Do you have a motto? What do you tell yourself to keep an optimistic attitude? Please share!

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2012-10-02 21:32:32 -0500
Started 2010-09-22 09:21:15 -0500


Have you ever thought about what your personal motto is?

I would love to know what words of wisdom you use to keep yourself goiing on those days when your arthritis is flaring up and leaving you feeling not all that motivated. If you were going to embroider an old-fashioned sampler to hang on your wall, what would it say?

It would be great to be able to share these with my clients, and for us to share them with each other. I suspect you have picked up some wisdom along the way that could make a big difference to someone else!


186 replies

Ms. DAT 2012-10-02 14:37:16 -0500 Report

The motto that I live is to LIVE LIFE to the Fullest of Every God-Given Day.
Even when though I messed up yesterday but Today I have another opportunity by His Grace!!! God Bless!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-10-02 21:32:32 -0500 Report


Fantastic. I agree. We are not perfect. We make mistakes. We keep trying.

Thank you!


mystikfairy61 2012-10-02 02:32:45 -0500 Report

I have a pretty cool one that I found and use frequently.

Life's journey is not to arrive safely at the grave in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting, "Wow, What a Ride!!!""

It keeps me motivated to not only continue to make changes to keep myself healthy, but to also enjoy the ride life gives me while making those changes.

And one that one of my nursing school instructors told me and I love it. When things don't go the way I want them to, I think what she told us.

"Put on your Big Boy or Big Girl panties and deal with it!"

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-10-02 11:50:54 -0500 Report


Thanks aq lot for the great quotes. I took away the message of facing life on life's terms and making the most of the opporunities that life presents. Definitely words to live by.

Thanks a lot, my friend. Let's stay in touch!


janet ann
janet ann 2012-10-01 13:37:44 -0500 Report

On a bad day," S**t happens, deal with it". Usually its," Live, Laugh, Love."

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-10-01 21:26:23 -0500 Report

Hi janet ann. It's good to be flexible. Depending on the day, I can see where both of these quotes could help to get you through the day. Thanks!

ChefBrown67 2012-10-01 08:50:40 -0500 Report

I see someone has part of this. It is from Charles Swindoll.
"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attatude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company.. a church.. a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past.. we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you.. we are in charge of our Attidudes." I keep this were I can see it every day.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-10-01 21:24:48 -0500 Report

Hey ChefBrown,

This is a great quote. It really speaks to the importance of staying focused on your attitude, working with yourself to have an empowered outlook on life, and walking the walk.

Thanks a lot for sharing this, my friend!


pontufex 2012-09-29 12:59:42 -0500 Report

"There is no tomorrow without today." I've lived by those words for a long time, and they've served me well. What the future holds for us, is what we do today.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-09-30 21:32:41 -0500 Report

Hi pontefex. Thank you. This is a good one. To me this says, take it one day at a time. Whatever the situaiton. Don't get stuck pondering the future when you don't know what it will bring. What we do have is right now.

Dan360 2012-09-29 14:53:30 -0500 Report

How does that help you if you are diagnosed with cancer or something like that? Sometimes you cannot do anything to better the situation at any given point. Then you have to deal with you own thinking. Right?

Dan360 2012-09-29 12:40:53 -0500 Report

A long time ago when I was trying to stop smoking it occurred to me after multiple attempts that if I tried to use willpower to control the urge to stop smoking I would lose. Studies in neuroscience show that our willpower gets drained away as we continue to apply it against the thing that is bothering us. In fact my mind was creating the urge and my belief was the problem. It was a battle taking place entirely within me. So, I decided that we are and we become as we believe. Instead feeling the need to pit my will against what was bothering me I decided to work on my thinking and in particular my beliefs. Straighten out my beliefs and apply them to life and the issue regarding smoking would just go away. It worked for me!

I don’t like to argue such issues as “is the glass half full or half empty”. Rather, I make the issue a matter of what it means to me and how dependent I am on just how much liquid is in the glass. Turns out there are few situations in life where it really matters whether the glass is half full or half empty. My motto is to always apply myself to the issue instead of trying to defeat the issue with positive sayings. Best of thinking to you. Dan

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-09-30 21:30:00 -0500 Report

Hi Dan,

This is incrediblly insightful. I totally agree with you. Sheer willpower can be a recipe for burnout. Instead, understand your beliefs, change them, expect different results, change your behavior to get those results. And what a great way to apply this philosophy. Congratulations on kicking the habit.

