(Do You Ever) Feel Like Crying ?

MAYS
By MAYS Latest Reply 2012-01-26 21:50:38 -0600
Started 2010-07-20 11:30:22 -0500

Do you ever feel like crying.

Whatever the reason, do it.
Crying is not a sign of weakness, frustration or emotional instability.

It is the beginning of mind clearing, emotional overload dumping, the start to creating a plan of action in your life.

Humans cry, male and female, it's part of a healing process, a good cry makes you say, " I," when you are finished shedding tears, prompting you into action towards, or against whatever it is that ails you.

The next time that you are holding back the tears, let them flow, you will feel much better afterwards, and then move forward in life without some of the emotional baggage that you were once carrying.

~Mays~


139 replies

WendyFR
WendyFR 2011-03-13 07:44:43 -0500 Report

LOL…since the age 30, I have been emotionlly charged. I don't know what happened. I never use to cry at anything. I actually hate the feeling. Crying for me, is a personal thing and I don't like peoople seeing me do it. But like I mentioned before after a certain age I started to cry at sad commericals, mean comments anything now and even happiness and good deeds. Your right after a good cry, it relieves frustration for me.

Cari Lee
Cari Lee 2011-03-12 15:41:25 -0600 Report

I seem to find myself crying more now than i ever did in my life. Don't know why. I wonder if age has any thing to do with it. But i will say one thing, It sure relieves the stress, and i ALWAYS feel better afterwords.

elaine52
elaine52 2011-03-12 14:41:22 -0600 Report

I'm afraid if I start crying, I might not stop…:(

kittenpurr1
kittenpurr1 2011-03-13 13:17:13 -0500 Report

It's our bodies release. Let it out. Holding it in, can make things worse. Cause stress, and other nasty little things. Throw a pillow around to releave some stress.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-03-12 15:28:23 -0600 Report

I've felt that way too, Elaine.

I used to be a "stiff upper lip" type person, and crying was scary to me. But, I have learned to cry (through many upsetting events in my life) and find myself crying for joy, when some beautiful moment happens, or when something bad happens (as when my beloved bride "Jem" passed from this life in July 2010). I assure you elaine, you won't cry for the rest of your life. You may have brief moments of crying throughout your life, but then it passes and your life goes on. Until the next time you feel the need. It has been for me an emotional release, reacting to both the positive and the negative in life.

Blessings

James

michelle2385
michelle2385 2012-01-26 21:50:38 -0600 Report

I lost my grandpa eight years ago, and i still cry almost everyday, people say after losing a loved one that after time you would miss them less, but i think as days pass since my grandpa passed the harder each day gets to not cry because i miss him, then having reality hit me that my grandmother, his wife, may not have that long to live i find myself disappearing quit a bit just to cry cause i cant hold it in.

wiggleworm
wiggleworm 2011-03-12 15:11:58 -0600 Report

I feel like that. I am not much a crier. So…when it builds, it pours like a waterfall. I wish happy would stay by my side much longer than it does. A happy laugh, a happy moment…

jjhnpa
jjhnpa 2011-01-24 19:41:57 -0600 Report

Yesterday I Cried

Yesterday, I cried.
I came home, went straight to my room,
sat on the edge of my bed,
kicked off my shoes, unhooked my bra,
and I had myself a good cry.
I cried until my nose was running all over the silk blouse I got on sale.
I cried until my ears were hot.
I cried until my head was hurting so bad
that I could hardly see the pile of soiled tissues lying on the floor at my feet.
I want you to understand,
I had myself a really good cry yesterday.

Yesterday, I cried,
for all the days that I was too busy,
or too tired, or too mad to cry.
I cried for all the days, and all the ways,
and all the times I had dishonored, disrespected,
and disconnected my Self from myself,
only to have it reflected back to me in the ways others
did to me the same things I had already done to myself.
I cried for all the things I had given, only to have them stolen;
for all the things I had asked for that had yet to show up;
for all the things I had accomplished, only to give them away,
to people in circumstances, which left me feeling empty,
and battered and plain old used.
I cried because there really does come a time when
the only thing left for you to do is cry.

Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because little boys get left by their daddies;
and little girls get forgotten by their mommies;
and daddies don't know what to do, so they leave;
and mommies get left, so they get mad.
I cried because I had a little boy,
and because I was a little girl,
and because I was a mommy who didn't know what to do,
and because I wanted my daddy to be there so badly until I ached.

Yesterday, I cried.
I cried because I hurt. I cried because I was hurt.
I cried because hurt has no place to go
except deeper into the pain that caused it in the first place,
and when it gets there, the hurt wakes you up.
I cried because it was too late.
I cried because it was time.
I cried because my soul knew that I didn't know
that my soul knew everything that I needed to know.
I cried a soulful cry yesterday, and it felt so good.
It felt so very, very bad.
In the midst of my crying,
I felt my freedom coming,
Because…

Yesterday, I cried
with an agenda.

