By optimistic Latest Reply 2008-09-24 08:39:36 -0500
Started 2008-09-13 16:44:25 -0500

My name is Marti Ann, I have a problem with my diet and Amy suggested that I ask our Diabetic Community for help. Here goes: The main problem I am having is this, I am wheelchair bound and have very little mobility. My daughter helps out at home when she is available but is not here alot of the time. She is only 20 and doesn't really understand the importance of following the diabetic diet. Not to mention the fact that I feel like I'm being to big of a burden on her. She has been taking care of me for the last 4 years. The first problem is that I am unable to prepare food on my own anymore and with my daughter gone most of the time, I usually don't eat anything during the day. The apartment I live in is not made for someone in a wheelchair and therefore, I can't get to the stove, food supply or dishes. For the most part, I eat maybe one time a day. The second problem is that I'm just not hungry! I have been used to eating only dinner each day. When I do eat, I might be able to get approximately 2 to 3 ounces of meat, 1/4 cup of vegetables and 1/2 cup of fruit in before I feel so stuffed that I can't eat anymore. I do try to get some raw vegetables and fruit in when there's nobody to cook for me. I don't qualify for a home choreworker because I have an ablebodied adult (my daughter) living with me. Do any of you have either of these problems? If anyone has any good ideas or suggestions, PLEASE HELP ME by sending them my way. Thank you in advance for any help you can give.

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doris 2008-09-24 08:39:36 -0500 Report

I don't know where you're located but we have a corporation for the aging and handicapped in our city. Secondly There might be a program similar to ours which is Philadelphia Corporation For the Aging that does meals on Wheels for seven Days,,,, once a week. They can be reached on line at If not try 215-282-6410 fax:282-6609

seawolf1944 2008-09-23 12:44:02 -0500 Report

Hi Hopeless,
I have never experienced a problem like yours. I need to know if,There is a gency that provides Meals on Wheels. If so maybe, They can provide you with diabetic diet orientated meals. If,You own your own house, There may be agencies,Who might remodel your kitchen so that,It might be more diabetic friendly. I hope that,This helps.John

Dici 2008-09-22 06:19:50 -0500 Report

Dear Marti Ann:
I agree with the suggestions about checking with your church for volunteer help. I have to tell you, churches are great in that once they find out there is a need, there are many more volunteers than just in one church. A lot of them are networked in many churches. Another avenue you may want to check out is having your doctor set up an appointment with a medical social worker. I would also suggest seeing about a different apartment or checking if the landlord will modify your existing apartment to meet your needs. There are organizations out there that will come in and do the modification work at little or no cost. Plus, your landlord/property owner does have a requirement per the law to accomodate your needs within reason. You'd need to check with your local Housing Authority to find out the details.
Next: I agree that having a talk with your daughter is important! I'm betting she just isn't aware and if you let her know, I'm betting she'll want to help come up with a "routine" to make it easier for both of you. It will take work in the beginning, but will be worth it. Also, it is very important for you to have good nutrition. It's not a bad thing for you not to feel so hungry, but, you body does need more than just one meal a day. "Finger foods" are a great way to make sure you get enough nutrition per day. Nuts, fruits, veggies, ect. A little bit goes a long way. "Snack packs" can be pre-measured and pre-made, but again, it'll take a little work. Also, the make ahead meals are really, really worth it. For example, in my household, we set aside certain days to cook food that can be frozen in portions for quick and easy cooking. Soups, stews, breads, muffins, ect. Things that are healthy and keep the diabetic requirements in mind that can also be heated in a microwave when time is pressing. Again, there are volunteer organizations that can come to you if you can't get to them that can do the cooking and work for you. Believe me, I found that out myself from experience that all it takes is asking for the help. It's also a blessing in disguise, because you'll meet people who might become some of your best friends. :-)
Good luck and remember, you're not alone. There are people out there who would be more than happy to help out, you just have to ask! *HUGS*

beauty416 2008-09-22 04:58:50 -0500 Report

These are very good suggestions. I especially like Gabby's article. Please do whatever you can to get the nutrition you need. I can't give you any more information than what is already there.

ldesotle 2008-09-21 23:11:40 -0500 Report

Good Morning Marti Ann

Though I still work I sit a lot due to a variety of other health issues my mobility is very limited. I have receintly learned about a food program called Angel Food Ministries. They provide a variety of cooked and uncooked meals,fresh fruits and vegitables with all of the nutritional information. There may be one in your community or a simular program. Check with your local churches. I am a new diabetic and am finding it hard to learn to eat enough meals each day also. Like you I am used to eating 1 big meal a day which I find is no longer working for me. Over the weekend I try to cook or buy enough food or meals to keep me with a supply of snacks for during the week something else you may be able to work out with your daughter or a friend to help you supply yourself with enough ready to eat or maybe microwave meals for during the week. I hope some of my suggestions help in some way. Keep the faith. Lynn

Buddysmom 2008-09-20 13:48:51 -0500 Report

Maybe you would qualify for an EDCD waver through social services. I have a son that is 11 years old and wheelchair bound. This waver pays for the attendent care so that I can work and not have to worry about paying for the childcare. A lot of adults and disabled people have this waver.

Carole Compton
Carole Compton 2008-09-20 14:31:04 -0500 Report

You need to eat regularly. Five small meals a day are ideal. Maybe you could buy a small refrigerator for $120, and a small microwave for less than $50. I agree with other responders about yoplait low-fat yogurt, and snacks of fresh fruits, vegetables, and nuts. You could have a cup of soup. If your water is very hot, you don't need a microwave. You could have your daughter pack a small ice chest to keep cheese and ice for drinks. In the bathroom, you could wash one cup, dish, and silverware, or buy disposable. You just move your preparation area to the bedroom or hall, or a closet. You don't mention taking your blood sugar. It should not go below 70. I agree your daughter needs to help you more. Write down what you need from her. Do you have food stores that deliver groceries? They are reasonable. They will bring bags to your kitchen.
Keep plugging away. Apply to other apartments. Call yours regularly and ask where you are on the list. You might get it sooner.

