other peoples reactions to diabetes can be awful!!!

By realsis77 Latest Reply 2011-01-03 19:00:40 -0600
Started 2010-11-28 15:15:46 -0600

This thanksgiving I was giving myself my insuln shot and my nephew walked in and said "id just kill myself if I had to do that!" I said "no you wouldn't you would do what you had to do to stay healthy" my own daughter can't watch me take my shot (she's 17 years old) she says "it grosses her out" sometimes people say the most awful things reguarding diabetes. What are some comments you have gotten about your diabetes that are ridiculas?? I'm wondering…people can be so ignorant some times!

104 replies

glee9349 2011-01-03 17:55:20 -0600 Report

I have had to deal with that quite a bit even from my husband but the way i look at it just like what i have to do for my kidney transplant i am doing it to live and if they dont understand either find out about it or just not say anything. The only thing people like us need is good support not ignorance or stupidity.

Fayjo 2010-12-28 11:47:04 -0600 Report

In my family it runs rampant…all 8 brothers and sisters, parents, all aunts and uncles, practically everyone has diabetes. It becomes something that we anticipate but hope it holds off as long as possible. We don't get comments from family, but "outsiders" seem to think it has to do with being overweight, even though some of the diabetic members of my family are very thin. That's what I hate…that "if you weren't so fat, you'd not have diabetes" mentality. I know weight increases the chances, but , as is proven in my family, genetics takes over. Weight loss and diet has helped my diabetes become manageable for now. I do know that medication and possibly insulin is in my future. Thanks.

Silverbeehive 2010-12-28 12:38:31 -0600 Report

I am tired of the weight equals diabetes connection, I personally think it's the other way around. I started gaining weight as my BS started going up, and now that it has come down so is the weight. As we all know most of us go many years before we get a diagnosis, and the body does nothing but deteriorate and get "fat" in the meantime. I was a size 6 nine years ago. And by the time I was diagnosed I topped off at at 22. As the weight kept piling on, nothing I tried seemed to make a dent. But, getting my BS down (while not even worrying about weight loss) had that result. I have lost 40 lbs in 6 months. I will post pics on my page of myself 9 years ago and when my weight maxed. I think Dr.'s and the media need to take another look at this whole thing. And realize that insulin resistance, and heredity control the prospect of diabetes. Not "being fat, because one likes to eat"!!!!
Just my 2 cents!

Type1Lou 2010-12-27 09:53:04 -0600 Report

Your nephew and daughter gave you immature, self-absorbed replies..after all, that's what teenagers do. Until they walk in your shoes, they haven't a clue how they would handle it. I would cut them some slack for their youth but would probably have responded that I hoped they would never be faced with that situation. It reminds me of my cousin's adolescent son who remarked that he would kill himself if he had to live with the ileostomy required for his Dad due to Crohn's disease. Bottom line, we do what we have to do…not because we like to do it but because it is a choice we make to improve our condition. Best wishes for a happy 2011!

realsis77 2010-12-27 11:26:27 -0600 Report

Thank you for your support and I hope you and your family have a wonderful new year! We will all do what we have to do to continue to live healthy and happy lives!

tinahall1980 2010-12-04 14:35:16 -0600 Report

i test in public and take my insulin in public i have been diagnosed for 7 years now and dont care what everyone else thinks. All my friends understand i dont do it out in public i sit at table and do it where its not noticable but honestly i dont care

jillmadridl 2010-12-30 14:03:07 -0600 Report

In spite of my age (I'm 66) I was diagnosed Type 1 five years ago and from the first moment, the daily six injections have never bothered me and although I try to be discreet, if it is necessary I take my shot in public. This, however, bothers my three sons and they often 'tell me off' and suggest that I retire to the rest room as they find the situation embarrassing. Am I being selfish (or lazy!) or are they lacking understanding? Their ages range from 26 to 43 so they are not kids.

glee9349 2011-01-03 17:57:42 -0600 Report

I hope they understand that is your life and if people dont like to watch it then they dont need to look. Keep doing what your doing and dont be embarrassed for taking charge of your own health ever! Your sons should be more understanding!

jillmadridl 2011-01-03 18:29:05 -0600 Report

I intend to carry on doing what I'm doing but it does upset me that the ones who really should care don't want to know or are they just sticking their heads in the sand?

