Living life to the fullest

By petals Latest Reply 2012-02-12 18:39:37 -0600
Started 2010-08-03 22:03:09 -0500

I was reminded today of how fast your life could be over. Two friends of my husband were killed today in a car accident on the way to work this morning. Just like that they were gone. You never know when your time is up on this earth. It has made me do some thinking about my life. I have fallen off the wagon the past couple of weeks. And I feel awful because of it. I am mad at myself. Because every day that I don't take care of this diabetes, is another day off of my life. I shouldn't do things that will shorten my life but do things to make my life last longer. So I am making a confession, I have not been taking care of myself. Now for the hard part, I am starting all over in the morning, counting carbs,calories and eating right, exercise too. I am telling you guys this so I will be determined to show you all that I can do this and show myself as well. I also need support for this as well. I have gained this year 20.6 lbs. So I am asking for support, hugs, and help. Thank you.

83 replies

TsalagiLenape 2012-02-08 11:21:21 -0600 Report

Petals, Listen to me ok? Having something like that happen is traumatic. It hits close to home. You dont need to beat yourself up over it time and again. You have recognized what is what, what you need to do and thus implementing a plan to get it back on track. Tis not easy. You dont have to account for anything right now. Reaason is that you will have your days, moments or situations where out of the blue WHAM it hits you all over again and you are set back. Its not permament nor misunderstandable. Take your time, regroup and refocus when you have too. I know you can do this for that is what I am doing right now. Hugs

jayabee52 2012-02-08 11:10:01 -0600 Report

OF COURSE DeAnna! I will support your efforts as fully as I am able from this distance. One thing that has an unlimited range and power is prayer! I will of course add you to my prayer list that your efforts meet with success.

I hasten to add that perhaps you might wish to start with "baby steps" again and not get too overwhelmed with everything all at once.

I am just starting again with my management scheme for my diabetes after my blow out for my 60th birthday yesterday. I to a buffet went with a friend last night and didn't pay much attention to my eating plan. Now it is over and I get back to managing my BGs levels better.

If you would like to know how I lost about 65 lbs over last year and got off all diabetes meds, just ask and I'd be happy to send it along to you. It may or may not help you in your quest for a better life.

abran 2012-02-08 11:30:23 -0600 Report

I would like to know it seems when I stick to my insulin doses I gain weight.

GabbyPA 2012-02-09 09:59:44 -0600 Report

One reason you might be gaining weight on insulin is because your body is finally putting the glucose into your cells where it belongs. The thing is, we need to exercise off that new found glucose. If we don't, it does what it is supposed to do, turns into fat and saves it for a rainy day.

GabbyPA 2012-02-08 10:54:14 -0600 Report

Here are some big ((HUGS)) for you. Yes, life is short and in good health or poor. we know not when it will be over. So I plan to enjoy the ride, I know you do to. Hang in there my friend.

nzingha 2012-02-08 04:03:33 -0600 Report

awwwww petals… u have my support and best wishes because this life is what we know..i'm not into the heaven business and milk and honey…so yes we have to make thhe best of it while we r every good wish to u

robertoj 2011-08-20 01:13:12 -0500 Report

No question about it we all need to live life to the fullest. There is no sense in worrying about the past and beating yourself up is counter productive. You should simply own your mistakes, examine them and learn from them. I have been able to turn my life around because I was taught to look at myself as if I was looking at someone else and in a nonjudgmental way. Love yourself and you can live a useful life. It is sad to hear about your husbands friends. I lost a dear friend a few months ago he came to me and told me that he was letting himself down and he was really down on himself, I tried to convince him to be kind to himself he passed the next day from a heart condition.

sue11542 2011-07-30 12:21:47 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear about your friends, That kind of thing always serves to make everyone who hears it feel a little introspective. The best thing that can come of this tragedy is that you wake up and start doing what you need to do to make things better in your life. I don't think I speak only for mydelf when I say that we will all be available to help in any way we can, to give support and maybe a hand slap if necessary, it is all a part of the process, please accept my condolances and keep up the good work. You can rely on all of us for hugs and help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dixiemom 2011-07-30 09:37:49 -0500 Report