And I agree, sometimes the reality is that the glass really is less than half full, but we can also be okay with that as well. That is about living life on life's terms, and deciding to make the best of what is.

Thanks a lot. Stay in touch!


dietcherry 2011-05-01 14:21:23 -0500 Report

"Dont make me release the flying monkeys!" But seriously, probably whats posted on my profile page: "Good judgement comes from experience. And experience? Well that comes from bad judgement". Lets just say Im experienced…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2012-09-30 21:23:49 -0500 Report

Hey dietchery, it has been too long. Sorry I didn't see this so long ago when you posted it. This is a good one!

Gimpalong 2011-05-01 00:54:17 -0500 Report

When I'm having a rough day, I tell myself (at the start of the day) to put a smile on my face, get up and take baby steps. When the baby steps don't hurt much, I tell myself that now I can put one foot in front of the other and get to the place I want to be. Some days I have to give myself a firmer talk, but usually it helps to shape my day so I can appreciate all of my blessings. Life is great if I let it be! Have a great weekend. God bless.


Somoca 2011-04-30 23:54:17 -0500 Report

i say everything is temporary. good or bad. so cherish the good while its here and hold on tight during the bad, because it won't last forever.

mammaG 2011-04-30 22:57:54 -0500 Report

A little over two years ago my father passed away, his last talk with me he made me promise to remember one phrase "Always remember, You are aVery Special Person". This always makes me stop and, rethink me actions.

jayabee52 2011-02-22 19:15:43 -0600 Report

Life is 5% what happens to you, and 95% your response to it. (seen in a hospital cafeteria at which I worked a while ago - the hospital, not the cafeteria)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-22 22:00:50 -0600 Report

Hey, how you doing? That's great. A good point. It shows how we can make the best of a situation. And it also shows how we can take something small and blow it way out of proportion. Thanks!

HisTxLady 2011-02-21 09:31:32 -0600 Report

Ok my motto has a short story to it, lol Lori with a SHORT story lol ya right. lol

I was with a couple friends in Dallas, 5 hours from here, and I had told one of them I would go to the Dr with her. Well we went and she decided she wanted to go out to eat when we were done. Well we went to one of her favorite cafe style restaurants, it reminded me of Lubby's Cafeteria if anyone knows what that is lol, anyway there was 3 of us, my friend Ethel and her friend Ken and I, When we walked in to get in line they had a huge sign posted with a motto of…

"If it's going to be, Then it's up to ME!!",

I loved it. I felt like it was the good Lord telling me to wake up and think about my life and get my act together. The friends I was with were very near and dear friends and mean a lot to me. So when ever we forget what is what we tell each other…"If it's going to be, Then it's up to ME!!!"

God Bless, :o)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-22 22:05:43 -0600 Report

Hi Lori!

Nice to hear from you. I turned this around in my head a couple of times. It's short but profound. It really speaks to the need to take the bull by he horns, to be empowered, to make your life happen rather than waiting for yoru life to happen to you. Words to live by.

I have been to a Lubby's, by the way. I love cafeterias.

And blessings to you, too.

realsis77 2011-02-20 12:45:27 -0600 Report

Hi. My motto is: its better to take shots now then suffer complacations later! I know its not very happy but its too the point and when I'm feeling low about taking my shots I also think it! My doctor also said it! So its reality. Id much rather have to take my daily shots than suffer complacations later! So it keeps me going and reminds me why I'm doing what I do. When I get down about so many shots that thought always brings me back to reality. :)

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-20 19:34:15 -0600 Report

Thanks, nice to catch up with you, as always. Very honest and straightforward. It comes down to doing what you have to do, day in and day out, without having to like it and without questioning why. It's just what you do to stay as healthy as possible. That's reality. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

bernabe jude
bernabe jude 2011-02-20 10:41:48 -0600 Report

My personal motto goes like this "I would rather die on my legs, than live on my knees"…meaning that I approach each day with an attitude of fighting for what remains of my shattered life since developing this devastating disease and creating a healthy mental, emotional, and physical balance managing my new life. I hope this adds some inspiration to other diabetics and thier loved ones. we must continue to see the quality in our everyday lives and help each other to a peaceful sense of well being.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-20 19:32:00 -0600 Report

Beautiful and inspiring! You're right, it is a fight. And we can best fight it by keeping yourselves armored -- mentall, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It takes a lot of hard work and bravery. You have probably heard that term, "peaceful warriors." That's the image I have. Thanks a lot!