…Iyanla Vanzant

squog master
squog master 2011-01-24 19:24:31 -0600 Report

If I feel the need to cry I cry. If I feel the need to laugh I laugh. If I feel the need to do a jig… well… due to RA plus no rhythm…

petals
petals 2011-01-24 14:19:34 -0600 Report

Yes, I have felt like crying alot lately. I have learnt that it is ok to cry when you feel like it. I always feel better when I just let go and let the tears flow. I feel cleansed and ready to face the world again.

MewElla
MewElla 2011-01-24 14:09:46 -0600 Report

Sometimes when I am not really feeling good, and I feel very low emotionally , I can feel the tears welling up and my heart seems to splinter a little bit more. As hard as I can, I try to stop myself because I feel so bad that I lost the love of my life, my husband. We were so close and so happy for 41 years and now I feel lost and need him when the diabetes seems to be swallowing me up. It's hard not to share, when you get so frightened. The tears do release a lot of my tension but then I feel wiped out. Sometimes, I feel like a mess…

CaliKo
CaliKo 2011-01-24 15:49:43 -0600 Report

Do you journal? This is not anything close to losing a husband of 41 years, but once when I lost someone I loved, I bought one of those blank books and a special pen, just for that book, and started writing everything I could remember about our relationship. Each time I wrote, I'd pick just one time together, or a phone call or an attribute, and write all I could think of about just that one thing. And I'd limit myself to writing just once a day. It helped turned my tears into memories.

MewElla
MewElla 2011-01-24 19:03:01 -0600 Report

I do journal and find when I turn on music and write, the feelings just rush out of my heart onto the paper. It really does help. Thank you so much for your compassion to me. It means a lot.

sisson
sisson 2010-09-28 23:10:21 -0500 Report

There is nothing like a good cry I (LOVE) to cry at a movie that can make me cry or a joke that can make me cry because it make me feel good and it cleans my spirit and my soul it heals me. I thank you for ask us this question. This is one that I don't mind answering because it show that we are only humen and that we all have feeling.

Guardianstone
Guardianstone 2010-09-27 23:10:18 -0500 Report

Hello and thank you Mays;
(:~D Thank you fro the msg. I just got back from a meeting, and felt confused by the tears shed when family discussions were discussed. Now I can finish the process and start fresh.
Maybe I can find a way to get off this emotional rollercoaster. That is the nicest present anyone has given me in a long time.
Good to talk at you again. Go man go. (I'm not sure where that came from. Maybe the 70s?)
Closing for now.
Guardian stone

Gabby
GabbyPA 2010-09-27 20:35:35 -0500 Report

Tears are liberating. They let those around you know that you trust them with your tears and they let your heart know that you are willing to let go of the things that bring us that sorrow. Now, what we do about those tears of joy! That is another story.

Tracy J
Tracy J 2010-09-27 20:15:05 -0500 Report

Hello Everybody, I must admit as I was reading this, I had to laugh out loud just a little bit. I strongly agree with all my heart that a good cry does a world of good. I know that for a fact because it makes me feel so much better and allows me to move to the next level where GOD needs me to be for HIM. My tears immediately turn to tears of joy just before I finish up. No matter what the situation may be good, bad or ugly a good snot manages to clear the pathway of a straighter destination for me in the LORD. THANKS AND BE BLESSED, Tracy!!!

MAYS
MAYS 2010-10-06 14:00:10 -0500 Report

Tears help us to cleanse our minds by washing away sorry, and uncertainty.
~Mays~

newbie51
newbie51 2010-08-11 20:08:11 -0500 Report

I feel like crying alot but I just can't. I don't know why but it takes months before I can even shed a tear. I have depression and anxiety and that still doesn't help. But when I do, it really makes me feel alot better.

ilovelife82
ilovelife82 2010-08-07 16:40:34 -0500 Report

I feel like crying lots of times because I miss my mom and dad very much. Both of them passed away from cancer: my father from lung cancer in 1992 and my mom from uterine in 2007. Crying really helps me go through whatever I need to go through in life.

kittenpurr1
kittenpurr1 2011-03-13 13:24:34 -0500 Report

So sorry for your loss, and know this…they are still alive in your heart, and will be always, as you remember the times you shared with them.

rj
rj 2011-01-24 23:56:34 -0600 Report

I lost my dad in 2008..I can be fine and see something,hear something,oreven smell something and just have to go off by myself and cry…My heavenly Father comforts me everytime..I'm blessed to know Dad is with Him!!!!