We need to remind ourselves to live each day to the fullest. Enjoy the simple things in life. Sometimes it's hard to get a handle on our problems, but with God's help we can do anything. We all struggle with day to day living. Some times it's easy and thenthere are the days everything goes wrong. Don't give up, everyday is a new day and you can do it.

diabetes control
diabetes control 2011-07-30 08:27:19 -0500 Report

I have been fighting being over weight for ten years, close to 300 pounds and I want it to be closer to 200 pounds and my body wants to be 400 pounds. So gather your strength and make another run. You lose when you throw in the towel and give up!

berrykins0 2011-07-30 07:01:44 -0500 Report

sorry to hear you have gotten off track on your diet,'s good to let people hear you say this. cause if they think about trying this maybe they will think twice before doing it. and realize it's not a good thing to do. i would feel aweful if i did would do what you done.sharing this makes people wake up and realize what happens when you fall off the wagen.hope you can get back on thw wagen and get back on track. we are all here to help and support each other.

EJMac 2011-02-05 20:37:10 -0600 Report

You have my support for sure. Good for you. Starting tomorrow it's one day at a time. It does feel soooo wonderful to put yourself first and take care of yourself.
You are right. We can do something about this disease-our responsiblilty to do what we can. (Too bad we are talking about controlling my obsession to lots of food and no exercise LOL)

MewElla 2011-02-05 18:22:58 -0600 Report

Life is so precious and one thing we can not buy back is time. We have to make each day count to stay as postive and healthy as we can.

petals 2011-02-05 19:38:18 -0600 Report

I agree with you 100%. But how do you do that when all that you do is agrue with your hubby?

jayabee52 2010-10-01 21:01:07 -0500 Report

It doesn't have to be somthing violent like an accident to cut a life short. I watched my bride fade off to sleep talking to one of her friends. I decided to let her sleep where she was and in the morning I couldn't wake her.

Please express my sorrow at your husband's loss

It is good that you're getting back on track re taking care of yourself. (((((Hugs))))) to you!

petals 2010-10-01 22:38:15 -0500 Report

I am so sorry for your loss as well. I know how much you loved your wife. I will tell my hubby. I am working hard at staying on track. Hugs for you too!!

Anonymous 2010-10-01 12:26:34 -0500 Report

There are no guarantees in life.

msonnier26 2010-08-30 00:03:00 -0500 Report

You and your husband have my deepest sympathies on your losses, be strong get back on your diabetic regimin and as a matter of fact the same has happened to me in the past few weeks so you and I can start over together. I've been in funk over my teenage daughter and those horrible teenage problems that we all have probably gone through in our life time and I too have been eating the wrong stuff and am paying the price for what I've eaten so I'll stay in touch with you to see how your doing and you do the same, any time.

GOD Bless,

petals 2010-08-31 14:57:26 -0500 Report

Thank you for your support. I am back on the wagon and I have lost 3lbs so far. Yes, I would like for us to stay in touch and support each other. Take care.

msann 2010-08-29 18:14:18 -0500 Report

hey petals, you and your hubby have my heartfelt symphathies, but you have to just get back on the wagon with the rest of us, i know it is hard but it gets easier, i am praying for your family and his co-workers, have blessed day take care

Gemm 2010-08-29 12:12:55 -0500 Report

Hey petals — as has been said, it is never easy to lose someone close to us. I've lost several family and friends in the past (a couple mentioned in my profile if you care to look). I truly know where you are right now and also know how difficult it can be in those first days to take care of myself. Having a support group to talk to about things and telling on myself is one of the best tools I have found to keep me going - no matter what the difficulty at present - and it also helps keep me accountable, especially to myself, for all my actions or lack of action. I've found that the 1st step to any change is recognition of the need to make a change. Once I've done that it is up to me to do the work necessary to change. Congrats in making that recognition and in implementing a course of action to do better at taking care of you.

