How to juggle School, family and Friends

By ccritch Latest Reply 2010-07-27 07:58:34 -0500
Started 2010-07-26 10:31:52 -0500

I just enrolled in online classes to get my Associates Degree in Business Management and conentration in Healthcare Management. It seems that now my free time is being consumed filling out applications, filing for for grants and scholarships and puting my friends and family on hold, I am juggling work, friends, homework, and family all at one time.

I have set priorities for myself to help me use quality time with my family, friends and school. I have a plan of action, however, it doesn't always act out the way you plan.

I make a point to spend time with my little one after work. Then I start on my assignments, and discussion boards. However, I have every intention on keeping in touch with my sisters and mom and friends, it doesn't always pan out. I am not ignoring or don't want to be bothered with them. I am trying to accomplish a goal that I have tried years ago and could not. I don't understand why I must be the one initiate a conversation, My family and/or friends don't call on me to see how I am doing. I am not asking for self pity but just to say I should not be the only one. Is that bad to feel that way? I had not called my mom and she called me at work on Friday and I expalined that when I have the time I will call her and she didn't get a call on Saturday as I was spending quality time with my husband and daughter, You see my husband works nights monday thru friday, we don't see each other so, when the weekend comes we utilize that time to catch up and talk and spend time with each other.

My mom was upset that I had not called and thought something bad had happend. I don't want my friends to think I am ignoring them, I need to do this to finalize my goals.

Is it wrong to feel this way! I am not feeling guilty it may seem like I am but actually I am not, I am just trying to find a way to juggle all these issues and not lose my family, friends and school.

Thanks for your opinions and Have a Blessed Day! :~)

5 replies

Harlen 2010-07-27 05:31:48 -0500 Report

Way to go girl keep up the great work I know its hard but you can do it
Hugs and best wishes

DiaDebra 2010-07-26 10:58:01 -0500 Report

wow, this sound like me. I go to school 4 hours a day, work 8 hours a day, take care of my elderly Mom, try to see my boyfriend when I have time, and also spend time with my son. Its very exhausting, and feeling a bit depressed at times. If I wasnt so organized, I'd probably fall flat on my face. Its nice to hear some kind words from time to time. And I am new at managing Diabetes, only had it since Easter 2010. Calgon, take me away! :)

ccritch 2010-07-27 07:55:18 -0500 Report

Let me get some of that calgon! LOL, I know what you mean you will succeed in managing your diabetes, I am a diabetic 9 years and I am doing much better than I was. Good Luck and I wish you the very best in school, and juggling your load as I am juggling my load.

Best luck and God Bless! :~)

Lady Taz10
Lady Taz10 2010-07-26 10:51:10 -0500 Report

I know how you feel on this. I went throught the same thing when I went back to school. It took me five years to do a two year degree due to my family and friends. Also due to the two jobs I had at the same time as well. At the start I had to explain to all that I needed to do this to better myself. Not that I didn't want to spend time with any of them, but I had to figure out a time line. In time things started to work out. And the ones that didn't understand, well, I just cut them out. If your family can't understand the fact that your trying to better yourself, then you need to put them on hold. As same for your friends. If they are your true friends then they will understand. If they are not, well you know what you have to do. You can't live your life around them all the time, you've set yourself goals and it time to get them. I think you are doing a great job with the time line you have. If not, you would not have the time start school in the frist place. Just keep "your" home life in order and you will be fine. All others will work itself out. Believe me, I've done it.

ccritch 2010-07-27 07:58:34 -0500 Report

Thank you Lady Taz10 words from the wise! I needed to hear that from someone else, you tell yourself that but it doesn't sink in. Thank you so much.