I am so at a loss here.

By HisTxLady Latest Reply 2011-04-28 21:06:36 -0500
Started 2011-01-06 02:26:55 -0600

I have been trying so hard to watch my carbs and sugar and working very hard to keep my BG down. But the graph for my BG and carbs looks like a 2 year old was scribbling on it. I also am fighting real hard to lose weight. So hard that when I weighed myself the other night I swore it had said I had lost like 30 lbs but when I stepped up on it today I not only did not lose anything but I had also gained about 3 lbs. GRRRRRR. I swear I don't know what else to do. My son bought me an Xbox 360 with Kinect for Christmas and I have been working out with it everyday, except the last couple days I have been sick and my COPD has been kicking my booty, and let me tell you it IS a huge work out. But still everything is all wonkie and I am not losing an ounce. I have had a good bit of stress this week. My sister n law that we were very close to was in the hospital not doing well at all and we lost her this morning, and we have to make a 6 hour trip to go to the funeral that we really don't have to spend, but she would do it for any of us if it was flipped around, and I have been sick and I am worried about hubby getting in trouble for taking time off but we shall see and he had to take 1/2 the day off today to take me to the Doctor. I know all this can make my blood sugar go nuts but I honestly feel lost and like I am NEVER going to lose this weight!!! Any suggestions?

God Bless :o)

26 replies

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-01-12 21:11:55 -0600 Report

Sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing better and your husband was able to keep his boss happy. It is hard to make progress on losing weight when life is stressful.

HisTxLady 2011-01-15 14:12:56 -0600 Report

Thank you Graylin and yes it is hard to keep up with anything when things are, as I felt, falling apart. But on top of all the other stress hubby and I are both sick, he has missed another week of work due to being sick. This bug or what ever it is has settled in my chest and my COPD is not happy about it at all, thank goodness I am already on o2. I am going to talk to hubby about going to the Dr. today, just not sure we have the money since we are cash pay and he has been out of work for a week. Since he has been out of work for over a week we have 0 money coming in. Yet another worry to think about. Sheesh will it ever end?

God Bless :o)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-09 15:22:31 -0600 Report

Hi Lori!

It has been awhile since we have been in touch. I am so sorry to hear about your sister in law, that is a tragedy. And it sounds liike you have some health issues kicking up as well. I am glad that you reached out to your friends on Diabetic Connect during this difficult time, and hope that you would count me as one of your friends.

You have received some great advice from some very caring and experienced people here on Diabetic Connect. But I wanted to add some words of support.

You have a lot going on in your life, and we just got through the holidays. I can't speak to the medical issues but I do want to encourage you not to be too hard on yourself. We can only do our best, sometimes we experience some backtracking along the way. But you have made some incredible progress in managing your weight and you will get this back under control. You know you can do it.

And, I want to encourage you to get lots of support, to feel your feelings and to take care of yourself during thiis time of challenge and loss. I have a feeling that you are a real giver, and it is also important to care for the caregiver. I hope you will reach out to people in your life, friends or family members, who can be good listeners. Don't carry this burden alone. Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can under very difficult circumstances. That's a lot.

Is there anything that you usually do to relieve stress? Anything you do to feel relaxed? Any spiritual practices? Taking walks? Listening to music? Taking a few breaks here and there just to get back to your center could help to reduce the stress. As you know, maintaining your general emotional well-being can also have a positive impact on your physical health.

Again, it is great to be back in touch with you. Stay close to your friends on Diabetic Connect. We are standing by. Please keep us posted!

HisTxLady 2011-01-10 23:57:32 -0600 Report

Thank you very much Dr Gary!! Yes it has been a while. To long if you ask me lol. I was struck so hard at her viewing! My sister did not tell me our sister n law had been sick for a while and she was down to skin and bones it just was not the same person to me, even tho I knew it was her.

