Like "Howdy Rhonda! I am concerned for your well being lady! If you've ever been on a flight on a jetliner one of the things they instruct you to to is to get the oxygen mask on FIRST before helping someone else. You cannot be of help to others if you don't take care of yourself first. Yes you want to be a good help to your hubby, but you need to let some things slide to care for yourself too! Please take care of yourself girl! hugs to you James"