Danni-the-diabetic
Danni-the-diabetic 2010-08-11 20:04:10 -0500 Report

: ( I'm sorry to hear that. Two years ago I lost someone close to me too, like my daughter, and sometimes I'm afraid to cry but when I do and I get it all out it actually does feel better. :) Hugs Danni

xc
xc 2010-08-07 15:39:59 -0500 Report

I always feel like crying, its not fair to have this condition for the rest of my life, knowing the complcations and what could happen to me.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-07 18:18:32 -0500 Report

Being a diabetic can be rough, but we have a great deal of control over our illness compared to some people with other illnesses.

If the tears can bring you a level of temporary comfort, then cry with no anger or shame, after each bout of crying, look in the mirror and say to your diabetic looking back at you that, "I am taking a little bit more control each day."

http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/76...

Here is a virtual ((( Hug ))), when you feel better, pass it on to someone else who can use it !

~Mays~

rubyy
rubyy 2010-08-04 13:46:38 -0500 Report

thanks for knowing what it means to have diabeties. I thought it was just me that felt that way. I miss when I can't have a ice-cream or a shake every once in a while.

bace
bace 2010-08-04 16:55:29 -0500 Report

do not deny yourself! just pay attention to how much you've eaten and when, allowing yourself a small treat is ok! portion control is what it's all about.

mckoy57
mckoy57 2010-08-03 19:53:07 -0500 Report

I feel like crying when I get a piece of cake , someone will holler out you can't have that. I then get frustrated, and I don't want to eat anything.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-03 20:21:55 -0500 Report

Shirley, shirley, shirley, you can have anything, just understand that there are consequences for every action, good or bad, frustration as with anything negative, is destructive.

Eat and do what is right for you, then at the end of the week, reward yourself with a slice of cake, working towards and earning it makes it much more meaningful, and rewarding, cry for the joy of earning it.

~Mays~

123tamara
123tamara 2010-08-04 13:56:31 -0500 Report

oh dont feel that way you have to know your body what would make someones sugar go to 350 after eating it might not make yours go up much at all. i can eat egg rolls 350 one ice cream 120 just depends

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-04 15:32:01 -0500 Report

Having diabetes requires one to be observant and keep documents on what does what within their body.
By doing such, we can determine what, when and how much of something to eat, don't ever be hard on yourself.

bace
bace 2010-08-04 16:58:13 -0500 Report

I've gotten that, too..drives me nuts! although it has forced to not eat the 'bad' stuff..because i didn't want to be the center of attention for being 'the diabetic that ate that cake'!!but I have learned not to deny myself everything…just learn to make better choices. ( i know that sounds corny) you make room for a little treat every now and then, it's ok.

steph80
steph80 2010-08-03 13:37:12 -0500 Report

I feel like crying sometimes. i have found that when i do…i actually feel better. especially if i'm in a depression episode.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-03 20:13:40 -0500 Report

Isn't life fantastic !
You can feel good after an emotional, tearful outburst, if it feels good, do it.
~Mays~

MimiFig
MimiFig 2010-08-02 13:41:21 -0500 Report

sometimes I don't like crying because it makes me feel like I'm just a big baby, but sometimes I can't help it, I'm a very emotional person and yes, I believe it does make me feel better, after a good cry and then I can think a bit more clearly…

PetiePal
PetiePal 2010-08-02 08:06:08 -0500 Report

Join the club ;) I was dx 2 weeks ago tomorrow, and since it's been a roller coaster of emotions. The first day was kind of blunt shock. The endocrinologist basically said "Yep well you definitely have diabetes." Hell of a beside manner ;P Keep in mind the majority of these doctors and specialists aren't trained to deal with the emotions you may be confronted with upon becoming diagnosed and thereafter.

Just reading my book and thinking about everything gets me a little worked up and depressed at the same time. I'm sure this too will pass but in the meantime it sucks and if you gotta let a tear or two flow, go for it.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-02 08:48:47 -0500 Report

Crying can renew your attitude towards life by allowing you (or forcing you) to develope a plan of action in life if that's what's necessary.

Danni-the-diabetic
Danni-the-diabetic 2010-08-02 00:51:30 -0500 Report

Yep, I feel like crying - alot. Some Dr.s say its because my sugars bounce around. I don't know if that is why but I feel like crying and I hate crying because I don't know if I'll be able to stop & I feel so vulnerable, so I keep them in. I get so angry and frustrated; I take it out on myself or lol on my poor pillows. I know it's good and healthy to let it out and I can always feel those tears in my eyes but sometimes it's so hard to let then out. But lol you can still call me a cry baby.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-02 08:57:10 -0500 Report

Hormones have a big effect on our emotions, actually creating a very high percentage of them.
There is a reason for this process, so why fight against what comes naturally ?
If you need to cry, do it, tell me how it makes you feel afterwards !