JustNan 2011-02-19 21:23:06 -0600 Report

This is a great thread. I love all the answers! I think my favorite quote/motto is: "Fall down 7 times, get up 8". I put that with "Never give up, never surrender". No matter how many times you fall…if you can get back up, you'll be OK. When you don't get back up (surrender), that's when you really fail.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-20 19:28:25 -0600 Report

Thanks, glad so many people are enjoying this thread. Both of your mottos are great. You're right. When a stuation knocks you down, get back into the game of life. Motivation! This is great!

cjudkins58 2011-02-19 12:11:29 -0600 Report

Yes, it is one that I read hanging on the wall of my Psychiatrist. "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it is yours. If it doesn't, it never was." I have recently gone back to school and am studying Psychology. If I can find this quote when I start my practice, it will hang on my office wall as well.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-19 14:33:35 -0600 Report

That is a great quote. It really speaks to accepting yourself so that you can also let other people be who they are, and not thinking that other people have to fix us or save us in some way. And alll the best with your psych studies. Thanks!

oldbuttercup 2011-02-19 11:53:57 -0600 Report

Mine is "There but for the grace of God go I". This means to me there is always someone worse off then me.
As always May God Bless You

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-19 14:31:52 -0600 Report

Thank you! And you're right, on your darkest day, there are always others facing similar, if not more difficult challenges. In a way, we gather strength by being part of a community of people who don't have it easy but are doing the best they can to live their lives with as much integrity and compassion as possible. We are all in this together. And God bless you, too!

MewElla 2011-02-19 09:07:17 -0600 Report

When the times were dark, and there were many, I would tell myself to hold onto the rope tighter and hold on with all my might…that this too, would pass and that God was with me, even at that very moment..

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-19 11:52:24 -0600 Report

This is a great one, thanks. Sometimes what we most need to do is just to hang on, to have faith, to be patient, and to know that this moment will pass. You said it better than I ever could. I hope you are having a good weekend!

bobec4 2011-02-19 04:03:06 -0600 Report

On those days when things are really tough and the pain is bad. I feel like I just cant make it anymore, I have written on a card in my wallet to bring me out of the funk. It's a quote from a humor page I read about a year ago. " Don't take life so seriously, no one gets out alive anyway." Kind of morbid but it does help put things in perspective that things could be much worse than they are now so I really don't have it that bad.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-02-19 11:57:53 -0600 Report

Great! First, I really like this quote. It's funny but it's also very wise. When you really put things in perspective, you have to admit that at some point everything comes to an end. So why not try to be a little more open, accepting, and even have some fun along the way? Carrying this quote around in your wallet is a good idea. IT's always there to help remind you of what is really important.

But as for that pain, whether it is emotional or physical, I hope you are getting professional help, as well as support.

melissa5786 2011-01-25 21:07:46 -0600 Report

I'm not really sure if it's considered a motto, but about a week after I got out of the hospital for the last time in 2009 (I was in the hospital for about 6 months; coma and 30% chance of living, which resulted in my Type 2 diabetes..) I came across this quote on a friend's Facebook page and it reminded me of all the hell I had just gone through and pushed me to believe all of the things I can accomplish and make my life better. And be able to live with this disease.

"There's a day that you realize you're not just a survivor, you're a warrior and you're stronger than anything life throws at you."

I really do want to get it written on something and display it somewhere in my room. I have no idea where it came from or who said it, but it's exactly how I feel almost 2 years after my life changed. I believe my day of realization came when my family sat me down and told me I almost died. Things were put into prospective so quickly. But, for months after that I was still being challenged. But now I know that there was something keeping me strong. Something that was telling me not to give up. And I thank those people that were there for me through the good and the bad (and everything in between.)

squog master
squog master 2011-01-25 22:01:34 -0600 Report

I love it! And it's so true! After emergency hernia surgery I went through a really rough period where mega amounts of pain were involved. While in the rehab center a priest would come by & pray with me sometimes. He knew I was in a lot of pain. One day he said you've probably asked God why me? I stopped him & said no I haven't. I told him that right before I was ready to ask God why me, I figured out why me. It's me because God made me strong enough to handle it. There are people out there who probably couldn't handle it so he gave it to me because I could. Having support is also very important. My brother Dan has been my rock during this whole ordeal.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-26 15:31:10 -0600 Report

Hi, I enjoyed reading this. It is a tesstimonial to fhe importance of having good support, in a spiritual sense as well as "earthly beings" that we love and feel close to.

squog master
squog master 2011-01-26 17:30:46 -0600 Report

Dr Gary, I haven't told many people this. Mainly because it sounds like a plea for attention. But those of you who understand the importance of spiritual support will appreciate it.