realsis77 2010-12-30 15:01:12 -0600 Report

Hi. I'm sorry to hear of your situation. Yes I believe they are lacking understanding of your condition. We have to do what we need to do including shots and testing. When my nephew made his comment he's not a child either he's 21! I guess I would hope our own family would be more compassionate and understanding toward our situation. Maybe try to explain the importance of insulin and the urgency of our need for it. I'm truely sorry your children can not be more understanding! Don't be ashamed of your self or your need for insulin! If after explaination your family still isn't supportive then that's there own ignorance! Again my heart goes out to you! Godbless you and happy new year! Just continue to live as you do and don't let anyone force you into the restroom if you don't want to go there! Stand strong and know your not alone!

jillmadridl 2011-01-03 17:48:21 -0600 Report

Many thanks, realsis, for your comments. It's comforting to know that someone is understanding of a diabetic's condition.

realsis77 2010-12-05 11:20:03 -0600 Report

You have got a good attitude! Hopefully someday I'll feel like you do! I don't know why I worry so much! Maybe with time I'll get more brave! Hopefully!

peace13 2010-12-04 14:17:55 -0600 Report

my roommate says similar things since i have to be on a diet and cant eat a lot of sugar she says that she would "kill herself" sure its an adjustment but i have learned to live with it so can other people!
I have also gotten stares when i test my blood and people have asked my boyfriend if im on illegal drugs
people can be so rude and ignorant i just learn to ignore them thats the best that anyone can really do i think.

realsis77 2010-12-05 11:17:24 -0600 Report

Yes I understand how you feel. I feel the same way at times! We just need to remember we are doing what we need to do to stay healthy and I guess we have to ignore other ignorant people! I also got this comment on thanksgiving "if you loose weight your diabetes will go away" I'm 110 pounds and a size four! Can you believe that comment! Sometimes I just wish people would keep negative comments to themself! Hang in there and good luck to you!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-04 21:10:16 -0600 Report

Wow, peace13. Further evidence of how insensitive people can be. Ignoring them is a good idea. Stay focused on your own path in life, keep your head up, keep your support group close by. There are a lot of great people out there!

realsis77 2010-12-05 11:27:45 -0600 Report

Yes I'm very greatful for this support group! I feel as they are my diabetic family. I know I'm probably too sensitive and take a lot of things to heart! My feelings got hurt after the comment but your right I should just let the comments go! I was also told if I loose weight my diabetes will go away. I'm 110 and a size four !! I couldn't believe that comment! People don't think before they speak sometimes! That comment hurt as well! I guess it was just my day for foolish comments wasn't it? What do you think?

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-05 17:35:20 -0600 Report

No day should be a day for foolish comments, but they seem to occur anyway. More evidence of how random life is. And amateur doctors come at you on top of it all. Well, I guess another piece of advice I would give you is to have a sense of humor. I am also very sensitive and get hurt easily. I have learned to consciously try to look at the humor in a situation, even if it means having a private laugh at how uneducated and unhelpful some people are. It helps me to pick myself up after the fall, dust myself off, and get refocused on having a good day. Unfortunately, we can't control others, but we can control how we choose to respond.

realsis77 2010-12-05 19:07:02 -0600 Report

Thank you so much for the advice! I will take it to heart! I truely apperciate your advice ! I will try and learn to see more humor in things! Thanks again for your help!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-03 21:22:17 -0600 Report

HI realsis,

Well, you obviously hit a nerve here, based on the responses you have received. There are a lot of insensitive people out there, aren't there?

You may be way too younge to remember an only TV show, The Art Linkletter Show. He had a segment called, "Kids say the darndest things." Yes, I am showing my age here, but keep in mind I was a kid myself (no, really, I was). Now, when teen-agers and adults say things that reflect their lack of information, or plain old not caring how others are impacted by thier words, that's a shame. And nothing to laugh at.

You can always say something back that makes a point but doesn't necessarily create more tension. "Well, you are not me, and I am doing what I need to take care of myself. Thanks for your concern." Or, "this is what I do to stay healthy, not to gross you out. You don't have to watch."

That's a starting place. The key is to say what you need to say to maintain your integrity.

At the same time, I always remind myself that it is not my job to raise someone else's conscientiousness, unless they are willing to be taught. And most people aren't.

So the work is then internal. Positive self-talk can help. Remind yourself that you are doing your best, that people are insensitive because they are ignorant or afraid, that you are doing what you need to do to stay healthy. Remind yourself of others who are also dealing with the same challenges, and that you are not alone. Be thankful for medications that keep you healthy, and for healthcare professionals that prescribe them. Be thankful.

