Sick and tired of being used

runthe
By runthe Latest Reply 2011-04-01 15:07:04 -0500
Started 2011-03-07 14:28:15 -0600

Hi all, I have a pet peeve about peoples that are non diabetic asking me to take their blood sugar. When i explain to them that my doctors look at my meter and that it have to match what I chart on my log. I gets my supply from the county and I have limited supply of lancets and strips. Why is it that others always wants you to test them. I even have people asking me for meds or pain pills because I have them. I am not one to give up my meds. Just the other day a relative of mines got mad because I would not test him. He told some family and they didn't understand why I would not do it for him. Does anyone have that problem with peoples wanting them to use their supplies. I tell them that their are plenty of places offering to test for diabetes and that if they are concern about being a diabetic they should go and get tested. Thank for letting me vent.. Hope that all have a bless and happy day.
runthe


45 replies

Tigereyze209
Tigereyze209 2011-03-13 21:34:34 -0500 Report

How interesting… In all of my ten years after being diagnosed, not a soul has ever asked me for any pills once I explained to them that not a thing I have is even the least bit narcotic, and could in fact make them extremely sick if they do not have any of the conditions for which they treat. Most folks don't like seeing me test my own blood sugar, never mind asking me to test theirs.
I must live a sheltered life if it really is that common.
My condolences.

larry A
larry A 2011-03-13 21:15:11 -0500 Report

some of the pharmacies in my area offer a free BS check I have told the annoying ones to go here to check their sugar it usally stops the asking.

dietcherry
dietcherry 2011-03-13 21:02:38 -0500 Report

Yeah we end up feeling guilty for saying no, when they are the ones who should carry the guilt for asking in the first place! I suspect their curiosity about their BS number is getting the better of their manners. As far as your pain pills, give them an aspirin instead and maybe they'll experience the placebo effect! haha Great discussion runthe!

Yogirajj
Yogirajj 2011-04-01 13:00:07 -0500 Report

On the real…

If said person believes themselves to be a diabetic, then WE are not the doctors!! Hello!?!?!?!

This opens up to many opportunities for someone to give their "untrained medical opinion", which of course can be dangerous (although there are so many that is all so happy to do it anywayz)

dietcherry
dietcherry 2011-04-01 15:07:04 -0500 Report

Agreed Yogi. Mostly, my friends register at the 90-100 range; however, I had one co-worker who clocked 126 and said he hadnt eaten in several hours. Both his parents are T2, so he kinda knows the deal about pre- and postprandial numbers, but still asked me what I thought. I just told him to see a Dr. about his concerns.

pixsidust
pixsidust 2011-03-13 19:56:42 -0500 Report

Personally I would say "I know you probably do not realize the expense and health risk it poses if I run out of supplies. Many people ask and say just one which adds up to many. I have to say no to everyone and encourage you to get your own check up. Insurance picks up just so many in a given month and then there is still a cost". "Most communities have health fairs that are free. I want to encourage you to check around if you can't afford the expensive of a doctor, just as I can not afford the expense of my supplies. I appreciate your understanding!" Then I would refrain from testing in front of them.

elaine52
elaine52 2011-03-13 19:26:57 -0500 Report

I have checked a couple of my daughters on occasion, but it's because of concern of their's being high. And a few months back on a trip back down to GA I checked my granddaughters boyfriends, as it turns out I'm happy I did. His was 477, he went in to the doctor because of it and was put on insulin, they were actually treating him as a type 1 because of his age…

squog master
squog master 2011-03-13 18:24:53 -0500 Report

This has never happened to me but if it did I would charge them cause I have to pay out of pocket for my supplies. $5 or &10 should do the trick. I would never give meds to anyone cause, 1. I need them myself. 2. I'm afraid that they could have a reaction of some kind, end up in the ER and end up saying they got pills from me, which I believe is against the law.

Yogirajj
Yogirajj 2011-03-13 11:12:15 -0500 Report

Personally, I have not ran in to this problem. However, I do have extra supplies (and they cost plenty), but I have them just for ME, in the event of an EMERGENCY. EMERGENCY means, for me when I need them, NOT when everybody else asks for them. I would never use any of my supplies for ANYONE if it's not a true emergency. It's like kids and candy, once you give one, the rest of the flock will follow… ALL THE TIME…

Yogi

Dev
Dev 2011-03-13 10:13:01 -0500 Report

You can tell them that you can't use the same lancet or pen that you use on them. It is not hygienic. That is a reason people might accept better than the real reason of the data getting messed up.

