Alone with Diabetes ?

Robert C. H.
By Robert C. H. Latest Reply 2011-02-03 19:06:02 -0600
Started 2010-08-26 09:46:14 -0500

I live alone and because of other illnesess have lost what I thought of were friends, so I find myself alone quite a bit, I have joined Diabetic Connect but I find that my other illnesess keep me from getting on line to often Has anyone else had this problem. thanks


50 replies

MewElla
MewElla 2011-02-03 19:06:02 -0600 Report

Hey, we are very happy to have you on this site. It is hard being alone, I totally understand this. I have found so much support from the other diabetics on the site that it has been a Godsend for me. There are a lot of interesting folks on here that I really look forward to hearing from very frequently..It has taken me from being so lonely to be enjoying and learning from others on here. You are not alone here. Remember, we are always here for you. Keep us posted…Stay warm and bundle up this week.

leonmelton
leonmelton 2011-02-03 17:36:57 -0600 Report

i live alone too so i know how you feel. i get on the computer. call a friend . and try to keep busy at something. i know health problems can keep you from doing a lot of things but but try to find something like reading or puzzles or something else that does not require much activity to help occupy your time when you have the lonesome blues. my prayers will be with you.

melissa5786
melissa5786 2011-02-03 10:26:36 -0600 Report

I'm so sorry that your "friends" did that to you. I can't say that I know how you feel and what you're going through. My friends have been so supportive of me since I got sick and diagnosed. My best friend, of 13 years, has been amazing. I can't imagine any of them just abandoning me because of something like illness.

I think you made a great decision by coming on here. These people are amazing and supportive and there for you. And best of all; they know what you're going through.

Keep your head up. We're all here for you. :D

hogrider37
hogrider37 2010-09-15 08:54:12 -0500 Report

Hi. If those friends you had arent around anymore then I'd say they werent really friends to begin with. There were only there for other reasons. Youll find more better friends that can realte with you, that have the same conditions that you do. Dont give up, they are out there. And I believe the ladys name is pynetree, please contact me by email, I'd like to talk to you about something I read in one of your posts. Thankyou

Cheryl*G
Cheryl*G 2010-09-06 16:17:45 -0500 Report

Yes I have loss several so called friends since being diagnosed this year. I don't have to many friends left but the ones I still have are behind me all the way! You have friends on here!

carmenrose
carmenrose 2010-09-04 22:13:04 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry you lost your fair-weather friends, but I most certainly know you've made a wonderful decision to go to this website, because we all have the same thing in common and will be friends to you. How long have you been with Diabetes Connect? I haven't been very long, but from what I have seen, I certainly have gained friends and a wealth of valuable information on diabetes. You aren't alone here.

milesrf
milesrf 2010-09-03 00:05:33 -0500 Report

Would you prefer a near opposite problem? I lived alone for years, until I was diagnosed with both diabetes and another medical problem that made it unwise to live alone. I'm now in assisted living, and near some of my relatives, but during the move here lost most of the information needed to contact my friends from before then. I'm now online much more often, though - often 12 or more hours a day.

Elrond
Elrond 2010-09-01 02:47:51 -0500 Report

While I dislike climbing back onto my soapbox, several months ago I suggested a 'buddy system' where members here picked out a friend and exchanged real names, addresses, and phone numbers, along with contacts for emergency services. The 'buddies' could frequently be in contact, check in when going to be away, and generally keep track of each other. With the internet and free cell phone long distance, it really wouldn't matter if the buddies were on opposite sides of the continent. But many people hesitate to give out personal information. *shrug*

2004jeep
2004jeep 2010-09-04 20:12:17 -0500 Report

I think that a awsome idea. Somebody/Anybody can e-mail me. I'm always at home I don't work. Just me and my daudhound meoscars .

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-09-01 18:57:50 -0500 Report

So Elrond, who have you picked? I suppose that would be the best place to start. I have 3 people that I contact via mail and an occasional phone call. It is cool to have a voice to go with the picture on here.

