Encouragement from groups

By pat3 Latest Reply 2015-03-27 03:24:47 -0500
Started 2010-12-25 00:34:30 -0600

Tuesday I was put on my 1st diabetic med, Metformin, and was rather down about it. I emailed a gal from another group I had "met" because of our shared hobby.

Lo and behold, she emailed right back and told me not to feel a failure because I could no longer control my BS with diet & expercise, to look at is as the best thing for my health and to avoid further complications.

Had it not been for her, I would have had a major pity party! lol It is so good to have online friends to help us at least think a new way about a situation.
Hugs, Pat

62 replies

shelphil 2015-03-25 12:28:43 -0500 Report

I, too, am new to Metformin. I started last week. I would like to say I have been lucky up to this point but I am not sure if it was luck that got me to this point. I did not have insurance until March and now that I do I am playing catch-up with healthcare. My point is, my doctor told me the Metformin should control my diabetes so I think that is a wonderful thing. It could have been much worse. Keeping all aspects of this in perspective is tough but we can push on. We are up for the challenge. Sounds like you have a great attitude and positive outlook so that is the first hurdle accomplished. Best wishes to you.

jayabee52 2015-03-26 09:01:18 -0500 Report

Howdy Shelphil
I am glad you now have insurance.

I am glad you also have a good attitude as well
God's best to you
James Baker

tbrown699084 2015-03-25 16:01:21 -0500 Report

My Dr wants to increase my metformin because my sugar levels has been unstable I must go from 500 to 1000mg twice a day. My eating habits are not always a certain time when I eat my sugar is high in the 235 but when I snack its in the 110. Tell me am I hurting myself this way because I need too loose the weight and control this sugar.

jayabee52 2015-03-26 09:15:14 -0500 Report

Howdy T Brown
To me it sounds like instead of upping your Met dosage, perhaps you need to count carbs and develop some portion control. May I ask exacty what are you eating?

I had middling success with Met until my kidney problems put me on dialysis. Then I was put on NPH insulin injections twice a day. I did ok on those also. But when I accidentally discovered that I could keep my BG (blood glucose) levels in the 80 to 130 mg/dl range if I ate very carefully I discontinued the injections. I discovered a new (for me) way of eating and I wrote it up in a discussion. I lost 65 lbs over 5 mo, kept my BG level at 80 to 130 mg/dl, achieved an A1c of 5.5. and am still using the plan.

I make the plan available to anyone who wishes to review it.

Perhaps it may work wonders for you

God's best to you


FrancesJames 2015-03-26 11:55:13 -0500 Report

I would like to see your plan. I have been on injections for 29 years and would love to get off them..Thank you so much.

jayabee52 2015-03-27 01:52:42 -0500 Report

Howdy Frances
Sure. Not sure it will get you off injections but it may help you reduce the amount or maybe even the number of injections. You can find the discussion here ~ http://www.diabeticconnect.com/diabetes-discu...
Please do me the kindness of once you've reviewed the plan that you'd post your reactions, good or bad, to that discussion? It would be much appreciated!
God's best to you

tbrown699084 2015-03-26 12:19:25 -0500 Report

Well I really don't have a plan whats that a diet, food nutrition I am at a lost I do have charts of what I need too eat and how much. I am a cook of 13 years so preparing the food is no problem I cook with corn or peanut oil but I have too cook different for my son. When it comes time for me too get the right meals for me and him it gets hard too balance the taste of a 13yr old. My A1c 7.8 my levels are from 145 to 235 what is a guy too do about it. My main concern is to lose weight I want to drop 75 pounds I am 355lbs I have never been this big and I can not drop this weight and I have more health problems than I need, depression, sleep apnea, I take over 14 medications so if this group can help I am all ears. Thank you much love

jayabee52 2015-03-27 03:24:47 -0500 Report

howdy T Brown
I believe my meal plan may be of help to you. I lost 65 lbs over 5 mo and would have lost more had I not added some fat back into my meal plans. I have kept my BG (blopd glucose) levels in the 80 to 130 mg/dl range without diabetes meds, achieved an A1c of 5.5% for a time. I have been on this plan since Feb of 2011 so it has stood the test of time I have written this plan as a discussion a while ago and send the link to anyone who wants to examime it.

after I lost the 65 lbs my sleep apnea vanished and my aches and pains and osteoarthritis have diminished greatly.

