friend requests

By mary73 Latest Reply 2015-05-11 17:20:59 -0500
Started 2010-08-23 11:34:47 -0500

i like making friends on here and enjoy meeting new people but i don't understand that after you accept the friend request from someone why is it you hardly ever or sometimes never hear from them again? is it the points? is that what it is i don't get it, i have only made and kept in touch with one person on here since i joined but got alot of friend requests but she is the only one who keeeps in touch i don't understand. it seems like no one wants to be friends they just want these stupid points and that is really sad. i truely believe there are good people on here but i have only found one so far, this is a really great site for support and answers to our questions about diabetes i just hope some true friendships form and not just for points. i am not angry at anyone i just don't understand.

60 replies

Lindalee68 2015-05-11 17:20:59 -0500 Report

I am very new here and don't know anything about how to extend friend requests. I would be a friend, if only I understood how???

dietcherry 2011-04-24 22:36:43 -0500 Report

Friending new people is a way to welcome them to our family. We mainly talk to each other in Discussions or by posting on each others profile page AND we also have access through the email system, but you have to friend each other first in order to do that. Jayabee52 explains it perfectly below. :)

Bama13 2011-04-24 10:48:38 -0500 Report

this so true they want to be friends and then never talk to you again

jayabee52 2011-04-24 11:02:29 -0500 Report

I don't feel depressed when all 2507 (and counting) friends don't email me. I'd be answering emails all day, rather than talking in the discussions!

I invite folks to be friends so that should I feel the need - through something they said, or something someone said (or is trying to sell ) to them, I can reach out to that person outside of a discussion exchange. And I have had someone take me to task a time or 2 because of something I said in a discussion. Sometimes discussions like that are best discussed privately in an email.

That's why I invite folks to be my friends.

I do have people who check in on me from time to time, as I do to others too!

But to check up with everyone every 2 weeks or so, would be burdensome.

What would really bother me is if I posted things in a discussion, and everyone ignored me totally.

Erin P
Erin P 2011-04-12 19:23:37 -0500 Report

I don't know how to friend anyone on here. I don't care about the points either. I would be happy to be your friend.

pkwillhoite 2011-04-24 22:47:19 -0500 Report

When I request some one its because they interest me in what they say!! I didnt even realie you get points.. By the way What are the points for? I like the friends I have…

dietcherry 2011-04-24 22:59:31 -0500 Report

You earn points by participating in different activities on the site, so it shows others how active you are here. You also earn badges for various activities…

dietcherry 2011-04-25 12:17:01 -0500 Report

On your profile page, to the right of your picture, is your points calculation. Moving further still across the top of your profile page, you'll see tabs titled: Activity, About Me, Badges & Points, My Photos, and Privacy & Settings. If you click on the Badges & Points tab, it will show you the badges you can earn and how to earn them. You continue to earn points each time you partake in these activities, even after you have fulfilled the requirements for each individual badge. I hope Ive explained this clearly to where you understand! If not, please let me know and I'll try again!!! :)

Cheryl*G 2010-09-06 16:21:25 -0500 Report

Your lucky no one on hear keeps in touch with me, but thats cool I am use to being alone and not having anyone to talk to! I see it as life goes on!

2004jeep 2010-09-08 23:07:27 -0500 Report

You can be my friend I'm newly diagnosed, walking around dazyed and confussed.It's very frustrating not knowing this stuff. I think you are awsome have kids, being a mother, going to college, home schooling too. WOW !!!

I wish I was that strong. I fall apart every time someone speaks to me.
I just hug my daughter that much tighter.

I looking for encouragement, but also to give encouragement, be as supportive, positive to you.

Thanks for being my friend

Cheryl*G 2010-09-09 22:16:39 -0500 Report

I am very happy to have you as a friend. It has been a struggle for me but I take it one day at a time. I love everything about my life and I would not trade it for anything! This is only the 4th degree I have earned and the third son I have home schooled and it been great! If you need to talk I will listen and I will write back ok!

gregsteele 2010-09-04 17:35:17 -0500 Report

I try to send a hello or how you doing to my friends as much as possible but we must all remember there are two people in each friendship so if you dont hear from them send them a short note to see how they are doing ,not trying to be a smarta** just an idea love to all GREG

2004jeep 2010-09-04 19:40:21 -0500 Report

How are things going? Hope you are well,Thanks for being my new friend. I'm trying to look at the carbs on everything I pick-up and I can't put the carbs and the sugars together. I feel lost looking and reading about diabetes. I'm in Fuquay-Varina, North Carolina where are you?

