By KimmyLSch Latest Reply 2012-04-04 13:17:06 -0500
Started 2010-09-13 15:50:49 -0500

Can anyone tell me if their sexual drive is very low due to neuropathy? My sex life is very poor rght now. Just wondering if thats the case, thanks…

51 replies

dietcherry 2012-04-03 19:34:44 -0500 Report

Have your thyroid checked! Hypothyroidism is notorious for affecting libido and often occurs in those with D. Good luck!! :)

keepitreal1961 2011-06-21 23:54:46 -0500 Report

occasaionally, but for the most part, still answers the call. but I know it is part of things associated with this, plus I take bipolar meds on top of it. The benefits are worth the meds. am a totally different person.

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-06-21 10:01:01 -0500 Report

I think there could be alot of factors that could cause it.

frustated 2011-06-21 11:44:48 -0500 Report

well as far as loosing your sex drive i went through that and found out i was going through early menapause and at the time I was only 38 years old. As for the pain in the back try differnt positions til you find the one that makes both of you comfortable and enjoyable for the both of you. All I can say is have fun trying.

cavie2 2011-06-21 10:13:31 -0500 Report

Teresa I read your post and have complete sympathy for you. Well not really as someone who has been celibate for 34 years I don't want to hear how much YOU love sex, (a jist want some) but towards the end I nearly peed masel laughing. You are a treasure. lol

PetiePal 2011-01-07 09:02:46 -0600 Report

I don't have the advanced complications yet and I have a pretty decent sex life. I know I crave it much less than my partner does which makes things a little tough sometimes. Sometimes it's hard to maintain an erection which makes me a little nervous during the act but then it becomes more mental then physical.

Speak to your doctor/endo perhaps?

jayabee52 2011-01-07 12:29:55 -0600 Report

I was starting to have problems with ED when I was still with my ex-wife. I was starting to have intermittent physical problems, which then turned into a mental problem for me. She thought it was that she was not desirable enough to me (she was). I think that probably had a part in our breakup. Of course the pressure was on and I had trouble with arousal. Not good.

MAYS 2010-09-16 12:05:35 -0500 Report

But my desire is easily rekindled, when one tool doesn't work, I have others such as my tongue, fingers and imagination to help assist, and stimulate me to put me in the mood, let your mind control what your hormones have taken over.


jigsaw 2012-04-03 19:57:06 -0500 Report

Sounds like you have alot of things going on!!! I admit, my sex drive is not what it was 40 years ago! Then again, I thank my lucky stars, after all, ya gotta think about other things once in a while.

Caroltoo 2012-04-04 00:40:10 -0500 Report

Really? :)

jigsaw 2012-04-04 05:35:40 -0500 Report

To be honest, my mind is consumed and fixated at times!!! Could you give me some therapy??? (-;

Caroltoo 2012-04-04 06:09:52 -0500 Report

I think you are punchy this morning. Night … I have to go get some zzzzz's before today hits me too hard. It's 1A here.

jigsaw 2012-04-04 06:17:51 -0500 Report

Sleep well! I'm not punchy in the slightest! Now you'll be sleeping when I arrive. Go figure!!!

jigsaw 2012-04-04 08:25:53 -0500 Report

Well, what do you expect, she invites me into her office and goes to sleep! What kind of therapy is that???

Caroltoo 2012-04-04 11:56:37 -0500 Report

My husband says I do sometimes. Since he snores like a drum roll, we must have made an interesting symphony for anyone who happened to hear us!

jigsaw 2012-04-04 12:44:32 -0500 Report

Sounds like sleep apnea! My wife use to wear ear plugs before I was diagnosed. I thought she was ridiculous teliing me I snore. Said I sounded like a couple of jet engines, yet I never heard a thing!!

Caroltoo 2012-04-04 12:50:03 -0500 Report

Yes, it does sound like it. I've wondered about me too w/r/t apnea cause he said I would sometimes pause in my breathing. I've had all the tests done and found nothing … same with him though his was a different doctor and clinic.

