By sexybaby Latest Reply 2010-09-16 15:38:48 -0500
Started 2010-08-22 09:23:55 -0500

Hello, my name is shondala. i was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes a couple of days ago and I am scared. I need help on maintaining my motivation to exercise regularly and eat right. I have 2 other people that live with me, my husband and kids. they are my inlaws. they are so used to eating fried foods, red meats, junk and such. How can I convince them nicely to not give my children the wrong things?

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mo91108 2010-09-16 15:38:48 -0500 Report

I have the same problem with my boyfriend's mother. She has two very overweight children, 11yrs old and 180 pounds. and 12 yrs old at the same weight. I just tell in a polite manner about my diabetes, even though I am a T1 and how a lot of children are now being diagnosed with what used to be an adult disease. Maybe you can cook a nice healthy diabetic friendly meal for them to show them healthy isn't bland and that splenda or other artificial sweeteners are just as good as sugar.

My motiviation to stay healthy and exercise is I am only 19 years old and still have a long life ahead of me. What you can do is everytime you look at your children realize that they are you life as well as your husband and let that be your motivation, maybe go on a nice walk an hour or so after dinner with the family, make it fun. Maybe football or soccer with the kids every now and then it doesn't always have to be the gym or a boring exercise class.

Best Wishes and Good Luck need to talk I'll definitely listen.
- Monica

Angelpooh 2010-08-22 11:40:48 -0500 Report

i have been diagnosed since 1998. i was only 22 years old then. i was cared. but now i am still scared. i am only 33. i am having a hard time controling it.

MAYS 2010-08-22 10:30:45 -0500 Report

Welcome to Diabetic Connect!

Just tell them!

Raising children can be rough, and at times, tough, with niceness set aside.
You are currently in one of those situations, you can ask nicely, but if your request is not honored, then you must take a "parental" stand.

After all, these are your children, and raising them the way that "you" want them to be raised is "your" responsibility.
You have been diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes, this is the reason to be firm on your request concerning the eating habits of your children, lead by example, and explain the "who, what, where, when's, how and why's" of diabetes to your family, and children.

There is no "nice way" of dealing with either raising children, or managing diabetes, only the "right way."


RAYT721 2010-08-22 10:21:28 -0500 Report

Welcome to our community! My advice right now is to start out with your management and care before trying to change the lives of those around you. This is not to say that you shouldn't be concerned but for right now you need to work on that self-motivation, exercise, knowledge, management, etc. because you are informed enough to help others help themselves. I often use the expression "baby steps" because nobody can change their entire world around overnight. You're in the right spot for making new supportive friends and if I can help in any way, just say the word. Take a deep breath and create a plan for yourself that you can work on and slowly you will accomplish all of your goals. Once you have your situation under control you can guide others to a happier and healthier life, using you as an example. You CAN achieve great things with or without diabetes. Start on the inside!!! Deep breath. Exhale. Oh, and here's a virtual hug for you!!! They are contagious and feel great.

Harlen 2010-08-22 10:08:31 -0500 Report

Hello and welcome
That is a big job .
The only thing I can sey is do what you need to do to keep your diabetes inlline You eat the right food and slowly they may come to see your doing better ???? and wish to do the same
Best wishes

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