Virtual Hugs (((Hugs))) Page ... August 2010

MAYS
By MAYS Latest Reply 2014-07-27 22:36:19 -0500
Started 2010-07-31 18:17:10 -0500

This is a continuation of the Virtual Hugs (((H))) Page.
It will continue it's current format on a monthly basis, this allows for easier access and reference, so if you:

Need-A-Hug … Wish to Give-A-Hug … or Deposit-A-Hug … Why wait ?

Do it now !

If you ever need a Virtual Hug (((H))), stop in here for a huge hug withdrawal.
Tell us why you need one and take it, when you can afford to, deposit some.

We accept all deposits !
Let's break the bank on hugs !

(((H))) 's

~Mays~


80 replies

VickieF
VickieF 2011-02-16 00:32:53 -0600 Report

I Thought I might drop by and deposit some Hugs. Big Hug, Little Hugs, Any size Hugs you need. Please feel free to take as many as you need. My heart has as many as we need.((((((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))))) (((((((((())))))))))
((((())))) ((())) (()) ()
Love, Vickie

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-10-08 19:22:49 -0500 Report

Happy day;
have a few special hugs, some regular hugs and some small (mini) hugs to be distributed as needed. Thank you for your dedication to us.
Guardian ston

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-09-23 17:42:24 -0500 Report

Hello Mays and DC family,
I'm not feeling well today and could use a hug or two. Must have picked up a bug (EEEUUUWWW) somewhere. Hopefully it is only a 24 hr bug.
Gods love
Guardian ston

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-09-23 17:42:23 -0500 Report

Hello Mays and DC family,
I'm not feeling well today and could use a hug or two. Must have picked up a bug (EEEUUUWWW) somewhere. Hopefully it is only a 24 hr bug.
Gods love
Guardian ston

LennyDenny
LennyDenny 2010-08-30 13:25:11 -0500 Report

I see the need for lots of hugs, I have a lot of good things going on in my life so here's as many hugs as need. (((H)))'s for everyone.
Denny

donna50
donna50 2010-08-29 21:21:08 -0500 Report

yes i need a hug i am having surgery in the morning and iam scared

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-08-29 21:25:04 -0500 Report

HUG! I am sure that everything will go well for you. It is amazing at how medicine has progressed in what seems like impossible surgeries for us as patients are simple repeated tried and true surgeries for the doctors. My wife just had surgery #24 recently and while the fears you have are truly justified, you'll be glad when it's over and after the recovery. My thoughts are with you and we so hope to hear from you soon with a status update. After all, you're in the family now!!!

donna50
donna50 2010-08-29 21:42:37 -0500 Report

thanks fot all your thoughtfulness know that it is silly for being scared i am 50 and it is silly but you made me feel better

donna50
donna50 2010-08-31 23:52:36 -0500 Report

IT TOOK ME ALONG TIME TO WAKE UP AND IT HURST A LOT BUT I AM SILL
WAITNG FOR THEM TO LET ME GO HOME I MISS MY LITTLE BOY AND THANKS FOR THE HUGS AS MY SON SAYS HERE IS A FAMILY HUG FOR ALL OF YOU

salmanda
salmanda 2010-08-29 21:47:44 -0500 Report

Hi Donna,
It is never silly to be nervous about having surgery. I have had many, and I am always nervous. You are going to be fine. The doctors will take excellent care of you, and all of your friends here will be thinking of you and saying prayers for you. Good luck and please give us an update when you are feeling up to it.
Hugs,
Sal :)

jayabee52
jayabee52 2010-08-31 02:10:39 -0500 Report

Someone once said the definition of "minor surgery" is an operation on someone else. the definition of "major surgery" is having a similar operation on yourself.
Prayers for you!

thabrat30
thabrat30 2010-08-29 20:53:23 -0500 Report

Getting a few more deposited before the end of the month!!!! (((( HUGS))))