I found its no longer an issue since I lost weight and I moved him to another room so he doesn't have to try to climb our stairs any longer. He's in a wheelchair most of the time, though he has crawled up the stairs when he really was determined. Aside from that, I felt like I was going to get bounced out of bed every hour when his prostate issues (has cancer) would wake him up for a bathroom run.

jigsaw 2012-04-04 13:17:06 -0500 Report

I suspect when sleep apnea becomes severe enough, most would know it. I use to wake up every once in a while out of breath and gasping for air.
Depending on the type of sleep apnea involved, I would imagine losing weight could minimize or maybe eliminate it.

cavie2 2012-04-04 09:41:21 -0500 Report

Dinnie you be gone twistin' ma words noo. A meant she did the best and wisest thing considering you were here next patient (if that's the right terminology to use)

jayabee52 2011-01-07 12:22:57 -0600 Report

My bride Jem & I both had Neuropathy. By that time I had met her online I pretty much had ED. Tried the ED meds, but no luck. But we did enjoy a physical relationship using the "tools" you mention, and she seemed satisfied with what we could do. Because of her Neuropathy she could not respond fully all the time, but we DID enjoy our private intimate times together.

gogobob 2010-09-15 14:56:33 -0500 Report

Sex drive? what is that…I know I am in need of "GINKO_VIGRIA" so I can remeber what sex is or was…

hogrider37 2010-09-15 08:16:57 -0500 Report

Yes Kimmy, I'm in the same boat you are. My wife just dosent understand how it is. The dr has told her about it but now its to the point that her idea is I dont care to have sex with her anymore, we constantly fight and argue over this issue. I wish she would just understand. I cant take ED pilss because they make me very dizzy. I wish I knew what else i could try. Good luck. I feel your pain.

jason123 2010-09-14 09:54:48 -0500 Report

I don't have neuropathy as of now and hope to keep it this way. I know a few people have manage to reverse the damage neuropathy caused by keeping their A1C at very low level like 5.0…I know it is a lot of work, but maybe worth it…What is your A1C now?

KimmyLSch 2010-09-14 10:54:23 -0500 Report

My A1C is 5.6 which isn't bad, DR thinks neroptahy damage of the feet and legs started when I was a prediabetic for so long.

jason123 2010-09-14 12:13:29 -0500 Report

Your dr is right. Do you have neuropathy on feet and legs? What are you doing about it? If I were you I would drive my A1C to 5.0 or lower, there is nothing to lose…You wanna do this before damage become permanent, the longer you wait, the less fully you can recover..

KimmyLSch 2010-09-15 09:56:17 -0500 Report

Yes I do have it on my feet, legs and hands. I just take Lyrica and hydrocodone for pain. I would like to lower my A1C but its so hard.

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-09-14 10:57:22 -0500 Report

Have you gone thru menopause yet?

jayabee52 2010-09-14 01:32:33 -0500 Report

Howdy Kimmy

The short answer for me and my bride "Jem" was YES. I have the tingling of neuro in my private area, and couldn't become stimulated. Jem couldn't respond as fully as she had wanted either. But that didn't mean we couldn't love one another physically. We did what we could do and enjjoyed our physical relationship as much as our emotional relationship together. We just couldn't have "the big O" either individually or together, even though she said she came mighty close several times.

We enjoyed what we could while we were together (she has since passed on) and I have loving memories of what we did have and COULD do together.

BTW: Welcome to DC !

Blessings to you and yours


BandonBob 2011-01-07 13:31:04 -0600 Report

I'm happy for you that you have such good memories. The last 5 years before my wife diedshe was totally unable to do much for herself and as my problems incresed we did much as you and your wife. We discovered things that worked for us and even though it was not a perfect sex life it was good for us. Whe God takes something away one needs to be a litt;le more creative.

KimmyLSch 2010-09-14 09:15:14 -0500 Report

wow James, so sorry for your loss. I'm the one with the trouble and my husband is not very understanding. Not sure what to do.

jayabee52 2010-09-14 12:36:30 -0500 Report

Kimmy, Thank you for your kind words about my loss

You might want to bring hubby here and let him read this discussion, and maybe even ask questions. I believe I invited you to be a friend, and if you accepted friend invite he could even email me through DC mail and get an idea of what you're facing. He could email someone like Jeannie Holmes (with her permission of course - you'd of course have to be friends if you aren't already) and ask her about her experience.

"Jem" was my 2nd bride. my 1st wife didn't like it because I started having intermittent problems with ED about 10 yrs ago. I'm pretty sure it was a factor in her decision to drop the Divorce bomb on me.

If he's willing to come in here and talk to some of us, it MIGHT make a difference. I'm willing if he is.

Blessings to you and yours


Harlen 2010-09-13 17:48:28 -0500 Report

Has not slowed me down yet lol I hope it will not wife would not like it lol
You may wish to see your Doc over it they may be able to help you.
best wishes

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