Newbie and really depressed

By Jeanna03 Latest Reply 2010-09-29 11:10:05 -0500
Started 2010-09-21 17:39:58 -0500

Hi my name is Jeanna and I have recently been diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. I am taking glucophage 2x times a day and I am on a roller coaster all day long. I dont know what to eat or how much so I am have been guessing may way through it. I dont see the endocrinologist until next week. My family thinks that the doctors have just made this up to get money so I have no support. I am really at the point that I just want to throw my hands up and cry and and give up. To add to the issue. My 8 year old has mosiac turner syndrome and her chances of getting this disease was about 50%, now she her chances have doubled. She cant take much more!!! God please be with me!

18 replies

Pinoy802 2010-09-29 11:10:05 -0500 Report

Hi, it will take some time for you to settle in with the medication, I did a lot of reading of the labels on my food when I was first diagnosed. You can't go wrong with vegatables and stay away from the white stuff (refined sugar, flour, potatoes, white pasta, white rice) that kind of thing, fruit is good but be careful, some fruits are have more sugar than others and even the size of the fruit matters. It all seems confusing at first but you have support from everyone online. Try not to get too stressed out because that will raise you bs levels. My son's chances of getting diabetes is also doubled because I have it and it runs on his fathers side. I get him tested yearly. Hang in there, your going to have good days and bad days, and cry if you have to, just don't give up on yourself!

bjm1946 2010-09-26 18:48:22 -0500 Report

Hi Jeanna, I am new to this myself. My Dr. has been telling me for a few years that i am Diabetic but i have been in denial and refused to take meds until now.This last time i promised him i would get it down myself with diet and excerize but of course i couldnt.So i am on the same meds that you are.I dont no what to eat or not only no that you are suppose to follow a low carb diet.Thats what my Dr.told me.I am doing my best.I see improvement already.I too have type#2. Dont let it bother me just do what needs to be done and pray that it will work.Hope you feel better.

shannon76 2010-09-26 15:51:11 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed about a year ago and I still have no clue to what I am doing I try but it seems that no matter what I do I just can't get it under control. I know that I will get it sooner or later but I have felt many times over that I just want to give up and do what I want to do, but I have 3 kids and who will raise them the way that I want them to only me so I have to hang in their for my kiddos and myself. I wish you the best of luck and I am sorry if this was a bad post but I wanted you to know that this is what happened to me.

AlessiaJAC 2010-09-24 21:44:06 -0500 Report

Hi Jeanna I just wanted post a quick hello and let you know you are not alone in the way feel. I was recently diagnosed in June and when I finally came to terms to accept this as being apart of my life, Diabetes in a way has made me a stronger person. I have a daughter myself and I know we as moms have a way of being strong for them when the going gets tough. Don't give up, never surrender.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-09-23 12:14:48 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC. So many here have offered great advice to you. What you learn about Diabetes can help you not feel so frustrated. Any new diagnosis brings a mountain before us that needs knowledge to climb. It seems less massive the more we know. You can do this just like you have learned to tackle the mountain of mosaic turner syndrome. What you learn to help yourself will also help your daughter if she should need this information. I helped my mother-in-law and others deal with Diabetes, so I had a slight heads up on it. And yes, God has promised to be with us.

SueIzzy 2010-09-22 09:16:11 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC Jeanna! It sounds like it is your family that is in denile, for me it was me, my family wasn't surprised. For the first 2 yrs of my diagnosis, no one in my family knew except my husband and son. I kept my family from it because I didn't want to hear lectures. It is a learning experience, and you will eventually know what you can and can not eat on a regular basis. For me, like most, it is the white stuff (bread, potatoes, pasta, rice). But the biggest thing I have learned is to eat protein & fiber should I choose to eat something I shouldn't. Seems to help keep the high spike in better control.

You have come to the right place for help & support!! People here are very helpful and caring, and you will be able to ask anything and get answers. I look forward to hearing about your success in dealing with your new diagnosis as you learn from friends how to live with it.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-09-22 09:02:59 -0500 Report

Hi Jeanna,

I just want to offer you some support. I'm glad you are reaching out to your friends on Diabetic Connect, this is a great place for information and support. You are dealing with a lot, and I can certainly understand why you are feeling so overwhelmed right now. In addition to the great advice you are gettng here, I would also like to encourage you to get educated on your condition. Knowledge is power. Internet resources like the American Diabetes Association offer trustworthy information. You may also find some local resources for classes, as well as support groups, that might be helpful to you. Don't go through this alone.

Families are unfortunately not always very helpful, at least when you are first diagnosed. They are experiencing their own emotional reactions -- anger, fear, sadness. Why you may be asking, Why me? they are asking Why her? and Why us? They may be feeling helpless because they are also uneducated and don't know what to do.

Maybe you can encourage them to get educated, or help to educate them yourself. But, for right now, if they can't be supportive, please find more people who can. Take care of yourself.

As you are seeing on Diabetes Connect, there are a whole lot of people in the world who are dealing diabetes and have a lot to share with you.

You are on my mind!

