Like "My husband shared something with me once that his therapist had said to him: "When you're trying to set a boundary with someone, you may FEEL as though you're screaming at them, but what may actually be coming out of your mouth sounds very different. Nothing near what it feels like." (Does that make sense?) I'm like you - sometimes it's easier just to go along and try to make the best of it because I HATE conflict. But that usually doesn't solve anything. Just postpones it. Sounds like you have a plan, though - good for you!"