Dad just diagnosed with High Blood Sugar and a Brain Aneursysm...

By bicker68 Latest Reply 2011-01-28 10:04:52 -0600
Started 2011-01-09 00:40:11 -0600

My Father (Linn) was admitted to the hospital on Tuesday when he went to his Cancer Dr., because his breathing was so poorley from his Lung Cancer, COPD, and Emphysema, in which he also found out his blood sugar was high, which the Dr. didn't seem to concerned with. But said he will keep an eye on.
The Dr. ordered a Petscan and a MRI, the petscan showed the cancer hasn't grown anymore, but the MRI showed he has a Brain Aneursysm, In which they can't do anything for him for he wouldn't survive surgery. They are calling in Hospice on Monday, Dr. says all we can do is keep him comfortable till his time comes. Found all this out between Tuesday and Friday.
This morning I got a phone call from my Sister-in-law telling me that my Niece's house burnt down this morning and her 4 and 8 years old Grandaughters died in the fire.
I'm so stessed don't know what to do for who and when to do it. Then to beat all that I had to tell my Niece's Sister about what happened to her Sister and Niece's. My God that's something I hope I never have to do again. It ripped me apart having to deliver news like that.
I hate to ask you great folks again for more Prayers, for you all have been so great to me and my Family in the past with all your thoughts and Prayers for our Daughter Nan and the Family.
Thank you all so much.


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bicker68 2011-01-27 03:34:09 -0600 Report

UPDATE; The people from Hospice are Wonderful, and Sweet. My Mom and Dad just adore them, and they are such a God Send. They are doing awesome with my Dad, and it has helped relieve some of the stress off of Mom. She was getting so wore down and so tired, I was afraid she was going to get ill herself.
If I'm not there everyday it's every other day.
My daughter Nan give Dad her Miniture Poodle, which worked out perfect. My Dad is an animal lover and she has helped his depression quite a bit, and also my Mom and she usually don't take up to many animals but she just loves Maddie.
I picked up Maddie today and took her to get groomed for them.
May you all take care, and God Bless.


jayabee52 2011-01-27 23:44:22 -0600 Report

From what you shared, I am guessing this is an in-home hospice, rather than a institutional hospice. I worked in an institutional hospice for a few shifts when I was working as a CNA. The medical workers tried their best to make it "home-like" but it is never really home for the family or the patient. Fortunately when Jem's mom was in hospice in Nov 2008 it was in-home hospice, which is my preference. She didn't linger long & I am glad I was there ti help Jem with Mama G's care. (I had just come into CA to spend time with Jem & Mama G over the holidays.I was there about 2 days and she seemed OK then she took a turn

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-01-27 08:06:38 -0600 Report

Hospice people are amazing. Keeping your Mom, and yourself from getting worn out is very, very important. Pets can be great for relieving stress/ I used to sneak some of my dogs and cats into the nursing home years ago. That was before therepy pets were popular. Thank you for sharing with us so we can know how to pray for you and yours.

bicker68 2011-01-14 11:14:39 -0600 Report

Today I feel BLESSED to be able to babysit my Grandaughter Mariah, Thank You Jesus.

jayabee52 2011-01-14 17:09:52 -0600 Report

Take theblessings as they come, bicker!

bicker68 2011-01-15 10:43:10 -0600 Report

As I have learned to do in When my Niece passed almost 2 years ago from a Brain Anyurism, I got to see her for the last time when she was on life support. I told her I loved her and held her hand and kissed her for the last time, I believve she heard me. Things happen so fast, make sure the people you love know how you feel about them.
Thanks jayabee

jayabee52 2011-01-15 14:18:30 -0600 Report

One of the downsides of Jem dying in the manner she did, I had no sense of closure with her. Fortuntely we didn't have anything but loving words for one another previously, so didn't have those "I wish I would have told her . . . " feelings.

I am glad she didn't have a long drawn out death, on the other hand, it was tough for me to lose her.

She was one of my blessings! I'm much, much better having known her.

Please forgive my personal reminicence. I have a great long way to go before I am "over " her.

