My lover and I have a little problem in the bedroom!

By blj.edge Latest Reply 2015-01-09 14:21:53 -0600
Started 2010-08-26 10:26:52 -0500

It sounds like most diabetics have this problem. But the question is how do we fix it? I've had diabetes for 12 years now and i've never had a problem with sex. But for the last year, i've lost the desire for sex. I've only been with my partner for six months now, and he says he understands. And i know he does on some level, but how long will he be understanding. How can i get my desire for sex back before i lose my partner that i plan on marring next year? It's annoying that i can't get a hardon and if i do i can't keep it long. I don't understand why this is happing and how i can fix it. And i know he's annoyed by it as well.

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RAYT721 2010-08-26 17:49:18 -0500 Report

Desire and ability are two different things. In one sentence you mention losing the desire for sex. That may explain the annoyance that you've mentioning with getting/maintaining erections. Do you have things on your mind that may be interfering with your body? There are a number of discussions on diabetes and ED here (see archives) as well as many other sites on the web. This is a common problem for diabetics and there are a number of treatment options for you. I would start with the dreaded conversation with your physician. Do not be ashamed or embarrassed to approach the issue. Sex is a natural part of life and relationships. Hopefully you'll be "up" to continuing a happy and healthy life with your partner soon. Oh, and welcome to the site!!!

LennyDenny 2010-08-26 12:38:52 -0500 Report

Mays is right - your body is telling you something. Make sure you check with your dr. about testosterone levels. It used to be they never check it but it is becoming more previlent and it could be one of a number of problems. Take control of the situation.

MAYS 2010-08-26 12:15:28 -0500 Report

You are displaying the true "Art of Manliness," and I like that!

Your willingness to post this discussion proves one thing, you are one of these "new men," one who isn't afraid to talk about, or deal with issues that were once considered "taboo," such as sex, and being honestly in love.

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MAYS 2010-08-26 11:02:14 -0500 Report

Diabetes has an effect on your hormones, which in turn has an effect on your libido!
In a male, your testosterone level can fluctuate, thereby causing problems sexually.
See your doctor, explain the situation, something can, and will be worked out (your still young).

Don't lose your "head," or your composure, it's startling, but it's not the sign of things to come (fortunately) if you act appropriately, nor is it the end of the world, it's simply a wake up call.

"It" didn't fall off, or "curl up" and die, it's telling you to get control of your diabetes.

Your body is talking to you, it's time to listen!


RebDee 2015-01-09 14:21:53 -0600 Report

Even if you cannot have intercourse, there are many things that you and your partner can do to show each other that you love them.

realsis77 2010-08-26 10:50:15 -0500 Report

I would visit my doctor and explain my problem and maybe he/she can help you with medication. If your doctor says your healthy enough there are many pills on the market today just for that problem. It sounds like your partner is understanding and he will support you in your decision. I would make an appointment to see what the doctor has to say! Maybe he/she can help with a prescription. Good luck to you.

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