Hugs to you & prayers for you and hubby at this time

petals 2010-08-31 15:01:04 -0500 Report

Thank you for your prayers and kind words. This site does help me stay accountable and to tell on myself. The support system here is awesome.

Guardianstone 2010-08-29 03:43:43 -0500 Report

Dear Petals;
((((H)))), here are a couple dozen hugs I'm not using right now. Take a few deep breaths, anbutd tell yourself that you want to do better.
I know you are down right now, but you will do better. Try not to loose all 20.6 lbs at once. That leads to depression and dissapointment. You can't loose all of that without putting your health at a bigger risk. I'm pretty sure that one of us will help you focus on your goals.
Ok no more nagging. For some reason I have been channeling my mother tonight. Time to call home.
I am so very sorry for your husbands loss. My prayers go out for both you and your husband. It never seems fair to loose friends or family.
Take care of yourself. There are too many people who love and care about you.

Guardian stone

petals 2010-08-29 10:46:21 -0500 Report

Thank you Guardian stone, for the hugs and the advice. I have lost 3lbs so far. Thanks for the support that means alot to me.

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-08-15 23:47:21 -0500 Report

Happy day,
Blessing & peace to you & your husband concerning his 2 friends. I thank God for you taking control of your diabetes & not letting it take control of you anymore. I will be waiting to hear your praise reports concerning your journey. Be blessed & know that you are favored in the name of Jesus.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

petals 2010-08-16 10:12:59 -0500 Report

Thank you Mama Dee for your kind words and support!! I can do anything with the Lord in my corner Amen!!

Diane987 2010-08-07 10:06:03 -0500 Report

I am very sorry for your loss. The unexpected death of loved ones is one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with. It is good that you are using that pain to reflect on how you can improve the quality of your life. We all have our moments of weakness, sometimes they last a day, sometimes a few months, but we all go through it. I know you are strong enough to do what is right for you because it takes a lot of inner strength to admit all the things you haven't been doing right for yourself in a public forum like this. Know that we are all here to support you and cheer you on.

RAYT721 2010-08-07 03:11:57 -0500 Report

I can relate, Petals. I've had good days (weeks, months) and I've had bad. It's not because we are diabetics… it's because we are human. There is absolutely no sense beating yourself up over the past. At my age, I think I have seen it all, heard it all and done it all. I just can't remember it all. The important thing is to make TODAY your January 1st. Today is a new day and can be a new YOU with a new attitude. It's not easy but if you get (back) into a routine it get easier. Start small, think big. Good habits can replace bad ones. Your confession is accepted, acknowledged, and serves to be a contract with yourself to live your life to the fullest. You can't work on the outside until you've started the work on the inside… and you've taken that important step. You know we are here for you… cheering you on in your victories, cheering you up in your slumps.

petals 2010-08-07 14:45:17 -0500 Report

Thanks my friend for the support and the kind words. You are right getting back into a routine is what I need and what I am doing. I got a new attitude, and I am determined to change. Thanks for being there for me.

vgarrison 2010-08-06 20:37:20 -0500 Report

I too am getting back on the wagon. I have been letting everything go for months, and I have not felt worse in my life. I am finally starting to check my sugars and taking my meds again. What is it that makes us start to give up. We know it will make us feel worse, but yet for some reason we still do it. I guess I never realised how much of a glutten for punishment I was before i was diagnosed…

Good Luck! Keep your head up and D supplies at hand…LOL

Blessed Be

petals 2010-08-06 22:03:18 -0500 Report

Vicki, I am glad that you are back on the wagon. I never quit taking my meds. I wasn;t taking my bs like I should though. I really feel awful. Hopefully we will remember how bad we feel right now when we are tempted to not take care of ourselves again!! Good luck to you as well!