Stay close with your friends on Diabetic Connect. You won't get any judgment or looks of disapproval here!

Sorry about the insensitivity being directed toward you. Don't take it personally.

And stay in touch with us!

realsis77 2010-12-05 11:10:24 -0600 Report

Thank you doctor! Wow I didn't mean to hit a nerve here I just needed some support from the comments I received on thanksgiving! Thank you soo much for taking the time to support me! It really means a lot to me! This also has given me a chance to support others who have been hurt in simular ways! I never imagined id get such a huge responce but I'm taking the time to answer and support each person in any way I can! This also helps me. I don't know what id do without this wonderful group and a place I can ask questions and share! I'm truely greatful for this website and for people like yourself who take the time to support me.I feel truely blessed! As you probably know I'm a "new diabetic" myself with only four months under my belt. I was put on insulins within a month two different kinds and its been a lot to get used to. But with reading books, this support site I have tried to develop a positive attitude and have developed a nice treatment plan that gives me tight control of my blood sugar. For this I am also blessed! My numbers are now in control and I've read several books and I feel education is power! I've learned soo much these past four months! I try to stay positive and feel like I can now help others who are struggling! Thank you again for your reply! You have made my day!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-12-05 17:31:15 -0600 Report

You are so welcome. It seems that a lot of other DC members have had insensitive comments made to them, and your post brought back some of those memories. As you can see, you are certainly not alone. As a new diabetic, I suspect that you are still working through some of your own emotions around your diagnosis, leaving you especially vulnerable to the comments of family members who still need some education. Maybe you will be able to help them to get better informed. I am glad that you are working with a good physician and that you are getting educated. Support is also important. All of this will help you to stay focused and empowered, making the reactions and comments of others less and less important. Glad you are connected with us here on Diabetic Connect -- the most awesome support group in the world.

And thanks for following up with me. You made my day, too! Please consider me a friend and stay in touch!

Anonymous 2010-12-03 09:34:06 -0600 Report

When my parents were diagnosed about 10 years ago, I would not be in the same room when they tested as I would most likely faint - couldn't stand the sight of blood no matter how little… this is how bad I was, I had to call my husband's mom to come to see how bad he cut his hand, I just could not look, turned out to be a very little cut, she just put a band aid on it…Now, after having been diagnosed with heart disease with 95% blockage 2 years ago, and presumed to have diabetes type 2, I've gotten used to the quarterly blood draws (and can even watch now) and the constant testing though my first thought was that there was no way I could live through it. Therefore, I understand how some people can feel - but I've learned that God does not give you more than you can handle - though sometimes you have to change your attitude to achieve it. So keep in mind that others reactions may simply be that they cannot stand the sight of blood and/or needles - it doesn't make them bad or stupid, I can't imagine what my parents went through knowing how much the sight of blood affected me when I was first diagnosed before I "got used to it".

realsis77 2010-12-03 10:40:00 -0600 Report

Yes I understand what your saying, however people need to think before they speak because words can be hurtful. Also, I hardly can justify suciade as a means to deal with the sight of a syringe! That's just ridicilous.

hoss07 2010-12-02 20:01:28 -0600 Report

A lot of people don't understand diabetes, I was told once at work to check my reading only on my break, in my car, off of property because it's a disease, and he don't want it… that made no sense to me.. I too was also told if I was a diabetic I would kill myself. People like to stare all the time. I don't do shots, I take pills but sometimes I am places where I have no option but to stop and check my sugar. I try to hide but there is always somebody around. I am 40 yrs. old and i still have diabetes problems in public, i do get embarrassed sometimes specially when people stare at me. I stay home a lot now,

squog master
squog master 2010-12-13 22:37:30 -0600 Report

When someone says to me they would rather die than do ANYTHING, I say to them, "No you wouldn't. That would be an insult to everyone that loves you!"

peace13 2010-12-04 14:22:44 -0600 Report

that is horrible! and against the law! under the diabetes act it says that a diabetic is allowed to test their blood and take medicine anywhere and whenever it is need

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-12-03 11:09:25 -0600 Report

Do you know that it's against the law for them to do that to you at work. You are protected under the disablilities act.

