Like "I was diagnosed at 11 months, so didn't have to go through all the emotional trauma. But speaking as a mom and 40-year diabetic, have you tried some family outings? A trip to the zoo, the mall, a museum, something that will let her step away from you briefly for a few moments to get absorbed in whatever her thing is, and then come back when she needs to. Might help her build up her confidence in being on her own and knowing that she is in control of herself. Daily outings would be too. Bike riding, music lessons, karate, whatever can put her in a controlled setting for 30-60 minutes could be a big help in getting her over the hump."