Like "Pegsy, I think people make the mistake in saying that someone should be more understanding or compassionate when it comes to their needs. People don't have to be understanding or compassionate. Your mother could simply have become a miserable person because of her diabetes. I have found that people who have the same problems can't handle it when people having the same problems move forward and solve them. They are left behind because they made no effort to change. I don't have mood swings. I use to have them years ago but i worked on controlling them and it worked. I loved Biofeedback. I learned that no one can make me feel miserable, used, inferior or anything else without my permission. I don't give them permission. "