Elrond
Elrond 2010-09-04 05:19:31 -0500 Report

Actually, Gabby, I have a roommate so she and I keep track of each other very well. She's an older lady and we're not a romantic couple. I pay to use her second bedroom. In exchange, I drive her frequently and do most of the cooking. We 'look out for each other' but both are free to date if we choose. She'll be 70 next month so she doesn't date much because her 90 y/o boyfriend isn't up to much. Neither of us spends much time home alone though.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-09-04 10:44:32 -0500 Report

That is a great start. It is good to have a Diabetic Buddy so to speak. I also live with my diabetic mother and we watch out for each other a lot. A friend of mine found out she was diabetic about 6 months after me, so we share our ideas with each other quite often. You are right though. Getting to know people here beyond the chat room is a great idea.

grandmalilly
grandmalilly 2010-08-30 15:15:52 -0500 Report

i live alone too but i have a niece and a son that call me several times a day to check in with me to make sure i'm o.k. my son is also diabetic now too . he just found out about a month ago. he lives in one state and i live in another but he is going to move down here with me soon. he has 4 kids but 2 are grown now so i think he will bring 2 of them with him. i have 3 children but i don't hear from 2 of my kids . i also raised 3 of my grandchildren and they keep in touch with me.ask god to be with you and he will. he loves each and everyone of us no matter what.

mmccance
mmccance 2010-08-29 00:00:06 -0500 Report

Hi Robert C. H. — I would like to share something that a friend and mentor shared with me. I too am single, and while I am a prediabetic and obese, I don't have too many other illnesses. But what I do, since I am also unemployed, is spend a lot of time alone. What my friend shared with me is to make it a habit, a duty, to call at least one person every day to find out how they are. I have only recently started doing this, but, it makes a real difference in how I see my day.

Call one of those friends you thought you lost just to say Hello and how are you doing. Share what is going on with you, but don't hog the conversation. Let them express where they are and listen to what they have to say. You will become a bright spot in their day — and you will feel the shine also.

Go for it Robert. You don't have to pretend to be what you are not, just share gently. Get on line when you can. Call a friend when you can. And if you can call every day, every day will be better. If you reach out to support others — they will reach back. See how many people reached back when you reached out here? Well. There you are. You are loved and You are worthwhile. Reach out and let someone else know they are loved and they are worthwhile. You will be glad you did.

Pynetree
Pynetree 2010-09-01 12:00:14 -0500 Report

I really like this…hope to make it a habit. I am morbidly obese..no longer working, hard to get around, stopped driving. So I find myself home alone and losing contact with "the world". But think that I will start calling old friends once in a while..just for a bit of human contact.

Ms. Minnie
Ms. Minnie 2010-08-30 19:50:03 -0500 Report

What a wonderful idea! Simple, but yet allows you as a person to remain connected.

I am a single mother of a 7 year old. I feel I am lost in my daughters life. I'm wondering how I will get my life back one day. Being a single mom is quite new to me (it will be 1 year in the middle of September).

Thanks for the great idea!

jayabee52
jayabee52 2010-08-28 12:54:27 -0500 Report

Howdy! Robert,
I suspect feel quite similar to what you're feeling. Mine was I moved away from friends, family and many acquaintences to marry my Bride "Jem". Now she is no longer in this world and I am left alone.

Not knowing your living situation, I am a bit concerned that you have someone to check in with you regularly to see if you're OK. I pray that you do.

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-08-28 09:14:44 -0500 Report

Hello Robert;
This is the first group I have joined. I am prone to depression (before and after being diagnosed with diabeties). I have both panic and anxiety attacks that tend to keep me from making friends easly.
I think I can understand what you are talking about. Friends are difficult enough to make when there is nothing out of the ordinary wrong. When some people find something is wrong they run away and hide. From what I have seen here, I think I have found a place full of people willing and eager to try to help, or just listen.
You don't have to be here every day, but if you want or need to talk, someone is here. I understand you can't always get to the site because you are ill. When you are feeling up to it, please come talk to and with us.
((((HUGS))))!!

Guardian stone

Robert C. H.
Robert C. H. 2010-09-05 12:33:51 -0500 Report

I Thank you ,I to Have Panic attacks and anxity, I was afraid to drive,or even go out anyehere,as I have had attacks when out and they drain me,for hours and hours,and I sleep for long periods of time.,I thank everyone for their kind thoughts and suggestions.

