punished for being a diabetic

By petals Latest Reply 2012-12-17 11:46:34 -0600
Started 2010-10-01 13:53:45 -0500

It was recently said to me my a friend, Do you think that you are being punished for something by being a diabetic? What?!! I couldn't believe that was said to me!! My answer was, Heck No, I don't feel that I am being punished for being a diabetic!! I feel blessed for being one. It has made me more aware of how my body works, I take better care of myself now then I did before, and I enjoy my life more. What would you say if this happened to you?

164 replies

nanaellen 2012-03-17 11:08:01 -0500 Report

Unfortunately Yes, I do feel like I'm being punished! But I felt like that before I ever knew about the diabetes. I've felt like that since I was 14 or 15 yrs. old! In my year book for high school it says "I am the World's to do with as they please or to destroy as they wish" Can you say DEPRESSED?? I feel like Maybe I did something in a past life that I'm STILL paying for NOW!

Young1s 2012-03-17 12:13:34 -0500 Report

That is simply awful. I'm so sorry you've been made to feel this way, Nanaellen. Rest assured you're worth your weight in gold to us and we wish you nothing but peace, love, happiness, wealth and control over your D.

kaiya2465 2012-03-01 07:20:29 -0600 Report

When I was diagnosed with being Pre-D, I thought no way…Never have been asked that question but I would have to say No to feeling punished. When I found out, I got on the net & started searching for help, found this site, made great friends & also kept my sanity. Although I already ate healthy I learned from here that I needed to tweak a few things & now I am not afraid anymore.

robertoj 2012-03-01 03:19:41 -0600 Report

I never thought of it as a punishment. With all of the blessings I've received it wouldn't make sense. I've had issues with mobility and many bad habits but I have learned to adapt. Learning to deal with life's challenges makes that type of perception unimaginable.

Caroltoo 2012-02-27 21:41:02 -0600 Report

I would tell her that I really don't know why I have developed diabetes, but I know it is not a punishment. My God is a loving God and being punished for something unknown is not a part of my cosmology. I'd probably then ask her if she feels she is the cause of the negative things that have occured in her and her families lives. Could lead to a rather lively discussion and better understanding of each other.

Jeanae 2012-02-27 21:03:17 -0600 Report

Some people, especially with certain denominational backgrounds, see anything negative as a punishment from God. My Mom, bless her, was a devout Amish woman. When she lost a child she saw that as God punishing her for loving that child too much. So she kept the rest of us at a distance. When my oldest sister Martha had a down syndrome baby, my Mom believed that my sister must have done something horrible that God would punish her like that. My Mom meant well, she was just raised in a VERY strict home. I always felt bad for my Mom that she saw things that way. She missed out on a lot of joy because of that outlook. Some people just don't understand- "why do bad things happen to good people". I would not hold this against your friend but just stay as positive as you are! I too look at the diagnosis as a blessing. My whole family is much healthier now because of the changes we have made.

Caroltoo 2012-02-27 21:36:03 -0600 Report

It sure is an attitude/expectation that takes the joy out of life. I'm glad to hear that you and your family do not feel this way. Your mom missed a lot, but she has a lovely daughter who learned what was important.

TsalagiLenape 2012-02-27 20:18:06 -0600 Report

Some would feel its a punishment yet those of us who have realized now before its too late the positive side we choose to embrace so our lives are better and more productive. So with that said, did you ask your friend do you feel punished for NOT having diabetes? Its a rheotical question in a way. Not meant to offend. Hugs

Lizardfan 2012-02-27 18:37:50 -0600 Report

Is your friend being punished for being rude, condescending, and ignorant? I would answer her question if she first answered mine. Punished??? Heavens no, I figure with all the diabetes in my family we are just too *naturally sweet*! LOL!

Auburn Bill
Auburn Bill 2012-02-27 17:39:48 -0600 Report

Try being on Medicare for your diabetes Brand Name insulin supplies. Once I get out of the Frist $2700 I opaid for drugs to $4700 - in the donut hole - YOU WILL pay 50 % of the cost of Lantus Solostar and Humalog kwikpen products ( for me that's $300/ month) according to my Excellus Medicare Advantage plan. If I want "additional " coverage Humana has a drug plan for $107/ month!
I'll be insurance broke! New York State has lowered the Max Married Income for its EPIC Program for seniors, to $29,000/ year!
PLEASE donot say we are not being punished for being Diabetics! Wait till your turn comes to go on Medicare!! I am telling you the truth, know wonder Seniors have to make a choice between eating or buying their prescripts! Grandpa Bill

robertoj 2011-08-20 01:37:07 -0500 Report

There is no reason to feel that I am being punished at all. I was told a very long time ago, by one of my teachers, that life offers you challenges. It took many years and even more mistakes before I finally understood what she meant. Thank god I have a great memory. I learn lessons from all my experiences both good and bad. Sometimes these lessons come in handy later sometimes for my own benefit and sometimes for other.

