my first bbq as a diabetic

By realsis77 Latest Reply 2010-08-10 15:29:13 -0500
Started 2010-08-02 12:34:33 -0500

Hello everyone. I survived my first bbq as a diabetic. I tried to be careful about what I ate but it was my birthday party and I was given a big pice of my cake in front of me. I tried to only nibble on the cake but I ended up shooting my numbers up to 277! I feel like I failed. I'm feeling guilty and bad. I should have passed completely on the cake but I was weak! I feel like I failed AGAIN! I knew better but went ahead and told myself a nibble won't hurt me. I did do good with the fried food and passed on the bread. I still feel like a failure! Any words of advice? Are there times anyone else gets weak? As you all know I'm feeling pretty bad about myself with my issuses of high numbers and struggling to eat correctly. I'm the only one in my immediate family with diabetes so its been a real struggle for me! I'm so new at this and I'm feeling a little beaten now. Any advice ??

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lb64 2010-08-10 15:29:13 -0500 Report

You shouldn't feel guilty for eating cake on your birthday. Instead of a big piece you should have gone for a smaller piece. Usually nothing tastes as good after the first bite. That's my way of thinking. If you want cake you have to adjust your carbs to compensate.

Armourer 2010-08-04 00:41:45 -0500 Report

Hey, it happens! For several years I wouldn't go to extended family parties because they had absolutely nothing for me to eat, yet nibble on. They even told me not to bring any of my food. Changed Doc's and now am counseled to just be diligent, instead of 4 hot-dogs, have just one, instead of a half bag of chips, a small grab bag. When it comes to the birthday cake, a sliver and one small scoop of ice cream, then take the needed insulin to compensate. Life is all around better since I've done this. Going off the path once in a while is okay, but don't make it a habit. Hey, I'm preaching to me too!

cc9 2010-08-03 06:26:06 -0500 Report

Hi Realsis77. Feeling guilty is not going to change what happened!! What it will do is make you feel worse about yourself and negative self talk which will eventually require some sort of comfort. Which in my case I know it means I comfort myself with more of the foods on the "bad" list. It is a constant struggle to inform ppl that you are a person with diabetes and that some foods will do harm to your body. Ultimately, when we think about living a life that is governed by restrictions, it makes it twice as difficult to be "good". In time you will learn to be more aware of the choices you want to make and what to do to counteract the effects of your food choice.

GabbyPA 2010-08-02 19:02:37 -0500 Report

First of all don't beat yourself up over a piece of cake.

You were enjoying your day and it should not be riddled with guilt. We do have to take control to keep things where we want them to be, but sometimes we give in. We all do it. The thing is to not let it become a habit that you keep doing. That's all. One bad day is not going to kill you and as you get back in the saddle again, you just learn how to deal with it next time.

MAYS 2010-08-02 14:57:46 -0500 Report

It's a learning process, not school, there are no grades to pass or fail, just decisions to be made, good and bad.
We all get weak, you cannot expect to change abruptly without having cravings for your favorite foods, having diabetes is tough enough so stop being hard on yourself, you enjoyed yourself with conflicts of thought, now get rid of the guilt.

I have been a vegetarian for the past 30 years (since 3/80), I love my vegetables and grains together, do I suffer (?) yes, do I feel guilty (?) no !

Be good to yourself, tomorrow you will know a little more about diabetes than you know of today and much more than you knew yesterday.
As you begin to progress in your quest to manage your diabetes you will begin to develop into a source of diabetic knowledge for other diabetics to feed off of based on actual experience in the future.

Feelings of guilt make you think, and move backwards.
You had a good time, you enjoyed yourself, release the guilt and move on, forward !


Harlen 2010-08-02 14:17:18 -0500 Report

lol ben there done that.
Dont feel bad I think we all have ben there
You didnt fail the road to good #'s is full of little bumps your going to hit some and miss some so dont take it to heart.
If you hit a bump its ok just keep going .
Best wishes

Crashnot 2010-08-02 12:53:57 -0500 Report

ha ha, if I only hit 277 after bday cake, I'd be a raving success! Your best friend at a bbq will be the meat, even with the sauce, deviled eggs, lettuce & broccoli salads. They fill you up with enough fiber and fat to feel satisfied. And don't be ashamed to just say, "I will feel really sick tonight if I eat all that cake, can you just give me a SLIVER?" Works great for my M-in-Law. Not ideal, but you can participate and not have to roll in guilt afterward.

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