You cant have that

By DerekHeistan Latest Reply 2012-03-07 09:42:12 -0600
Started 2010-12-03 02:18:14 -0600

Does anyone else get frustrated when someone tells them they cant eat something or drink something because there diabetic it makes me want to smack them and show them i can

15 replies

roshy 2012-03-07 09:38:02 -0600 Report

the majority of people eho find out when im diabetic and celiac ask the question " what CAN you eat?"
the typical response i give is " fruit and veg and meat have been on this planet long before mars bars and Mc donalds dude!!"

And as for the people who offer a diabetic some food and quickly snatch the food away followed by a response " oooh i forgot you cant have that your diabetic. . . . .. . . . ." i reply " thats why the medicine man gave us insulin dude!!!"

wer'e diabetic but we can decide for ourselves whether we want to eat it or not!!! stop telling us what we can and cant eat!!!

vivdg88 2010-12-06 14:20:57 -0600 Report

yes it bugs me. i live with roomates & every once in awhile one will say hey ur a Diabetic R u posed to b eat n that. or put that down its not gud 4 u. it gits anoying i try 2 watch what i eat & how much i eat but sometimes u just gota have "it" whatever ur "it" is. just dont do it too much & u'll b fine !!!!!!

PRP 2010-12-06 08:26:11 -0600 Report

Happens many times, but I think most of them have good intentions. Not too long ago diabetes was called "Sugar" as in I have "Sugar" and BP. So it is natural for people who don't deal with diabetes on a daily basis to "assume" certain things like only sweet stuff is bad for you. When that kind of "policing" happens my response is based on the relationship with the said "police". If it is a close family member I try to educate, if it is a casual acquaintance I just smile and say "Thanks for letting me know" or "My doctor/endocrinologist says its OK for me to eat that". I found that the official sounding "My Doctor …" stuff satisfies them lot more than factual logic based reasons. This way of dealing with the "police" keeps my blood pressure from rising and I know for sure that definitely helps me.

RAYT721 2010-12-04 13:21:45 -0600 Report

Ah, yes… I can't tell you how many people try to guide me on what to eat and drink. It's amazing that I made it to age 52 without them. (yup, that's sarcasm) … I find many people honestly feel that they are helping you but the reality is that what they are telling you is what they have heard about diabetes… myths!!! I do a lot of smiling when others tell me what I should or shouldn't have. Crazy people mean well. They just don't know that they're crazy. Now, put down that cookie and have a spaghetti sandwich on white bread like you should. :)

CaliKo 2010-12-06 09:45:11 -0600 Report

And have a glass of pure fruit juice with the spaghetti sandwich… after all, its "natural" so it must be ok. Hah. Pretty sure they're really trying to kill us.

Pynetree 2010-12-04 10:07:55 -0600 Report

Think everyone gets frustrated when the "DiabeticPolice" come out…LOL! But usually they are commenting out of ignorance. Like Gabby says they comment on sugary stuff, but not a word on starchy carbs! Usually it's a item that they should be eating in moderation too. I just tell them that there really isn't anything diabetics CAN'T eat..just have to be smart, don't over do it, and compensate.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-03 21:09:55 -0600 Report


No one likes to be made to feel that they are not "normal" in some way, or that they can't or won't take care of themselves without being badgered and criticized. That's a real blow to the ego.

I would recommend simply saying that you know what you are doing and, while you appreciate their concern, you don't need anyone to watch over you. End of conversation.

But as an aside, having said that... well meaning people may be acting out of their own sense of helplessness. In other words, they are worried about you and don't know how to express their concern appropriately.

If these are friends or family members, you might want to take them aside and let them know how they can help you and what it is they do that hurts you.

They may just need some education.

Another but.... hopefully, you are taking good care of yourself and watching what you eat. I'm just saying...

Hope this helps!

CaliKo 2010-12-03 15:06:29 -0600 Report

Seems like its one extreme or the other. Either they are pushing something on you when you are trying to be polite "Oh, just a little will be okay" or you get something like "Diabetics can't eat sugar!!!!"

realsis77 2010-12-03 11:55:08 -0600 Report

Yes that happens a lot! There the diabetic police I hear it all the time! I try to explain but it mostly falls upon a deaf ear! People would rather tell me what I can and can't eat then understand. Also yes it toatlly annoying!

GabbyPA 2010-12-03 09:08:40 -0600 Report

Diabetes Police Alert! Yep, they do get annoying. Usually because they have no clue. I can't have a cookie, but if I eat potato salad they have no issues. I can't have ice cream but if I eat fries and a burger no one says anything. They just don't understand and usually I politely explain a little about why I can have things and why I shouldn't. I am sure the deer in the headlight look will fade away next time I reach for a cupcake. That badge will come flying out again. What can you do but laugh...or walk away.

granniesophie 2010-12-03 08:50:16 -0600 Report

I always tell those nosybodies that "yes, I can have a little of that and I won't have something else to make up for it". People need to understand that you can eat the same things they eat, just less, perhaps, and adjust the rest of what they eat that day, and maybe the day after to make up for it. I'm not saying to eat the whole pie, but a sliver or a taste of something is what I do, and then don't eat the rolls, and the mashed potatoes, or whatever! I'd rather have a taste of something new and good than the same old-same old! Who needs the potatoes anyway when you can have a taste of the pie!
And the police really need to butt out anyway-they don't realize you really know what you are doing-after all, you are the one with diabetes, aren't you??!! :)

jayabee52 2010-12-03 02:52:57 -0600 Report

Don't you just hate the Diabetes Police?

Even if they mean well they frustrate ya!

DiabeticNurse53 2010-12-05 17:59:25 -0600 Report

yeah, those diabetical police think they are "helping" you but they are so uneducated themselves about the disease that it really seems like a joke. When someone does that to me, I ask them "how many carbs are in THAT?" and "What can I substitute for THAT" They quickly shut up and go away. LOL

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