Newly Diagnosed - Looking for Advice

By Frank71 Latest Reply 2010-08-03 08:35:33 -0500
Started 2010-07-26 14:51:16 -0500


I am a newly dignosed diabetic. I just had a physical exam and my fasting glucose bloodwork came back at 151, which my doctor communicated to be too high. In past bloodwork, I have hovered around 130 glucose, which I guess I should have taken more seriously. I am 39 years old, 340lbs with no history of diabetes in the family. My recent physical exam and my diabetic road ahead has me very concerned. I have four young children under the age of 5, the thought of not being there to walk my daughters down the aisle or to see them get married and have children of their own, is freightening. For years I knew the 130 glucose was too high, thinking I could start a diet and make a change in lifstyle and get it under control at any time. Of course, years go by and there is always an excuse - work, young children, etc to not dedicate the time to my health. Then my last physical comes along and bites me…how foolish of me to let my high blood sugar go unchecked for so long. I thought I was smarter than this.

My doctor wants to do another fasting blood test in two weeks - however, quite frankly, I do not want to wait two weeks to start changing my life and health. It will be no better than 130 (where I have been for the past 10 years) and may even be worse than 150 - either way I need to make changes. I am searching for a great diabetic informational cookbook and meal plan to get started with. I am looking for anyone's thoughts and advice as well in how best to approach controling diabetes, losing weight, exercising and staying motivated?

Thank you,


12 replies

PetiePal 2010-08-03 08:35:33 -0500 Report

Welcome to the club nobody wants to be a member of Frank.

Props to you for taking the initiative. 340 is pretty up there, I'd advise setting up a meeting with a nutritionist and getting yourself set up on a diet to start dropping some weight. Take your kids out for a nightly walk-start slow. Every pound you shed is less work on your heart and the cardio/exercise will improve insulin production (hopefully) and insulin resistance.

It's a long and hard road to travel but you're not alone…keep at it and stay the course and we'll get your numbers down in no time!

RAYT721 2010-07-29 19:22:35 -0500 Report

Frank… Welcome to our little community. The first thing that I want to say is that you can't go back in time. Stop beating yourself up. Forgive yourself! Now, deep breath. Let's move on…

There are no perfect cookbooks or meal plans because everyone has different bodies, tastes, dislikes, etc. What works for me may or may not work for you and I assure you that you won't like 100% of the things in my life's cookbook. You can, however, start to write your own (tip: check out and go to My Plate D for an online FREE food journal)

In time you'll know what you like and your list will grow from 5 to 10 to 25 to 365 menu plans in no time. Keep track of your favs!!!

Exercise doesn't have to be formal. Walk. Swim. Dance. Vacuum the floor. Gardening. Anything you do sure beats doing nothing. You don't need a set of weights… start out with 16 ounce water bottles (preferably full) and go to gallons and whatever. Check out YouTube for old Jack Lalanne tv show episodes… classic tv… FREE!

We can offer education but only YOU can motivate yourself past, "what a great idea." Only the big fat losers sit around eating while watching big fat losers. Use the time to do something… leg lifts? sit ups? thrusts? weight lifting???

Drink water… tap the tap!!! Make sure to eat 3+ meals a day. Learn portion control. Take baby steps.

Start small and think big. You can't control some things so focus on the things you CAN control. The past is gone. I'd not only like my weight from when I was 25, I'd like my head of hair back too.

Don't burn yourself out trying to do it all and do it all overnight. One step at a time. Please let me know if I can help you. I don't have all of the answers but I've found there are always people willing to tell me where to go (in more ways than one.)

Grab a loved one, friend, neighbor, dog or whoever and start walking, jogging, running, bicycling, throwing a frisbee or whatever.

Your new life is just around the corner. Maybe you can't see it now but you will when you get up and start the journey!!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-29 14:20:51 -0500 Report

Hi Frank, I am not a physician but I am a therapist and educator with a focus on newly-diagnosed patients and caregivers. You might want to check out my discussion board, Just Got Diagnosed: How are you FEELING? It's great that you are reaching out for advice and support from others who are dealing with similar issues -- getting support is an important step forward in staying motivated! I would really encourage you to work closely with the members of your treatment rteam to create a plan that works with your preferences and lifestyle. I would also encourage you stay connected with other people who are facing similar challenges. You can learn a lot from their experiences. You may find some 'buddies' who can help you to stay on track while you do the same for them. Any new medical diagnosis brings up a lot of emotional issues -- fear, disappointment, frustration, anger... I would totally encourage you to find a safe place to talk about your feelings, now as you are coping with your new diagnosis, and going forward. This is a great place to start. But a friend, family member, or professional counselor might also be helpful in providing a listening ear -- listening without judgment and without trying to tell you what to do. I think coping with emotions begins with just expressing them. And when you get the feelings out, it is easier to take in information and make educated treatment decisions. I hope you keep your friends at DC updated on how you are doing, and keep reaching out! Best wishes to you.

