grief and your own well being

wendyjean
By wendyjean Latest Reply 2008-09-08 06:23:22 -0500
Started 2008-09-03 14:55:02 -0500

grief and sadness can really get you down,i lost 4 family members within 4 yrs one including my mom and now my own illness and it seems like you just can't enjoy life anymore this is just starting to lift and this sight has really helped


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Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-09-08 06:23:22 -0500 Report

That is a lot of loss in such a short time. It kind of makes you paranoid of what might happen...what if...and all that kind of thing.

I lost my dad, mother-in-law, grandmother and baby brother within 3 years and two around the same time of the year. I know I gained a LOT of weight after my dad died, and though I lost my brother so soon after, I took solace in the fact that he gave me away at my wedding and that he was happy in his family when he was taken. If I didn't have a great support group of friends and family, it would have been devistating.

I love this community of people here, becaues they are just that and I hope that no matter how you feel, you know that you can drop any of us a letter to vent or cry...we are all here for eachother. And one day, you will read a similar post, and be able to share how you overcame and grew from the expereince and the support of good friends.

tmana
tmana 2008-09-04 04:02:26 -0500 Report

I can relate, somewhat. In January 1995, I lost my grandfather, a great-uncle, and a great-aunt individually; a close friend lost his sister in that same period. We decided that since the year started off so badly, we'd restart the year on the Chinese New Year that year, to shoo away all the ill-fortune.

ldybugg47
ldybugg47 2008-09-04 00:08:54 -0500 Report

I am so sorry Wendy. I lost my sister and a man friend I loved within 2 days of each other the first of Sept. 2002. I think I gain weight during grieving and then then a couple years after that I found out I was diabetic.It drains you emotionally and hard to think of anything you should be doing. I hope things are better for you.It's a slow process but others are there to help.

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