By nuyorican64 Latest Reply 2010-09-17 21:45:43 -0500
Started 2010-09-12 10:10:58 -0500

Any advice on how to control this out of control and somewhat dangerous emotion

13 replies

mas14years 2010-09-17 16:26:26 -0500 Report

Hello, I think anger is an emotion that every individual deals with in their lifetime. With me I try to stop and think what am I really angry about and what can I do to change it. I tried to just blame and hate diabetes itself. Although diabetes has a huge role to play in it, I was angry at myself honestly for not being the best I could be.
By no means am I saying that about you, I didnt want you to take that the wrong way. Just figure out what exactlly it is getting you so mad. If you are able and have the time, maybe take a kickboxing class or exercise. It will help to get a lot of frustration out in a positive way. Exercise is good for us all anyways. I hope this helps… good luck, being angry and staying angry takes a lot of work. Sometimes it is best to just let go.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-09-15 23:26:56 -0500 Report

Hi! I appreciate your honesty about your anger. We live in times when many people are frustrated and scared, and those feelings often lead to anger. And it is normal to react to a medical diagnosis, and the treatment and lifestyle challenges that go along with it, by getting angry. Again, its normal. And as you probably know, blood sugar levels can affect emotions.

I wasn't sure what you meant by 'control. It can be helpful to express your anger in a safe place, maybe by sitting down with someone who is willing and able to listen and not judge you or try to tell you what to do. Just sit down and get the anger out. When you release anger in a safe place, it goes away, so you don't have to control it and, more important, it doesn't have to control you.

Now, if your anger is affecting your life in negative ways, that is something to look at. Are you holding your anger in so tightly that you are making yourself sick? Does your anger get released at the wrong times, through blowing up at people you care about, or people at work, or people you run into on the street? Is your anger placing other people at risk physically? Are you afraid you might blow up and hurt yourself in some way? Do you get so mad that you don't take care of yourself? Have you lost jobs or friends or alienated family members?

Anger can empower us to take charge of our life and to make the world a better place, but, as I said, it can also cause distruction if it is not channeled in a positive direction.

I wouuld encourage you to reach out for help from a mental health professional if you are concerned about your anger and how it is being expressed. I am assuming from your screen name that you are in NYC. There are many, many resources here -- mental health agencies, anger management groups, support groups for diabetics, spiritual groups... do a search on anger management and your city and you will see all kinds of resources that you can tap into.

Get support. I am sure your friends on Diabetic Connect will have some experiences to share about how they have handled their anger.

Thanks for sharing about how you're feeling. That is the first step.

Don't go through this alone. Reach out! And keep us posted.

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-09-14 01:18:10 -0500 Report

Happy day Sir,
Here is something that helped me but what works for one may not work for all Be blessed & know that you are favored in the name of Jesus.


Memorize and Meditate on God's Word

Don't give full vent to your anger.
Don't take revenge on a violator.
Don't get caught up in name-calling.
(Matt. 5:22)
Don't expect perfection from people.
Seek out the source of your anger.
Ask your wise God for His wisdom.
(James 1:5)
Be slow to speak if angry.
(James 1:19,20)
Release your right to stay angry.
(Col. 3:8)
Give your anger to God.
(1Pet. 5:7)
Pray for those who persecute you.
Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
(Col. 3:13)
Trust God to bring good from your trials.
Stay ready to forgive anyone for anything.
( Eph. 4:31,32)

ANGER is one letter away from DANGER.


Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

Guardianstone 2010-09-14 00:20:41 -0500 Report

I understand what you are saying. I have a violent temper. When I feel the urge to rip the roof off the planet I log into the DC family, and read posts, write to our DC family and just let the love and nurturing help.
It sounds corney but it worked for me. It doesn't work always, I just focus on not breaking another wall. Hope this helps.
Guardian stone

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-09-17 21:45:43 -0500 Report

I really like your response. Getting support is a great way to regain your center before the anger gets out of control. Remind yourself that people care about you and that life isn't so bad after alll.

GabbyPA 2010-09-13 19:26:55 -0500 Report

One thing that helps me is to walk away and talk to myself about what is really going on. A lot of times I get angry at someone or something because I am already frustrated. Once I make that connection, I realize that I don't need to take out my frustrations on someone else. It doesn't always work, mostly be cause I don't stop soon enough. But there are times when I do and I can get myself to look more calmly at the situation. I usually find out there is nothing to get angry about, just dealing with myself.

jayabee52 2010-09-12 18:13:22 -0500 Report

I have had to take some anger management classes. And I HAVE lost a 25 year marriage, in part because of diabetes and my craziness due to that. And I have alienated one of my 3 sons due to that.

I have found that MY best way to combat my mad and sad feelings is to dance, particularly learning a new type of dance (I'm trying to learn salsa).

Dancing is an excellent physical exercise which is fun to do. It doesn't feel like exercise. Also it is a good social experience and it also is a workout for the brain because you must remember the patterns you want to lead your partner into (if you are the male) or recognize your partner's lead.

And I have found, from my experience, you can't dance and be angry or depressed (anger turned inward).

From what you wrote in your profile I think you've found the right place.

a BIG WELCOME to DC "nuyor­ican"

Blessings to you and yours!


BTW: you might want to click on discussions tab at left and then enter "Sugar Blues" in the search box at the right, and read through some of the discussions which come up.

Kaiyle 2010-09-12 17:25:18 -0500 Report

One of the best things I've found to combat those emotions is exercise. My favorite outlet is martial arts. There's no better release than to pound the bag repeatedly and break a few boards with a side kick. Breathe…Inhale, exhale, all is well with the world now. : )

jason123 2010-09-12 13:26:24 -0500 Report

where does your anger come from? I know you have diabetes, but can you be more specific? If you don't wanna dish out your dirty laundry here in public, maybe you should seek professional help, from someone like Dr Gary on this board…I am not recommending him since I don't know him…Welcome to DC, good luck to you and hope you feel better soon..

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-09-12 11:31:10 -0500 Report

I think we are too afraid to tell you! LOL
Diabetis really messes with your emotions. Hormones go crazy and some of us go off the wall. My family has learned to deal with it and when I realize what I'm doing I stop. It helps some if you have some kind of outlet for the anger. I go outside and scream my head off. I don't have any close neighbors!!
Good luck with this! HUGS

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