The Harsh Reality of Being Diabetic ... How To Explain It To Loved Ones

By MAYS Latest Reply 2010-09-16 12:37:29 -0500
Started 2010-09-06 07:55:26 -0500

Let's face it.

You have diabetes, and yes you are a diabetic.

Do you tell your loved ones?
How do you tell your loved ones?
When do you tell your loved ones?

So much emphasis is put on "not" knowing how to tell them, it's as simple as you telling them that you "love" them.

It's more important for you to accept your diagnosis of diabetes, and you must be proactive towards your care first and foremost.

You are not protecting others, you are creating unnecessary stress in your life while pondering this minor issue, the major issue is the caring of yourself once you have been diagnosed.

Here is how you can tell others that you are a diabetic, it will require 30-60 minutes of time (both yours, and theirs) including the Q and A session that is sure to follow:

A great site for information:

View this information together, and move on, going forward with your life, caring for yourself as a diabetic, and living a healthy lifestyle.

We all love attention, and diabetes should have your full attention 100%.

After all, it is "YOUR" diabetes, and "YOUR" responsibility!


15 replies

Anonymous 2010-09-07 09:47:42 -0500 Report

I do not tell anyone. I cannot accept this curse (t1) on my life that has destroyed me totally. It is shaming, humiliating, degrading, debasing , embarrassing and repugnant to any human being.

mo91108 2010-09-16 12:37:29 -0500 Report

I was barely diagnosed with type 1 5 months ago and I do not consider it a curse, but a blessing. I know it is hard sometimes, but it saved my life. I was unhealthy even more than the diabetes. now the only thing I didn't like for the first month my family treated me like a china doll. But with a good support system and knowing you can still live a normal life even with a pump or needles everyday you can beat diabetes by not dying from its complications, but you can't beat it if you are negative about it. I really hope you see this diagnosis a little more light hearted. Good Luck

MAYS 2010-09-16 12:16:59 -0500 Report

Diabetes is not a curse, the curse is believing that you are being punished in some sort of way, which you are not.

It's all about thinking positive, no it won't cure diabetes, but having an understanding of what, and why concerning diabetes will help you.

Curses do not exist, they come true only if we think and dwell on them making them real.
The best thing that you can do for yourself is deal with your diabetes, by doing so, you will be taking correct care of yourself, when that happens, you will begin to feel better physically, mentally and emotionally.

Diabetes hurts, but that's only if we allow it too.
You need to begin by communicating with others, here and abroad about diabetes and it's symptoms, we are here, dealing with diabetes as a group,
join us, help us while we try to help you.

Families stick together.


GabbyPA 2010-09-10 09:15:25 -0500 Report

I am sorry to hear you feel this way. As a type 1 I am sure you have suffered at it's hand since child hood and imagine there is a lot of pain that kids inflict on diabetic kids. Even well meaning adults can be quite annoying. Keeping it private is often the best way to avoid that kind of misunderstanding. I keep mine close to me, and share it with only a few.

Why is it that you see it as a humiliating or degrading disease? I can see that it would be hard and inconvenient and even sometimes embarrassing. Specially to suffer a low and require assistance. Why would you think it to be repugnant to anyone? I think it can be a rather discrete disease if you choose to make it so. But why anyone would be repulsed by it? I just seek to understand why you feel such sufferage.

jayabee52 2010-09-10 00:59:20 -0500 Report

I suspect you have some heavy duty personality issues.

This is meant with a lot of love and concern for you.

Please see a professional counselor. This self loathing needs to be worked on with someone who knows diabetics and their issues.

Are you taking care of yourself (I sincerely pray you are but suspect you are not) or are you comitting slow-motion suicide?

I wonder what you did (in your belief) to CAUSE your T1? (I believe you DID NOT CAUSE your T1 !)

If you DID NOT cause your T1 why are you feeling shame, humiliation & degradation?

Please cut yourself some slack!

And as far as YOU being repugnant to ME (I hope you will grant that I am a human being) YOU ARE NOT REPUGNANT to ME!

You are a human being created by God, and "God don't make no junk!"

I am trying to move you to get some help. All I can do now is put it in your hands and pray to God for you that He will move you to seek help..

I am sure that others here on DC will also pray for you

May God richly bless you and yours,


jason123 2010-09-06 21:43:05 -0500 Report

Hey mays, thanks for the links, lots of good information. I think the reason why people don't reveal D to their friends/relatives is because of the harsh judgements they may receive, especially when they are over weighted. If one is not over weighted or consider himself so will probably not even understand the problem.

I was at the obese level when I was diagnosed. I shared my medical conditions with strangers, that I met in dr.'s office, strangers in support/education groups, and a few very selected friends/families, who will not only support me but also will not gossip about it…for the rest of my family/friends, that is what this country has a medical record privacy law for :-).

I joined the gym shortly after DX, losing weight is not only looking good but also survival, quit smoking not only save money, but also make your car smell good…4 monthes later I lost more than 40 lbs. Many of the people I didn't tell actually congratulated me, 'Oh..ehhh, I joined the gym..' I explained to them. 'where do you workout?', 'was the smoking ceasation class really free?' they will ask, no one suspected I was hiding something from them.

Once at a party, one of my friend actually caught me licking my finger. 'What happened, did you get a cut?' I calmly put the testing kit in my pocket, 'Oh..:-)..don't worry about it.' It is OK if they think I am a little mystrious, I can live with it.

I think people most likely to support you and not pass judgements are your parents, spouse, children…strangers/new friends from support groups on and off the internet including this one…TRUST YOUR OWN INSTINCT, no need to tell anyone you don't want to…Don't let anything interfere with your war on diabetes…weight loss is good, I now have a BMI of 22, which is lower than most of my non-D friends, if they have a judgement, they can keep it to themselves…

GabbyPA 2010-09-10 09:08:23 -0500 Report

What a great story of success. I am kind of the same way. Keep it to myself on the outside. Most people don't get it, even the ones who love you, unless they battle it daily as well. I do like the "mystery man" concept though...nothing will get them talking more. LOL!

I will use it as a teaching tool though. My husband on the other hand tells the world that his wife is diabetic. "She can't have the sweet tea, she's a diabetic." LOL. He even tests my tea for me, just in case they didn't hear him. Gotta love 'em.

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-09-06 18:06:56 -0500 Report

Happy day Mays,
Glad to be apart of this family where we can find out new information everyday. Stay blessed & know that you are favored in the name of Jesus.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

MAYS 2010-09-06 21:56:47 -0500 Report

Mama Dee, we are all glad that you are also a member of this great, and wonderful family!


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