Trying to Cope with the fact I have Diabetes....

By Candistix Latest Reply 2011-01-31 20:32:01 -0600
Started 2011-01-26 13:10:45 -0600

Hello Everyone,

I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, high blood presure, fatty liver about a year ago. I tried to take the meds that was prescribed to me but had found myself battling my own inner demons. I haven't taken my meds in over 6 months and for the first time I had a bad episode. My bs was 296 and my blood pressure was 196/100. I was very nauseated with clammy skin. My doctor explained to me the importances of taking my meds. Well this morning I took my meds but I'm still having terrible pains in my left kidney pain in my mid back and shoulder pain which starting to go into my neck and tiggling in my foot and toes. HELP! How do i make myself deal with this sickness?

33 replies

Anonymous 2011-01-31 19:54:37 -0600 Report


#1) Type II diabetes and high blood pressure are symptoms of a bad diet. #2) Doctors figure you won't change your diet, so they give you drugs to help counteract the symptoms of a bad diet. #3) You end up with still a bad diet, diabetes, metabolic syndrome, and toxic drugs. The drug companies win, you lose. Education and support is what you need!

Candistix 2011-01-31 08:14:11 -0600 Report

Wow, thanks so much for all the support here. Each of you have wonder encouraging words that helps me day to day to do what's right and what's best for me. As Ms MewElla mentioned, baby steps…and baby steps is what I'm doing. I happy to say I didn't endulge in any sweets or fatty foods this week end. I am proud of myself.

CaliKo 2011-01-31 15:59:13 -0600 Report

Good for you on the self-control, it isn't easy. The up side is, you get to eat more for the same calories if you stick to leans meats and veggies and some whole grains. Good luck!

MewElla 2011-01-29 13:34:27 -0600 Report

My suggestion would be to have an honest talk with your dr to explain your understanding of what is going on with you. It is vital to stay on your medications daily and just take one day at a time during the best you can for yourself. Impretative that you get strong support system around you to encourage you on the days when everything is "off" and we all have those days. Depression is so easy to slip into and once you do, it gets very hard to get out of that place. I know that's what I experience from time to time. Faithfully, checks your bg as directed by your dr and eat on time. You can get on top of this…remember, take those "baby steps one day at a time and really give it your all." I am saying a prayer for you today that God will Bless and show you the way to get on top of the diabetes. Remember, we are all here for you…Just come to the computer and look for us!!

LTennion 2011-01-29 13:17:00 -0600 Report

Hello There!
It's good to hear that you have a new attitude toward your diabetes. I have fallen off the wagon myself from time to time since my diagnosis in 07 and unfortunately, I have learned the hard way that I just can't afford to do that…
it's not worth it. For me, I am constantly forming new attitudes towards this disorder (not all of them are good) but you have to establish positive support and habits any way you can. Realizing that you are going to have good days and bad days. Don't beat yourself up on the bad days, just move forward. I'm concerned about the symptoms that you have mentioned and I think you should make your doctor aware of them. You could have an underlying condition affecting your ability to control your blood sugars regardless of how much positive effort you are exercising. I have been experiencing some dull, achy pains in my abdomin and shoulder blades and my doctors are suspecting pancreatitus. A simple urine test can alert your doctor if there is anything going on with your kidneys. I quit taking my meds at one time too, and I paid the price. Diabetes is sneaky, coniving, vicious, and controling…frustrating and yet fascinating! It is difficult to gather and maintain a good positive attitude each and every day, huh! Just remember your are human and do the best you can…you deserve that much!

Mimiewal 2011-01-29 11:50:05 -0600 Report

the first thing you must do is accept that now ur a little different! You are still you but now your special, that what I tell myself! No one wants this but we do have to keep coping and heading forward. Please take your medicine, I too was one who didnt want to take the meds I would forget too, or so I tell myself, but guess who I was hurting me..I ended up in the hospital for a month til I was back under good control. That hurt me financially, emotionally, and psyically! Needless to say, I hurt only myself by not accepting the truth that Im special now. I hope this helps you! & whatever you do dont dispair this is y we have such a place like this to get support & help.. keep in touch Mimie

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-27 19:36:51 -0600 Report


First, I would really encourage you to stay in close contact with your physician. Let him/her know what's going on with you. You might also want to make sure that you are aware of any specific symptoms that you should be on the lookout for, any that your doctor thinks are expecially concerning, and then make sure you communicate them. I'm not a physician, but I suspect that your doctor wants to be kept informed of how you are doing as you re-start your regimen.

Having said that, congratulations on taking care of yourself! I know dealing with a chronic condition is a lot, The medication regimen and the diet and lifestyle changes force us to make changes to our day to day life that we don't want to make. And they are constantly reminder of siomething we don't want to be reminded of, which is that chronic condition.

The uncertainty, the helplessness at having so much of life feel like it is out of our control. It's hard to come to the point where you can accept that life is changing.

