Wouldn't it be nice? IF:

By Latest Reply 2008-10-17 06:58:37 -0500
Started 2008-10-02 00:52:20 -0500

You know, I really like this site and take from it all I can; But, wouldn't it be nice to find a local person in your own area, to
whom you could talk to openly, or is there in an emercy when time does not allow you to do a search on web. Also maybe someone who you could shop with, who could support each other; Just someone there for you, and is going through what you are. Even AA has people helping others one on one.
I have invited everyone I possibly can and have only found 2-3 in NJ, but not close enough. I think I will start by resetting my profile options. And there are a lot of you out there who have not done anything other than join the community; to those I say, update your profiles for more than one reason. It just seems you are willing to listen, but not open up and tell us who you are and what you are dealing with. We would like to better know you; so that you can get the best out of the site
Another thing you could do, is to browse through the hundreds of people who have logged on and only have John and Amy as their friends, and open up your hearts and invite them. I try to go on the new invite list twice a day, but, there are hundreds before me so I feel they need to be invited too, they may have a lot to share.

And like I said, I would so like to meet in my own hometown, or near by, who just needs personal support, or a quick phonecall for answers. Just to know there is someone out there in the outside world you have something in common with is helpful. Open up your lists and invite them.
Anyone else feel like this?

23 replies

PAT L 2008-10-15 10:08:32 -0500 Report


caspersmama 2008-10-15 12:26:16 -0500 Report

There is a difference in exploring a hobby and soliciting strangers for contact.

2008-10-17 06:58:37 -0500 Report

I do have my state of New Jersey on my profile; and figure if someone is from New Jersey they will see it on my profile and send me a message; it is up to me to take it from there; Yes, we all have to be cautious; but I myself, have had too much fear of people, may need to be a little more open to making friends/ give them a chance; because I might just be hurting myself (again) out of a beautiful friendship. I guess this has to be a learned experience, and no-one should feel pressured to do anything they do not believe in.

Anonymous 2008-10-14 03:27:24 -0500 Report

Ok it would be great to find someone but in this day and time you can not trust just anybody. There are all kinds of dishonest people out there and I am sure some are diabetic too. So to all of you wanting to meet people just be careful. Always meet in a public place. Do not devulge private matters until you get to know them. I have a select group of freinds that I talk too but only a few online that I talk too. Discussions here are just that, a way to find out things and express opinions.

2008-10-15 08:38:40 -0500 Report

I do agree with the privacy issue too. And I am afraid of everyone I meet, I have said before that I have used my computer since they first came out and this is the first time I did anything online involving anyone more than my relatives that I email, and my daughters. Other than that it is strictly research. Glad You are on, and agree with you 100%

Bluebutterfly 2008-10-12 05:50:51 -0500 Report

Yes, it would be nice if you had someone in your home town to turn to. I don't know any body here either ,I mean my city.

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2008-10-12 02:02:56 -0500 Report

I totally agree. I'd like to find someone near me to talk to face to face a or on the phone. I's easier for me to talk to someone that way instead of sending a message and waiting for a reply. I do have several co-workers that I can talk to. One her daughter has had diabetes since she was 5 18 years ago. She has been through alot. I just would like to meet someone like me on the outside away from work.

2008-10-12 05:04:52 -0500 Report

Now, I know what you mean; I am caregiver for my husband, and he does not talk about the illness at all; I have to work the web or find out my answers on my own, so that I can help him. But I am also very lonely, for the past four years I moved out of the main town where I grew up, and even though I know it is only 20 minutes away. I do not go there. Cause it is hard for me to get out anymore. But sure would like to have a friend or confidante, as they say, to whom I could talk and trust.

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-10-09 00:09:31 -0500 Report

I really enjoy this group of friends here on this site. Don't need to go meet someone when I really need to talk. Don't waste gas, I'm already here. Friends are compasionate. If your having a bad day and don't want to talk, don't get on. (LOL)

GabbyPA 2008-10-03 12:28:20 -0500 Report

I have tried to contact people in florida from here, but I did not have any luck. So for now, I am just here with all of you guys.

Lanore 2008-10-02 05:36:54 -0500 Report

I for one would love to have someone to walk with…I don't like walking alone, there for I don't go on less I am with my hubby. Someone to talk to would be great too. I have few friend where I am that understand. I live in New York, where the three states meet…Pa,NJ & NY Any takers?? Port Jervis, N.Y. Any one close by? Lanore :-)

2008-10-08 23:56:21 -0500 Report

I live in Nj but I don't drive much. I don't know where Port Jervis is, but I have heard about it, but would love to walk if near. I live about 50 southe of Newark, I believe. Had my family there, but they are all moving.+

Lanore 2008-10-16 05:03:29 -0500 Report

Hi lilmarm,
Sorry i took so long in replying, I just asked my hubby last night how far away we are from Newark, he said we are about an hour and a half away. I guess that is a little far away, but it would have been nice to get together. Not sure how anyone feels about this but I asked about adding a chat room to the site a couple of day ago, but I am not sure how well it went over or if it will happen but it would be nice. We will have to wait and see. Lanore ;- )

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2008-10-12 02:09:51 -0500 Report

Since my husband works 2nd shift I have to take my 7 year old daughter with me. It's hard because she walks slow and most days she dosen't want to walk unless I promise we can stop and get her an ice cream cone on the way back. That way she will walk about 45 min with me (about 1.5 miles). On weekends I get up before she does and walk about 1.5-2 hours while her and daddy sleep in. I really like walking by myself. Gives me time alone and time to think about the goings on in my life.

Frustrated mom
Frustrated mom 2008-10-02 03:08:16 -0500 Report

I think that would be great…I have looked at all my friends profile and there is no one that lives close to me…I am in Okc, Ok…But this site has really helped me…My son is t1 and I try to find out as much information that I can and help him..(when he will let me) He is 16 and knows everything..HA,HA,HA!!!

vgarrison 2008-10-02 03:39:38 -0500 Report

Diabetic or not, didn't we all know everything at 16. I know I did…oh wait according to my husband, I still know everthing…hmmmmmmm…LOL


vgarrison 2008-10-02 03:56:19 -0500 Report

My apologies, it was supposed to be my attempt at humor. There is no way anyone of us can know anything, but at 16 we all think we know everything. I never grew out of that thought process. Most of the time I think I am right…thats all I meant.


butterfly_8 2008-10-02 06:06:55 -0500 Report

LOL. I also thought I kew it all at 16. The funny thing is now at 70 I know nothing or so the younger 16 yr.old thinks.

Starfire - 23364
Starfire - 23364 2008-10-02 01:17:49 -0500 Report

I myself would love to have someone close to ask questions or call,and if I could help them with answering questions also. It's a fine idea. I live close to the beach and would love a buddy to walk with. I'm afraid to go there alone and it not good to go to a place with out a buddy, safety in numbers my Mom always said.and she thought I never paid attention.