Kaiyle
Kaiyle 2010-08-28 03:25:36 -0500 Report

I believe God led you to this site so you could see that you are not as alone as you may feel. This community of genuinely caring people has become a place of refuge, a sanctuary of support, encouragement, and hope. So there will be no throwing in the towel!!! No matter how many times you may get knocked down, with all of your heart, get back up and fight!!!! You get up and fight knowing you have a place in this world, in this community and what you have to contribute is of incredible value because it's coming from an incredibly valuable human being.

donna50
donna50 2010-08-26 21:47:38 -0500 Report

iam really starting to really give up i can only get my blood suger down to 300
and iam constanly giving myself insulin any sugestion i even belive that my doc ha s given up

snow2
snow2 2010-08-28 23:59:57 -0500 Report

hi i was just reading what you had written and i have the same problem almost however mine does come down to the 200 area but it also goes right back up.

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-08-28 09:27:36 -0500 Report

Donna50,
I hope your doctor is just confused, and frustrated that you're body is not respond as fast or as well as they want. Most doctors (if they are true to their profession) won't give up on a patient.
Please don't give up on yourself. There people here who need you. (((HUGS)))

Guardian stone

donna50
donna50 2010-08-29 22:01:41 -0500 Report

my doctor seems to think that 300 bs is agood thing for me he seems tlike be ready to throw in the towel if anyone could help with what i shoud do i know that you could give me some suggestion my husbund said i should fire him and get a new doctor but i dont know maybe it is just me doing the wrong thing

slcook
slcook 2010-09-01 04:14:12 -0500 Report

Yes get a knew DR. If you lived in NW Arkansas I'd share mine. She is tops and patient, but firm. LOL

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-08-30 19:58:01 -0500 Report

I am going to agree with your husband. 300 might be better than where you were, but it is still very high. At those levels, exercise can become dangerous, because instead of lowering your levels it could raise them.

What I do sometimes to kind of wake up my mind and body is spend a week or so just eating salads with some protein and dairy on them. Seriously reducing my carbs. One thing that does is cut my craving for carbs. It also gives me the same food and then I can see what other things are causing my levels to go up. I also make sure I am testing before and after meals so I can see what is happening. Even if you do it for just a couple of days it can help give you some insight, but often our bodies require more time to show the changes.

The other thing is that it is not that you are doing things wrong. You might just be doing them wrong for you. Everyone is different and what works for me might not work for you. So don't beat yourself up. If something is not working and you have given it good effort and some weeks to work, then move on and try something new. Don't give up.

mmccance
mmccance 2010-08-31 07:47:23 -0500 Report

This is great advice. I did not know that exercising could do anything but lower your bs numbers, though. The thing I have trouble with is the weight — my blood sugars are still in the prediabetic range, so while they are not "good" they are not alarming, but my weight hovers around the same 10 pound range going up and down by the week. The idea of doing salads with some protein and dairy for one week or 10 days is really an excellent one. It really is not very hard to do, because you eat whenever you are hungry, making sure what you eat is fresh and raw vegetables, plus a little protein such as one or two hard boiled eggs, or 1 can of tuna, or an oz or two of feta cheese, etc. This may nearly correct the bs numbers if done diligently. No other kind of sugar or sweet drinks (not even diet drinks) should be consumed while doing this. If you need more help and information the following program will walk you through, holding your hand, one day at a time, as you learn how to correct your bs numbers: http://30daydiabetescure.com/ . Thanks for reminding me, Gabby.

I about live on salad and beans at this point in time with a little popcorn for carbs. Well let me not mislead, it is not a little popcorn — I am thinking I need to cut that out entirely — at least for a while. I just read the glycemic numbers for popcorn and I did not realize they were so high. I've been popping a 1/4 cup batch and eating the whole thing with butter and curry powder sprinkled on it (no more than once a day). The curry I use has cinnamon in it which helps to reduce the bs. There are also some other things that I have read about that can help to reduce bs. Cinnamon being one of them. Unsweetened Green tea is another. Turmeric or curry is another. It may be that using all three of these may help to reduce your bs numbers. I agree with your husband, Donna50, you need a doctor who knows how to help you.

You may also want to read either one or both of these two books/programs: http://30daydiabetescure.com/ By Dr Stefen Ripich who has treated many diabetics successfully; his co-author is Jim Healthy — and/or — http://www.diabetes-book.com/ by Dr. Richard K Bernstein who is himself a type one diabetic and runs a diabetes clinic successfully helping diabetics reduce and balance their blood sugars. He gives clear easy to read instructions in his book and also explains the different diabetic medicines and how they work, recommending some, and warning about others. I think this is necessary reading for any diabetic. But be forewarned, he is unconventional in his approach, and does not agree with the AMA on their methods for diabetes. I think his approach is much more sensible. It is certainly much more experienced. His personal story is amazing and insightful, too.

