Anger, Diabetes, and You!

By MAYS Latest Reply 2010-11-29 16:57:38 -0600
Started 2010-11-27 10:49:52 -0600

Being angry because you were diagnosed with diabetes is natural.
You must learn how to channel this anger into a productive, problem solving solution that benefits you, and those whom you love.

Diabetes is terrible, yet it’s a disease that can be dealt with, it can be (and must be) managed.

Being angry does more harm to you than good.
It causes your life to become stressful, that stress extends itself into your personal relationship with your family, friends, and loved ones.

(Stress can also cause your blood glucose level to rise!)

It can also prevent your problem solving skills from being initialized at a time when they are needed the most.

When we are angry, we don’t always “hear” what needs to be heard, “see” what needs to be seen, or “say” what needs to be said!

(Instead we become reactionist to our uncontrolled, emotional anger)

Anger will prevent you from successfully managing your diabetes, you should be totally focused on managing your diabetes, many different types of methods may have to be tried before the right solution is found for you, being angry will delay this process.

Think about where you are channeling your energy and your time, convert it from a “negative” stage into a “positive” one.
Learn as much as you can about diabetes, what it is, what it does, what you can do to manage it successfully.

You have moved beyond the stage of denial, now it’s time to distance yourself from the anger, and the negative effects that will always accompany it.

It is, and will always be to “your” benefit to do so!


8 replies

Lisa07 2010-11-29 16:55:21 -0600 Report

great advise anger take away my energy. when i get angry i take a 3 deep breath then proceed. you are right try to think positive not negative good job!!!!

realsis77 2010-11-28 15:06:00 -0600 Report

Good post mays! I think I spent more time in denial than in anger . Anger did hit don't get me wrong. But mostly I just do what I have to do!

minnieme 2010-11-27 21:57:21 -0600 Report

This is so true!! I totally believe this is not only true but the deadliest type of internal drug along with stress!
I recently had to go to court for a traffic infraction & the process was so stressful because I live almost 5 hrs away from the court where I had to attend. I drove all night from 2a to 8a from where I live to the city. I had to do this 3 times & use my vacation time for each day I had to appear. The first day I appeared, they wanted $276 bail money for an infraction to which I didn't have. They tried to insist that I pay the fine, so I asked for an option because I didn't have the money. I didn't get angry with the clerk. They allowed me to come back for pre-arraignment on my own recognizance (on my word), just to tell the Judge (not guilty) & get another court date. So I'm standing up for my rights & my innocence in the face of what some say is "due process"! I went back the week before Thanksgiving Day. I went there prepared with pictures & questions for the Officer because I did my research & found out what I needed to do in order to prove my case before a judge. I was scared to death inside of me but I forged forward. The Officer did not appear in court even after the Judge gave them over an hour to appear beyond the beginning of the actual court time of 8:30a. Mind you it was not only me but there were others were the Officer was a No-Show! So in the words of the Judge, she dismissed our cases "in the name of Justice"!
A friend of mine came down to support me during this 5 hr drive & ordeal. As I turned around to leave the courtroom, she became horrified to see all around my mouth & lips were white as if I'd used white lipstick…like an old slapstick comedy! It was the "stress"! I was just so happy to be vindicated & was elated that didn't feel anything with regard to my body! I was focused & driven to pursue this to the end!
I'd spoken previously to my psychologist prior to this whole affair. She encouraged me & was proud I was standing up for myself as I was an abuse survivor from my childhood & from a former marriage. I paid a high price for all of this as my blood sugar level was a now outstanding "570"!
So I know this story or article to be the truth. But there's so much more going on for me with regard to stress on a daily basis. I struggle with this battle & I long for it to be over! I hate my Diabetes & struggle to keep my head above water! Sometimes I forget to take my medicine because subconsciously "I don't care" & I say, so what! I love family & friends but it's too difficult!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-11-27 21:48:54 -0600 Report

Hi Mays,

Just wanted to let you know that I think you gave some great advice in your post. I agree that, as an emotion, anger doesn't seem to accomplaish much, and sitting with it can just leave you stuck.

I would add that it's important not to sit and hold in emotions. Sooner or later, they find their way out, including in the uncontrollable rages you mentioned. Anger needs to be expressed in a way that is helpful and even productive. Sitting down with an objective listener, feeling the anger, letting the angry words out, and getting a perspective on it -- wha't causing it and why -- can go a long way toward moving beyond the anger. If we deny it, or otherwise hold it in, then the anger may just keep cooking until it boils over.

But ou said it -- getting beyond that anger is really important to staying healthy.

CaliKo 2010-11-29 16:57:38 -0600 Report

Hi Dr. Gary, I read once that it is psychologically impossible to be angry and depressed at the same time. Is that true? Is anger sometimes a defense against depression?

RAYT721 2010-11-27 11:29:48 -0600 Report

Another insightful and thought-provoking discussion that is true not only for diabetics but for all kinds of conditions and disease. Thank you, Mays, for sharing this message. Sometimes inner anger, even if we are not aware of it, can change who we are and what we are into beasts. Sometimes our minds know what our bodies don't and vice versa. Awareness is the key to control … glucose control, weight control, emotional control and so much more.

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