Swbtab03 2010-09-04 11:30:46 -0500 Report

This site is got some great people on here, ask questions, ask for friends, send each others stories etc. I would be lost with out this site, so many things here has changed my life style, and have a made a few friends here we talk alot on here and facebook.

bicker68 2010-09-01 14:47:22 -0500 Report

I know what you mean, I'm new to the site also I've had one person request my friendship, and very happy she did. She is a very lovely person, and we've written each other a couple times. I would like to have more friends in time, but haven't gotten anymore request.

jayabee52 2010-09-02 01:09:13 -0500 Report

Howdy "Bicker"! well, I invited you to be a friend, and you can invite other people to be your friend. Click on a person's name and when their profile page comes up click on the link "Add to my friends".


See ya!
Blessings to you and yours


donna50 2010-09-01 00:00:37 -0500 Report


Guardianstone 2010-08-29 05:27:46 -0500 Report

Hello Mary;
I hope you have better luck with friends. I don't know why some people are so frantic about points. They are only a way to let people know if you are active on the site.

Guardian stone

22froggy 2010-08-26 11:47:32 -0500 Report

don`t understand the point thing?/ what is it and how much do you get paid for them?? there is a lot of good people here. i`ve only been here for a week so keep the faith and welcome .. :)

Jeannie Holmes
Jeannie Holmes 2010-08-27 10:49:28 -0500 Report

Ok, you don't get paid for the points. They are mostly so you can see how active a person has been. Most of us don't pay any attention to them.

angelalock 2010-08-25 11:12:21 -0500 Report

i, too, would welcome your friendship. i enjoy one on one conversations with my friends, but it does seem we 'socialize' more in the discussions. many times it's like we're all sitting around, drinking coffee and eating coffee cake (sugar free, naturally) having a pleasant conversation. feel free to friend me, contact me anytime for anything. i do answer when my friends send me a message.

gramme 2010-08-24 15:15:41 -0500 Report

if you're wanting friendship, maybe the thing to do is to take that first step and write to someone and start the ball rolling, maybe people just need to know you're wanting to talk and listen

Pamiekae 2010-08-24 11:21:42 -0500 Report

Hey sweetie, I know just what you mean. I found that several people request to be a friend but never "talk" to me. I've put out a couple of questions and on one didn't receive any response and only a couple on the second and they weren't even people I had on my friends list. Like you, I've only really made friends with one person who I keep in constant touch with on site and off. I check out the list every couple of days so I'd be more than happy to respond to any questions or comments ya have. I don't understand the point system either and pretty much just ignore it. To me it's about meeting and talking to people who are going through the same things I am and helping those just finding out they are diabetic. So don't get discouraged. There are some of us out here that will be a ear for you to talk too. I'll send ya a friend request so you can see if we have things in common and it will also allow you once you accept me as friend my email so that you can contact me that way also if you are in need of someone to talk too.

lkh6951 2011-04-24 23:20:36 -0500 Report

I feel BAD. I started out making a lot of friends ( not for points). Then I started having problems with my computer. When I'm having a "good computer day", I'm trying to catch up with e-mails, etc. (am checking e-mails now). Sometimes people become ill or have family issues. There can be many reasons people aren't good at staying in touch other than rudeness.

dietcherry 2011-04-24 23:37:14 -0500 Report

Hi! Glad you are having a good puter day! haha And you are right-sometimes people fall out of touch cause things are going on in "real" life! :)

monkeymama 2010-08-23 22:12:31 -0500 Report

I would love to find more friends and talk to more people I have something in common with I can share and just talk like friends do.

monkeymama 2010-08-23 22:16:30 -0500 Report

I would give anything to meet more people I can feel comfortable and trust in talking to. It is something that is VERY HARD for me; considering things on my end. I am usually on every single night for a little while during my "ME" time. Drop m a line and I would love to talk with you and get to know you a little better. I am so open about things and love sharing some wise wisdoms I have gained coping with my diabetes. I was in your place at one time in my life. I can be there for you too!!!

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-08-23 21:18:18 -0500 Report

Happy day,
Don't take it personal that the people that are on your friends list are not contacting you personally on a daily basic. It's like a community here we are all here but we do not see ea. other everyday. Just the fact that there are so many people here that will listen when we all have something to say. Also if you would like to have a one on one, just let your request be known @ the time I don't think that will be a problem. Folks here do that on a regular (when asked).
There is a lot of love compassion & understanding here now that we know how you feel I pray we all do better unto one another. As far as chatting w/someone do as I do when I have not been on 4 awhile I go thru my pages & see what interest me & jump on it. It may be days old conversation but it does not matter. Someone will reply to what you had to say. Remember that you are highly favored in the name of Jesus, so you are blessed.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

RAYT721 2010-08-23 20:53:03 -0500 Report

I take the label friend very seriously and often go through my list to send "howdy" blurbs just to see what's going on with those that seemed to care enough to invite me into their worlds. I may not write manuscripts but just letting others know they are being thought us is a special touch in this family and community that I enjoy so much. Please feel free to drop a line and we can get to know each other. There's more to me than just being a diabetic and my topics can go from the informative (tips, tricks, recipes) to the clearly insane like my run ins with 6' tall Lucky Charms Leprechauns at the grocery store. Inviting me to be a friend is like winning some form of contest in hell. Up for the challenge? Drop a line and you'll see that I don't just collect friends. I prove myself to be one.