I think everyone who has a chronic condition faces theire own inner demons. Part of the journey is to face them down, as you are doing, and moving forward to stay as healthy as possible, and live life to the fullest.

I hope you are getting a lot of support. That is one of the keys to coming to terms with a medical diagnosis. It's important to be with people who can listen when you need to talk, who care about you. Do you have people like that in your life?

Also, getting as educated as possible is important, knowiong not only the consequences of not taking care of yourself, which you are already more than aware of, but also knowing what you can do to create lifestyle changes that are unique to who you are, your preferences, the way you want to live. One size does not have to fit all. You might want to talk to a CDE about this.

I hope you will stay close to your friends on Diabetic Connect. We are here for you!

Candistix 2011-01-28 11:19:32 -0600 Report

Thank you Dr Gary. i will contniue to learn as much as possible so I may get a grip of this diease. I still crave to eat certain foods but I know everyday is different. I'm making small changes and goals…it helps me from being overwhelme.

cdefatta 2011-01-27 15:02:14 -0600 Report

i wasn't fusing ,its just a saying, ijust meant that even though we can't fix it overnight , we have to do something everynight , meds, excercise, eating properley, it is frustrating and very chore like, but you have done the hardest part. Accepting it and taking that first step. this is such a great place to support, it has truly helped me along with the lord helping me . we can do anything with his help . you are in my prayers girl!!

Candistix 2011-01-27 12:04:06 -0600 Report

Completely right cdefatta…i will not be able to fix this overnite. Not sure if I will ever be able to fix it, control it, or accept it. What I do know is I've been in denial too long. This isn't going to go away. So I'm doing my best to deal with this and consciously I know what I need to do but it's a struggle every day. I'm on day two of taking my meds and my bs 314 still high and i know it could be also due to my lack of eating and choice of eating. Like I said one day at a time.

Mimiewal 2011-01-29 11:54:02 -0600 Report

start small increase fruits & veggies into all your meal plans…it may be that you can have an apple with your cereal in the morning before you know it you'll be looking for that veggie on the plate..its hard at first but not achieveable! Take one day at a time. It will get better!

cdefatta 2011-01-27 11:52:21 -0600 Report

Can't fix it overnight, but everynight fixes it. consistancy is the key, exercise is the most important thing you can. we all have bad days or periods of time, the thing is keep trying.

Candistix 2011-01-27 11:41:31 -0600 Report

Can someone tell me how soon after i eat I should test myself?

CaliKo 2011-01-27 11:47:07 -0600 Report

When I first started testing, I tested 2 hours after eating. When those numbers were in line with the ADA chart, I started testing at 1-1/2 hours. When I was happy with those numbers, I started testing individual foods at 30 minute increments to look for spikes. Good luck!

Candistix 2011-01-27 10:01:26 -0600 Report

I want to thank everyone for there reply and helping me to get on track. I know you all mean well and I thank you sincerely. Honestly, I don't know what or how to feel anymore. I use to be in control and now I feel im out of control. It's going to take time and the sooner I know the better off i will be. This is all new and I feel like a grade kid in school trying to learn how to read. The more I learn about this diease the better I will be able to cope. All I can do is take one day at a time…and contniue to ask for advice and help.

Saundra Sprang
Saundra Sprang 2011-01-27 11:37:29 -0600 Report

Yes, take it one day ar a time. I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes in December of 2006 and I also was overwhelm with being diabetic. My grandmother was diabetic. My mother and her siblings are not diabetic and it jump straight to me. My cousins don't have it either. I was suppose to be dead when I walked into the ER on 12/01/2006. My blood sugar was that high. I was over 1000 and I am still alive today and I am greatly for each day. It's a struggle but you can do it.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-01-27 10:10:35 -0600 Report

That is exactly right, take it one day at a time and learn as much as you can, knowledge will arm you better for the fight ahead of you. I try to read a little bit every day about diabetes and I take notes just like when I was in school because that helps me to learn better. I also keep a notebook handy to write down questions I have, I mark them off as I find answer online and the ones I can't find answers for online I'm taking with me to my doctor for my next appointment so I can ask him.

Coming to this site also gives me strength to keep fighting. Reading the thoughts of others going through the same thing reminds me that I'm not alone even if diabetes is a somewhat individual disease we do all have similar worries. Sometimes, because I'm a foodie at heart, I'll surf through the recipes section of the site and remind myself how delicious this new life is going to be with all the new recipes I get to try.

Look for small victories every day and take joy in the small stuff and it will help you get by those rough patches. You -can- make something good out of this disease you just have to fight for it sometimes.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-01-27 09:51:02 -0600 Report

One thing that has helped get a good perspective on Diabetes is that I've stopped looking at it as a horrible disease and started looking at it as a second and more powerful conscience. If I don't love myself, take care of myself and eat right Diabetes will let me know and hold me accountable for it.

