Please Help New To Diabetes...

By ChrissyMichael10 Latest Reply 2010-08-11 07:31:11 -0500
Started 2010-08-09 17:25:01 -0500

Hi my names is christina. My soon to be husband is a diabetic and has been since he was 12 and i no he is not suppose to eat sweets like he does. Can anyone give me advice on what maybe i can do to help him. Also maybe ya'll can teach me more about this stuff. Also i think he is a type 1 but not to sure cant remember, i do no he takes alot of shots a day.

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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-08-11 07:31:11 -0500 Report

Hi Chrissy, I am a therapist and educator with a focus on helping patients and caregivers who are facing medical diagnoses. I often tell my clients that when one person in the family has been diagnosed, the other family members also share the diagnosis because the diagnosis also has an impact on their daily lives. As others here have wisely suggested, the more you can get yourself educated, the better you will be able to partner with your soon to be husband to help him to manage his diabetes. So often, I talk to patients who say that their family members are annoyed at having to make diet adjustments and don't want to be a support in any way. Your husband is certainly fortunate to have someone who wants to work with him. You might also want to find resources in your community. While getting educated can help you, having a place to talk about your feelings, and share your experiences with others, can also help you in this journey. I would encourage you to stay connected with a support system -- you have certainly found that here on DC. Best wishes to you.

monkeymama 2010-08-09 22:47:50 -0500 Report

Gabby is completely right here. It is very important to know if he has type 1, 2 or a new one that is commonly over looked and new is type 1.5 (combination of types 1 and 2). Try to help him, "guide/suggest" to him with his diabetes but never scold or yell if he has a bad day or is off his mojo. That could come back and bite back badly. If you like cooking, try making some nice low carb and healthy meals. There are a lot of very tastey recipes that are out there. If you are looking to go with his to a doctors appointment, make sure you are also not crossing the line. Explain that you love him and support him in this. Ultimately, no matter how much we want our other half to follow what they should, it is their responsibility to follow. He has to be the one who "wants" to do differently and change things with his diabetes. Be understanding and supportive if he loses his mojo. Try to find positive ways to help him and guide him. No matter how much it may hurt, sometimes we have to let one fall to see… I think it is wonderful though you are really wanting to be there for him and help him. Just knowing there is someone there to support you and help you does help. Welcome to our community and best of wishes. We are always here for you…

GabbyPA 2010-08-09 19:41:43 -0500 Report

Congratulations. This is an adventure that you both will take on and I am sure that you will learn a lot of things here and from him. I know that we always want to "change" our other half. Be careful of that, specially when it comes to diabetes. Learn from him what he needs and find a way to help him, but use care to not lecture him.

You do want to find out for sure what type he has because that will affect the answers you get. They are both diabetes, but advice is not the same for type one and two. It will also help you know what to do if he has a sudden low and you will know how to help him in that instance.

It is a lot to work with, and you are very admirable to give yourself in this way. A care giver is an unsung hero for many people who are chronically ill. So kudos to you.

What would really help would be if you both were able to attend a diabetes education class together. I brought my husband to a few of my classes and it helped him understand my disease better.

Harlen 2010-08-09 17:35:59 -0500 Report

Hello and welcome
May be tell him that if he loves you he will do his best to keep his blood sugar good so he will be there for you and the kids ,you will need him the rest of his life and you wish it to be a long one
Best wishes

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