bettymachete 2010-08-23 19:00:23 -0500 Report

I add friend requests in order to keep up with posts that these people make. I get an occasional message here and there and we exchange more information so we can chat or add each other as friends on facebook…even some I have given my phone number to and keep up with them that way. Plus if somepne adds then they can send me a message or I them. I imagine most add for the same reasons I really don't think the points have anything to do with who has requested me and it's never been a thought when I have requested someone.

theladyiscrazy 2010-08-23 16:39:45 -0500 Report

there are only a couple of "friends" that I write to regularly. Most we just talk on the discussion forums. Sometimes I may go to someone quietly instead to ask a question I need help with.

Kaiyle 2010-08-23 16:16:29 -0500 Report

I've only had about four people to request my friendship since being on here. So I figured since not many was coming to me, then I would go to them. I want to learn as much as I can, and from every friend I have, a door is open to me to learn from them and perhaps they can learn something from me. It's about having that connection there because you never know when that connection could be an answer to your prayers. I value all my friends and whenever any of them send me a message, I always respond.

spiritwalker 2010-08-23 14:02:42 -0500 Report

I have been on the site for about ten months. I accept friends requests, but many
people only make the request. Some people I have met share similar interests,
(other than being diabetic). I e-mail people who enjoy things that I do when I am
at home. I have a specialized desk top computer only. When I am away from
home I am not on line. I feel most of the exchanges take place in discussions.
This is my personal opinion and others might feel differently. I have been a diabetic for 25 years. I check the site a couple of times a week to see what's going on
at the time and to answer mail.

judylynn4168 2010-08-23 13:58:36 -0500 Report

Hi i want to say i,m sorry to the people i realy dont have that much time on here my kids keep me busy .So what i want to say HI to all of you on here to my friends and everybody and i wish all of you the best wishes and hugs .take care .JUDY

Diane987 2010-08-23 13:32:56 -0500 Report

Using the friend request allows you to see more of the profile information and it allows you to send personal messages to your friends. I use it with a few people here. I can tell you that those relationships do mean something to me and I am glad to have them. It's a great way to get to know people without always putting the information out on the internet. But you are right some people don't respond or request to be your friend and you never hear from them. By the way, I just sent you a friend request :-) I always answer emails, although there was once or twice that it took a couple of weeks because I was really busy.

kdroberts 2010-08-23 12:41:55 -0500 Report

The friends feature of the site is something I find pointless so I don't use it. Some use it a lot and email their friends a lot, some just send out requests, some just accept requests and others don't do anything with it. It's the nature of the internet!

Thomas508 2010-08-23 12:23:28 -0500 Report

One good thing about adding friends to me is that you can click the my profile button at the top of the page and it shows you all of the most resent post by your friends, I go here first every time to see what has been posted by everyone on my friends list then I go to the discussions etc…

Harlen 2010-08-23 12:22:18 -0500 Report

I try to maill each fren when they send a request if I didnt then they only show up in my frends list .So when you get a request send bad a thank you letter and you may have much better contact with new frends???
Best wishes

MAYS 2010-08-23 12:15:19 -0500 Report

For me, friend request keeps the door of possible communication open.
Some people never accept friend request, for various or personal reasons.

Continued communication between individuals, or friends is always optional.
Some people do not want to develop a personal attachment, others do.
Some people like to stay on point (subject related), others want to know everything there is to know about you.

I never get upset, or question when friend request are not accepted or rescinded, it's a right of the person, and one that I respect 100%.

Your discussion is a noteworthy one, the responses that you receive, should be as diverse as the members on this site.
Don't stop sending out friend request, sometimes someone needs a friend, but are too afraid to ask someone to be theirs.


caroljo 2010-08-23 12:12:23 -0500 Report

I'm new too, what points? I love the posts, motivation/emotions is great fun and inspirational to me. I love the back and forth banter and its convenient to get on at my leisure. It encourages me to encourage others - so keep posting friend and don't worry about the "friends", just enjoy the semi-anonymous process of reading what someone has said and posting your reply- if you like. Look for and enjoy the fun in everything, ignore the rest.

SueIzzy 2010-08-23 12:10:27 -0500 Report

Hi Mary,

I had wondered the same thing. I am fairly new to this site, only about a month now. I had people send me request and then never hear from them again. It was then that I decided, that these people have no clue who I am and what I am about. I started commenting on discussions, and even posting my own. I have made one friend so far, and look forward to many more. But you can not just sit back and expect them to come to you, you have to put yourself out there too.

Share yourself!

Sue ~:-)

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