realsis77 2010-12-03 10:59:53 -0600 Report

I completely understand what your saying! Also your bosses comment was ridicoulas ! He sounds just like some ***holes I've worked for! I'm so sorry your made to feel like this! I was giv en the id kill myself comment too but it was because I have to use insulin. I know what it feels like to feel self concious! I always go to the bath room to shoot the insulin .the comment was made to me while drawing up the syriinge! I was also told "if you loose weight your diabetes will go away" I'm 110 pounds and a size 4!!!! Can you believe that ignorant comment?? Oh. So if I weigh 80 pounds my diabetes will go away? Niiiice huh??we can't let these ignorant people make us ashamed and self concious any longer! We need to stand strong! You should be able to test where ever you want to test! I so understand that the comments get tireing but hang in there and don't let that keep you down ok?your blessed that you only have to take pills and that gives you more freedom! Next time just test where you need to test ok? And don't let ignorant people get you down and I'll do the same. I wish you the very best and if you ever need to talk I'm here for you ok? If you like send a friend reques ok? Thanks for sharing your story with me! God bless!

waricks 2011-01-03 19:00:40 -0600 Report

I get that same attitude from my boss. He will not let me test in front of him or on the job. He asks me to do it in the bathroom, in a stall with the door closed. (like there is enough space in there to test and where am i supposed to set my stuff while I do the finger stick - on the toilet paper roll?) One time we were in the middle of a load out after an event and my Sugar got down to 42 and I started shaking and had to take a few min to eat something. I was only resting about 15 min and he started to have a cow. The next day at the shop we did an event debrief, as we normally do. He started yelling at me in front of the other crew. When I told him what was going on he said - in a whiney cry baby voice - "Do I have to remind little baby Billy to eat so he won't inconvenience the rest of the crew with his medical problem." Now he wants me to give him a schedule of when I need to eat each day, when I need to take my meds and when I need to test. He also told me to make sure I "do all that testing sh*t off the clock" All this from a man whose wife is in a wheelchair. KInda thought he would understand much better.

I need a new job.

basic 2010-12-03 01:18:59 -0600 Report

I totally understand the fear. I usually just excuse myself to a restroom or my car if I'm in public. If there isn't a place to escape to, I find a quiet corner… I've had diabetes for 20 years and still haven't adjusted to doing insulin in public. Testing in public is another story… I'll do that just about anywhere I can be semi-discrete

realsis77 2010-12-03 11:06:56 -0600 Report

Yes I understand. I don't think I'll ever be comfortable enough to do my insulin in public either! There's too many people who don't understand and don't want to! They see a syringe and imediatly think drug addict. So I know where your comming from . I hide also. I wish we wernt made to feel like this. Good luck to you!

packrat2 2010-12-02 16:45:01 -0600 Report

I was 20 yrs. old when I got type 1, I was taking my shot one day, said to my twin brother this is not fun good you do not need to take shots, he took the syringe and jammed the needle in his arm, said this is not so bad…he never did have diabetes like his brother{me}.

realsis77 2010-12-03 11:27:41 -0600 Report

Its easy for others to judge and assume but there not walking in your footsteps. I'm sure if you brother had to give himself three or more shots a day he would quickly understand how you feel! Sticking a needle in your arm once hardly puts him in the place to judge you! People need to thiink before making comments because I don't think they realise how much they hurt. Good luck to you and thank you for sharing your story with me! :)

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-12-02 16:28:32 -0600 Report

Was watching Biggest Loser the other night and the doctor on there actually said to one of the guys that his diabetes was cured. Made me mad!!!

realsis77 2010-12-02 16:34:26 -0600 Report

Yes it would have made me mad too! Sigh …when professionals are actually saying such things! It gives others the wrong idea!

MAYS 2010-12-02 10:22:44 -0600 Report

This is one of the many reasons why diabetes awareness, and education are important factors that must be addressed.
Ignorance does more harm if it is not confronted, and an attempt is made to eliminate it, diabetics are in a key position to at least start someone on the path of educating them about diabetes, and the importance of diabetes management.

You know why you do what must be done, others need to know why, tell them that they should know because your life may one day depend on how much they do know, and how quickly they may respond to an emergency!


realsis77 2010-12-02 10:51:05 -0600 Report

So true mays ! I tried to explain myself and the purpose to him but all he said was ewww he'd still "kill himself. If he had to live like that" I told him not to say that because diabetes runs in the family and one day he might be faced with managing his diabetes! He said "don't say that" I explained its the truth. I was just shocked at his statement. I don't think he realized how much that hurt my feelings and told him I'm doing what I need to to stay healthy and there's nothing to ewww about!

