roommates who dont want to loose weight or need to gain.

By gussieboo Latest Reply 2010-08-03 10:52:53 -0500
Started 2010-07-21 10:06:23 -0500

I have two roommates, one who's an older guy that says he's fin about his size. He's about 350 lbs and belongs to a website where everyone is very large, infact the larger the better in their eyes. My bf is actually on the thin side and needs to gain some weight. I've been trying to loose weight myself to see if I can reverse some effects of the diabetes. Just so very difficult in my household to do so with such a difference of opinions. I work nights and my sleep and shot schedules are all messed up. I work 12-8am, 8pm-6am, 6pm-4am, then two 12-8am's, thats my week! I have to try and figure out where to eat and sleep inbetween. Help!

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YaYaSkidz 2010-08-03 10:52:53 -0500 Report

Been there, done that! I worked nights for years when my kids were little. And I currently live with the Great Sabeture (sp?) — my husband is a cancer survivor and needs to eat, eat, eat. He will go so far as to walk up to me with a plate of pie and hold it under my nose and say — It won't hurt. He has no hips and has no clue.

First, the schedule. You can't think in terms of night and day. You need to think about wake and sleep. I eat 5 small snacks a day so I eat a snack every few hours. My lightest snack is before I sleep. I test before I eat and take my insulin after I eat. So your timing is based on when you are awake. I forgot about the terms breakfast, lunch and dinner and thought in terms of snacks. Usually I was awake during the day and slept in the evening so the snacks I shared with the kiddos and hubby were during the day. So those I timed with them. Otherwise I slept, snack when I got up, snack after being at work a few hours, snack before I left, snack with the kids with their breakfast, snack at lunch and asleep late afternoon. Same with the meds. I lined them up with awake and sleep time, not clock time.
You'll find what works for you! Good Luck.

As for sabetoge (sp?) in the house, I came up with my stock phrases - I'm not hungry, I don't want it, I already ate, that will make me sick, etc. I put all his food/junk away in the cupboards where I can't see it which is hard because you have to handle it and he keeps leaving it out. When I shop, every time I put his Coke in the cart, I put in my Crystal Light. His chips, my celery. I just make sure I have plenty of good choices/alternatives when he is having his cake, I have my treat, too. Battling the smells I just leave the room. Going to a restaurant he is constantly offering me a bite - I put it on my plate and then "forget" to eat it. For every slam, there is a dodge, honey. I can't help but think of the Jack Spratt nursery rhyme.

People tell me all the time, if he loved me he would learn what I can't have and help me. We've been married 29 years and I can't wait anymore for that to happen. I have to take care of me.

Take care of you!

daniel0365 2010-07-23 02:24:35 -0500 Report

That's a pretty hectic schedule you have. My work schedule is crazy too and I'm always in front of the computer. No time for exercise. Though I'm not diabetic, and I hope I'll never be, we have the same problem about losing weight.

gussieboo 2010-07-23 07:06:24 -0500 Report

I got out of work at 4am today, was feeling pretty good and awak, even arranged a walk by the edge of the niagara falls when all of a sudden it started lightning and thundering and downpouring. I went home, didn't eat anything, but was mad that I missed out.

GabbyPA 2010-07-21 18:48:55 -0500 Report

If your schedule is pretty consistant, then your body will get used to it. It sounds like a 4:00 AM time might be good for your "evening" doses of meds and maybe the midnight should be your "morning" doses. I don't know how often you take your meds, but I do know if you can find a way to get those on a regular time it does help a lot. Balances out the body's needs.

If you are working nights and away from home for meals or sleeping when your room mates eat, maybe you can just buy stuff for yourself and keep a separate stash of the healthy foods you want to eat. I lived with all kinds of room mates for many years and did everything from share everything to have our own shelves in the might have to experiment with what works and what is acceptable.

And like Ray mentioned, only you can control your weight. Your room mates are in control of theirs.

RAYT721 2010-07-21 17:24:08 -0500 Report

You can only be responsible for your own serving and body size preferences. I can't help with your sleep/eat/shot schedule but just realize that YOU are the only person whose life you need to change. The best change on the outside has to start on the inside.

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2010-07-21 10:52:42 -0500 Report

Hi! I know it is very hard to try to lose weight when others in your home don't want to or need to. But for your health you must stick to your way of eating. Hang in there and you will win. If you need any questions answered just let us know. Someone will try to answer your questions. Probably a lot of new friendes you didn't know you had will write to you. Hang in there and you will lose the weight you need to and your A1C numbers will go down. Test your BS two hours after each meal. Keep up the good work.
Your Friend

gussieboo 2010-07-23 07:04:37 -0500 Report

Thanks! I really didn'tknow how often I ate should I test my sugar. I was in the hostpital for a week once and they tested me right before dinner, then adjusted how much insulin they gave me. I wish I had a nurse do it for me!

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