JoleneAL 2011-08-18 11:51:51 -0500 Report

My response would be, "Do you believe people who get cancer are being punished?" Then I'd walk away and never look back.

Diaschm 2011-08-17 23:35:57 -0500 Report

I do not like being diabetic but I do take caare of myself better because I am one. From that I think I agree. It forces you to be aware of everything you eat and do. Please do not pay attention to silly people. We are not being punished that was a comment that I have heard but just don't pay attention to it. Diaschm

petals 2011-08-18 08:36:16 -0500 Report

I don't pay attention to people like that, they would take up to much energy if I did, and they just aren't worth it.

flipmom 2011-08-17 21:29:02 -0500 Report

stupid is, stupid does!! i cant believe how people can really be soo stupid!! no one is perfect and this is one of our imperfection… we learn to live with it and make the most of it…

princessbeiter 2011-08-17 16:09:20 -0500 Report

I don't feel it is a punishment. It's the way God made me. If He hadn't included the gene for diabetes in my make-up, I wouldn't be diabetic. For me, it's just that simple.

I think my diagnosis was really a wake-up call. It made me sit up and take notice of what I was eating and how inactive I was. I've been off my exercises lately, due to other medical concerns, but I have tried to keep eating right.

margokittycat 2011-08-17 14:54:57 -0500 Report

I do not feel like being diabetic is a punishment. I feel like it is a test for all those who come into our life. God is testing them to see if they could handle it or not. God said he would come back and you would not know when or where or as what he would come back as, and I think he has come back as a diabetic in all of us to see how others will treat us. I am a believer that god does not give us anything we can not handle and I will never stop believing that. God Bless all.

jayabee52 2011-08-17 15:23:54 -0500 Report

That belief that God won't give us too much to handle comes from 1 Corinthians 10:13 " No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. " (New International Version)

MewElla 2011-01-15 08:06:03 -0600 Report

These remarks are one of many that I heard and sometimes, still do. I know that I am healthier than before and that's what is important to me. All kinds of people out there who always have a opinion about everything and everybody…

petals 2011-01-15 08:17:43 -0600 Report

It just doesn't matter what others think, it just matters what you think and that you take care of your diabetes. Anything else is just static.

PetiePal 2011-01-13 10:41:41 -0600 Report

I think some people would have like to make me FEEL that way…they would say well you always DID like the sweets, or wow well that makes sense. I politely tell them to screw off and shrug it off. While I DID like sweets when I was younger I had actually been living a much healthier life in my 20s. At first I DID start to wonder if this was punishment because I wasn't more careful, or didn't exercise etc. I took a lot of naps the past 2 years…sometimes right after dinner. I thought i was just overtired from not getting enough sleep.

In reality I think it was a combination of high carb foods, too little sleep at night, too many naps when I should have been up burning a meal off, stress, family genetic history, abdominal visceral fat and a low activity level that did it. While I accept that all of these things were under my control I also had to come to learn and accept that some people can do those very same exact things…and never develop diabetes. I was at higher risk than most, but I no longer believe it's a punishment.

If anything I see it as a test now. Something God knew I could handle or else he wouldn't have unjustly thrown it my way. Punishments are for bad little boys and girls who need timeouts! :P

petals 2011-01-15 07:46:23 -0600 Report

Hi ! I agree with you that God wouldn't have let us have diabetes if he didn't think that we could handle it. If I didn' have God in my life to guide me , I probably couldn't do it, He makes all the difference. Hugs.

waricks 2011-01-12 21:50:04 -0600 Report

I have been asked something similar a few times, mostly by my non-feeling boss. I tell people that Diabetes is the best bad thing that has ever happened to me. I feel better than I have in two or three years. I have the energy now to workout and I have been losing weight which is something that I have not been able to do in a very long time.

petals 2011-01-15 07:47:36 -0600 Report

You have a positive out look and that will go along way while dealing with diabetes. So keep up the good work.

squog master
squog master 2011-01-12 21:19:13 -0600 Report

I'd say "No, with diabetes & all the rest of my medical problems, I have to be going to heaven cause it's been H**l here on earth."

petals 2011-01-15 07:49:07 -0600 Report

Do you really feel like you are in hell right now? What is going on in your life to make you feel this way?

squog master
squog master 2011-01-15 21:30:01 -0600 Report

No, I don't really. Sorry, I should have ended w/LOL. I really appreciate your concern over my comment. My other saying is with all my medical afflictions, injuries, broken bones, & surgeries I've had, if I tried to leave my body to science it would be returned damaged good.