EmiliaK 2010-08-06 18:29:47 -0500 Report

I am sorry about this terrible loss. Probably the best way to take care of your diabetes is to get into a routine and do it without thinking about it too much. After doing the same thing for 2 or 3 weeks, it will become a habit and you will do it without even thinking. You will be in a kind of automatic pilot. Like driving a car.

petals 2010-08-06 22:04:44 -0500 Report

Thank you. You are right getting into the routine again is the answer. Thanks for the advice.

mas14years 2010-08-06 06:58:10 -0500 Report

why is it that doing the right thing is so hard and the wrong so easy. Nobody is perfect and to be a perfect patiient is extremely hard. i am glad to hear that you are back fighting the fight. I am sorry to hear about your loss. Keep your faith and know that you can do it. God bless

petals 2010-08-06 13:05:57 -0500 Report

You are right , doing the right thing is hard and doing the wrong is easy. I guess it's that way so that we can grow when we take the hard way. I am fighting, and I intend to keep doing so. Thank you for your kind words, God bless you too.

Amalia Alonzo
Amalia Alonzo 2010-08-06 00:05:09 -0500 Report

I definetly agree with you. When I look at my boys it just makes me want to strive to keep healthly. However, when I do cheat I just feel so guilty and feel like I have failed them.

petals 2010-08-06 13:08:12 -0500 Report

I undestand I feel like a failure when I cheat too. It just causes alot of extra stress, it just is not worth it. So I hope that we both can do better. Let's quit being cheaters!!!

alanbossman 2010-08-05 07:53:18 -0500 Report

Hi Petals, I think sometimes most of us do fall the wagon dont beat your selfup over this you have got back on the wagon and things will be better. You can does this be strong

petals 2010-08-06 13:09:33 -0500 Report

Alan , think you for your kind words and support. I am back on the wagon!! It was lonely down there in the ditch!!!:)

ONeil 2010-08-04 05:12:19 -0500 Report

Well Petals,
I will have to say, be strong and beleave on the Lord he will help you in the right way to go but by all means don't give up there are people that do care and Love you, and not only that we are all her to help you if you need to talk okay lol.
God Bless & take care
Hugs Anna

cc9 2010-08-04 01:43:18 -0500 Report

i believe you can do it!!!!! You are the most important person to you and you certainly deserve every sporting chance you can give yourself to live life to the fullest. We are here to cheer you on your commitment to yourself.

Harlen 2010-08-04 00:48:06 -0500 Report

Live fast die yung I lived it a long time and made it now I got D
wow didnt even think I would live this long but now that I am here I am going to live like it is the last day.
You never know when your going to go if I go I am going with a smile on my face for the life I live today is the best Life I have ever had.
I will not give it up ez.
Best wishes

Elrond 2010-08-04 00:30:07 -0500 Report

Trust me, I know all about that wagon. I spent more than 20 years ignoring it and paid the price big time. It took me a long time to catch up to it and hopefully I'm now firmly settled on it even though I teeter on the edge at times. Don't blame yourself. It's difficult to pass up all the yummy stuff all the time. And once you taste the 'forbidden fruit', it's very difficult to give it up. Hang in there, one mistake or one series of mistakes isn't the end of the world. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back with it. When Betty gets done hugging you, I'll add mine {{{{{{ TightHug }}}}}}}}}}

petals 2010-08-04 08:57:52 -0500 Report

Elrond, thank you for the kind words, support , and hugs. It really does mean alot to me!!

bettymachete 2010-08-03 22:24:42 -0500 Report

Hey there darlin! I have lots of hugs for you. (((((((((((((Dee)))))))))))))))
Life is short, it's tragic we have to be reminded sometimes at how precious it is with the loss of people we love. I also know you hit a rough patch that couldn't have helped. I sure wish I lived closer, we could have fun doing good stuff for ourselves. Glad you rededicated yourself to your health. Now we can move on to tomorrow together. If it helps, we can write to each other about what we are eating daily and become advocates for each others health and wellness. We can be that wagging no no finger and that "get your ass up and go girl" voice for each other, if you want. Either way I know you can do it! You're a great gal you deseve nothing less!

petals 2010-08-04 09:00:42 -0500 Report

Thanks Betty for the hugs, support and friendship. It means alot to me. If I can I would like to talk to you when I am feeling weak and tempted, I know that you will not hold back and will give me what I need, is that ok with you?