I'm a 53 yr old woman. Was diagnosed type 2 diabetic this past monday.

By Fon Latest Reply 2011-02-01 22:12:54 -0600
Started 2011-01-29 11:08:41 -0600

I understand what all I have to do… changing lifestyle… healthy eating and exercise. I have never been a really disciplined person, so these changes are extremely difficult. I guess it is time I grew up! So much to learn! I am overwhelmed! One bad thing is that when I wake up in the morning, I forget to check my blood sugar first thing! After I have taken my first sip of my coffee (with Equal and some cream), I then realize what I have done!!! Anyone understand what I mean? And then, my life has been so hectic recently that I can't seem to find a regular time to eat my meals. I could go on and on, but will stop at this point. I needed to vent. Thank you.

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squog master
squog master 2011-02-01 22:12:54 -0600 Report

I have forgotten to check my blood sugar 1st thing so I started putting my glucometer where I'll see it 1st thing in he morning.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-01 18:21:22 -0600 Report


I don't know if anyone in the history of the world was ever disciplined enough to adopt a complete lifestyle makeover overnight. So don't go too hard on yourself.

You might try leavning a reminder note for yourself in a strategic place, like the bathroom mirror, while you re-wire your brain to build in a new morning routine. And figuring the absolute best times to eat may also take some practice, along with some trial and error.

Be patient with yourself as you create your own new normal. You certainly came to the right place for support and advice as you start this journey. So stick close with your new friends. We are here for you!

MewElla 2011-02-01 09:19:38 -0600 Report

Take care and stay mighty warm…Oklahoma, hmmm. I am your next door neighbor in Texas, Howdy!!

Fon 2011-02-01 08:32:36 -0600 Report

I love this site! All the peeps are so cool! Gonna be a little bit of a tough day today… here in Oklahoma, we have gotten about 13 inches of snow! Yes, I know it may not seem like much, but for us, it is just cwazy!! Finally got my blood sugar under 200. Yay!

Nonna2Three 2011-02-01 13:05:01 -0600 Report

Gratz! I was soo happy when mine would be under 200. I was announcing my 3, 4 & 5 BG checks in a row. Now they are consistently under 200 so I don't announce them as I first did, but I as still very happy about that (mostly because it means no intermediate injections of Humalog) :)

pat3 2011-02-01 00:08:18 -0600 Report

Hi Fon. I am so proud of you figuring a way to have your meter where it cannot be ignored~ Good job, girl! Hugs, Pat

Melly-Mel 2011-01-30 21:04:54 -0600 Report

Hello Fon! I also was diagnosed this past Monday the 24th with type 2 diabetes. It's kind of releaving to here that there is someone else out there going through the same thing I am at the same time I am… I can totally relate to the overwhelming feeling. I am 20 years old and have had horrible eating habbits my entire life along with eating disorders, but I though I was one of those "invincible" people who would never get a disease especially diabetes… I don't really know much about diabetes, but I'm sure i'll be able to write a book about the disease in a couple of months or so. I really pray that you can work out your minor issue regarding checking your blood sugar and meal schedules, and if you need anyone to talk to im "all eyes" lol… I wish you the best!!!(:

CaliKo 2011-01-30 17:24:01 -0600 Report

Hi Fon, I was just where you are 2 years ago when I was diagnosed. I just turned 54 and have my diabetes under control with diet and exercise. Routines help tremendously, exercise and an obsession with cooking healthy foods. It is difficult sometimes with our hectic lives, but try to make each choice the best choice you can make right then, and keep the overall picture as close to what you find works for you as possible. We're not going to be 100 percent perfect everyday. Have you enrolled in diabetes education classes yet? That's always a good thing to do when first diagnosed. Good luck!

Fon 2011-01-30 10:26:47 -0600 Report

Wow!!! I am so very surprised yet happy that so many of you have responded to my comments! All of you have such great advice and I feel so thankful for your support! Last night, before I went to bed, I put my meter on my headboard, and when I woke up… I didn't forget to do my test. Yay! Then I went to have my coffee and breakfast! At least it is a baby step forward! Thank you all !

GabbyPA 2011-01-31 10:22:49 -0600 Report

Amazing how one little step makes all the difference in the world. Keep it going, you will do great.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-01-30 19:50:01 -0600 Report

That's a smart plan, I keep my morning meds by the bed too so I'll remember to grab that thyroid pill before eating anything, I plan on putting my meter in the same spot when I get it.

If they are where I always see them I won't forget as much.

MewElla 2011-01-30 16:06:05 -0600 Report

You are so very welcome…You are headed in the right direction…we are always here for you. Enjoy your evening and remember, you are one baby step closer…YEA!!