Frank71 2010-07-28 11:37:00 -0500 Report

Thanks for the kind words and advice. I don't know if I blame my doctors as much as I blame myself. About 3 years ago, I moved from Long Island, NY to Syracuse, NY (300 miles). While in Long Island, I lost about 100 pounds from 365 to 265, and my blood sugar decreased to a high, but normal level (115ish). On Long Island, prior to my weight loss, my doctor's were concerned with my 130 blood sugar, but I reassured them I wanted to try to control it with diet and exercise prior to medication. After procrastinanting for a year or so, I finally got on the right track. After losing the 100 pounds and maintaining for some time, my wife and I had a set of triplets to complement the 2 year old daughter we already had. Life was chaotic but blessed, however, my focus on my health slipped and over the past 4 years I have gained 75lbs back and am at 340lbs and a few years older. Upon moving to Syracuse a few years back, again, I have told my doctors about my past success, in controlling my blood sugar through diet and exercise, and they have allowed me to do so. Again, I have procrastinated on making a lifestyle change. My recent physical, with a spiked blood sugar of 150, really has me concerned as well as my doctor. I am going for another fasting bloodwork in a few days, and have a referral for a diabetic nutrionist lined up for next week. I am really ready to dedicate more time to myself and my health - my wife is very supportive of this as well. So, I don't blame my doctors as much as I blame myself for taking my health for granted and ignoring such a serious issue. I am ready to change that. Thanks for the links and encouragement - it means alot. I am not sure where I fit in, for those of you that have been battling type 1 all your life, or have much worse conditions then myself, I apologize for asking for for advice and feedback when you have your own issues to contend with. Just know that they are very special and helpful to me.

Thanks for your help and encouragement.

GabbyPA 2010-07-28 18:41:28 -0500 Report

It sounds then like you are working in the right direction. You will do great and your kids will love you for it. Wow, 3 little ones all at once. That is enough to make you stress a bit I bet. Just wait till they all start dating. LOL

realsis77 2010-07-27 10:38:12 -0500 Report

Hi frank. I'm also newly diagnosed. Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm 5' and weigh 115. My numbers are in the 200 range! Sounds like your doing better than most! This community is a wonderful place for kindness and support! Hang in there! We are all here for each other! And I'd like to say welcome. I wish I had some good advice but I'm in shock myself over just finding out I'm diabetic! I just wanted to tell you this is a grat place to learn and get support! Stick around here and everyone will help you get through this!

alanbossman 2010-07-27 09:30:11 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to the DC community do check out the sites KD and Mays posted they are a great help (geat name that was my dads name)

Mama Dee
Mama Dee 2010-07-26 17:13:55 -0500 Report

Happy day, You have come to the right place welcome there is alot of love here. Remember that you are blessed & highly favored in the name of Jesus.

Working 4 Jesus, & Loving it.

GabbyPA 2010-07-26 16:00:08 -0500 Report

Welcome to the community and we are glad to have you here. There are some great books listed in our "Book Club" section where you can read our reviews and then order it straight from there if it is available. I have a few that I read about on here, so check those out and see what meets your goals.

The other thing is that as you grow in your control, you will find that you have all kinds of energy that you thought you had lost forever. Your kids are going to love the new dad they get out of this. Your habits will become theirs, so as you get healthier in your life style, so will they and that is one of the best things you can do for your kids.

Good to have you here. You are on the right road.

kdroberts 2010-07-26 14:55:08 -0500 Report

It sounds like you need a new doctor. If you had a 130 fasting test you should have had another one a few days later, if it came back over 126 you should have been diagnosed with diabetes. Even without the test in a couple of weeks a 130 and 151 on two separate occasions is considered diabetic. I would question your doctor on why they are being so laid back about what would appear to be a very serious situation.

This is a good site to check out.