I had been sick for a # of months. Steadily getting more & more fatigued & weak. Had been to the doc & was waiting for test results. I was in bed & while trying to get more comfortable I experienced excruciating pain in my belly. I thought I pulled a muscle. As I lay there I said to God "Please make the pain go away?" I then found myself in a very dark place. Pain free. My name was floating around in the air in script, but it was floating backwards, like something is wrong here.

Then my Dad spoke to me. He said, "Barbara, it's not your time yet. But if you want it to be it can be. But you will have to stay here for a while." I looked around & thought, I don't want to stay here, it's all dark. And I thought about my 5 month old Grand niece. And I said to Daddy, "I can't stay here, what about Lydia? I have to be there for her 1st Christmas & her 1st birthday. I have to teach her to make squog cookies. And all the kids, they'll be so upset. I have too many lives to touch still. I felt him smile at me. Then I was back in bed in excruciating pain again. That's when I called 911.

I ended up with emergency hernia surgery. It split open, got infected & I end up on a wound vacuum in a rehab center for 8 months. At one point I had stopped getting out of bed a lot cause it just hurt too much. I decided why cause myself more pain than neccessary & I was trying to get off so much pain med. The staff thought I was getting depressed so they had a psychiatrist come talk to me. I knew he would ask THE question. Finally he did, "Have you ever thought of suicide?" I said, " What are you nuts? That would be an insult to everyone who loves me!!!"

jayabee52 2011-01-27 20:28:59 -0600 Report

Hey Barbara
Perhaps you might have it printed on a T-shirt or Sweatshirt —Just a thought!

I had had "suicide ideation" ever since adolescence. Its strength depended on what was going on in my life. If I was going through tough times, (like me being divorced out of a 25 yr marriage) it would be front and center in my mind. When things were going good the ideation would recede into the background. I finally decided, when I was undergoing dialysis (probably one of the lowest & darkest times in my life) I wasn't going to give in when the going was toughest. I wasn't going to give my sons a bad example to copy when times get tough for them. I wasn't going to give them permission to end their lives just because life disappointed them ( not a matter of if, but a matter of when).

I really haven't had suicide ideation since then, even when Jem passed from this life. I wasn't going to give up on life. I don't fear death, but death is going to have to come and get me. I'm not going to deliver myself to it. Don't get me wrong, I would welcome death when my time comes, because I believe it will be a far better life than this one. Then I will be able to see and be with my Jem again, and there will be no more parting!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-28 09:07:33 -0600 Report

Hi James,

I just wanted to let you know that I reallly appreciate your honesty here. This is a lot to disclose about yourself, and very brave. I hope that others will read your post and be encouraged.

I don't know anyone who doesn't at times find themselves in a dark place and, while not necessarily suicidal, wonder what life is all about, or at least what their life is about. Sometimes life feels random, out of control, and the deck stacked against us. Why me?

But you have also made the conscious decision to face your challenges, to move forward in your life. I am sure that you are a role model for others, and helping them to the potential for meaning in their own lives.

Thanks a lot!


cjudkins58 2011-02-19 12:29:33 -0600 Report

Hey James,

I, too, considered suicide at one time. I had just seperated from my husband of 18 years, and had moved back to California. I had lost my job due to new management, couldn't pay my rent, or buy my diabetes medication. I had maxed out my credit cards paying for my meds, and couldn't pay my credit cards either.

One day, I found myself in my apartment with the drapes pulled shut, the doors locked, and sitting on the floor of my bedroom with a loaded shotgun at my feet. I was crying like I have never cried before or since. I had a Def Leopard tape playing in my tape player, when one of the songs really got to me. I dried my eyes, called my niece, who I was very close to, asked her if I could come over and talk. When she said yes, I unloaded my shotgun, turned off my tape player, opened the curtains, and went over to see her.

To this day, I credit Def Leopard and my niece for saving my life. Because I really would have pulled the trigger.