GabbyPA 2011-01-30 08:36:04 -0600 Report

Everyone here has great advice and I hope it helps. I too made very focused changes one at a time and made sure they were habit before I moved on to other changes. My brain works better without distraction. LOL

There was one thing that I did however that helped me pare down some of the things I was going to have to deal with and that is that I went cold turkey on a couple of things that I knew if I even had a little, I would ruin my success. I completely cut out diet sodas, sugar free and processed foods. I kept some, but for the most part they were gone and that made me choose better because I had less bad things to pick from.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-01-30 19:44:17 -0600 Report

That is how I handled a few things too. I dropped sugar and everything remotely related to it right off, I sort of felt like an addict detoxing because I wanted it so bad but wasn't getting it in my system. I knew that if I tried to do it slow I would never let it go.

I still drink diet soda but I only allow myself one or two cans of Diet Rite, it's made with splenda so it's not as bad as other diet sodas. I do still munch of some sugar free stuff but as I get more into the diet I'm finding that I just don't want sweet stuff all that much anymore and on those occasions that I do I tend to want fruit, mostly bananas because I need the extra potassium for my blood pressure and leg cramps.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-01-29 21:21:47 -0600 Report

I can really relate to your lack of discipline, I was the same way before I was diagnosed in December. I have set myself on a strict schedule helped a great deal by my cat who wakes me up just before my alarm goes off every morning at 8am. I take my thyroid pill and feed her then an hour later I take my metformin and cholesterol pill with breakfast between 12pm and 1pm my tummy tells me it's time to eat if I haven't started cooking yet. Around 2pm-3pm I'll have a small snack then dinner around 5pm-6pm and another small snack with my second metformin and blood pressure pill at 9pm and bed at 11pm.

Unless I'm sick I do not allow myself to go back to bed even on days like today when I really wanted to. In between it all I squeeze in housework, meal planning and fun. I don't have a meter yet so I don't test, I'm waiting on my doctor's office and the meter company to get themselves together and send me one and some strips. Red tape is evil.

Every day my routine gets easier to stick to. I've cut out real sugar and caffeine, and only allow myself 50-60 carbs per meal and no more than 20-30 for snacks. I feel so much better already and I've lost a lot of weight though I'm not sure how much as I only tend to weigh myself at the doctor's and I've not been back yet.

For those of us who lack discipline it's hard to baby step, so I threw myself into discipline headfirst. I know if I let up I'll fall back into not doing it and I don't want my story to end like that. In my down time I've been searching this forum and other forums looking for new recipes to try so my diet is never boring to me. It's even gotten to the point that my fiance is switching over to my diet because the food I make for myself looks and tastes so good. When I started out I didn't make him change with me, I just made his meal and my meal differently.

I don't look at the food in the light of "Oh I can't have that now." I see it as "What new things can I try now?" and "How many new recipes will this make me try that I wouldn't have before?"

I'm only 27 so I'm young still and I can bounce back easy but you can too. I'm too stubborn to let my pancreas and cells run the show. I'll drill sergeant them back into working order with sheer force of will if I have to. Sure I can't cure diabetes but this is my show and I'm the star so I can't lose, right?

GabbyPA 2011-01-30 08:30:13 -0600 Report

The key in your post is "Every day my routine gets easier to stick to"

That is so true. If we don't try to take it all on at once it builds a foundation of good habits and a feeling of success that will keep you moving forward. There is nothing more defeating that trying to do too much and then not accomplishing anything. Like Ray said...baby steps.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-01-30 08:45:57 -0600 Report

That's true. I've learned I have to be a bit harder on myself at the beginning than most people because it's just so easy to go back to not doing it or simply forgetting. I've always been the type of person that has to be doing things full force or not doing them at all in the beginning until whatever it is because second nature.

And I agree with Ray, being a diabetic is a lot better than being an uncontrolled diabetic. My fiance's grandma and uncle are both uncontrolled diabetics and they just don't see that not only are they hurting themselves they are hurting us too because we see them getting sicker and sicker.

I love this diet now and my new habits, other than waking up early because I'm not a morning person, are all very pleasing to me. It helps to look for the good in every little thing.

Sure I can't have my favorite jelly beans this year but I'm going to buy a giant bag of my favorite apples for the same price. And I may have to exercise but that means losing weight which means buying new clothes! And all of it means living longer and feeling better.

RAYT721 2011-01-29 21:04:03 -0600 Report

My words of advice are to take baby steps. It is what worked for me. I have a pill container with my test kit nearby. I do my thing first thing in the morning with "me" including the shower, shave, meds, etc.

Being diabetic is indeed overwhelming. Just when you think you got it, your body plays "April Fool" with you. But being diabetic is not as bad as being an uncontrolled diabetic so new habits to replace the old are quite important.

