getting on track

By ssybils Latest Reply 2008-12-03 11:18:31 -0600
Started 2008-09-22 08:38:09 -0500

I know I am to blame, but I just can not seem to get myself motivated to start up again to control my diabetes. It was under great control over a year ago. But then I started having pain in my legs-continually. And the doctors still do not know the cause of the pain. They have tried everything. But I lost interest in managing everything. That goes from testing my sugars, to taking my pill and my insulin. And it seems when I do take my insulin, I get sick and vomit. I have a boyfriend who is living with me, he is always on my butt about testing, taking my insulin and pills. But he is always yelling about it. And I dont't know if that is the reason I'm not listening to him or just cause I don't care anymore. But I need some way of getting myself back on track, that will work and help. I do know it all comes back on me, but I can't do it alone and I need some help. If anyone out there knows of any way that I can get my butt back to one year ago, I'd appreciate it. I need the desire I guess. Please help. Thank you all.

12 replies

Amy Tenderich
Amy Tenderich 2008-12-03 11:18:31 -0600 Report

I think it's important for your boyfriend to understand that the motivation has to come from YOU, not from someone else who may beg or yell.

Have you checked out the Behavioral Diabetes Institute? They may have some programs that can help you, even if you don't live in California. Here's their web site:

All the best,

indiandancer 2008-12-02 21:37:54 -0600 Report

i know how u feel. I have some of the same problems about staying on track with meds etc. I found out that if I ask for gentle reminders it seems to work better nd tat I havo find something that keeps me on track like keeping a daily food journal or writing down in ajournal at the end of the day but we all have to find the 1 thing w like and make it a daily activity and somehow we can link it to the rest and then as we make it a daily task the rest seems to follow. I hope that this helps. but the biggest thing about asking for reminders that they need to be gentle, just a question and maybe there is something tha the 2 of u can do together such as set up your meds together or go for a walk together or maybe a certain place that u put your things will help and the boyfriend won't feel it is his place to nag?

DJ 2008-12-03 11:14:53 -0600 Report

"Diabetes"…it is all Consuming,Selfish,Painful and from the day the Doctor says,"Welcome to the world of Diabetes", it takes on a life of it's own!!You become 2 separate people joined by this condition, and try as you might to control that other person, it will try even harder to take you over…BUT, you can win the battle by simply remembering who that person REALLY can dig deep and find that original self and You be the Selfish one, You take control!! You said it SSybil..You need to get back on track and take back your life..YOU have to be the one to do this, and even though your Boyfriend means amount of nagging or yelling will help.You have the answer, it is with-in that Original person the "You" that you were before this Diabetic persona took over your life…You are the BOSS and you empower yourself!! We all have times when that other person takes control..the pain, the depression,the anger,the frustration…but take it from someone who knows this Monster all to well, you can beat it and bend it to your will but you won't do it by allowing it to get the best of you!! Get your Butt back on track and take charge Girl..we are all pulling for U!!
Hugs & Smiles,DJ

Half Sunflower
Half Sunflower 2008-11-30 14:12:32 -0600 Report

Diabetes does indeed take a toll on us all, but think about you and your future. It is certainly worth all of your time and effort to know exactly where you stand with your blood glucose levels. I think it's okay to take a shart break when you feel overwhelmed, but just a little care can prevent a few of the many side effects of having diabetes. There's hope, always. Do some things that you enjoy doing and connect to your care. Read an interesting book, take a walk and start doing things on your terms. I believe that you will begin to feel better physically and emotionally. It takes time, but you are worth it.

Good Luck
Half Sunflower

azmisty 2008-11-30 13:39:25 -0600 Report

Dear SS..

Thanks for being so brave to reach out for help and I truly hope that the support of the warm and caring people on this site will help to motivate you.

I know that it will not be any comfort to know that alot of us have been through exactly what you are talking about but please know that YOU are not alone.

I started out about 4 yrs ago when I was 1st diagnosed treating my condition religiously and kept it in very good control. Then you are right…it gets exhausting…it is almost like a full time job that you just want to quit and finally do!!

Then I started with the pain of neuropathy in my feet and it really scared me…I found a good endocrinologist with hopes of getting a new and fresh look at my case…and it worked…she put me on some amazing medicine, made me be accountable to her by faxing in my numbers and was so caring…that I decided if she cares this much that I have to show her that I am grateful and do what she is asking.

I agree, your boyfriend is nagging you because he cares about you…how lucky you are that you have somone like that in your life.

And, I know it must seem overwhelming to do all the steps to take control…but try to play a game with your self and do 1 thing at a time. One week commit to testing 1X a day and build from there.