Thanks all for being there when I need you! I will still probably need some in the near future. As my son has decided that he wants to live with me and we will be going back to court.
Valerie

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-08-24 20:59:24 -0500 Report

Wow, guys… it won't be long before the September version of the Hug Newsletter becomes published. I am not ready for Autumn and for that I need hugs. It's back to dodging the school buses on the side streets in the mornings and I need hugs for that. I am crazy as a bedbug and I need drugs… er, um, hugs for that!!! Thanks for all for keeping this thread going and contributing to its success. This was a great idea, Mays!!! We get to share the good and bad, the happy and sad, but, mainly get to share our friendship and genuine concern for others. Only another week of this August issue and the September edition will be coming out.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-24 21:29:45 -0500 Report

Thanks Ray, and everyone else.
This site is all about helping one another, and every one is doing such a great job, and it all comes from the heart.
((( Hugs ))) to everyone !

~Mays~

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-24 20:05:23 -0500 Report

Hugs (((H)))'s, to all of you, for spreading so much warmth, joy and support amongst one another so unselfishly.

~Mays~

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-08-24 17:14:36 -0500 Report

Hi family, just here to deposit (((((HUGS))))) TO EVERYONE whether you need them or not.
Love to all,

Guardian stone

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-08-24 17:42:29 -0500 Report

Happy day Guardianstone,
I like your words of wisdom you gave about not spking badly about the ex-spouse & letting go. My ex-husband is still angry w/me but to God be the glory I forgave him face to face before I left him. When I told him that I forgive him he was like for what that was another clue that I was making the correct choice of leaving. Keep doing you for you are cool I enjoy your words. Thebrat30 believe me no matter what he hs done you in the past don't let him control your future. That's for God & you to handle, if you have not trully forgave him please do so soon its for your good not his. Keep your face in the Master face.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

thabrat30
thabrat30 2010-08-24 19:36:42 -0500 Report

I forgave him for what he did to me a long time ago. It isn't my place to be the judge. I am having a harder time for what he has and is still doing to my baby. He has physical custody at this point so that makes it worse. My son and I are very close and have always been that way. He talks to me about things he wont talk to anyone else about. In a great way that is a good thing… at times I don't really think a mom should know that much about her son… at others I am greatful for it. Thank you again!

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-08-24 23:12:33 -0500 Report

Happy day,
I will be standing on the wall for you concerning this situation. I will also keep your son & ex in pray that good put a hedge of protection around him. Also that God touch your ex where he knows that he will reap what he sues vingence is mine said the Lord. God got you & we are here for you. If you ever want 2 chat one on one just reach out. Stay blessed & favored in the Lord.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-08-24 13:50:06 -0500 Report

Happy day thabrat30,
I pray this will help ((((HUGS)))) if oyu need more just shout it out. We are all here for oyu as you are here for us. Be blessed & know that oyu are highly favored in the name of Jesus.

Workign 4 Jesus, & Loving it.
Mama Dee

thabrat30
thabrat30 2010-08-24 09:16:34 -0500 Report

Go figure. Yesterday I deposited a few and today I need one. We are having issues with my ex husband (who currently has custody of my son). My son wants to run cross country and my ex told him that he would pay for football. If he wants to run track then it would be my responsibility to make it happen. Which is pure craziness! I believe that it should be my sons choice as to which sport he participates in and should be supported. I pay child support and I don't fully understand the logic he is using as to why I should have to pay for one sport if he is willing to pay for one that my son doesn't want to play. There were other issues last night also. Anyway, I had a sobbing 13 year old boy last night because of the mess. Sorry for rambling on.

