sweety piez
By sweety piez Latest Reply 2010-10-25 18:51:35 -0500
Started 2010-10-16 20:51:15 -0500

ann042965 stated she hated her health condition—-does that put your body in stress mode, making the situation more difficult to control——-because I feel the same way—-do not want to accept it—-have ignored it until this past week in the hospital from sweety piez

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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-10-21 17:03:34 -0500 Report


I just wanted to jump in and follow up on what Gabby said. It's really important to get your body and mind working together.

It is always hard to accept a medical diagnosis. It brings up all kinds of questions. What do I have to do? How is my life going to change? Am I golng to be normal? Are my relationships going to change? These are pretty scary question to ask. Some of these questions can be answered right away, while others will be answered over time, with the answers depending on how well you manage your condition and stay compliant with your medication, diet, exercise, and other treatment recommendations. But they are important questions to start asking.

And then there is that really big question: Why me? There isn't really an answer to this question, but it is also an important one to ask. With this questions, a lot of emotions may come up, liike anger, guilt, fear, sadness. They are only feelings, but even when you ignore them, they are going to stay inside until they find a way to leak out.

Holding in emotions = denial = stress.

It is human nature to want to avoid all of these questions and feelings by jsut hoping that by looking ahead without blinking, we can make it all go away, along with the medical diagnosis.

But life doesn't work that way, as you know.

Getting emotional support is a really important step toward coming to terms with, and accepting your diagnosis. Don't fight how you are feeling, find someone who can listen objectively while you talk about what's going on inside of you, even all the anger and hate. Let it all out and release it into the air so that, as Gabby said, you don't have to focus on it.

This is how you move toward acceptance of your condition.

I would also encourage you to get informed about your condition, so that your mind isn't left to fill in the gaps with fear. Find out what you are up against. Knowledge is power. And getting informed is another form of therapy -- fight the fear, and the stress, with facts!

I am glad you are reaching out on Diabetic Connect -- this is an important step to accepting your diagnosis. You are in the company of lots and lots of people who had similar experiences, and who are here to help you get through the rough patches you may hit along the road.

Stay connected with us and keep us posted so that we can give you a hand when you need it.

GabbyPA 2010-10-18 11:32:20 -0500 Report

It might put your body in stress unless you just totally ignore it and don't care what happens. Stress comes when deep down, you know you care. When in the heart of hearts, you want to do something to live a healthy and long life. So instead of focusing on the hate of it, let the deeper survival instincts kick in and allow you to move forward to get your mind working with your body instead of against it. Often, it does boil down to a mind game...let your mind win and help your body get what it needs to live a better life. I agree with Pam....you just got a wake up call. Now you just have to answer the phone.

sweety piez
sweety piez 2010-10-20 22:36:43 -0500 Report

you are correct—I do care and must do a better job of taking care of my health, thank you for your comments—-every reply that I read makes this situation more important to me—I love this web site

Pam from KCMO
Pam from KCMO 2010-10-17 08:54:03 -0500 Report

In the hospital, huh? Sounds like the universe just gave you a wake-up call.

I sure understand your anger - just know that it is a very natural reaction. Who wouldn't be po'd at getting that diagnosis?

For me, it was like a death - death of a lifestyle, death of the sense of good health, fear of the future. I've also experienced the death of people close to me - my parents and best friend - and have gone (and are still going thru) the grieving process.

Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance. Those are the stages we go through when we lose someone close to us. (I think I've got the stages right…) I think a diabetes dx (or any catastrophic dx) is very similar.

Life is about movement - moving thru all the situations and emotions that come to us thru the years. If you're angry, beat up a pillow or kick a wastebasket - get it out, feel it, and then move on to the next moment. If you're depressed, have a good cry in your rattiest housecoat (do not remove your makeup), throw yourself on you bed and cry till you get it all out. Then get up, wash your face, and go have some Mexican food. (My way of dealing with it; substitute your favorite food. Letting your mascara run really adds to the picture. :)

Talk to a professional - antidepressants or anti-anxiety meds might help.

sweety piez
sweety piez 2010-10-20 22:31:22 -0500 Report

Thank you for your reply—-your comments made me feel much better—-my brain was like scrambled eggs with to much info—-simply put, you un-scrambled my thoughts

Harlen 2010-10-17 08:13:05 -0500 Report

If you lost a finger would you give up on life and die???????
NO you would deal with it !!!!!
And life gose on, same with D, life gose on.
Yes its work Yes its hard but every one can do it!!!
Giving up just is not the way to go.
Do the best you can.
Best wishes

sweety piez
sweety piez 2010-10-20 22:26:48 -0500 Report

Your comment made me laugh. I realized how silly I was being. I have all my fingers and I am going to try and hang onto them. Same with this poor old body—thank you for your reply—I am so glad I have found some new friends

Harlen 2010-10-20 22:45:19 -0500 Report

I am glad we all need to smile more
We all get down from time to time ,
But all I need to do is look at all the peaple that have it a lot harder then I and how they keep going and working as well as keeping it altogether.
Smile life is good
Best wishes

sweety piez
sweety piez 2010-10-20 23:01:40 -0500 Report

you are so sweet—I really thought that no one would respond—I was surprised—you make a good point about other people and what they may be suffering—I am known for being the prankster and joking around—-I have missed that side of me and have plans to live up to my rep.—after all with God on my side, I cannot lose. Thanks, Harlen

Harlen 2010-10-20 23:05:50 -0500 Report

Any time
I check my mail every day if you right I will right back
Hugs and best wishes

sweety piez
sweety piez 2010-10-20 23:15:07 -0500 Report

I would love to share thoughts and feelings about this disease. I am not on here every day—honestly, I feel like I am wasting time while on here—but not with this site—I have learned so much—-getting time to be on here is like musical chairs—my husband reseaches genealogy for hours and hours Talk to you soon S PIEZ

Harlen 2010-10-21 14:34:54 -0500 Report

A lot of the frends here are very real and wish to help we all have felt lost and in need of frends to help with idas and some times just some one to talk too.
Best wishes

Guardianstone 2010-10-21 06:47:08 -0500 Report

Hello, and if no one has said it yet, Welcome.
I understand fighting for time on this site. I end up using my cell phone ans a stylus to type.
I hope you are finding answers to your questions. This is the best site I have ever visited. I felt welcome the first time I stumbled on to this haven.
If you want to chat, read, ask questions, or vent, feel free.
Guardian stone

sweety piez
sweety piez 2010-10-24 18:46:58 -0500 Report

Thank you, I try not to spend to much time on here. Once I sign on, I can't pull myself away. I have to much to do and it is easy to stay on here for hours. You could explain how to add friends. I have tried and it was not as easy as facebook. I think I failed, the person has not responded. Everyone on this site seems so nice and very friendly. sweety piez

Guardianstone 2010-10-24 22:54:45 -0500 Report

Hi Hon;
If you go to the profile page of the person you want as a friend, look under their photo for add to friends. Hit the highlighted words, and find the red X. Press the x and send your request. If the person responds you've got a new friend. I think I sent a request to you. Please reply.
Guardian stone

Guardianstone 2010-10-25 18:51:35 -0500 Report

Hi Sweety piez;
I hope you figured it out.
I like your style. The message earlier was cute. Headed out for group. ;~D
Guardian stone

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