Jodasis 2010-12-02 00:41:45 -0600 Report

Yes i have been there myself. But chuck it up to ignorance. I've heard things like that as well and offered the same reply…this is how I survive. One of the great things about giving shots to one's self…this thanksgiving i was spending it with my sister who is also a diabetic. her sugar lever shot up through the roof. Her meter could not read the lever because it was so high and she also could not function under such stress. But because i was there and had knowledge of diabetes through my own life…i was able to administer her the proper amount of insulin as well as inject it. out of the several people there at my sister's house for the holiday I was the only one who knew what to do. So instead of feeling bad about what i have to do…several times daily…i was actually proud of myself. So no worries about those who don't understand. I do!!! and good luck…we all need it.

realsis77 2010-12-02 10:57:39 -0600 Report

Thank you for sharing that! I am glad you were there for your sister thank God! I'm the only living person in my family that has diabetes so its awakard. I also already feel self concence about it but those comments made it worse! I also had someone tell me if I loose weight my diabetes will go away! I weigh 110 and I'm a size four! Can you believe it! Sigh…so yeah I couldn't believe that one!!

Jodasis 2010-12-03 01:55:54 -0600 Report

It's crazy how my family history has no prior instances of diabetes. But I have it, 2 of my sisters have it and a niece and nephew since i was diagnosed. To be honest i think having diabetes has made me a much healthier person because of the restrictions I have placed on myself. Those in my family who don't have it are over weight and don't take care of themselves the way they should. I am almost 160lbs and and 5'8". I don't think of myself to be over weight and most people think i could stand to gain some. But I am becoming more conscious of what I have and what I have to do for myself and care less about what others think. It's my life and it's how i survive!!! Anyway…let's hear some funny stuff. Even if it's unrelated to diabetes. Laughter is the best medicine and you don't need a needle!!! LOL!!!

realsis77 2010-12-03 11:46:53 -0600 Report

So true. Diabetes has also made a healthy person out of me. I watch my carbs and try to eat right! I do take insulin which helps a lot! My family does have a history of diabetes in it but the ones who had it are no longer living so now I'm the only living person in my family with it. Yes diabetes does make a healthy person out of you if you really look at it. Before diabetes I never put much thought into what I ate.(I'm 110 pounds and a size 4) but know ii look carefully at what I eat! Yes I also agree that laughter is good medicine. God bless :)

chopi 2010-12-01 15:08:54 -0600 Report

I got one the other day " your not fat or out of shape why would you have it"
People have no clue on the disease

realsis77 2010-12-02 11:02:36 -0600 Report

Exactly! I'm 110 and size four and someone told me in all there wisdom that if I loose weight my diabetes will go away! Can you believe that one?? Yeah the wise words from an idiot! I just stared at them after they said that to me!

Dev 2010-12-02 08:51:57 -0600 Report

oh that one I get to. If they know my husband has diabetes, they say, 'is he obese'. The people who have seen him before say 'does he like sweets' or something to that effect.
lol. I don't know what to say when people react like that.

realsis77 2010-12-02 11:07:33 -0600 Report

It really does get ridicoulas after awhile with the idiot comments dosent it! Errrrrrr it makes me crazy after a while! You get sick of explaining yourself! I totally understand! Oooh your diabetic you can't have sugar! I get that all the time! I don't even think people know the pancerous is involved with diabetes! They just think we can't have sugar!

sisson 2010-12-01 14:23:30 -0600 Report

I very well understand what you are saying but I have lost all most around 60 pounds or a little less but I have work my tail off and I so afried that it will come back on. That will hurt me the mosst. I am so pourd of myself no matter how I lost it but I did it! With alot of hard work and a long time.

realsis77 2010-12-02 11:09:45 -0600 Report

Good for you! Congrats! You must have worked very hard to achieve that weight loss! I'm proud of you! :)

sisson 2010-11-30 21:15:22 -0600 Report

Around two year ago I was on the metro train with my husband and my sister-inlaw and I was checking my sugar and I was in't feeling to good so I thought that I would check my sugar and my sister-inlaw told me that I shouldn't do the because the people might think that I was a drug atick. I told her that I didn't care what the people didn't care what people thought about me. But right know I am afride myself because I might have to go back on Insulin and that is my bigest fear because it reminds me of my oldest sister that was a user intill she past I know that there is a big diffrence because this is mylife.