Oh you know I count you as a friend along with lots of other DC family. Sometimes I think I get more support here than from my blood kin. Yes I am trying to recenter myself and no I have not found a way to do this yet but I am thinking about getting out my Bible on CD's and starting to listen to them. If anyone can help me find my center I would say it is the Good Lord himself.

I will try to make a post of how things went in just a lil bit.

God Bless :o)

Gimpalong 2011-04-28 21:01:48 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry for your loss, and also the health issues you and your hubby are having at this time. I don't think that you could have turned to any one better equipped to help you, the good Lord. I know that I am new to the site, but please take care of yourself. I will be praying for your recovery and strenth to deal with the stress at this time. God bless you and your family.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-11 11:29:42 -0600 Report

Hi Lori,

It is great to be back in touch! It is one of the hardest things in life to see our loved ones get sick and go into decline, or to find out that this has occurred. A reminder that we are not promised that life is suppoed to be the way we think it should be. I lost my mom over the summer, and the uncontrollability of life was certainly brought home.

DC is certainly a special place, for a lot of people, including me. I think that one of reasons why people connect so well is that they don't have the history, and the baggage, that family members sometimes have. And it helps that everybody here is dealing with the same struggles.

Making a spiritual connection is the best way I can think of get yourself back to your center. I can't think of a better idea.

I hope you will keep in touch with us on how things are going. I will be watching for you.

Have a great day!


Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-01-12 21:14:50 -0600 Report

Sorry you lost your mother. The reality of how little control we really have some times is very hard to face.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-12 23:12:50 -0600 Report

Thanks for your kind words. Oh yes, life on life's terms. Very hard to face, but we do it. Fortunately, lots of joys along the way as well. Take care!

GabbyPA 2011-01-06 22:13:09 -0600 Report

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of such a special person. Sometimes with all the things going on, our bodies don't cooperate. Don't disrepair. Concentrate on your sister's family and meeting those needs. Take care of your self and get well again.

When you have those done, continue to work on your diabetes and don't weigh yourself. Just keep an eye on your numbers (glucose numbers) and work to make them lower. Exercise and diet will help in that goal. Keep focused on that and you will be amazed at the things that follow. The scale will frustrate you. Go by your doctor's scale. Don't let it frustrate you (well, not too much) and just say, next test we will work on this or that...it will amaze you at how things can take care of themselves.

HisTxLady 2011-01-07 00:38:08 -0600 Report

Thank you very much Gabby. I honestly feel I would be totally lost without my family here!!!

GabbyPA 2011-01-07 09:37:29 -0600 Report

That is why we're here. Let us know what you are feeling and going through. There is always someone here who can relate and help out.

HisTxLady 2011-01-10 23:59:49 -0600 Report

You are to sweet Gabby thank you kindly. I am still a bit lost right now but I will make a new post soon.

Johnben or JB.
Johnben or JB. 2011-01-06 17:34:43 -0600 Report

You may as well know that to be perfect with your blood sugar readings is next to impossible. All you can really do is your very best, keep your portions under control and smile if it doesn't work out Worry will make things always worse.

JB 50 years with diabetes#1.

Gimpalong 2011-04-28 21:06:36 -0500 Report

Hi Johnben,
How was the anniversary party? I pray that you and your sweetie had a grand time. My parents will be married 70 years in May. I think that you and your sweetie have accomplished something very special. I pray that the Lord will continue you both with much, much happiness. Hang in there. Keep on keepin' on. Start the day with a smile and a laugh, and that will confuse the heck out of everyone. Take care of you. God bless.

Harlen 2011-01-06 14:33:47 -0600 Report

I dont know what your on for D ???
Sometimes I will work out a lot and not drop any lbs
musle is huvyer then fat .
Sorry for your lose I know how it is to lose somone close.
Best wishes

HisTxLady 2011-01-07 00:56:50 -0600 Report

Thank you kindly Harlen. I am on Janumet 50/1000 2x a day for my Diabetes. I will come post that I am home when I get back.

