Worried about partner...

By GeorgiePie Latest Reply 2010-08-16 16:14:10 -0500
Started 2010-08-16 05:40:21 -0500

Hi, I have been worrying about my partner for a while now. He seems to be showing some symptoms of diabetes - he is thirsty all the time (but refuses to drink water!) and goes to the bathroom a lot, he is a lot more irratable than he used to be and he gets tired very easily. However, every time I try and suggest him going to the doctor he gets annoyed and says no.

I THINK I have got him convinced to try testing his blood glucose levels at home if I can get hime a kit, and then if any problems arise with his blood sugars he will go to the doctors.

I was looking at the GlucoMen Visio blood glucose monitor (http://www.glucomen.co.uk/index.php?p=85&...) but am not sure this is the right type of product for what I want. Also, it doesn't say where to buy them from or how much they are - can anyone please help?

Many thanks,


6 replies

runthe 2010-08-16 16:14:10 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC. like you i think that my husband might be a diabetic or is pre diabetic. He refuses to believe that he can or is a diabetic. A friend took his blood sugar today and it was 180. He ate a hefty bowl of watermelon this morning. I told him that he needs to watch what he eats and drink. My husband is very stubborn about his health. I kind of know what you are going through.
Good luck withl lots of hugs and love.

kdroberts 2010-08-16 09:36:50 -0500 Report

Since you linked to a UK meter I'm assuming you are somewhere in the UK. If you are, try this for starters http://www.diabetes.co.uk/promotions/bayer-me... You should be able to get a free one. Just keep in mind that home meters are not meant to be used for diagnosing so you shouldn't rely on one to go or not go to the doctors. You will be able to get a decent idea but getting tested is such a simple thing to do he might as well do it. If he does have diabetes it is far better to find out now when there is no complications to end up finding out in the hospital or after losing vision or needing an amputation or any other things that can happen.

RAYT721 2010-08-16 08:04:49 -0500 Report

Your "problem" is not an uncommon one when it comes to men. Trust me, I didn't want to go to the doctor because it's like taking my car to the shop for one thing and they find a list of things to be done. That's not what I wanted. I did go for a checkup with a new doctor back in March. I had no indications of diabetes, not several overweight, no family history of diabetes, no symptoms so the diagnosis from the blood test floored me. I'm a what??? I ran to the drug store for a test meter (walgreens brand) that was free after rebate. I also bought a pack of the test strips even though the meter came with 10 of them. I figured the doctor was wrong so I could just return the test strips, hang on to or donate the meter and life would go on. Wrong. I am a diabetic even though I am not on oral meds or insulin at this time. To continue my story the doctor had also given me a bunch of other tests to do… sleep apnea, dental exam, colonoscopy, etc. When the diabetes thing came back he suggested that I lose weight, exercise and cut out sugar. What the hell. It's no wonder I didn't want to go to the doctor he was putting his thumb, fingers and everything else in all kinds of places. All of this for a routine physical was because I was now 50 and never really cared for myself as I should have. Getting your partner to the doctor isn't going to be easy. I just kept putting it off. I don't have answers there for you but the best approach is in a non heated and non argumentative way. Who wants to be forced with whining or nagging to do anything? (No I am not saying that is what you're doing… hope not). Get him to open up about his future plans and dreams and then ask how they will be possible if he doesn't have his heart, lungs, teeth and other things checked. Don't scare him with the complications of diabetes or even your diagnosis of it for him. Get the facts. Just a simply physical will answer both of your questions so you can live your life instead of being afraid of it.

Guardianstone 2010-08-16 11:20:50 -0500 Report

RAYT721 makes a good point. I almost lost my dearest love 4 years ago. When my spouse had a heart attack he refused to go to the hospital. instead he Pushed a stalled car out of an intersection into a gas station. then we walked about 3 miles home. on the way he had more pain, so we stopped at McDonald's for a cup of coffee. he said " I DON'T NEED YOU CALLING 911. ITS JUST HEART BURN OR SOMETHING I ATE ISN'T SETTLING. I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE." I gave him asprin and hurt while I watched over him. When we got home I tried to get him to listen..
He took his walker and a tool kit back to fix the car early. About 4:30 pm he got home. I told him to call his mother. I slipped in corrections to his story. Mom called his oldest daugher and she called him. Daddy,grandma says you had a heart attack and won't go to the emergency room. WHY? Do you know where I work? If you refuse to go to the hospital I will call the police, that didn't work. Daddy, is your chest burning? That is heart muscle dying. GO NOW!
He refused a ambulance,but called a cab,packed a bag, and we went to the hospital. The ER people told him he had several heart attacks. He had 90% blockage. Quad bypass, and dying on the OR table 4 times. He now acknowledges my concern. He saw what I went through (Nervous break down), he tries to stay around to keep me from the pain he put me through. I won't have him for as long as I want, but I keep pushing him to ask the MD's question, keep appointents, and don't make me have to be the bad guy all the time. A full physical might have cought this earlier.
I had to almost loose him because he was stuborn, muleish, and planting his feet. But we were lucky. Feel free to let him read this. Maybe somewhere in this rambling I might have made my point. Show him what you could both loose.
sorry for being preachy.

Guardian stone

MAYS 2010-08-16 07:58:01 -0500 Report

Welcome to Diabetic Connect!

Your concern and assistance towards your partner concerning diabetes is very noteworthy, you are a true friend.
I visited the website that you have listed to view their products, I must admit that I was impressed with both their site and their products, the meter seems to be a very good one, virtually any meter will do for testing one's blood, have you tried contacting any local pharmacies concerning the availability of this meter?

Is it possible to convince your friend to see a doctor first?

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Please keep us informed of your progress with this situation.


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