realsis77 2010-12-01 04:39:25 -0600 Report

Don't feel bad if you have to go back on insulin. Its something you have to do for yourself! I know I was feeling bad at first also espically when I went to get my sharps container from a program we have in my city but then I remembered I'm not a drug addict why am I feeling bad ? I need the syringes for insulin and that's a big difference! So don't let needing to inject make you feel bad about yourself! Its just something you have to do to take care of yourself! It should make you feel good that your managing your diabetes and caring for yourself! If you do go back on insulin, remeber its a good thing. I feel soo much better taking my insuin! It helps me sooo much! I have to inject at least two to three times a day . But it helps me get nice control over my numbers and it actuallys makes me feel so much better. I'm not as tired and have much more enegery with insulin! I'm sure you will feel better also. Good luck and keep us posted on how your doing ok? Also remember your helping yourself by taking your insulin so don't feel bad about it ok? God bless :)

LennyDenny 2010-11-30 11:14:05 -0600 Report

Yoy know I think I heard them all over the years. I've been diabetic for 10 years and have had an illiostomy since 1971. People can be so insensitive when they don't understand something. I made up my mind a long time ago that I would not let what other people think bother me. I test my bs at my desk at work and most people understand why I do it, and it doesn't bother them a bit. With the illiostomy it's a little harder to understand. I use these situations as an opertunity to educate some of the people that want to make the rude comments about something that we have to live with on a daily basis. It seems that I'm always expaining something to someone about not being able to breath right because of lung problems or having to sit because of heart problems. I just try to be thankful and thank god everyday just for being able to make it thru another day.

realsis77 2010-11-30 11:36:38 -0600 Report

That's so true ! We do have a lot to be thankful for. We live in an age now where we can take proper care of our diabetes and that is a blessing!

Ginny in CO
Ginny in CO 2010-11-29 23:04:25 -0600 Report

I am always coming across patients who cannot face 'too many pills', BS testing and insulin shots, oxygen, canes or walkers, etc. etc. People who insist a nurse has to give them an anticoagulant shot (subcutaneous, like insulin) for months to treat a clot. Colostomies also inspire the 'I could NEVER do that' remarks.

I've thought about doing a pamphlet that starts with "So you think you can't…, What would you do if you got cancer, multiple sclerosis, had to have an amputation, kidney dialysis…?

The patient that really got to me was an 80 something, healthy, active man who had developed a minor heart problem. He had no other diagnoses, had never taken any medicine regularly. He was flipping out over having to take TWO, SMALL pills. One of them TWICE a day. The horror!

The only time in 35 years I have ever thought I was going to faint in a medical situation was watching a 6 year old who had been diagnosed with Stage iV Hodgkin's disease since he was 2. He had come into clinic for his monthly chemotherapy and was talking very happily with the medical assistant when a nurse rolled an IV pole with a bag of fluid and tubing (no drug) into the room. The poor kid started retching - just at the sight of it.

The old guy's rival was also in his 80's but he didn't have a new med or anything. He was upset because the doctor hadn't come- by 10 am- to discharge him, he was going to waste time waiting for how long???? Less than 48 hours before he had been dead. Full cardiac and respiratory arrest. Brought in by the paramedics and resuscitated with no apparent complications or losses. None of the testing and monitoring had revealed the cause, he was going home without any new meds, oxygen or anything.

I told him the doctor might be saving some other persons life and would get to our unit as soon as he was done. The patient realized focusing on thankfulness would make him feel much better than griping.

There are other diabetics in all my extended families so there is a fairly high level of support. The problem I have with coworkers is they have an adolescent attitude that they are immune to becoming diabetic. They can eat all the junk food they teach patients not to, and never suffer the consequences.