Good luck and God bless you, Donna 50. There is help available, just reach, try it, and continue to use whatever works for you and leave the rest behind.

I am so glad to have found this web site. I feel like I have found friends and family here — people like me. Love you — Marcia

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-08-31 09:54:48 -0500 Report

Mmccance, you might want to check on the popcorn. I love corn. I used to eat it all the time. Now I have found I cannot eat it at all. I have to work hard to keep it out of my foods, as it is in everything. I found that no matter how little I eat, it keeps me running high. It sucks, and really has taken me about a year to really come to terms with just how much is in my foods and how I need to eliminate it all. I am just very sensitive to it.

I am getting ready to do the book "21 days to reverse your diabetes" While I totally disagree with the term "reverse" I do believe that there are some great aspects to raw eating that will help me. I tried it before and it is good success, but was doing it alone in the house. I have a little more support this time, and I will be getting the book instead of trying to invent it for myself. So I am looking forward to some drastic changes. Woo hoo. I am out to impress my doctor next visit. LOL!!

retta 1
retta 1 2010-08-28 03:24:02 -0500 Report

there is no giving up allowed,just really watch the carbs.sometimes i feel like throwing in the towel but i just keep plugging away.its all the pills that i have to take.but the bs is finally thereand i'm just taking 5 units of lantus a day.i'm so happy in that department.so just keep trying and i will pray for u .

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-08-27 11:39:46 -0500 Report

Donna--I am in the same boat. My doctor told me if we don't get it down soon I will have to go to specialist. We just started on Hovolog with every meal and I take Lantus 2 x day. Plus 1500 mg of metformin. I sure hope it works. But if not then I will go to the next step. NO GIVING UP IS ALLOWED!!

donna50
donna50 2010-08-29 22:11:21 -0500 Report

thanks for the support i wont give up just will ask the doctor for the metfomin to see if that will help iam on humalog per sliding scale and lantus 2xaday and byetta maybe i need the metformin

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-08-26 20:22:39 -0500 Report

Most of my friends are virtual (or maybe imaginary) but I have some of the closest friends on this website with whom I share the good and bad. If you ever need a friend, drop me a line when you are online. I may not have all of the answers but sometimes it helps to have someone to confide in. Don't isolate yourself.

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-08-29 00:25:37 -0500 Report

I stand corrected… my friends are more messed up than I am but the offer is sincere that if you need someone to talk to, vent to, confide in, or for any other reason want to communicate, please don't isolate yourself and get in touch with me.

donna50
donna50 2010-08-29 22:07:30 -0500 Report

thank you ,so much i really needed to vent i dont have very much support and sometimes i do feel isolated again thank ypu thank you donna 50

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-08-28 08:44:10 -0500 Report

Hello RAYT721;
Your friends aren't imaginary. I know, I've talked to them. I'm the one with the hat. (And Gabby is the purple one.) (((H)))s

Guardian stone

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-08-26 18:59:42 -0500 Report

It is said that a true friend will be with you always, and that may be just a very few in a life time. It is sad, but worth the effort to keep those few. Treasure the time that you are here, and make sure to touch the lives of those here who have touched yours. You will be amazed at how much more strength you will gain in that bit of effort. I know there are times when a single comment here can make me smile the whole day. Or that a suggestions will carry me through a hard time in decision making. We are all here for each other and I hope that every time you are here, you feel rejuvenated.

newbie51
newbie51 2010-08-26 16:43:18 -0500 Report

I still have my friends and family but I know how you feel. I have several illnesses also and it's easier for my friends because they have some of the same illnesses. But I am on here everyday and i will request you for a friend.
Judith

Harlen
Harlen 2010-08-26 11:46:47 -0500 Report

I dont but I do feel for you.
I check my mail three to 10 times a day feel free to e-mail any time
Best wishes
Harlen

realsis77
realsis77 2010-08-26 10:57:19 -0500 Report

You are not alone anymore on this site! I found this site to have the most wonderful supportive people! So when you CAN go online you have a whole community of people willing to help answer your questions. I am new here and I found this site to be the most support I get anywhere with my disease! So when you do feel well come back to this site and we will all be here for you!