"How do I look?"

By MAYS Latest Reply 2010-12-11 15:08:39 -0600
Started 2010-12-11 12:30:14 -0600

The human mind is truly incredible.

When looking at our reflection in a mirror, our minds have the unique ability to compensate for personal abnormalities, and minor imperfections.


Because our minds can magically soften the harsh lines of aging, (helping us to recapture our youth mentally); accentuating the positives, (the curves of a female, visually buffing the male physique).

We can imagine, and become whatever we wish to become with a glance.

Take some time out from glancing in the mirror, allow yourself to be seen from the eyes of someone else from time to time.
Ask someone to “honestly” tell you how he or she sees you, be receptive to the response that you receive; it’s for your benefit!

They may “see” the real “you” that your mind disguises.
The effects, and the toll that stress, diabetes (or another illness) may be taking on your body physically may be visible to others.

The feedback received may prove to be very, very helpful.
So set aside both your vanity, and your pride, and ask someone a very simple question, “How do I look, to you?”

(This is not an attempt to discourage, or deny the importance of a positive, self-confident mental attitude, which may prove to be a necessary need towards one’s process of recovery).


2 replies

GabbyPA 2010-12-11 15:08:39 -0600 Report

I have a friend that tells me like it is. She will tell me if I am looking tired or drawn. But she will also tell me when I am looking radiant and good. I do the same for her and we are a great confidence building team when we are together in more than just how we look, but in what we can accomplish and dream. I would be lost without her. My husband...he just loves me how ever I am. I am grateful for that, but the honesty of a close friend is a different kind of love.

realsis77 2010-12-11 12:53:29 -0600 Report

Interesting Mays! I often am my own worst enemy! I see every imperfection and magnify it! I do wonder how others see me ?? Although I'm a size 4 I still feel like I need to loose weight and gosh its hard! I often get down on myself and feel bad! Sometimes we are our own worst enemy! I'm guilty of this!