syndrome boy gets so hiper--is a challenge to them all, BUT he is also sweet and they all love him so much!! Very protective of him too, which, to me, speaks of the quality of their lives in spite of emotional challenges!
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beadmom |
beadmom replied August 14, 2009 6:26 PM
I have seven children (who are all adults now). Kids, especially middle school kids can be so very mean. You couldn’t pay me enough to teach middle school.
Pat Roth replied August 14, 2009 6:41 PM Amen, Ginger!! She has a good job working with a Dr at our hospital, BUT with the downward spiral of the economy, had her hours cut in half, then did NOT get one cent from the state this month to help her buy things for the boy, he has hearing aids, thick glasses and a GREAT< BIG SMILE!! They have helped me so MUCH, are reinstilling my faith in man kind!! They have experienced some ot the issues that I have had in my own younger life, and although, I am an only child, I think that if I had a grandmother, or a sister etc, I wouldn't have been so damaged so young--break my neck to do the RIGHT thing--OK< but did NOT learn how to protect myself from the barbs of life--am getting there--finally---like I said, I am STUBBORN ! HA The main thing that has always helped me was to care for others! So, God had a plan , and I am now ready to care for others, expecially such sweet children. I have always spoken to the kids that walk by as I KNOW that that smile may be the very thing that gets them through that one day at school or in life!
beadmom replied August 14, 2009 7:13 PM One of my daughters has had hearing aids and glasses (now contacts) her whole life. She is a web developer for a massive site about to launch and a rodeo queen with an IQ of 163 so she’s mainstreamed through her education. The expense is horrendous.
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As I come out of this horrible depresssion, I guess I am in a rut of "feeling sorry " for myself, in a way--Since my energies and physical make-up are limited I have been at a loss as what I am to do for the remainder of my life---I am 77 years old, raised 4 children who are busy with their own lives--I am learning to accept that, but I sure do NOT like it, and am RETIRED!
I have been making myself go outside and putter in the flower gardens, but am lazy, put things off!
But, a sweet, young girl of 14 years old that lives across the street, came over, with her 13 yr old brother on MOn., and offered to help me water my flowers.
I started to tell them that I could do it all myself, then re-thought it, and said, "sure"! "May I come in the morning?"
Cheezzz, now I am going to have to commit myself to something that I feel half-heartedly about! I HATE to get up early--result of HAVING to for 30 years working at the hospital, then raising our 4 children with serious digestive problems!
Well, it has been one week, this week, and accepting her help has been one of the best moves of my life! She also has a 9 yr. old brother who has Down's syndrome, she LOVES to care for him, while her mom works, also at the hospital. She shared that she wanted to become a pediatrician, loved helping EVERYONE! If she got paid, OK< or not, OK!
Hmmm---food for thought, Patricia Ann.
To make a long story shorter- -I pay her $1 an hour for watering, and she baked us 4 muffins without being asked, loves to bake, so I offfered her $10 a week to bring us 2 doz cookies (for my hubby) to help out their family! Her dad is in prison for child molestation, there are several more siblings but they are scattered here and there, just these 3 children reside across the street!
As she shared her life, she told me that this month her mom received a letter from the govt, refusing to pay them any more money for help in caring for the nine yr old! No warning, just NO MORE!! I noticed that the child wears hearing aids, strong glasses, and has difficulty walking! The 13 and 14 yr old, pull the younger boy in a wagon to go to the Methodist church to eat dinner every day, as their mom is at work. Also, their swimming at out local pool is limited as the young boy can't be out in the sun too long or he passes out! When she told me that they were getting ready to walk the 7 or 8 blocks to eat, I offered to take them! It is TOO hot out there for those youngsters!
Then their mom was working 40 hrs a week, but got cut to 28 hrs, due to our recession! The girls ( a 15 yr old in Col.)are trying to make money to help their mom as their income has been cut so drastically! Of course there is no way that these children can make up $2000 a mo.!
But you know what? For once, in a long time, I am now thinking of others, eager to help these kids that I can identify with---so with positive distractions of caring, once more, for others, I won't dwell so much on my DIET< EXERCISE etc---and other mundane BS things.
That is another reason to keep going, and you folks here on this site, have also helped, I feel cared about-, something in common without critism--so look around you and may you too find a coping experience that will help you to get out of our rut! Best Wishes--Let me hear how you are coping and adjusting to "life without sugar! or a job and a purpose!" Pat Roth