Pynetree 2010-09-21 22:19:01 -0500 Report

Hi Jeanna…Welcome to DC…I see you've gotten lots of replies, and good advice. You will be fine…it's OK to cry…but, not OK to give up. You must be your own advocate in this disease…Control it…don't let Diabetes control you. Care and control will be a partnership with your Dr, you and maybe a dietician. You will learn what your body does with what you eat, and with exercise, and stress, or illness. If you start with a journal or notebook if will help you grasp it faster. Wake-up, take your BG, note that with how you feel, then what you ate, any exercise, then take a BG reading again. It the beginning it's good to test a lot. I even write down what's going on around me. You soon see how you hold a lot of the control. Good luck, keep posting , we'll be watching for you! Theresa

RAYT721 2010-09-21 20:58:23 -0500 Report

Each of us will have our own stories or successes and failures to share with you and what works for one person won't work for another. As a newly diagnosed diabetic, it's no wonder your head is spinning but please, take a deep breath, and realize that experience will be the best teacher. You have a lot of changes and challenges ahead of you but none of what you're going through is going to be solved or answered overnight. The mission is about control because there are no cures.

With that said, welcome to the website. You will get a lot of good and sometimes great advice. You may even get some advice that isn't right for you. Your doctor and your meter and your commitments are most important.

You have to eat. Don't think that starving yourself is going to help straighten out your glucose. It will only make things worse. Take baby steps are you progress from a non-diabetic to a diabetic. There are many things in the mix to think about … calories, carbs, fat, sugar, exercise, emotional support, medication, and more. I get overwhelmed just thinking about it all.

Start small think big.

You CAN beat the numbers with a little common sense and a lot of positive attitude and we are here for you with the ups and downs.

What can *I* do to help? Please let me know.

Think about the foods you enjoy … some you should eliminate, some you should cut back on, and some you should substitute. None of this will be done overnight but can help produce a happier and healthier you.

There are some things you can't change and some things you can.

Reach for the stars but keep your feet on the ground.

You're in good hands here!!! Being here is a step on a journey. It's time to think happy thoughts.

What can *I* do to help???

CaliKo 2010-09-21 20:38:49 -0500 Report

Hi Jeanna, and welcome to the DC family. I felt totally lost when I was first diagnosed, too. My doctor referred me to classes with a Certified Diabetes Educator, which was the best possible thing. They get familiar with all the details of your particular situation (diabetes has soooo many faces) and tailor a meal plan and exercise plan to meet your needs. Mine also gave me a meter that my insurance would pay for, and taught me how to use it. My doctor had to enroll me for my insurance to cover most of the cost of the classes, but I'm no expert on insurance, so I don't know if that's the usual way it is handled or not. After that, it's just one meal, one day, one exercise session at a time, and we're all here for cheering the victories and offering our own experiences. There are lots of good people here who want to help. Good luck!

jason123 2010-09-21 20:02:19 -0500 Report

Hey Jeanna, welcome to DC! you are in the right place. You'll get lots of good advice here, I see you got some already, there will be much more later. The first thing you need to do is RELAX. It is a serious disease, but it is far from a death sentance, and if you can manage this disease well, we have people here lived for 6 decades with this disease, complication free…How were you diagnosed, what is your A1C?

Harlen 2010-09-21 19:54:33 -0500 Report

Hello and welcome
Do you have a meeter? It helps to know what your blood sugars are,
cut the sweets and the bread as well as pasta this means spuds too lol
As you get to lknow what your blood sugars run with what foods then you will know how much of any one thing you can have without sending your blood sugar way off.
Keep a log of what and how much you eat and how your blood sugars are 2 hr after you eat you will know better if you test befor you eat too
Best wishes

alanbossman 2010-09-21 19:22:02 -0500 Report

Hi Jeanna and welcome to DC family. somethings to stay away from are white bread,white rice and white lots more green vegs. and chicken no skin,turkey, and fish. your doctor should have given you a meter and test strips to check your blood sugar levels, and how to use it. Test your blood sugar in morning when you get up and 2 hours after any meal and before bedtime.
hope this helps

mo91108 2010-09-21 18:33:52 -0500 Report

THings to stay away from. Fried foods! high saturated fat foods and foods loaded with sugar.

You can look up diabetic recipes at
My CDE (certified diabetic educator) and RD (registered dietician) say that woman need about 30 to 45 carbohydrates a meal. ummm also drink unsweetened tea. Or water with like lemon wedges in them. What are your sugars running? My endo told me that 90- 120 pre meal and no higher than 180 post meal. bedtime should be inbetween 100- and 140. I usually eat a snack if it is lower than 120 to fend off hypoglycemia at night. Good Luck

mo91108 2010-09-21 18:28:50 -0500 Report

Hunn here you will amazing support! this is one of the best websites to be a part of for support. Its ok to cry I know you want to be strong, but crying is a perfect way to cope. This is a serious diagnosis. and you know what you can always get healthier. I do not know what Mosaic Turner Syndrome is, but if she can play and stay active, it would be a good way for you two to bond and for both of you to stay healty, and reduce her risks of getting this diseae.

Plus if you have time you can always go to another Dr. for another opinion to show your family that he did not misdiagnosis it.

Just message me if you need to talk
- Monica