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-08-24 17:09:48 -0500 Report

Hello Thabrat30;
Ex-spouces can be frustrating, horrible ; vindictive monsters. Sometimes they can't understand why they do everything they do. Remember your son is caught up in all this. All he knows is that he feels horrid. Some kids feel "it's all MY FAULT" or "IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT, YOU'VE RUINED MY LIFE". Don't let him stew on this. Have as many talks with him as you can. Take care of YOUR mental and physical health. And if your ex wants to act like an stuborn mule or a childish putz (excuse me) give yourself and your son a hug (((Hs))), and ignore the ex if possable.
If you cannot ignore him politely hang up and throw eggs in the bath/shower. It is easier to clean and helps dissapate your anger, and you don't go to jail for murder.
You and your son sound close. Try (TRY no matter how hard it is) not to talk ugly about your ex in front of your son. Remember he is your son's father, and your 13 year old son he doesn't want or need that.
Enough of preachy, psychological advise. If you can't tell I have been through 2 divorces. Some of the advice was given to me, and I pass it along to you. Accept or reject it as you will, but don't forget to tale care of your health. There are people here and at home that care about and need you.
(((H)))
Guardian stone

thabrat30
thabrat30 2010-08-24 19:33:41 -0500 Report

Thank you so very much! I listen to every suggestion that comes my way. I appreciate your warm words of wisdom and the hugs are wonderful!

salmanda
salmanda 2010-08-29 09:20:24 -0500 Report

Hi thabrat30,
I have also been through a separation and divorce when my daughter was very young.
The most important thing, in my opinion, is to not "bad mouth" your ex in your child's presence. It is very hard at times, but the rewards are great. First, you will feel good about yourself and second, your child will remember. If your ex is doing some bad mouthing, it will only hurt him and his relationship with your son.
Another is a united front when issues come up with your son. It is very confusing when one parent allows one thing and the other parent something else. It also causes resentment towards the parent that may be a bit more restricting even if for good reasons.
As a teacher I see another side. Many parent teacher conferences now are including the child who has the opportunity to share his work. When parents attend together, the child gets to do this just the one time. Since these are usually 30 minutes conferences, they go way beyond the time allotted by the school administration. Having to schedule two conferences for one family isn't always possible. This is another example of a united front. You, your ex, and your child all hear the same thing at the same time which alleviates mixed messages.
If you can, do all this, the rewards are great. When my child is able to get home from far away and it is a very short visit, her dad and I are able to go out together with her to eat. That is so much better than missing out on any time with her!
With all that said, it wasn't always easy. There were times I was so angry at my ex I could have spit nails! Biting my tongue was sooooooo hard, but it paid off in the end.
Good luck,
Sal :)

thabrat30
thabrat30 2010-08-29 20:51:51 -0500 Report

Thank you! I have never bad mouthed my ex. At least not in front of my son. I am aware however that he and his entire family had made me out to be a bad mom who left her son. (Which isn't true at all. I would NEVER do that.) As for the united front, we are just recently getting to that. I am the only parent that goes to conferences. He has only been to 1 in the last year and he only talked to 2 of the teachers and left.
thabrat30

newbie51
newbie51 2010-08-24 08:21:00 -0500 Report

Making my first deposit of (((h)))s. I have some to give and I may need to make a withdrawal sometime.
Judith

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-23 12:35:20 -0500 Report

Family member "Mary73," here is a virtual hug, ((( H ))) from me to you.
Don't ever stop being a friend to those in need, you friendship may be just the thing that was needed at that time, by that person, to help them cope with life, thereby making it just a little easier to deal with!

~Mays~

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-22 11:12:11 -0500 Report

((( Hugs ))) To all of the newest members of the Diabetic Connect Family!
For the week of 8-15 to 8-21, Welcome to the Family !

~Mays~

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-08-14 19:45:05 -0500 Report

Here's a HUDGE (((H))), with A couple million (((H)))s for the whole support group.
You deserve a few dozen ((((H))))s for this wonderful concept. Keep it rolling.
I know I left an earlier msg, but I hadn't see this one.
Guardian stone

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-14 20:18:45 -0500 Report

We thank you for such a generous deposit, the (((H)))'s will all be put to good use … ((( Hugs ))) to you, from all of us !

