Hello All!

By Shanan Latest Reply 2010-12-17 23:15:59 -0600
Started 2010-12-15 21:04:48 -0600

Hello all! My name is Shanan and I'm new here. My husband, Kevin, was diagnosed with Type 2 in January 2010. He's a truck driver and very stubborn! His blood sugar is WWWAAAAYYYYY out of control and often so high that it won't even register on the meter! Our doctor only criticizes Kevin costantly over his weight and sugar levels. He's never once attempted to set Kevin on a treatment plan, diet plan, care plan, etc. For the time being, though, we are kinda stuck with him since we don't have nor are we able to obtain insurance coverage.
I joined with the hopes of finding answers and support, not just for Kevin, but for myself as well.

11 replies

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-12-17 23:15:59 -0600 Report

Welcome to DC. Small steps as others have suggested make a huge difference. Learning how carbs affect his BG and how to avoid the ones that are bad is one of the very important steps.

tomecom 2010-12-17 10:32:58 -0600 Report

Shanan: do yourself a favor. Download two free programs from CNET.com. One is the Diabetes Primer, which is designed for newly diagnosed diabetics; but i have given copies to thousands of diabetics. It will help immensely. The other program is the Desperation Diet. It is designed for diabetics and people that struggle to lose weight. Diabetes, particularly insulin, messes with weight loss. Insulin can contribute to weight gain and block the body's efforts to burn fat. You have to do it right to succeed.

But your doctor is right. Losing excess weight is very important for diabetics; it drives all diabetic complications.

granniesophie 2010-12-16 14:04:40 -0600 Report

I get the denial and lack of support thing-but the people on this website are really cool and helpful. They have sure helped me when I was down and just tired of trying.
I'm a type 2 and it isn't easy at first, or even a little bit later, I'm at 4 years and still kind of disbelieving, but its a journey to find out what works and doesn't and sometimes you have to find your own way!
I think maybe you could try and see if there are some diabetes ed classes at a community center in your area, those are usually free and no pressure, just lots of people who are looking for support and answers. Even if Mr. Stubborn won't go, you go, and maybe you can get some ideas to help him eat better in spite of himself! Sometimes its just a change from one type of food to another that starts it all rolling-he may be afraid nothing he will eat will taste good-prove to him thats wrong.
Sounds like the doctor isn't much help-harping on the same things to someone is a sure way to make that person do just the opposite!

Knowing how much these people have helped me, I'd love to pay it forward, so if you'd like, "friend" me and we can chat-


Harlen 2010-12-16 11:34:52 -0600 Report

For me it was a slow thing cutting back on the carbs picking up how to count carbs getting off the pop stopping the treats.It was not ez and I love food and I am a chef aswell lol Not a good mix lol
A workout for 30 min every day helped me a lot too.
Hope this helps
Best wishes

Shanan 2010-12-16 10:44:29 -0600 Report

Oh my stars! I can't Thank ya'll enough for the replys I woke to this morning! (I'm in tears) I never imagined that I would find an online FAMILY that could be so supportive, sincere and genuine. I had, honestly resolved to the fact that I (we) were in this alone. My parents are both diabetic, as well as my Granny, but they all worry so much about us and have serious issues of their own that I haven't wanted to concern them with the difficultly we are having.

You guys, our new FAMILY in this fight, are GREAT! I look forward meeting all of you & to sharing our hopes, vicotries and concerns and most of all support!

Thank ya'll again!

GabbyPA 2010-12-16 10:26:12 -0600 Report

Welcome to the community Shanan and Kevin!! It is rough when you are not getting the help you need from your health care provider so joining us is a great step in the right direction. Support is key and it sounds like your doctor is not part of that. I know you will love the site here. There is such a great group of folks here that want to help and I hope that you find what you need. Most of us here are diabetic, but there are a lot of caregivers too. Some of us are both so I know you will find a niche here for you.

kdroberts 2010-12-15 22:07:48 -0600 Report

Unfortunately there are restrictions for truck drivers with diabetes and it's possible for their license to be revoked if they don't meet certain control criteria. It may help him be less stubborn if he realizes that he may be "grounded" unless he gets serious.

If he is not taking medication, the first thing to do is drastically cut carbohydrates and see how that helps. Then add in some exercise every day. It doesn't have to be a lot, even walking for 15 minutes is better than nothing.

GabbyPA 2010-12-16 10:14:33 -0600 Report

Yes, my brother was a big rig driver and type 2. He used to play with his numbers for his exams and it always scared me to death. The thing that is hard for them to understand is that they are a weapon on the road when they are not in control of their levels. I think if you can help Kevin understand that concept, he will want to gain better control.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-15 21:59:01 -0600 Report


I am sure you will get some great support and advice from Diabetic Connect members like RAYT721. Lots of great people here!

I am glad that you are partnering with your husband on this. You might remind him of how important he is to you, how much you count on him and need him to be as healthy as possible. And remind him that it is all up to him, but that you are taking the journey with him. He is fortunate to have you.

He really needs to meet with a Certified Diabetes Educator who can sit with him (and you) and learn about his lifestyle, his preferences, his limitations, and help to design a program that he will be able to work with (and that you will be able to work with as well).

Have you asked your doctor about this? The squeaky wheel gets the grease. I would suggest making a list of questions and accompanying your husband into the examination room. Let the doctor know that you want to help your husband to stay on top of his health, and that the three of you need to talk. And ask about a referral to someone who can help develop a plan, possibly a nurse on his staff, a Diabetes Educator, someone who can give you more help.

And get support for yourself as well, learn everything you can, connect with other spouses of diabetes patients. You might check out resources at your local hospital and through a local chapter of the American Diabetes Association. Do some digging, it's worth it.

You are on my mind! Stay in touch with your friends on Diabetic Connect. Keep us posted!

RAYT721 2010-12-15 21:48:15 -0600 Report

Welcome! Perhaps my new photo of a kitty cat wearing reindeer antlers may not be the best first impression in welcoming you to Diabetic Connect but what the heck… tis the season! When the members here talk about our community, you will hear words like "family" because that is what we are. There are so many amazing people here who genuinely CARE about other members. You will find education, inspiration and motivation here but remember that only Kevin can motivate Kevin. You can teach but don't preach. Everyone reacts to medical conditions in their own way and your stubborn husband is a stubborn husband. As you learn you will be able to teach. Soon, we will come to you for help. There are a number of areas of this website to explore… recipes, book club, product reviews, discussions and don't forget about the "add a friend" buttons. If there's anything that I can say or do to help you, click on the silly photo of the cat with antlers and add me to your friend's list. Message me anytime! I am looking forward to hearing more from and about you. You are not alone in this. There are a number of people who have, are or will go through what you're experiencing. Again, Welcome… and a sincere wish to you and Kevin for a happy holiday season and a healthier New Year ahead!!!

GabbyPA 2010-12-16 10:27:25 -0600 Report

Ray is my brother that is for sure. Now his kitty might not be speaking to him for a while, but I am always in his corner as he is in mine. We are FAMILY to be sure.

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