My husband checks my BG on his meter once in a while and my friend's who is a diabetic but doesn't check her BGs. But that is voluntary. Nobody has asked us to do it. Everybody is afraid of the needle. haha.

poppey
poppey 2011-03-12 18:23:19 -0600 Report

I have had them same thing happen to me. Couple ladies I work with want to know. I keep telling them to check it out with thier Dr. One of them said she knows what she has wrog but diabetes is not one of them. Didn't know how to reply to that one. They should all go and find out what it really cost to keep use healthy. Thank God I have insurance, if not wow on the cost. Its still expensive even after the insurance.

dietcherry
dietcherry 2011-03-12 17:19:40 -0600 Report

Hello! Funny you mention this-I have had a couple of friends ask me to check their BS when Ive had my meter out. I dont mind obliging them but one time I forgot to pack new lancets and told a friend this-he said he didnt mind, he knew he couldnt "catch" my diabetes! Oh-kaaaaay…

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-03-13 00:04:07 -0600 Report

but he COULD catch whatever might be in your system, Renee, and if you have to test yourself before you can get a new lancet you might be able to get any bug or virus floating around in his system.

Even though Jem and I were married, I never used her lancet pen on me nor mine on her. - maybe that was a bit paranoid, but since she had a weakened immune system anyway, I didn't want to take chances.

Anonymous
Anonymous 2011-03-10 17:28:09 -0600 Report

I have family members asking for me to check their BS all the time. I don't mind doing it every now and then but not several times every week. My test strips are not covered by my insurance and they are very expensive. I finally told them I would do it but I charge $2 per test to cover the cost of the strip and lancet. They have finally stopped asking.

ZOWLUCY
ZOWLUCY 2011-03-09 18:29:33 -0600 Report

hey dont feel bad about not doing it for them they should be ashamed of themselves for asking you too It isnt wise to use your lancets and meter with anyone ( not saying you would ) I work in health care and being a person who has multiple health issues myself I shutter the thought. There is a risk of infection and if you dont heal properly who's the one thats going to suffer. When it comes to being the buddy and testing them tell this to see there doctor If they cant understand why your telling them no then that is on them they shouldnt be asking in the first place that care your doing the right thing and its ok to vent

Pynetree
Pynetree 2011-03-09 12:39:31 -0600 Report

Love the idea that you should charge them to run a BG test. Jeeze, you could end up a nice little side-line income, if it happens so often! Have to admit that in over 20 years only twice has anyone asked to use my meter…one morning when my daughter was visiting, she hadn't packed her meter- she is hypoglycemic. And once, my then 3 yr old grandson, said "take my bwod temperpersure"! And once was enough for him! LOL! But when he's visiting he tells me to test mine a lot! My Endocrinologist once commented, on seeing a printout…"Wow, what was going on with you here, when you were testing 6 + 8 times a day? Feeling ill?" Had to confess, it was just for entertainment value!
Drew, my now 5 yr.old grandson, is the blond in my profile pict…he's the ghoul who wants me to take my "bwood temperpersure" so often!

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-03-09 21:26:07 -0600 Report

I just love this. I bet it gave your doc something to talk about around the dinner table that night. How cute.

Pynetree
Pynetree 2011-03-10 08:04:57 -0600 Report

…Everytime I go - every 6 mos. - she says "So when were the boys down? Do I get the benefit of intensive testing?" LOL!
Both twins "wrote" in my log book..I said"Ooh, what is my Dr. going to say when he sees that!?" Drew replied quickly "he's gonna say "what the heck is that!" Will says he'll say "Grammy, you don't know how to make an "S"

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-03-10 19:47:29 -0600 Report

Some ppl don't lose that simplicity as they grow up. But they are not held in high esteem in our culture. Those overgrown kids have been given the title "retarded". More's the pity that we pay little attention to them.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-03-07 21:19:54 -0600 Report

I have never had this happen and I find it so strange. Why would people want to take my meds? That is crazy and they need to understand what my meds could do to them. Make them really sick. Good grief. That is quite odd to me.

I guess you could tell them that when they go to their annual or semi annual check up, they can find out their blood sugar in the lab results.

runthe
runthe 2011-03-07 21:30:00 -0600 Report

It is true. I know a women that has hypertension and haven't been to the dr in years. She waits until her friend goes to the dr and then he give her his high blood pressure meds. She always complain about her pressure being up but she refuses to go see a doctor. She states that if I go they might fine something wrong. Everyone keeps telling her to go but she don't.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-03-07 21:29:41 -0600 Report

Now I've had others offer me their prescription meds when I'm suffering from something they think would help me. I don't take them since I really don't know what it would do to me.

They may ask for her meds for a number of diferent reasons. May be trying to get a buzz on, or to relieve pain.