~Mays~

AddassaMari
AddassaMari 2010-08-14 19:32:28 -0500 Report

I am here to make a deposit and request a wihdrawl. "Cause I am back and I have missed each and everyone of you. So ((((BIG HUG))))) to everyone.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-14 20:27:01 -0500 Report

Welcome Home !
You were missed, but never forgotten …
((( H )))'s to you, and many more ((( H )))'s to carry with you.

~Mays~

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-14 17:53:31 -0500 Report

Here is a big ((( Hug ))) to all the members of the Diabetic Connect Family.
Diabetes is only as hard on you as you allow it to be, take control and live your life to the fullest, with no excuses given, or accepted !

((( H )))'s

~Mays~

Kaiyle
Kaiyle 2010-08-11 08:43:33 -0500 Report

Hugs are just comforting and therapeutic. Hugs need no words expressed because everything is felt and expressed through that wonderful embrace. So I stopped by to get one of those hugs and while I'm here, I'm dropping off quite of few BIG bear hugs myself.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-11 08:08:39 -0500 Report

((( H )))'s to all new family members here at Diabetic Connect.
Together we represent the positive, much needed support and understanding necessary to deal with diabetes on a daily basis.

((( H )))'s … Welcome to the Family … ((( H )))'s !

~Mays~

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-06 20:37:01 -0500 Report

Graylin Bee, here are a few ((( H )))'s just for you, here's to a successful recovery from your surgery !

~Mays~

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-08-06 21:43:01 -0500 Report

AHHH!!! Thanks I needed them. Trying to cut back on the Vicodin. Pain level just dropped from a 4.5 to a 2 from them.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-06 18:36:51 -0500 Report

I couldn't (or wouldn't) have said, or written it better than you did Ray.
DC is here, it's now and it's positive (not to mention effectively supportive).
And it belongs to us (diabetics, caregivers and the curious) let's keep it going …

~Mays~

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-08-06 18:27:51 -0500 Report

I just wanted to give another "thumbs up" to the August edition of the Virtual Hugs page. I figure this will bump up the thread to the newbies (and do-bees) so you all know that this is a site where you can come for support, encouragement, motivation, education, inspiration and preparation. I've surfed the web a lot and this site has people that I am proud to call my "family." Let's keep sharing our successes and failures. Know that you're not alone in the ups and downs of life, diabetes, relationships, etc. I'm depositing hugs here for those who are sick, tired, sick and tired, in pain, alone, lonely, or for whatever reason need us. We are here for you. DC rocks!!!

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-04 20:08:06 -0500 Report

((( Hugging Helps ))) … Try it ! … Hugs are an important expression of affection. By hugging someone, you remind them that you care about them and support them. … (((H)))'s

~Mays~

cc9
cc9 2010-08-04 01:47:22 -0500 Report

I will take a few hugs today :(((( Thanks for the virtual hug bank.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-04 09:56:26 -0500 Report

((( Hugging Helps ! )))
It's our motto and our intent, spreading love and support via ((( H )))'s.

~Mays~

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-08-01 10:44:20 -0500 Report

I am taking a few extra hugs today. I need a few to last until Thurs. That's when the GYN says I will be allowed to escape from the hosp.

SueIzzy
SueIzzy 2010-08-01 00:17:52 -0500 Report

Elrond,

My heart goes out to you during this most difficult chapter in your life. You proved to be a special friend to Bobby, and one who handled this situation with dignity. I respect your decision to let her family be with her during her passing, and I hope that you too have someone to now help you through your difficult time.

My thoughts & prayers are with you now!

Sue ~:-)

Elrond
Elrond 2010-07-31 18:47:11 -0500 Report

I'm depositing a big stack of hugs just because I feel like I can use a bunch myself. The last couple of weeks have been rough on me and the near future may be stressful too. Besides that, I just plain love hugs. :)

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-08-01 10:42:39 -0500 Report

Thank you for all thesupport you offered Bobbie. I will continue to pray for you it is so hard to go through what you faced.

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