petals 2011-01-15 21:55:15 -0600 Report

Ok , well that makes me feel better!! I also understand that, I feel the same way, the science people would more than likely go running and screaming into the night if they got my body!!LOL

squog master
squog master 2011-01-15 22:31:23 -0600 Report

The funny thing is, how people grow up, have kids, & when they start yapping at their kids they say, "I became my mom or I became my dad." Well I never married or had kids of my own. I have yapped at other peoples kids cause I've worked with kids all my life. But I still became my parents, I got all their medical ailments plus some. Worst part is I got them 20 years earlier than they did. Not complaining, just stating a fact. I actually got a compliment out of an older brother when I used my "damaged goods" line. He said "No, they could keep your brain & they could make a cook book out of it." Imagine that, a compliment from a big brother. LOL. I put myself in God's hands long ago. He's carried me through some tough times. I know I am truely blessed.

petals 2011-01-16 09:36:20 -0600 Report

I understand, I got some of my parents ailments too. Just earlier then they did. I did get married, no kids though. And I am in the Lord's hands as well, without Him I don't know what I would do, Blessed too!

princessbeiter 2011-08-17 16:35:55 -0500 Report

Maybe we didn't get the same things 20 years earlier, maybe WE just found out soon enough to reverse some of the damage?

Unfortunately for me, I have a family that is famous for weird diseases and conditions. None of us have the same things. lol

Brenda_B 2011-01-12 19:10:24 -0600 Report

well…I don’t feel “blessed” because I developed diabetes… nor do I feel blessed…lol… because I having thin, wispy hair. But I really like your answer. I have never had a friend ask me a question like that…. I really think I would have said something … uh … not very nice.

echowit 2010-10-18 12:53:19 -0500 Report

Great "When-life-gives-you-lemons" attitude!! Reading your answer made me realize I have been (sorta) doubly blessed — Super high cholesterol all my adult life and now Type 2 D. Neither did too much damage thanks to early detection and both make me lead a pretty good life, nutritionally at least.

Not feeling nearly as sorry for myself as I was a while ago.

petals 2010-10-18 14:12:25 -0500 Report

Glad that I could help. I have learned that a good attitude goes along way when you are dealing with a chronic illness. I also have fibromyalgia to deal with on daily.

AprilB 2010-10-17 10:09:25 -0500 Report

"I feel blessed for being one." I love how you phrased that. I don't exactly feel blessed but I sure do not feel punished either. I've been through these ignorant questions as well. I developed gestational diabetes with my daughter and it runs rampant in my family, 7 years later I was diagnosed with Type 2. I am not overweight and have always taken care of myself. Since diagnosed, from medical professionals to friends to people I don't know, consistently say to me "You don't look like a diabetic". I used to brush it off, now I say "So what does a diabetic look like?" My dentist since has had a better manner. My point being that it is complete ignorance to the disease that produce such comments. I feel diabetes has made me a stronger person in many levels. I also feel that many diabetics are much stronger willed than those that are not, we rock!!

petals 2010-10-17 11:18:31 -0500 Report

Thank you!! I like how you put it back to them, What does a diabetic look like? You go girl! And yes we do Rock!!!

Swbtab03 2010-10-15 09:48:51 -0500 Report

my first line would be go fly a kite lol.
Not the happiest person in the world getting this and paying the amount of money I do a month on medicinces for my health issues, most of it my fault for the way I eat and my lifestyle. But after being diagnosed with diabetes it has majorly changed my life and your right it helps me to really think what i should be eating and not eating. I am actually starting to fell better hopefully in next 6-12 months i will feel more normal than ever. Right now feel depressed,down and no motivation to move some days are good some are not.But I do feel after getting better controil and losing the weight i will be a better person. Feeling punished? Not one bit part of it is genetics and other part is our lifestyles, but like most of us here in the world we are stubborn and dont listen to the warning signs.

petals 2010-10-16 09:23:20 -0500 Report

Hang in there, things will get better. I have been were you are, just keep on making better choices and you will feel better soon. It will be worth it in the long run.

Type1Lou 2010-10-11 10:10:55 -0500 Report

I'm not sure I feel "blessed" to be a diabetic, but I LIKE your spirit and your answer! Once we accept that we have diabetes and do what is in our power to handle it, we're on the road to better control. I can't help but wonder about people who make "others" or some outside entity responsible for their condition. Ultimately, WE have to recognize our condition and take responsibility for the choices WE make or fail to make. Not always easy. Seek help if what you are doing doesn't get you the results you need.

