Type 2

By tjaxxson Latest Reply 2011-01-06 13:45:52 -0600
Started 2011-01-05 01:10:51 -0600

I'm new to the site. I was partially diagnosed with type 2 in Nov 2010. I know a lot about it but still not enough to deal with it in my case. My fiance doesn't want me to be on meds wich I understand. What I don't understand is why I was affected I'm not overweight I'm not really excited about it but I'm coping. With my fiance being a naturalist it makes it hard for me to get to the dr. How can I make him understand how important it is to go. I'm at a loss. I'm currently going behind his back to get my 5 hr test done and I don't want to go alone I need him there for me..What do I do? Thanks..

6 replies

RedGloves 2011-01-06 10:06:09 -0600 Report

Well, maybe if you let him know that testing and eating correctly might prevent you from taking meds and that he has to cooperate and help you if you are going to learn to eat and live without them, might that help? My husband doesn't want me on meds either, and I don't want to take them if I can help it at all. I am a little overweight, so I'm hoping diet and exercise will be my answer, and my husband supports that 100% and even (mostly) eats my diet—turns out it's the diet all Baby Boomers should be eating anyway . . . and we both want to live long and be healthy long enough to retire and live in a boat in Key West!

tjaxxson 2011-01-06 13:45:52 -0600 Report

Thanks I have talked to him and he knows. He is the one that made me go to the Dr to begin with and my niece died the sunday after I was diagnosed. The day I was suppose to go for my 5 hr test is the day we had her funeral. That is what got him started on this naturalist thing. He supports me just doesn't want me to go to a reg Dr.

kdroberts 2011-01-05 13:21:13 -0600 Report

You have to take care of yourself. Your fiance needs to understand that unless you do, by whatever means you have to, you will die. I'm sure that sooner or later he will come to terms with it. Just keep in mind that there are a lot of natural remedies out there and for the most part they are scams and the ones that aren't don't work for every one or as well as medications. The only two that work well for everyone are diet and exercise.

As said, weight is not a cause but a risk factor. Kind of like if you have a runny nose you are more likely to have a cold than somebody without a runny nose but the runny nose doesn't actually cause the cold.

CaliKo 2011-01-05 12:53:13 -0600 Report

It's so important to get all the proper testing done and get a proper diagnosis, so I'm glad you are taking steps regardless of what your fiance believes. This is your life and your body and you need to do what you need to do to control blood glucose levels and avoid the complications of diabetes. Its possible in many cases to go for years and years managing T2 with diet and exercise. But, be realistic, most T2s eventually need help from drugs as the disease progresses, and it progresses differently in different people. The consequences of trying to avoid drugs when you need them are serious consequences. If you get a definate diagnosis with the glucose tolerance test, ask your doctor to refer you to classes with a certified diabetes educator. Then ask your fiance to go with you. Give him time to adjust to your diagnosis, but if he's resistant, I'd even go so far as to suggest counseling before committing yourself for life to someone who may constantly be at odds with what you have to do to take care of yourself. I'm sorry, this probably sounds harsh, but diabetes is serious, and early care is so important.
Additionally, about 10-15 percent of those diagnosed with T2 are not overweight, extra weight is just a risk factor. But know also that many T1s are originally diagnosed with T2, and your doctor may perform more tests if you don't respond well to treatment for T2.
Good luck, welcome to diabetic connect, and please let us know how it goes.

tjaxxson 2011-01-05 14:02:51 -0600 Report

Thanks Caliko! I plan on talking to him tomorrow. He is more understanding than most are. He just doesn't want to see the drugs make it worse.