Type 2 and Simvastatin

By lifers Latest Reply 2011-01-06 00:28:07 -0600
Started 2011-01-05 22:07:34 -0600

Hi everyone. My boyfriend has been diagnosed for almost three monthes with type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol. With all the changes in his life and health, its hurt our relationship cause til tonight I had no understanding of his health. Ive came to this site for help understand him more and what has happened with these changes. He has all the symptons from these health issues to where ive felt a loss with him. So if anyone has advice for me to help him thru this and help our relationship. I would like the help he is a very special person in my life and hate the thought of losing him cause I didnt understand what hes going thru.

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jayabee52 2011-01-06 00:28:07 -0600 Report

Well, Lifers welcome to DC.
It's tough when someone you love is diagnosed with diabetes ("DM") Each person's reaction is unique to them.

One of the best things I think you can do to support him is to learn all you can about DM and let him know that the fact that he has DM doesn't change your love and support for him.

Some significant others can't handle the news that something is wrong with their loved one, so they shut down emotionally, or sabotage the diabetic's attempt to control their DM, or just plain walk away.

Of course diabetics can also exhibit emotional disturbances over the diagnosis, or become depressed, or go into denial. You can let your boyfriend know that you love him no matter what his diagnosis is. (Draw the line at physical or emotional abuse, of course.)

Coming to DC is a good start. You have a lot of people here who know about struggling with DM & a lot of other complications. Ask questions. read the discussions, read the informational articles. But also know that each person with diabetes has his or her own reaction to it. Foods which would cause my BG levels to skyrocket, may not affect another all that much. Things which may work for me, may not work for your boyfriend.

Also not many of us are MDs and can give medical advice. But we can tell you what has or hasn't worked for us, and leave it up to the other people with diabetes to try it or not.

I pray your boyfriend comes to DC and likes it here. I do, and have been here nearly every day for a year and a half or so.

Blessings to you and Yours


lifers 2011-01-05 23:01:55 -0600 Report

Thanku and I so wish I would have found this site sooner. I told him about it and hes gonna come and join in for things I cant help him understand but someone here could. I really have hard time with the thoughts of diabetes where I lost my 27 yr old cousin to it. So not understanding it with him is scary and I feel coming here will give me a chance to help him thru it.

CaliKo 2011-01-05 22:36:11 -0600 Report

Good for you for wanting to support your boyfriend. He has probably been busy learning all about it himself. At least, I hope so. Has he been to a class by a certified diabetes educator? If he hasn't yet, they sometimes let the diabetic bring a friend or partner. Your role won't be easy until you both get used to it, but it should help you if you understand what's going on. You will probably bite your tongue alot while he's cross from getting used to his lower glucose levels or meal plan, or just tired of sticking his fingers all the time. Helpful things include joining in on walks or other activities to increase his exercise levels, joining in cheerfully on healthier eating habits, and keeping quiet when he doesn't do exactly what he's supposed to. He has to walk the walk himself and all you can do sometimes is love him and listen when he wants to talk. Good luck!

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