Harlen 2011-01-07 06:43:43 -0600 Report

It was a long time for me to get on the right meds and get my numbers good
Sometimes I think the Doc wish you to work hared on something you cant do so they look good when they put you on the right meds, or that the ins comp dont wish to pay for the meds you need who knows .Dont be scard of getting what you need if you dont stand up for you then who will ???
Cutting carbs is the best way to get your #s down .
Right it all down what you eat how much what your BS is befor and 2 hr after you eat this will let you know what works for you and what will not ?
Best wishes

CaliKo 2011-01-06 10:06:14 -0600 Report

First, let me say how sorry I am for your loss. Grief is difficult enough when one is healthy, and I'm sure it can compound the difficulties of dealing with diabetes. And the stress of figuring out the logistics of an unexpected trip certainly doesn't help either. Try not to take on too much worry about Hubby's job, it simply doesn't help, you have to do what you have to do. I know that's easier said than done. Try instead to focus on the steps you need to take to get through the day, and the week. Sometimes having a plan will keep the problems from becoming overwhelming. Take it one thing at a time.
I'm the first to stand in line to sing the praises of exercise. Simply put, it makes you healthier. It makes your body work better. It tones and strengthens your muscles. It has an amazing impact on blood glucose. Kudos for you for finding an exercise that you can do every day. As you know, its very important. But for weight loss, I have to say that I've personally always had to look to my diet to make changes that would enable me to drop pounds. Get out that old meal plan you probably have from when you were first diagnosed, and dust off that calorie king booklet and sit down and plan some menus. Find a calorie count that supports the weight you want to be, commit to sticking to that number, and you will see the pounds drop.
Good luck!

HisTxLady 2011-01-07 01:16:27 -0600 Report

Thank you very much CaliKo. I have been working with a site called www.livestrong.com/ and I go to My Plate D in there site for Diabetics. I keep my calories under 1381 even tho the system said it was not enough calories for me a day I still use that number and it tracks my carbs and my sugars and calories. Now you can ask my daughter that lives with us if it goes in my mouth it goes on that chart and I do not skimp on it. I would rather add a few extra calories than to be short and eat more than I claim. They even keep up with your water intake. I will plan for the trip tomorrow that will keep me busy for a bit lol. Thank you so much again for taking time to read my problems and for giving me your view. I will work on your suggestions they sound solid.

Pibb 2011-01-07 19:32:26 -0600 Report

Hi this is Pibb, i can relate to the loss. My parents passed within a year of each other. I still haven't found a even ground but i believe you are not a quitter if you keep trying, so i keep trying!! i walked the treadmill for two years and lost close to 50 lbs, when I stopped losing I got frustrated of course that was also when my membership ran out and couldn't afford to renew it. I Keep trying!

GabbyPA 2011-01-07 09:36:36 -0600 Report

I love Livestrong.com. You will find it is a great tool. I found that they said my calories were too low, but I went by a compromise between my dietitian and my doctor. If it was too low, I knew I would not comply. So we met in the middle and worked my way down.

CaliKo 2011-01-07 09:30:17 -0600 Report

Then it sounds like you are doing all the right things. Keep it up and I'm sure you will see progress eventually. Gabby's right, the scale can be frustrating and results often come in their own (slow) time. Good luck.

HisTxLady 2011-01-11 00:12:21 -0600 Report

Howdy from Texas Pibb. that is an inspirational post and I thank you for it. I am very sorry to hear of your parents. I wish you a lot of healing power at God Speed. I know and you know you will make it to lose more, it will come, be patient.

That sounds like a good plan Gabby. I wish you well with it and hope you get where you want to be. Yes I love LiveStrong too and I am working with it. I just get aggregated with hubby cause he keeps telling me I am working to low but I feel good where I am so I will stay there for a bit.

Thank you very much CaliKo. I am watching over the horizon for new and better times.

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