A favorite comment by a former priest: 'We must learn to accept the irrational, illogical and unreasonable manifestations of the complex human soul.'


realsis77 2010-11-30 09:46:00 -0600 Report

Excellant post! I've learned not to sweat the small stuff as I myself am a coma surivivor after a d.I.c. in regular terms I've lost all my blood in a hemmorage and my body shot blood clots through out. My chances of survival was one percent I actually died and was on life support fighting for my life for over a month! So when people make coments like "I'm going to kill myself if I have to take those shots" it just blows me away! It really does. There is sooo much worse things people go through as I can understand that after going through REAL trama and horror! A little tiny shot, come on its a walk in the park compared to what I've been through! After surviving my tramua I've come to realise life is a fragile and precious thing! Cherious life! Even with its minor inconvinences! Trust me, I know things could be sooo much worse! Be glad all you have to do is take shots! I'm very greatful to be alive! I suppose I am a bit sensitive to comments because of what I've been through. But honestly we all do what we need to do to stay healthy and attitude can be everything so stay positive and be greatful because I'm sure someone out there has it a lot worse than we do! Sometimes we forget to be greatful for what we do have.gratitude is important. :)

Elrond 2010-11-29 22:19:15 -0600 Report

My favorite reaction is one I've encountered several times; upon learning of my diabetes, some well-meaning dimwit often looks me straight in the eye and imparts the immortal words of wisdom: "Don't eat sugar."

realsis77 2010-11-30 09:51:19 -0600 Report

Oooh that drives me crazy!!! That's the comment that makes me most mad! I also get that comment all the time grrrrrrrrr! Sigh…! Uh yeah I can't stand to hear that one, one more time either!! I hear ya! ! That's the worst isn't it?

RAYT721 2010-11-29 19:00:03 -0600 Report

Now come on… we are talking about kids here! Kids/teens are not known for their eloquence when speaking and especially about things they don't understand. I would be *more* concerned about the stupidity and cruelty that adults say. Kids says the darndest things!!!

CaliKo 2010-11-29 11:49:31 -0600 Report

I don't think any of us really wanted to learn to give ourselves shots. I'm not on insulin, but I have an injection therapy for a different condition. When I was trained, I just thought of all those little children with T1 and other conditions that learn to give themselves shots at such a young age and couldn't complain. If I had young family members making such comments I'd probably try to use it as a lesson to eating healthy and exercising, because they'd have a family history of DM. If it wasn't a family member I'd probably ask them if they'd thanked God lately for their good health. But that's just me…

realsis77 2010-11-29 13:35:59 -0600 Report

Yes that's the truth I just said to him " no you wouldn't kill yourself you would do what you had to do to stay healthy".

Kelly H
Kelly H 2010-11-29 10:58:38 -0600 Report

I too have had people make comments like that. They don't mean any harm. Needles can be so scary to so many people, myself included. I could not do my own injections at first either. Finally I found out about Inject Ease made by BD. You fill the syringe with insulin, then put it into the Inject Ease and just hold up to your skin and push a button. It does the poking which is the hard part for me. After 28 years of 5-7 injections per day I am now on an insulin pump for the last 2 years and it has changed my life. Only one "poke" every 3 days now.

shorty31 2010-11-29 06:10:54 -0600 Report

i don't think she meant any harm i think she's wrried about you.She could be scared that she going to lose you and she not handleing it to well. Give it some time she'll understand after while.

realsis77 2010-11-29 10:10:14 -0600 Report

Thank you. I hope soo. I think sometimes people say things and don't realize the effect it has on others.

Debra Austin
Debra Austin 2010-11-29 15:43:03 -0600 Report

totally.. different..then..we..intend..

realsis77 2010-11-30 10:05:18 -0600 Report

Yes, I agree but I believe he ment it because its not the first time he mentioned killing himself if he had to inject like me ,so after a few comments I began to take it to hart and said no, no,yyou wouldn't! I tried to explain that hopefully he'd do what he needed to do to stay healthy: yes he's an adult. But he insisted he'd rather die.

blukitty 2010-11-28 23:02:35 -0600 Report

I'm a second generation diabetic. I feel like I'm more in control than my mother was when she was alive. I also feel a lot better about myself than she did. I feel better about telling people who actually care about me that I'm diabetic, in case something does happen with me. This way, they know that I have diabetes and can get me help if necessary.

My mother started as a type 2. After about 4 years, she became type 2 and switched from oral meds to insulin. Unfortunately, she never did take care of herself. She did not test as much at first, than stopped testing completely-unless she was in the hospital and they tested her.

realsis77 2010-11-29 10:16:06 -0600 Report

I'm glad your taking better care of yourself! You know how important that is and that's good!I'm sorry about your mother. I think we know more about diabetes now days and are more likely to care for ourselfs now then back in your mothers time. Knowledge is power! Best wishes to you!

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