I think this might do you some good.


anniebell01 2012-03-20 12:54:28 -0500 Report

Last fall my A1C was 9.1 I just gad my test and it was 5.8 I'm taking metforim and making myself diet strictly!! Some excercise; but need to work on that watching my carbs very closely I am working with a nutritionist. That really is a source of accountability and encouragement for me. If I can get mine under controll- so can you!! Write EVERYTHING down. Watch calories and Carbs! I had to give up almost all bread and potatoes but look at my A1C!!

bigbird988 2012-03-05 07:03:02 -0600 Report

Hi i am a brand new notified diabetic. I now have a one touch how do i get my sugars below 8 ? I see my doctor in 2 days i need help
Last 2 testings were high

jayabee52 2012-03-06 07:18:32 -0600 Report

One of the things I have found helpful was to AVOID breads and products made from grains altogether! You can eat veggies and many fruits to get the carbs you need.

If I remember correctly you are from a country which measures Blood Glucose levels in mmol/l ? So your "8" would be in our mg/dl equivalent to an 144 (cpmverter tool here ~ http://diabeticgourmet.com/Tools_and_Calculat... )

sheriden 2011-08-25 23:01:48 -0500 Report

I was diabetic when prego. and as they called it pre. diabetic ect… I was never once tolled that I would need to watch any thing and than just a few months ago my new doc did a Ac1 700+ and sent me to diabetic training. I had taken care of diabetic people but wo what I learned in class blew me away. I was put on Metformin and was I sick in the BR. 24/7. now I am on actos and another and am ok what I want to say is my Doc said it was sad I was not tolled what to expect but that with type 2 I would have had to go on meds anyway. after my history had I known or not, that people who are very careful to stay on their diet ect… still may wind up on meds and there is still so much to learn with both type 1 and 2. have a blessed wk.

lorene1212 2011-08-25 22:00:31 -0500 Report

hi Pat3! I wake every morning I take my metformin, and three other pills for my HIV and vitamins, and anti depressant also.. I go to kitchen turn coffee on take my BS. Daily religiously done routine. I used to hate taking my sugars and would put it off till 2-3pm and not eat till then. Now I am changing those old and bad habits. Used to be on glyburide also and about a year ago Dr. took me off it. Not cause sugars were good cause they were totally out of control.. Dr. put me on Lantus shot at nite. I am very happy here on diabetic community and very much wanting to share with everyone! What a motivation I feel here. Changes are happening with me because of this. We all know what it is to be scared to do something new. Taking care of ourselves is first… You are doing the right things and you are not a failure. Take care…


RED RACER 2011-07-23 14:09:22 -0500 Report

I hate having diabetes, because I'm always being told what I can eat & having to take shots & pills. Because of the Diabetes & Arthitis I've developed depression & I'm unable to work. I also feel like I have a rich mans disease on a poor mans salary.

Haywire ala
Haywire ala 2011-08-26 13:07:42 -0500 Report

My husband is the same way he was just told he has diabetes and he has seve PAD and he can't work he as developed depression to it's hard to come to terms that you can work and support your family that's why added this site so he knows their are other people like him

sheriden 2011-08-25 23:17:08 -0500 Report

I don't know what your condition is I also have diabetes and and arthritis and am on ssi, I could not stand it any longer and did not even want to go on. Than I through prayers it hit me and now I am in school and taking on line paralegal and classes at Sheridan Collage and that keeps me going knowing I can still contribute. I want to do allot with my paralegal but my passion is in domestic abuse as I was abused all my life and could not get help. The thing is don't give up get help with the depression and than think about what you can do not what you can't that will drive you crazy. God bless and keep you safe.

lmkilday 2011-07-23 00:18:34 -0500 Report

I am guessing that most of the people on this site take medication to control their diabetes and I doubt very many of them consider themselves failures. Neither should you. Check your Bible. God does not call his children failures. We only fail in the eyes of other people.