I'm probably an oddball but I am thankful, in a way, for getting diabetes. It has made me love myself more and finally lit a fire under me to finally take care of me. It's given me a reason to fight for myself that I couldn't see or find before.

I won't lie though, at first it was scary and I wanted to blame people for not teaching me to take care of my body, I blamed me for it too. I should have been better, I could have been better. And now…I will be and you can be too!

Don't look at your meds as a bad thing, they are little buddies that will help you be a better you. Sure it's admitting you're sick but it's also showing thst you're willing to fight to not be sick anymore.

I felt better almost immediately after starting meds. A week after I was sitting in the car and realized I didn't know how bad I had been feeling before I was diagnosed until that day when I wasn't feeling all those things dragging me down.

My sugar isn't completely in control yet because I'm still learning what works for me and I was only diagnosed right before Christmas but I can say that what little control I have gotten over it has done me a world of good.

Diabetes reminded me that I am both strong and stubborn and I'm not about to be taken out by a disease or genetics I'll go out on my own terms when I'm 200 years old by doing something silly like jumping the grand canyon in my motorized scooter.

Anonymous 2011-01-31 20:32:01 -0600 Report

Problem is, most GP Doctors don't give nutritional advice so it's up to you to educate yourself. If you go to an Endo. they have people who can help educate you on diet, but they have no idea what causes type II diabetes and what you should do to help yourself. A lot of information they give out is just plain wrong - that you count carbs. per meal, but most of the carbs. they give as examples are high glycemic because they don't understand or teach the glycemic index of foods. They don't understand that 50 grams of a baked potato can send your blood sugar twice as high as 50 grams of white table sugar. French fries and pizza are the most consumed foods in the USA now. Then they wonder why in the next 9 years the majority of people in our country will have diabetes. They don't know the average sugar consumption now in the USA is 52 teaspoons of sugar per person, per day. They don't know that all these low fat foods just have more carbs. added and it's the carbs. making us fat and diabetic, not the fat. When will they figure out it's high insulin levels that's making us fat, gives us insulin resistance, and eventually type II diabetes and metabolic syndrome? When will they realize that over 50% of all diagnosis now for type II diabetes is in children?

If you think diabetes drugs are good for you, you need to do some research…

Saundra Sprang
Saundra Sprang 2011-01-27 11:38:56 -0600 Report

Bunny Cakes: You are not an oddball because I feel the same way. I am happy that I am diabetic because it made me wake up and smell the roses.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-01-27 01:37:41 -0600 Report

Seems you are starting to deal with it now. That is a very important big step. Knowing why some things bother you can help you overcome those fears.

Kirla 2011-01-26 17:36:57 -0600 Report

Feb 2009 I was diagnosed with a fasting blood sugar of 366 and A1C of 14.1. Started to eat a salad every day at supper. Also started to eat lots of low carb vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, cucumbers, spinach, pickles and sauerkraut. Started to drink 8+ glasses of water every day.

I then bought a meter and started to test my blood sugar before and after each meal. At first I was testing 2 hours after each meal and when my numbers dropped a lot I started testing 1 hour after meals.

By testing I found that foods like bread and most foods made of grains along with pasta, rice, corn, potatoes, oatmeal, cereals, chips, crackers, cakes, cookies, candy, soda, fruits, fruit juices, milk and most foods that contain more than 5-6 net carbs per serving as found on the package label all spiked my blood sugar. Some people can cut back on these foods and some people like me have to stop eating them.

I found by reducing and eliminating high carb starchy foods helped me a lot. By adding small amounts of chicken, beef, pork or a hard-boiled egg to my meals helped reduce blood sugar spikes also.

Good luck

Harlen 2011-01-26 14:24:32 -0600 Report

Hello and welcome
You just did take the first step Knowing that its not going to go away.
As you get your Blood sugare's right and keep them there you will start to feel better.First you will not feel that great at least I didnt as I got into the swing of taking care of me I did start to feel better .
You are the only you there is You need to take care of you .If not you then who?
You do know that D can kill you ??? It got my mom and let me tell you that realy is not the way to go out .
You can email me anytime you feel you need to talk to some one that works with there D.
Best wishes

Candistix 2011-01-26 14:32:15 -0600 Report

Thanks Harlen,

I hear all the time that D can kill you…and i should know cause my favorite aunt died 7 years ago of complications of D. I guess i felt if i took the meds it meant I was sick. I know it's crazy but my mind couldn't wrap around the thought of it. But I know how serious this is and I'm taking each day and with God strength he will see me through this. I will need all the strength I possibly can to help me through this.

Again, thanks!

Harlen 2011-01-26 17:31:11 -0600 Report

I will be there for you too if you have any questions or just need to talk ok
We all go thrue the time we dont wish to know we realy have it.
We all work together here to help each other .
Best wishes

Harlen 2011-01-27 12:27:52 -0600 Report

from every thing I hear and know its 90 min to two hr will give you the best reading
Best wishes

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