What Happens When you Care Giver Needs Care?

By Latest Reply 2008-10-26 10:49:46 -0500
Started 2008-09-29 09:42:18 -0500

I have been thinking about this a lot; since I am a female and my husband has the disease, I am the caregiver, but would I want it any other way?
There is only one thing I would change, and that is some of the research. Although, I thoroughly enjoy it; I feel my husband can not fully understand what he is dealing with, and how important his medication and diet he is doing takes a part in his life, unless he looks into some news articles, talks to people, or whatever. He does need to help himself in understanding the importance of type 2 diabetes. Not to mention I have trouble translating to him, when he asks a question. I can read and understand, but I am no good telling someone else what I have learned.
I can definitely act on what I learned as far as reminding him to take his meds., cooking proper meals; getting him regular doctor appointments. Whatever he needs. But there are things I have told him that he just won't listen to, like keeping feet covered; the dangers of infection. He even saw for himself when my mother was alive and had to have several amputations (painfully hard to think about, I am sorry, but you have to look ahead and sometimes people have to be scared enough to act appropriately.
I love my husband and I will continue to learn as much as I can because I love him and want to keep him around for as long as I possibly can.
But I do want him to learn somethings on his own. What if something happens to me? How will he deal. He depends totally on me and I know his weekness for food, he will not survive. What can a caregiver do to put some of the responsibilty in the person who is ill? Hope that is not too confusing a post

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desertruth 2008-10-26 10:49:46 -0500 Report

I've been having the same thoughts. My son is 43 and is very dependent on me. I am 65+. Sometimes he has nightmares about what will happen if something happens to me. He know he would probably have to go to a "home" and would not like it at all. I think he will probably never really accept living in a different environment unless he can change his outloook and care for himself more. Anyone have any ideas?

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