RAINDANCER1950 2011-07-22 18:12:31 -0500 Report


Grammie_K#1 2011-01-19 12:12:17 -0600 Report

I remember the first day I was told I had type 2. The 'shell shock' involved stopping everything that contained sugar. I only ate salads, breakfast-lunch-dinner and drank only water. That lasted about 1 week, lol. 4 yrs later I'm still on my prescribed routine, I take meds 3x day and only do a fasting test in the a.m. now. Yes, a pill holder with the time slots for meds is great and portable! Stick it in your purse, pocket, briefcase, whatever and go! I also like the smaller meters that fit my purse/pocket easier. I don't test away from home, but it's there if I ever need it. My family and friends all know I carry both at all times, in case I'm not home at pill time.
Another thing, make sure you carry a list of all your meds and supplements with you always and keep it updated. This is great for those trips to the doctor and they always ask you what you are taking, or if you have to go to the emergency room.
The shock is still with me - I still judge everything from a sugar content view. I know now what my body is handling and I avoid the thing it can't. I hope all of you remember to take those meds. I can't stress how important they are to keeping you alive! Make post it notes your friend if you have a hard time, they stick almost anywhere! Get your kids and grandkids involved in food prep. They will learn to eat healthier and you will get your needed intake of snacks and meals.
Good luck and God bless not only the newbies like me, but everyone who has this life changing diesease.

roscoboy 2011-01-19 11:43:09 -0600 Report

Press on Missy! Pity parties are okay, just don't stay long. You must celebrate life. I totally understand, this is a tough monster to control. If I can make it through ten years of dialysis and finally getting a renal transplant you can press on as well. Be well

SweetLD 2011-08-26 05:23:45 -0500 Report

Great advice! You are inspiring and I wish you all the best— happiness and swift healing with your new transplant! May you receive the kind of kindness you offer so generously. Blessings!

BandonBob 2011-01-19 09:18:19 -0600 Report

Don't feel like a failure. Remember he good part which is that you are actively working to control the diabetes rather than letting it control you. Even if like me you have to take other or more meds down the road don't think failure rather think of the time you were under control and the times you will be. All the time you spend with things controlled means all the time you can hold off the complications of the disease.

MewElla 2011-01-19 08:36:07 -0600 Report

It means the world to me when I get support and I am not by self in thinking this. A little bit of encouragemet from others can absolutely make or break a day.Good Luck to you and you are going to be "just better and better every day."You are not alone…

shorty1965 2010-12-28 08:26:26 -0600 Report

I need to find a group in philly i know that i can't do this on my own it's hard but i'm trying i just found out in march of this year. and i am not even close to having a handle on this thing.I never remember to take my meds and i don't eat.And i don't have time to workout.I do so much that by the time i remember it's time for me to go to bed.I get up at 5.30 everyday and go to work and get back in at 5pm to get ready for the next morning.And i have my 2 little grand kids i take care of everyday.what can i do?

shelphil 2015-03-27 02:54:44 -0500 Report

I am new also in March. I have to set reminders and alarms on my phone to remember my meds, eating, and exersice. I only do 30 minutes but that is something. I have never been a breakfast eater but I seem to feel better and have more energy now that I am doing that one change. Plus I have started drinking water. That is a major change for me. I was drinking only Pepsi and sweet tea all day. I am looking forward to taking control of my situation and meet my struggles head on.