I think runthe's friends & family might be trying to avoid going to Dr, cause it costs money. Ppl who have not been Dx'd with DM often try to avoid regular checkups. What they don't know won't hurt them —- they think.

runthe
runthe 2011-03-07 21:38:54 -0600 Report

I found out that a lot of people don't even go for yearly checkups and try to self diagnose themselves believing that they have this illness or that pain and that medicine that I have might cure what is wrong with them. I have RA and fibromyglia and folks are always saying I have arthritis to and that I can take that meds. When I tried to explain to them what kind of Arthritis I have and some of the meds can cause liver damage. they usually said that ok. (lol)

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-03-07 21:53:04 -0600 Report

I feel for you Rhonda with RA, and with fibro. My bride had both, and she suffered tremendously with RA especially. In fact she had a RA flare the week before she passed, and we got her a cortisone shot the day before she passed. She was allergic or the newer RA meds didn't work for her (she also had Lupis so she had already tried them).

Praying for you, Rhonda!

ZOWLUCY
ZOWLUCY 2011-03-09 18:37:02 -0600 Report

wow small world ya know those other health issues i spke off I have RA been doing my own injections for about 3yrs knw before it was the infusion monthly trips to the hospital sit for hours and come home dog tired I am sorry you lost your wife. the fatigue alone sometimes is alot to handle

runthe
runthe 2011-03-07 22:17:10 -0600 Report

Thank you jaysbee for the prayers. I am praying for you also. thank for being a good friend.

Green Bay, Wisconsin
Green Bay, Wisconsin 2011-03-07 16:28:04 -0600 Report

Omg yes! I was diagnosed with type 1, 5 months ago. Since then all my friends wanna check their sugar whenever I have to test…which is four times a day. So most of the time it's around other ppl… And the first thing outta their mouth is "dude can I check my sugar?". As if telling them wat their sugar is gonna be and why (because they are not diabetic…and I am) isn't enough. Ok for the first few times it was fine cuz I was learning about it myself. But after a few months it just got annoying. It's like asking somebody with asthma if u can try their inhaler. If you yourself needed it, you yourself would have it… But you don't… So stop asking

MarluzLopez
MarluzLopez 2011-03-07 16:11:22 -0600 Report

Hi Rhonda!!! First of all, IT IS SOOOOO RIGHT TO THINK ABOUT YOU AND PUT YOURSELF IN THE FIRST PLACE!!! You have a condition to think about and you must be very responsible when it comes to the management of that condition: that includes proper management of medications and testing supplies.

Sometimes people act out of curiosity other than concern for their own health. If those who ask you to test them are really concerned about their health, why not go to a doctor and have some tests run to determine if they are diabetics or not? As for the medications go, not only u have to think about the economics of it, but think about the responsibility u assume every time u share a pill with someone, even if it is a pain killer.

Diabetes has been around for centuries. And here we are in the 21st century and some people still don't understand what it takes to be a diabetic and that it can be a very expensive condition to take care off. Keep doing what you're doing and try not to think about those who get upset with u because u didn't test them or didn't give them meds… they were the ones that CHOOSE to be upset about it…

TAKE VERY GOOD CARE OF YOU DEAR… MANY BLESSINGS FOR YOU… :))))

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-03-07 15:11:26 -0600 Report

Well stick to your guns, Rhonda! Folks should never ask for your meds and you should never share them.

You can also share with them what each item costs you to test your BG. As you said you have to change a lancet, twice (not a good idea to use a lancet used to poke someone else even if they're close kin) And from what I remember, you're not wealthy, so you need every little bit to maintain your own health. Perhaps find a place (or places) that offers free testing for DM. and maybe even print out a sheet you can give to those who ask to use your testing equipment, so they have places they can go to find out for sure. Also, let them know that a Dx of DM cannot be made on just one reading from a hand-held meter. Those who won't go to those places, well, I guess there's no cure for being lazy!

So stick to your guns Rhonda!

I pray for God's blessings upon you and yours!

James

Johnben or JB.
Johnben or JB. 2011-03-07 16:12:47 -0600 Report

i fully agree with James. One way to stop this is to state you charge $ 10 per test. You will be amazed how soon the interest disappears.

JB.

whitetigress
whitetigress 2011-03-07 17:20:01 -0600 Report

I love your idea about charging! :)

Nonna2Three
Nonna2Three 2011-03-09 11:22:45 -0600 Report

Or tell the people asking for BG test that your doctor is carefully analyzing the data in your meter but that since you care about your friends enough to want to be able to test them too that you are collecting money to buy a separate meter and supply of test strips and once you have collected $100 to get the set-up that you will be more than happy to test until those strips run out & you have to start a restock collection. It gives them an opportunity to assist with the cost, but it also lets them know that these numbers are your medical data, not games for fun and entertainment.