MewElla 2011-01-12 14:02:42 -0600 Report

Was just thinking about you today. Hope you are feeling less stress. You have my prayers for you and your family. God Bless you.

bicker68 2011-01-12 21:31:04 -0600 Report

Thank you so much, my xanax has helped alot these last few weeks. We had calling hours this evening, and the Funeral for the Girls is at 11 in the morning. I know the Dear Lord will see us through, for I know now he is carrying us.

miss kirby
miss kirby 2011-01-10 17:21:48 -0600 Report

I lost my brother last january to the same thing he was 61 and 1 month away
from his 62nd birthday he also had to major strokes that caused the aneursysm
he,d never been sick or complained of being sick it was a sudden happening
i,m sorry for your lose god will get you through it.

Evelynkay 2011-01-10 14:34:11 -0600 Report

Hi bicker68,I saw your profile .I to am from Oh. My mother had cancer .we lost her in 2006.she was a very strong person.Always worried more about others then she did herself.Also my husbands twin sister had cancer .she beat it .but his oldest sister didn't she passed in 2002.I pray you stay strong and take care of yourself .

bicker68 2011-01-12 21:40:08 -0600 Report

So sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom, I can only imagine how difficult that is. Also sorry to hear of your Husbands loss. Cancer is such an ugly thing, My Daughter Nan is 33 and in Oct. 2010 she had Brain Surgery due to a tumor that was Cancer, the Dr. wasn't able to get it all she has 2 weeks left of Radiation left. We're praying that it takes care of the rest of the tumor.
2 years ago in March I lost a niece age 23 to a Brain Anyursim, she was also 8 months pregnant. They were albe to save Baby Noah, Thank the Lord.
Thank you again so much, Take Care and God Bless You.

Evelynkay 2011-01-13 13:57:19 -0600 Report

i'm so sorry to hear of all the loss and tramua .you must be a very strong person to handle all that.sounds like we have alot in common…years ago my brother at age 18 (hes 47 now) had an anyursim …he made it though ok but just wasn't the same as before…my mom battled cance which spread to her brain and an anyursim is what got her.the docs didn;t even know it had spread that far.They were watching it in her lungs.I would like to keep in touch with you if you dont care.are we aloud to give email addresses out here.mine is small…if i'm not suppose to do this please let me know.Take Care

CaliKo 2011-01-09 21:50:23 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry to hear that. Of course you can have more prayers, that's something we don't run out of. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Hugs.

Pynetree 2011-01-09 09:52:40 -0600 Report

Oh Bicker, they say God doesn't give you more than you can handle…He must think you are one STRONG WOMAN! Praying for you and your family, for strength to get through this!

jayabee52 2011-01-09 01:54:24 -0600 Report

OH MY Bicker! I am so very sorry that these thinks have happened.

Yes, of course I will pray for you and for your family. Just tke one thing at a time, and please take care of yourself amid all this distress.

What is your Dad's name?

bicker68 2011-01-09 02:16:59 -0600 Report

Thanks jayabee,
yes it's alot to swallow right now, with so much going on. My Dad's name is Linn and he's been quite a trooper, this is his 3rd bout with lung Cancer, but this time they can't do anything about it, and now this anyursism.
And now the loss of my 2 Great Niece's ages 4 and 8, We are just besides ourselves. The New Year is not starting out very well so far.
Thanks so much for your prayers once more.


jayabee52 2011-01-09 03:05:11 -0600 Report

When Jem's mother developed non-hodgkins lymphoma (Oct 2008), the home hospice nurse told "MaMa G" not to worry about her BG#s. Their main concern was to make her comfortable in her final days. In fact, we discontinued using her glucometer. .

That's probably why his BG#s are high. Will his hospice be home hospice? Can your mother handle his care for hospice? If not is there someone close by who could do the caregiving needed in home?

Fortunately for Jem & Mama G I had just arrived for visit over the holidays just 2 or 3 days before she took a turn for the worse and became unresponsive. When I got there she was walking around and enjoying life. then in 2 or 3 days she shut down. Frotunately, I had been a CNA. and had worked a few shifts in a hospice facility so I knew what to do and how to do it. Jem has assisted with the care of her father years earlier, so together we cared for her mama until she passed 2 or 3 days later. WE were fortunate that MamaG didn't hang on long once she became unresponsive.

But your dad may be different. He might hang on for quite some time, and that can be taxing for in home caregivers. You might look into "respite caregivers" to give the family caregivers a break for a while.

Blessings to you and yours, (even though it may not feel like it)

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