sheriden 2011-08-25 23:26:56 -0500 Report

First take care of you. let family know this is serious and you need their support. I have to wright my self notes all the time on med changes and times just hang in there sounds like we found out about the same time. This site is a God send we have no groups for these things small town I will start one when time after fall classes end. In the mean time know that it dose take time and that at DC you have more people to draw from than any group you can go to as so many here. And when you help another you fill so blessed to have that honer. God bless you and yours.

wildwilly58 2011-01-20 14:02:53 -0600 Report

are you on diabetes pills? if so, you must eat !Even if its just a toast or muffin ,bagel etc.you should set a routine and then STICK to it !!!! remember …THE ONLY ALTERNATIVES ARE NOT NICE…SICKNESS,OR EVEN DEATH !

shorty1965 2011-01-21 21:01:50 -0600 Report

Yes i am on pills.and for the past 2 1/2 weeks i have been doing real good. i have started eating and trying to shop to make sure i have the food i need in the house.but i try to take my meds with yogurt and that works.Now i have to walk more to so !5pounds off my doctor said and i do feel a lot better sence i have been trying to do the right thing.Thank you very much all my friends at D.C. you have played a big part in my change.

pat3 2010-12-31 00:55:43 -0600 Report

Shorty, I hope you get your medication schedule down ASAP! Your meals are important, and you want to be around for those grandkids for a long time! I have 4 grandkids and 7 great grandkids, soon to be 8. Those babies are my main incentive to get this under control.

Hugs, Pat3

shorty1965 2010-12-31 09:52:58 -0600 Report

Thank you.I am trying to do a lot better i took my meds and i made me a salad and i will start to write my stuff down that may help.That is the first one day at a time.my numbers was not that bad this morning it was 146 it should b under 100 my doctor said so that is my goal.Thank you again just keep checking on me and i will keep doing my best but to be real with myself it is rel hard.

SweetLD 2011-08-26 05:40:02 -0500 Report

Hang in there, girlfriend! :o) It feels like adding a full time second job to an already full day, doesn't it? It really is tough and you are doing well, adding progress every day. Like with our kids, we have to tell ourselves, "just do your best!" Remember the tortoise and the hare…slow and steady wins the race! I see your progress in what you write. You are learning more each day! The pill box ideas are great…I do mine for a whole week at a time. I also include my vitamins in the right boxes so they all get spread out through the day. Because I take shots twice a day, right side is morning, and left is evening. That way I am never confused. Well, not about the shots, anyways! I hope you will honor me and be my friend!

diabetes control
diabetes control 2011-07-23 15:17:32 -0500 Report

the 146 reading is normal if you have eaten something in the previous two hours before the reading, now if that reading is 8 to 10 hours after eating we have got some work to do.

pat3 2010-12-31 16:24:08 -0600 Report

I know it is hard. I have just been on the program a few months. It is hard to follow thru with our good intentions, but good health and the joy we find in life and family & friends is worth it.

I am on pills, also, for other things, so I bought a 7 day holder for mine, and since I drink my coffee in front of the computer first thing in the morning, I put them there. Then I keep the one diabetic med in the same place, but still in its bottle, as I take it at night! I had been keeping them in the kitchen "where I would not forget!" lol Did not work, but where I do my wakeup routine, it works.

I am proud of you. You keep eating properly and taking those pills! I will be your cheerleader!

Hugs, Pat 3

MewElla 2010-12-28 08:24:01 -0600 Report

I definitely believe in a close support group around me, with this diagnosis of type2 diabetes, I need to know somewhere out there, someone is listening to me. It would mean the world to me..

pat3 2010-12-31 00:58:17 -0600 Report

I feel the same way. I really want a "Hey, call me" support group, but really do love this online one. You might want to call the nearest hospital for info.
Hugs, Pat

pat3 2010-12-27 12:59:08 -0600 Report

Thanks to all who replied. Starting a group might be a chore out here in the boonies of N. CAlif. lol I know some hospitals sponser classes, but the one in our county quit, so far as I can find out.
Hugs, Pat

jayabee52 2010-12-28 16:26:28 -0600 Report

Howdy Pat
where in the "boonies" of NorCal are you? ( I used to live in Hayward - not exactly the boonies - but you can see it from there, LoL!)

