I Am A Prisoner In My Own Home

Richard157
By Richard157 Latest Reply 2010-10-06 14:34:35 -0500
Started 2010-10-05 18:54:16 -0500

The following link gives my blog site. The first blog tells how my diabetes has prevented me from traveling to see the USA and the world, despite my good health.

http://almo0157.blogspot.com/


6 replies

jeffrey9127
jeffrey9127 2010-10-05 20:10:01 -0500 Report

Richard157, Hello. How wonderful that you have the desire to travel and see the world. Your wife sounds like a wonderful person who cannot bear the fact that something may happen to you when you travel. It does make the most sense that she travel with you. Tell her that you are willing to compromise but you are going and you would love to have her come with you. Maybe you can enlist the help of a trusted friend or relative that would help you make your case. Good luck!
jeffrey9127

Richard157
Richard157 2010-10-05 20:39:53 -0500 Report

Thanks Jeffrey, I think we should try a short trip together and then aim for a longer on the following year. A gradual approach might not seem so bad. You made good suggestions.

Crashnot
Crashnot 2010-10-05 19:41:57 -0500 Report

Wow! That is a dilemma! I shudder to think of the close calls I've had over the years, traveling across the US for work. My control was negligible, and I'm lucky I have a strong recovery reaction when I drop low enough, so that I can grab that bag of jelly beans and eat them until I am high enough to eat a more substantial snack.

Having said that, I went and married a man who hates to fly, hates being around crowds, and pretty much hates anything that changes his daily routine. Want to leave him with Anita for a week, and we can watch out for each other long enough to see some sites????????

You're caught up in an emotional, psychological, habitual combo here, and either one side has to give or the other, which will compromise their own high standards. Would any of your kids be willing to strike out with you on a road trip, to give her the comfort of knowing you're with someone who knows the ropes?

Lisa

Richard157
Richard157 2010-10-05 19:52:14 -0500 Report

Thanks so much for your reply! that was so funny about you and I traveling and seeing the sites. How would you like to fly to England? Lol!

My youngest hates travel, like Anita. My oldest has a high profile job and could not leave the job and his family to go with me. I wish it was possible. We applied for passports today. Maybe this trip to England will actually haopen. Maybe I will just stay there and send Anita back by herself. I could see Europe and beyond. I love to dream. HA!

Crashnot
Crashnot 2010-10-06 09:55:27 -0500 Report

I have two thoughts (outside of a trip to England would be great, haven't been there yet!). First, it sounds like you need to figure out Anita's comfort zone for being away from home. Or rather, what makes her uncomfortable. New places? Do lots of reading on the destination, have good maps, and a list of restaurants and places to get snacks (!). Worried about bad people on the road? Do a check for low-crime areas or try less-traveled villages. My mom lives for travel, my dad (they're divorced now) only would go if he could drown himself at the hotel bar. Needless to say she stayed away from hotels with bars, but that was his "thing." That's an extreme, but you get the idea.

Second, you need a pet! It would be convenient if a "stray" showed up on your step for Anita to focus some of her mothering on!!!

Lisa

Richard157
Richard157 2010-10-06 14:34:35 -0500 Report

Anita's leaving her house and three cats is very unpleasant for her. "There is no place like home"…that is her motto. She is very healthy and capable of traveling, but does not see the sense in doing it. Traveling once per year to visit our kids and grandkids in Atlanta (2 1/2 hour flying time each way) is all she wants to travel.