If I'd been faced with the "punishment" question, I don't think I would have been as gracious as you were in my reply. You're inspiring!

annesmith 2012-02-28 03:16:19 -0600 Report

I have had it for so long, that diabetes was just part of me…still is. I never really had a nondiabetic period in my life at all, as, when I was born the hospital already smelled strong sugar on my breath..for a combination of reasons, I was not officially diagnosed until I became very brittle . In theory, I have never been a non diabetic..I can't even imagine…my opinion on the disease is I seriously think most people are diabetic—-yeah, you all might think I am crazy, but, I think most people are diabetic of some type. I believe that down the road, most people will have been found to be diabetic. I have always felt 50-50 on having it. Seriously..I can honestly say that half my day everyday I am greatly irritated by it, tired of pulling out the blood sugar machine, then the other half of my day I am thankful I have it—sounds crazy I know…but, there are benefits to it…for one, I watch what I eat closer—-which leads me to better health habits. Sincerely, ANNE

Type1Lou 2012-02-28 06:26:37 -0600 Report

Dear Anne, I've lived longer with diabetes now than when I didn't have it. Diagnosed at 27, I'm grateful I didn't have to deal with it as a child or teen. Being a teenager was tough enough! Growing up with a diabetic Dad, though, prepared me to deal with it. Keep up the good work!

annesmith 2012-02-29 02:19:36 -0600 Report

Thank you…I was not officially diagnosed until age 35. The hospital had "diagnosed" me well before that. I was flagged in my birth record as " this baby might be diabetic." I guess the timing of it does not matter in accord with the subject we are all talking about right now. I just know that in many ways, diabetes has taught me to do everything in moderation, which is a positive thing. Thank you for saying " keep up the good work"—that was nice of you. I have developed a love for spinach of all things…ha…been adding it to my supper on many nights now. I am not sure how many carbs are in spinach, ha, ha, but, I figured at least it's got nutrients in it that the body loves. I hope everything is going really good for you!!—ANNE

Type1Lou 2012-02-29 17:05:06 -0600 Report

Dear Anne, Spinach is one of those great foods, cram packed with nutrients and low in calories and carbs. One cup of raw spinach has 1 gram of carb. I love spinach salads. One cup of chopped fresh or canned spinach that's cooked has 7 grams of carb. If it's frozen then cooked, one cup has 9 grams according to my guide (not really sure why there's a difference there.). I hated spinach as a child because my maiden Aunt Ameilia who lived with us used to boil it until it was slime. I like spinach in omelets or the occaisional quesadilla too.

annesmith 2012-03-01 01:36:26 -0600 Report

Thank you. Yes, I have the baby spinach leaves…I put a lot of it in a salad, or I will add it to other things. So, I'm eating it raw…it's done me a lot of good. I think it is okay cooked, but I prefer it in a salad. ANNE

annesmith 2012-03-01 01:36:26 -0600 Report

Thank you. Yes, I have the baby spinach leaves…I put a lot of it in a salad, or I will add it to other things. So, I'm eating it raw…it's done me a lot of good. I think it is okay cooked, but I prefer it in a salad. ANNE

petals 2010-10-12 11:19:32 -0500 Report

Thank you for your kind words. And I agree with you, we are the only ones with the power to control our diabetes.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-10-10 17:06:56 -0500 Report

Hi petals,

What a beautiful response.

You provided a great example of deciding that there is more than one way to look at your diagnosis, and you chose the empowered approach. This is accepting life on life's terms and making the best of a situation. Clients sometimes tell me that they condition was a wake-up call, and that it has given them a whole new appreciation of their own body, their relationships, their work -- really a whole new appreciation for what they have right now in life. I had a client tell me that in some ways her life began with her diagnosis, because she stopped sleep-walking and waiting for some sort of signal to start living, and instead took charge of her life.

Thanks for being an inspiration today!

Angel 73185
Angel 73185 2010-10-09 18:41:25 -0500 Report

I love your post and I love how you responded to that question. I justnfound out i was a type 2 it's not the end of the world so I would say I AM BLESS 2 :0) I will be learning how to take better care of myself.

petals 2010-10-09 19:30:12 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to the family!! It is alot to learn at first ,but you can do:) Eventually taking care of the diabetes will become like breathing, you don't have to think about it, you just do it!! I am here if you need anything.

Pynetree 2010-10-07 13:04:36 -0500 Report

This too, was posed to me by a "friend"..I answered "NO, Do you feel that your asthma is punishment?" She said "not really, but You caused your disease" I told them that since Medical scientist don't really have an answer for "CAUSE" of diabetes, maybe she ought to write a paper on it, since she is the only one to have pinpointed a cause!" LOL!