Might you be close to a Kaiser-Permanente plan facility? They often have support groups of all kinds. You might ask a social worker there for a referral. There might be such a group within reasonable driving distance.

Praying good fortune in your search, and a blessed, happy & healthier new year!

pat3 2010-12-31 00:51:13 -0600 Report

Hi James. Corning, Tehama County. Olive country, and 2 1/2 ihours from SAcramento and the nearest Kaiser. Chico has some thru Enloe, I think & I will check on daytime groups after the 1st of the year.

I am about 4 hr south of the Oregon border, 4 hours to the coast, 4 hours to Reno and 4 hours to the Bay Area! lol Usually a couple of cattle drives down our road a year, so yeah, its boonies here! lol Everything is about 4 hours away! lol

SweetLD 2011-08-26 05:43:57 -0500 Report

Passing cattle drives??? Wow! I gotta say, that cracked me up! Thanks for the laugh, I needed it!

jayabee52 2010-12-31 15:37:47 -0600 Report

I know what that's like. I used to live in Sw KS for a few years, 6 hrs to Denver & 5 hrs to Wichita. At that time i was not a PWD. But I remember those days well. Had to take my firstborn son (@ 6 yrs old) to Denver to get some corrective surgery done on him

GabbyPA 2010-12-26 23:57:15 -0600 Report

Don't you just love the insight of friends. Sometimes we get so caught up in the "bad" part of things, we just need a little sunshine shed on the situation and a new perspective is there. Glad you emailed your friend. Glad she was your sunshine!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-26 10:16:55 -0600 Report

What a great testimonial to the power of support! Not to mention the power of Diabetic Connect!!! I'm glad you reached out. It seems that so often people assume that they should just deal with their condition on their own. Denying yourself the support of others is like self-punishment. Support is empowering!

pat3 2010-12-26 20:04:43 -0600 Report

Thanks for the comments. I would love a group where I could attend meetings with others, however none in our county that I can find. I did fine that a hospital in the next county does have support groups. I would enjoy a daytime meeting. Meanwhile, it is so nice to have others that I can read thier triumphs, or just daily challenges.

Hugs to all.

GabbyPA 2010-12-26 23:58:29 -0600 Report

You know...you can start your own group. Maybe make that a new year goal to get a group going. It could be a lot of fun.

Pynetree 2010-12-25 20:27:55 -0600 Report

Hey, you just do the best you can to control this Diabetes…everyone is different…D does not react to anything the same way to any body else. You do what works! And Harlen is right pitty-parties just not worth the effort…no help at all!

Harlen 2010-12-25 17:36:16 -0600 Report

Pat you know I am on the pump as I whent thrue pills and shots to the pump the only thing for me was what was the best way to take care of me.
A pitty party helps no-one
Best wishes

pat3 2010-12-25 10:37:40 -0600 Report

Thanks to all of you. I am wishing all much joy and good health thru the coming year.
Hugs, Pat

RAYT721 2010-12-25 06:16:05 -0600 Report

Pat: Welcome to our site! I came here to Diabetic Connect in March of this year and have met some of the most knowledgeable and caring people ever. Having diabetes is not your fault and no matter how it's controlled the important thing is that it's controlled. Some people may need oral meds and some may need insulin but either or both are necessary. Having diabetes is not nearly as bad as having uncontrolled diabetes. We are here to teach you, motivate you, inspire you, educate you but also we are here to learn from you. Every one of us has a story to tell… some are happy, some are sad. We are in this together. Hope your holidays are happy, merry, joyous and healthy! My motto has always been, "if you can't have the best of everything, make the best of everything that you have."

jayabee52 2010-12-25 03:09:16 -0600 Report

Absolutely, Pat! That's one of the neatest things about DC!

Praying a blessed Christmas to you and yours!


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