emotions espically denial!!

By realsis77 Latest Reply 2010-08-02 09:35:26 -0500
Started 2010-07-28 11:13:43 -0500

Hi all! I guess I've gone through a huge range of emotions finding out I have diabetes! I even slipped into denial (thinking maybe the doctor made a mistake, maybe my meter is broken and these numbers are wrong!) Is this normal? Why the denial? I even called the meter company to check the meter to see if its readings were off! Now that's taking the denial pretty far! I need some advice. There is so much to learn and I know so little I feel overwhelmed! I keep thinking my doctor will say oh no I made a mistake your not diabetic! Is this normal? I'm feeling a little crazy. Any advice?

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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-08-02 09:35:26 -0500 Report

Hi! I really appreciated your honesty and wanted to weigh in along with the other great responses that you have received. I think that it is human nature to want to believe that we are in complete control of our lives, and that life won't change unless we want it to. In that regard, a medical diagnosis is a crisis in terms of challenging our basic beliefs about life, one of them being that 'bad' things shouldn't happen to us, that life is always fair. As others have said, we go through a grieving process as we say good-bye to the life that we expected to live, and begin to adjust to the 'new normal.' In my experiences with clients facing medical diagnoses, denial is often related to fear of loss of control, fear of the future, fear of change. So what you are going through is normal. I would really encourage to find a safe place to talk about your feelings with someone who can be an objective listener. Also, getting informed about your diabetes, and how best to take care of yourself, can help you to move forward in your treatment with all of the facts. Knowledge is power! Please go easy on yourself as you adjust to your diagnosis. We all go through our own process as we move forward on this journey. You have found a great place here on DC to feel supported.

GabbyPA 2010-07-28 19:30:56 -0500 Report

Being diagnosed with a chronic illness is much like grieving the death of a loved one. You will go through many stages of "grieving" through the process of figuring things out. There is not a right or a wrong way to deal with it, as long as you always strive to move forward. You might get stuck along the way in maybe the "anger" stage or even the "depressed" stage...that is what we are here for. We have been there, and some of us still are. I love the people here because we all understand those feelings and we can be that shoulder to cry on. OR we can be that much needed kick in the butt. All in love and concern. You're not crazy. Well, at least not more crazy than any of us. =0)

Harlen 2010-07-28 12:12:26 -0500 Report

First thing relax, I did the same thing
I sed to me self that if I give up the soda then it will all be ok lol NOT lol
and its better then a STD, canser,Aids,and the list gose on.
SoI gave up on stressing over it and got into getting all the info I was able to get and now here I am working on helping others with the same thing I do.
Best wishes

realsis77 2010-07-28 12:39:10 -0500 Report

Hopefully some day I too will be able to help others ! I'll just keep reading and learning and taking it day by day! :)

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-07-28 11:54:44 -0500 Report

I told several Drs. that the test must have been done after I recieved two units of blood and it was lieing blood from the transfusion that gave me the 8+ A1c. So to me the crazy feeling sounds normal. So far I've followed their advice of cutting the carbs, losing weight, taking my meds and my A1c is down. But it has only been since Jan. so I still wonder about the lieing blood…

realsis77 2010-07-28 12:36:40 -0500 Report

Thank you for sharing that with me :) I am glad the denial is normal I was feeling a bit crazy! Now I know its a normal part of the acceptance process.

petals 2010-07-28 11:20:30 -0500 Report

What you are feeling is totally normal!! We have all been there!! Just don't stay in denial because it can really hurt you, your health and well being in the long run. My advice is to feel what you need to feel, cry , scream , swing from the ceiling fan ect. Just get it out of your system, there is no time table with your emotions , just handle them as they come along. You are not crazy, very normal reaction to this disease. I have been a diabetic for over 8 years now and I still get emotional about it sometimes. I write in a jounral, get on here alot and let it all hang out. I hope that this helped you . Big hug!!

realsis77 2010-07-28 11:32:25 -0500 Report

Thank you so much! I really needed to hear that ( needed the hug too! ) This is my only strong support I have reguarding my diabetes. I'm not even sure how my husband feels about it. He's really not talked too much about it. He asked I get a few cookbooks so we can change our diets and that's about it. I really don't know how he's feeling inside about this. This is really the only place I can go for true support! I thank you all for this! Glad to know I'm not crazy! :)

Wispercandy 2010-07-28 12:47:01 -0500 Report

I was in denial about my diabetes for a long time. I was in a coma when they dignosis me. My blood sugars shot up to 1294 and I was in a coma for 4-5 days when I woke up I said I didn't have diabetes I was so scared and didn't know how I was going to manage the diabetes. I a llittle better but I still have a hard time because I can't seem to lose the weight that I need to be healthy. But i'm praying that God will work it out for me. And you keep strong because I know we can get through this. I'm glad you are feeling better about youself. Just take one day at time.

petals 2010-07-28 13:12:34 -0500 Report

My hubby didn't say much about it either, but he does encourage healthier meals, and he actually likes them!!LOL That could be your hubby's way of being there for you. Alot of men don't talk about how they feel about something, and check out the recipes on this site, there are some very good ones. Hang in there things will get better!!:)

petals 2010-07-28 13:25:14 -0500 Report

I forgot to tell you about a book that really helped me it's called, The Diabetes Food and Nutrition Bible: A complete guide to planning, shopping, cooking, and eating. I got mine on Amazon.com, it was just $5.00 with shipping and handling!!