I am glad that I didn't, now, but am facing yet another round of cancer. I beat it the last time, and I am adamant that I will again.

squog master
squog master 2011-01-27 21:37:30 -0600 Report

You are right on about setting the example concept. In my town I am a very prominent & well respected citizen. I'm known simply as "Bo" (my nickname) by the parents & "Miss Bo" or "Coach Bo" by the kids. Most people don't even know my last name. Feel free to call me Bo. I think I've mentioned in other discussions that I have worked (Recreation Dept & schools) & coached in my community all my adult life. I'm 55 on 2/1. I've been even getting 2nd generation players & students. I have a standard & reputation to maintain. When asked out on an athletic field, "which kid is your's?" My answer is, "They all are. All the kids of Moorestown are 'My Kids'." They look up to me & when they get taller than me they look down to me. :) When I was in the rehab center I guarded that fact because too many people in this world when you say the word Rehab they think drugs &/or alcohol. I know the people who really know me would never have thought that. But rumors do have wings. I wanted to let people know why I was MIA on my terms. So the only thing people knew was that I was very ill. I know I mentioned in another discussion about all the hugs I got from the kids & parents when I was well enough to get out to the ball fields again last Summer. Then they knew what happened. But on my terms.

Like you I don't fear death. I know there are "My Angels" waiting on the other side for me. Some of them are even My Kids. But, when it's "my time". And July 3 2007 was "not my time" .

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-27 16:44:25 -0600 Report

Hey Barbara,

What an incredible story! I have heard similar stories abouit near-death experiences. Totally amazing. And beautiful as well, that your father's voice would speak to you so clearly, and that he would give you this guidance.

As CaliKo said, feeling responsible for someone, and wanting to be there for them in spite of them in spite of your own discomfort, also says a lot about the value of personal relationships. In spite of the pain, and the promise of relief, you decided to forge on with life.

What a recovery ordeal you went through. You are a real inspiiration!

Thanks a lot for taking the time to telll about this amazing experience.

Hope you are having a good day!


CaliKo 2011-01-26 17:41:31 -0600 Report

Wow. Events like this certainly underscore how important our relationships are to us, and how important we are to those that care for us. Thanks for sharing, and having the courage to keep going.

melissa5786 2011-01-26 08:15:29 -0600 Report

I'm not a very religious person, but my friend asked me the same thing at one point. And I can proudly say I've never asked 'why me?' I don't know if I could handle it better than someone else, but I know now that it was me because I was strong enough to deal with it and fight through it and survive.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-26 15:26:55 -0600 Report

Hi Melissa.

Ideally, it's important to come to the point of acceptance of a medical diagnosis, and readiness to face the challenges, supported by a trusted healthcare team, information, a strong support team, and ideally a spiritual connection of some kind. That's what it takes to be a fighter, like you.

But I think many newly-diagnosed patients have to spend some time wrestling with the "Why me" question before they get to that point. 'While there isn't really an answer to this question, it is normal to wish for an answer.

As you said so well, having a belief in a Higher Power can really help to get to that sense of acceptance.

Hope you are having a great week,


Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-25 21:59:25 -0600 Report

Hey Melissa,

Wow, what an incredible and beautiful story. Really amazing.

I am going to hang on to the quote you shared. It certainly qualifies as a motto to me, and one that we can all take to heart. It's all about being empowered, standing up to the challenges, fighting back.

And that what you did in your own life. It sounds like you have a lot of supportive people around you, starting with your family. That's great.

Nice to meet you! Thanks for taking time to join in the discussion.

And stay in touch!


melissa5786 2011-01-26 08:16:22 -0600 Report

Thank you! My family and friends are the best thing I have. The most precious and I'd do anything for them just like they did for me. :)

roshy 2011-01-25 18:07:51 -0600 Report

my mam and dad were talking about what they were leaving myself and my two brothers in their will !!sounds like a heavy conversation but to lighten it up a little my brother turns round and says

'sure mam and dad already left roisin with to long term illness so you can leave me and ciaran th house!!! i wasnt a bit impressed!!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-25 22:00:43 -0600 Report

Well, I am glad you have a sense of humor! You probably have had to develop one with your brother around!

squog master
squog master 2011-01-25 21:42:54 -0600 Report

When people grow up & have kids of their own & they start yapping at them, "Do this , don't do that, etc." They say "Oh I became my mom or I became my dad." Well, I don't have kids of my own, but I still became my parents. I got all their medical ailments & then some. Worst part is, I got them all 20 yrs or more sooner than they did.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-01-25 22:01:39 -0600 Report

We all have some of those "family legacies" that we would rather not have inherited. A million bucks would have been so much more practical!

squog master
squog master 2011-01-25 22:13:32 -0600 Report

I don't know if roshy's 2 brothers are getting the house but I did. But only because my 3 brothers went to our Mom and convinced her to do it so I would have a place to live when she died. They told us that they would not have had her for as long as they did if it wasn't for me taking care if her like I did. Big brothers, they really look out for little sisters. Well, mine do anyway. After Mom died I friend said to me, "Your parents did something right."

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