The best changes are those that you create and not those which are forced on you so a little more exercise is better than none. Cutting a little food off your plate is better than adding. Add water to your diet. It doesn't have to be a complete turn around overnight or you're going to burn out.

I lost 30 pounds since last January… slow and steady wins the race.

You know your strengths and weaknesses. Motivation has to come from inside and while we are here for you, it really is YOU that has to do the work. We can cheer your victories and support you during the bad times but in the end it is up to you to be the winner.

Eating times are a challenge for a lot of us. Life gets in the way. But sometimes the failure to plan can be a plan to fail. Make time and take time for your food and plan things to avoid quickie trips to the store for Ho Hos and chips. You can still have snacks and sweets but use control. You must control your diet in order to avoid your diet controlling you.

You don't have to start off a marathon run in order to call it exercise. Touch your toes. Reach to the ceiling. Run in place. Walk. Vacuum the floor. Whatever. Do what you love and love what you do and you'll find success finding you… the new you!!!

Let me / us know what we can do to help.

Nonna2Three 2011-01-29 16:08:49 -0600 Report

I am a 54 yr old woman and I was diagnosed Type 2 Diabetes a little less than 2 weeks ago. It is very overwhelming. I haven't had so much trouble with remembering the BG checks as with trying to prepare meals that will accommodate my "very" picky taste as well as have enough variety for my husband. And on the weekends I have to factor in grand-kids my mother-in-law. I expect it to all be more second nature at some point int he future, but for right now I have found this site to be a good sourse for a lot of information. And I started a blog about
this new journey in my life. That helped me feel as if I had someone I could talk to (even though my blog does not talk back - lol).
If there is anything you are uncertain of, post in in the discussion boards and one of the friendly helpful people here will answer (and maybe it will save me from having to ask). :D
I'm sure you will do well with sorting it all out over time, but I wish you good luck and God's blessings to help you along!

Rebecca62 2011-01-29 15:04:29 -0600 Report

I am also new at all this. I was doing real good at keeping a food journal and testing when i get up, but have fallen away from it all for about a month now. Eating on time is another thing that i am bad at. I eat because i know i have to. I was on Metformnin and now i am on the Byeta pin. Because of my sleeping pattern i may not get up until after noon, or wake up to use the restroom take my shot and go back to bed. I am all over the place with this. I know it is not good for me, but that is just how it is. I have started to work on my walking on the treadmill. (10 min. for now and work up to longer.) I have dropped about 13 pounds but am at a standstill on the weight loss. I am working on cutting carbs and i eat a grapefruit every night instead of something not good for me. My BS is usually under 140 which the Dr. says is good, but i can't seem to get below 100. I guess i am venting too. Just wanted to let you know there is others out there that don't know what they are doing either. :o) Have a good day everyone.

MewElla 2011-01-29 13:42:03 -0600 Report

Welcome…It is very much an anxious time for all when we were first diagnosed. It will be a year for me 2-11-11. I was scared to death. But now, my watching, changing and testing with my diet; walking everyday, losing 70 lbs, making my fight against diabetes a priority in my life..I now feel so much better and realize everyday is something new to learn about how I react. My ritual is simple, test as soon as I get upk, note it in my log book, and then favorite…coffee. Make it a point to eat on time, this is very important for you. I know you can do it and always remember, we are always here for you.

digitaldoorbell 2011-01-29 12:46:01 -0600 Report

I am about your age and was diagnosed in August of last year (five months ago). Today I am 40 pounds lighter, no meds and have routine BG in the 80's and 90's. It absolutely has to be done. I know that it is scary, but it is manageable for most of us. I don't miss the things I shouldn't eat. I take a walk every day and do light exercise. Walking is enough…especially at first. We were all where you are. Come and visit and "vent" any time.

re1ndeer 2011-01-29 11:44:27 -0600 Report

Welcome to the DC Community. Start slow and work toward your goals.

I keep my meter on my night stand , so when I wake up in the morning, it's the first thing I see, so I test right there and then.

A little coffee in the morning won't hurt you. But, as soon as you realize that you forgot to do your blood, then go and do it.

Eating your meals is very important (try and eat a little something) you don't want to get ill.

I know how tough it is when you first get diagnosed. Your mind is going all directions.

If you have any other questions that need to be addressed, we are here to support you, that's what the DC community is here for.

Harlen 2011-01-29 11:17:33 -0600 Report

Hello and welcome
I know what you mean its not that bad to test after a sip or two of coffee
I keep a meater in the bathroom and I always go there first thin in the am lol
As for a lot to know your right there is but you can only take it one day at a time
theres lots of info and good frends here and we all help out as we can .
Best wishes