Denial/Attitude with Others

By Latest Reply 2008-11-23 08:19:49 -0600
Started 2008-09-26 23:39:46 -0500

I don't know if it is right for me to say, but I feel if you are on this site you want to help yourself or a loved one. Now, a lot of people are probably still in denial; especially when you never saw the diagnosis coming and were not ready to deal with diabetes for the rest of your life, BUT, I have noticed through comments and reading other peoples discussions and some of their comments, that some of the post responses are rude and sarcastic. Whatever; I just know that I am here to learn, and if I don't agree with something, or I am not having a good day, or one of many things that would alter my attitude that day, I would, definetely not aim it at someone else. It just makes everyone else that sees the attitude upset. I, for one don't need any more stress in my life, so that is why I am sending this message. God helps those who help themselves. I am not a religious finatic, it is just something I remembered that seemed appropriate. Anyone else feel the way I do. I will not post to someone with an attitude aforementioned, so how is that helping themselves.

13 replies

2008-11-23 08:19:49 -0600 Report

I see now that everyone has bad days and good, not only with diabetes, but their everyday life, and why shouldn't they? Look at the state of the world, right now? I am cerainly not in a financial situation where I can even live a little above means, or afford Gifts now.

Kimb2Rb 2008-09-27 10:21:09 -0500 Report


Jlynn 2008-10-04 22:29:55 -0500 Report

Hi.. I read what you and others had to say about the way it seemed as if some people on this site were, for better words,"Stern" right? So, I took a step back to see if I had said something mean, like others too had! lol
And I saw that it is nearly impossible to gauge others intent or "feelings" on a discussion board, to me like text someone you never met,different way of talking and contexts meaning, would probrobly cause a lot of miscommunication. Not to mention those with other complications and illness, they may mean the BEST, yet forget ? and seem like a "unknow-who"
So thats my spill..and cause we all mostly are humans here,(?) We come eguipped with the understanding tool, mine was optional—and nearly 100 % BUT..I try Thanks great topic

2008-10-04 23:37:48 -0500 Report

Thanks for the input; It really is hard sometimes to understand how people are feeling about certain subjects and how they are going to take it. My mom forced "Manners" on us, and I guess sometimes I get hurt easily because I am misread. Also with my bi-polar/mpd I never know who or how I am going to be on any given day. I guess I should apologize for that, and understand what others' are dealing with, as well, It is not always about diabetes,huh?

GabbyPA 2008-10-05 01:23:41 -0500 Report

Yep, this is one emotional disease to be sure. So many options and variances in how we deal with it.

Sometimes we want so hard for people to avoid the same mistakes we have made in the past, and we get pushy about it. I get that way with artificial sweeteners and processed foods...others it might be meds and when to test. I really believe that we all just want the best for each other, and sometimes in our passion, we forget our sensitivity.

It sounds like you have overcome the feelings that you were having and I know for me when I get that way, I do need a little time to reflect.

Charish 2008-09-27 09:46:13 -0500 Report

Well said. I feel that others are sometimes in and area of being hurtful to others and they may never take the time out to stop and see the clear picture of those who really do care and want to give a part of themselve to others so that it would bless their lives and not harm them. I have seen a few things that made me step back, and with a sincere heart hope that I have not at anytime offened anyone nor have I placed them in an area of making them either feel bad about themselves or regret joining this community. I have met some very wonderful and beautiful people here and I'd hoped that everyone would find that too. But in some instances we may run into those who are directed to say or do things that are hurtful knowingly or unknowingly and for that I am sorry that you found this. But remember not every person is the same and we all have a degree of adversity that we have faced, but some can handle those things better then others. I hope that your other experiences have been wonderful and don't allow the attitude of someone else stop you from still reaching out to those who have beautiful and warm hearts, who don't mind giving themeslves and being open to loving others the way that they love themselves.

Hugs and Kisses


2008-09-29 12:38:35 -0500 Report

Charish; You are truly beautiful; I feel that (inside and out) and poetic; your words are so sure and sincere. Keep posting girl; you are very interesting and have a lot to offer

Charish 2008-09-29 16:07:09 -0500 Report

Thank you. I will continue to post because I feel that a person should be sincere and honest to you especially when they view you as a friend or someone that is special in their lives. You can trust that I will remain the perosn that God created and I will remain sincere with what ever I say to others even if they're not sincere with me okay. One of the things that is not know about me is that I will know the real person who presents themselves to me by discernement, which is a beautiful gift to have.

Hugs and Kisses


2008-10-02 00:16:29 -0500 Report

So well said, Charish. There is so much we can help with if others' will accept our help. Everone has something to bring to this community, and they are here because they found it helpful, so why have and attitude, If you are having an off day, or for whatever reason, maybe you should look for discussions that you can identify with for that time, to alleviate somewhat of what you are going through.
Hugs to you, too, Charish :-)

GabbyPA 2008-09-27 09:01:00 -0500 Report

Oh, I saw that "S" word and started to worry about things I say. I can be a bit blunt, I try not to be, and if I have hurt you or made you upset, just let me know.

I love this site because of the wonderful people here, the positive vibe and the helpfulness of everyone. It is a place we share our expreiences and our opinions and sometimes I get too opinionated, I apologize.

I have also found that sometimes things get lost in the "translation" if you will. Without a face to look at, sometimes we misunderstand the intent of someone's comments. I did that with one of the members just this past week. I was over sensitive, and my comment back got kind of misconstued, and there you have it. One big mess. We are all good now, talked it thru, explained ourselves more completely and I feel better.

If there is something that you feel is really inappropriate, let John or Amy know, or flag it. I have done that once, and it was taken care of immediately.

2008-09-27 10:15:27 -0500 Report

Look at you; See you automatically thought I was speaking about you. Gabby, have more confidence;I don't think you have ever done anyone harm in your life. You are sooo like me, trying your best, but expecting the worst. Simply not true, and if I hurt you, I am so sorry, but there are people that have been very stern, i guess, anyway, I am only human and I guess I am trying to hard to get answers. :-)

GabbyPA 2008-09-27 10:49:43 -0500 Report

I got that "selfrighteous" streak in me and sometimes it comes out. I had a friend tell me one time the my sarcasam was very hurtful. Wow, I didn't even know. So I made a deal with her. When I was sarcastic, she would flag me. No hesitaion and I with no excuse. It really helped me see how my joking around hurt people and I didn't even realize it. So when that word comes up, my old demons come out....icky!!

You see me "well tempered" and I try to keep it that way. I have my days, it has shown here. But if you ask my honey, he will tell you. LOL

vgarrison 2008-10-02 04:02:37 -0500 Report


I am ver much like you. I can be extremely blunt. I am an open book, and I forget that not everyone else is like me. I am a very very sarcastic person, and like you I have been told that my humor can hurt people, or just get lost on some people…I didn't realise how bad it was until my 3 year started doing it too…I kept asking my husband where she was getting it from, he brought me a mirror…told me all I needed to know…


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