Paula - 14421
Paula - 14421 2008-09-20 14:56:48 -0500 Report

One thing I would like to say all of the suggestions are great but please do not be to proud to ask and reach out for help in your community. There are so many organizations out there to help people like you that are house bound and need help. My mother is disabled and relies only on my brother and he only comes around when he feels like it. I'm 3 thousand miles away I've gone on-line and found all these places that help seniors and disabled people but she is so proud and worry about what people will think. She doesn't want me to even make the call. When I told her I was going to send someone she said she wouldn't answer the door. So don't put your eggs in one basket(your daughter) open the phone book and keep making calls to get the help you need.

My Best to you,

Ruth54 2008-09-20 06:14:45 -0500 Report

I am a diabetic and am alone. I have found really good frozen dinner with the Angel Food Ministeries that can be heated in microwave. I am sure there is a church in your area that have this. You get 10 meals for about $25 dollars. The meals are low sodium compared to those that you buy in store and have a meat veg starch and sometimes a fruit. If you can reach a meal out of freeze and microwave, then you could have a hot meal at lunch then another at night with daughter. God Bless you.

PAT L 2008-09-20 13:47:58 -0500 Report


John Crowley
John Crowley 2008-09-15 10:09:34 -0500 Report

In addition to the many great suggestions already listed, I think you could talk to your daughter about how important eating healthy is for you. Then, if you could perhaps help plan out some healthy dinners she could make, you could ask her to make a little extra. That way you could eat the left-overs for lunch the next day.

Then you'd simply need to figure out something healthy for breakfast. But you could find something like lean-and-fit yogurt that could be simple for you to get for yourself.

optimistic 2008-09-16 06:17:24 -0500 Report

All good ideas John. I saw my endocrinologist yesterday and talk with him about the nutrition problem. He gave me permission to get back on Glucerna or the new Boost for diabetics. He told me not to take my short-acting insulin before drinking them, otherwise my blood sugars would drop to low. He suggested the Boost over the Glucerna because it has more vitamins, nutrients and protien. Yogart is something I can also have. I prefer Yoplait Light yogart over all the other brands. It tastes sweeter and doesn't have that nasty after taste. Thanks for you input.
marti ann

DonnaAnn 2008-09-14 22:23:36 -0500 Report

Hello marti Ann.
have you tried calling some local churches? many churches have vollenteer services to the community. Many of the congregation follow the 7 good deeds (like myself) and perhaps you could find someone to come out to help you.
I have a son who is 20 and he is not always here to help me either, so I ask my neighbors to help. check your local newspapers. there are literally hundreds of volenteers that might be able to come and help.
I understand what it like to have a able bodied person who is not as helpful as they could be. Can you apply for a handicapped apartment? My best to you. good luck.
As far as eating, if you do not want to eat full meals, there is nothing wrong with that kiddo. Nibble good stuff thru the day: fruit, veggies,nuts. Have your daughter put these items where you can reach them while she is gone. is it possible that she can make you a prepared dish(s) before she leaves?

optimistic 2008-09-15 00:11:44 -0500 Report

Hi DonnaAnn,
I will give the volunteer angel a try. Our community has a meals on wheels program but you have to be completely homebound to qualify, plus they charge $3.00 a meal that I can't afford. I am currently on waiting lists for a wheelchair accessible apartment and have been waiting for 4 years. I do try to snack during the day when I remember! My problem in that area is that I just don't feel hungry, therefore I don't remember to eat!

GabbyPA 2008-09-14 11:41:01 -0500 Report

Hi Marti,

My husband is in a wheelchair too, and there are many things that can be limiting for him. I work away from home most days and he cooks one night a week. I only say that to say here is what I do for him to help.

I get out all the supplies he is going to need to do dinner that day. I pull the plates down, I get the pans out, I reach the things that are out of his reach and make sure they are on the counter for him.

Anything that he tends to need in the frige, I keep on the two lower shelves, more at his eye level so he doesn't have to be frustrated looking for something to eat during the day. Hi is not diabetic, so I also buy him frozen foods that he can pop in the microwave. I am personally not a fan of that kind of food, but maybe you can freeze some home made soups or something?

I also have a designated area where I keep glasses, bowls and some dishes just for him, so when I am away, he can take care of himself.

We plan our dinner time meals two weeks at a time, so we know what is going to need to be done. Perhaps you could plan your meals for when she is away, so that she can get you set up everyday to make it easier for you. She loves you, she just may not know what you need if you are not asking. Fraility is not something kids belive in. It is a hard concept to grasp.

I would suggest sitting down with your daughter and having a heart to heart. Find out if she is bothered by helping you? You might find that she really isn't. It took a while for me to get my step daughter to understand that just not making something with sugar didn't mean I could eat it. (every meal she would cook had pasta in it, my nemisis!)I helped her help me, by giving her lists of things I needed to avoid and ways that she could cook a better meal for the family.

Raw food is actually very good for you, so I would suggest keep eating that. I make a HUGE tupperware of salad ever few days, so there is always salad available for the family.

Can you use a microwave? Sometimes just making a little extra of your meal the night before and putting it in a microwavable dish where you can reach it will give you a hot lunch the next day.

There is another discussion on the site called "Family Eating" and it has a lot of great ideas for eating as a family and getting non-daibetic members to undertand what our needs are.

Have some fun with her. Make a special dish together, bake cookies for her, spend time with her doing what you need most, love and laughter.

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