Remember, no one can make you take care of yourself…but you are worth taking care of and obviously your boyfriend thinks this or he would not even care what you do. Prayers to you and stay connected to this site…we ALL want you to succeed.

Best wishes…Misty

Jean SooHoo
Jean SooHoo 2008-11-30 11:52:17 -0600 Report

I am sorry to hear this. But just taking the time and airing it out this way-hey, good for you. It's one step. And if another step is taken because others care enough to reply to you. I hope the step is positive! I live with a sibling who has diabetis and I get the backlash of her emotions sometimes. It's not fair, why can't you come down with it too?, why me? I've had to deal with this stress in a different way. I do have high blood pressure and I've been trying to stay as healthy as possible so I don't come down with diabetis. Knock on wood so far. And you know what? Sometimes when that step we take to something positive-like meds or numbers, this support system is here. You can cry, or be happy. I will wish you much happiness. Because this toxin will go a long way to feeling good. Take care.

lisawatson 2008-11-29 16:22:07 -0600 Report

just hang in there and take it one day at a time …i am also having a hard time dealing with the strees of diabetes and i feel sorry for myself sometimes…ha. ha. sounds like you have a great guy by your side that only cares for whats best ..listen to him

shastadiabetes 2008-11-29 15:33:03 -0600 Report

Hell, I know what you are going through. Not being in contol of your Diabetes , takes you into unkown territory. All Diabetics are not the same. What works for one, works for all is a Myth. Diabetic Basics will get you under control and keep you on track.Visit and see if any of this info gets you focused on Diabetic Control. Email me at small and let me give you a plan to get you in control. Knowledge will let live to control your Diabetes with out beating your self up.

Ashalka 2008-11-29 11:36:51 -0600 Report

Thank you for writing this. I have similar problems right now and will be avidly looking to hear some good advice on the subject.

PTaglieri 2008-11-29 14:57:11 -0600 Report

I have to thank you all for being here. ssybils, for starting this discussion. I could have written the same things you have written about. You are going thru almost exactly what I am going thru right now. I am in such pain with my back and legs, that is all that concerns me. I have let my diabetes problems fall to the wayside and only concern myself with the pain. But since I've been on this site and read all the encouragement and incite everyone gives, I don't feel so alone with this battle.
Gaby, you are a wonder. I know nothing about you, but you seem to be always seem to be there for everyone. Your advice makes so much sensa and really makes me want to help myself.
God bless all of you on this site. I finally feel like there is hope!

GabbyPA 2008-09-22 11:47:30 -0500 Report

I understand how you feel. I have only been dealing with it for a few months and there are days when the neuropathy really gets me down. Or recently, while on the road for business, I was doing all the right things, but my sugars were still really high. I got so frustrated I gave it something to be high about and ate chinese food, rice and all!

But then I look at my husband, my family, and even the things I still want to accomplish with my life, and I stop the pitty party crap.

Trying to get back where you were is a great goal because you know you can obtain it. If you have any of your journals from then, read them and see what was working for you. Not that it will all work now, as we change all the time, but it could give you some guidance.

Talk to your boyfiend. He most likely is yelling because he is worried and doesn't know how else to get you to do the things he knows you need to be doing. Let him know that yelling and bossing is not what you need. Maybe he needs to do your testing if you won't? Maybe he needs to grocery shop and keep only safe foods around for you? Maybe he needs to go to the doctors with you and talk to them and fill in the blanks with things he observes about you? Let him get involved, let him help...he obviously loves you enough to stick it out with you. You owe him that much at least.

Not taking care of yourself will just lead to feeling worse, not better. Complications are not usually reversable, and if you get lazy (yes, I said lazy) then more trouble is waiting to drag you down even more. Is that what you want? I didn't think so.

When I get kind of lost, I find a way to make myself accountable. On line here, I am exercising with Edie. We post our results every makes me want to be able to post something encouraging, so I try to do what I should.

When I get bored with what I am doing, I post a 30 day challenge here. It is fun, and I get to focus on one thing for a short amount of time. I learn what I can, keep what works and throw away the rest. I just did 30 days of veggies and another one of red wine. I am going to be doing another one really have some fun with it.

Most of all, if you want to keep any kind of quality in your lifestyle, then do it now. Later in our diease is never a very good option.

Avera 2008-09-22 10:40:26 -0500 Report

Most everyone with diabetes has gone through things like this at one time or another. It would be good to find a support group in your area. Do a web search for "Diabetes Support Groups"
This will take you to a list and then you can type in your city for a local group. Good luck.

Next Discussion: getting on track »