Hinboyz3
Hinboyz3 2010-08-01 21:04:06 -0500 Report

Yes I do, I use to hold back my tears until I was alone, but here lately if I feel like just letting them go well I do. It's not a sign of weakness its a sign that we are all human and have feelings.

Country Gal
Country Gal 2010-08-01 19:35:55 -0500 Report

I have cried for the last 2 days after finding out that I am diabeted. I am scared because I watched my mom die a slow death from diabetes, and I don't want to go that way.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-01 20:23:02 -0500 Report

Welcome to Diabetic Connect, your "Diabetes Family."
After the tears comes the commitment from us to you, and from you to yourself.
We will be here for you, but you must be there for yourself, you can do this, you can manage your diabetes, it's challenging, but so is life in and of itself.

You know the bad side of diabetes and it's possible complications, now let's experience the good side … YOU have complete control over your diabetes and you can live a very exceptional and rewarding life with diabetes, it's up to you.

We are here, ready whenever you are, so why not start now … today !

~Mays~

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2010-08-01 22:48:50 -0500 Report

Welcome. Well said Mays. I've seen the very ugly side of Diaetes. It has strengthened my resolve to try my best to live with as much control over it as I can and not give in to it.

Elrond
Elrond 2010-08-02 00:43:09 -0500 Report

Country Gal, the others said it well. It's possible to live with diabetes for many, many years. I was diagnosed more than 30 years ago and for a long time didn't take it seriously. The results were a severe stroke and near-fatal heart attack but I'm still here making a pain out of myself. Since your heart attack was small and your diabetes was caught early, you have a very good chance to do much better than I did. Another thing: when I was diagnosed, there was no internet and nothing like DiabeticConnect to help me. Right here, you have people with hundreds of years' experience and we will all be happy to help you. All you need do is ask. It's true that diabetes is no picnic but with care, diabetics can still go on picnics.

PetiePal
PetiePal 2010-08-02 08:13:46 -0500 Report

My father was diagnosed in his 40s when I was a kid. He's now 69, almost 70 and in great health. No neuropathy, no kidney damage or eye damage (besides mild cataracts but that's just old age not the diabetes).

The BEST way to look at a dx is that no you can't change the diagnosis but knowing is really half the battle bc you can take steps to ensure you never have ANY of the complications (or at very low risk) ever!

123tamara
123tamara 2010-08-04 14:00:46 -0500 Report

the others are right they want you to lose wieght oh ok hahha but you can watch what you eat somethings make one persons sugar 300 others not even a budge walk smile and eat 5 times a day little things and dont ever fast i needed to in the hospital the other day and it shot my sugar up to 500 it was feeding off my exsisting food source which rises your sugar and keep writing on here support is important

Nova69
Nova69 2010-08-06 21:07:03 -0500 Report

Your life is not over! I was diagnosed over 20 years ago, had a heart attack and bypass surgery 18 years ago and guess what? I'm still here! Since 1992, I haven't even had to take a sick day - that's 18 straight years! I changed my lifestyle after my heart attack, watch what I eat, exercise, make sure I have enough vitamins, and keep my A1c down. I'm in better shape now than in 1992.

Look at Mary Tyler Moore. She's been diabetic forever and was in great shape the last time I checked.

Don't waste the rest of your life worrying, just do your best to make it better and, most of all, enjoy each day!

shorty31
shorty31 2010-08-01 18:32:49 -0500 Report

iallways thought that crying shows your strentgh to me when a man cries i see a compationant man i know i spelled that wrong and in a women i see a spiritual being. i cried at the movie free willy, and tears of indearment. that doesn't make you weak it builds up your strength. be sides Jesus wept. and we all know he was very forgiving.

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-02 00:50:35 -0500 Report

Crying helps to clean out our inner "closets" to make room to store new things (emotionally) in our lives, it's a continuos process in the lives of humans, nature gives us (all) this ability, yet some try to hide it or contain it rather than trying to understand it's true purpose.

~Mays~

Sharon-LV
Sharon-LV 2010-08-01 17:45:14 -0500 Report

Don'y let all those emotions stay bottled up — let them out and you'll feel lighter and refreshed!

MAYS
MAYS 2010-08-01 18:22:17 -0500 Report

Contained emotions can build up creating a burden for the soul,
crying allows you to lighten that load on your soul, allowing your spirit to soar free!

~Mays~

Artsbabygirl
Artsbabygirl 2010-07-31 08:25:46 -0500 Report

Actually I do at times.Sometimes I find myself crying for no apparent reason.I think some of it is emotional and some of it is a hormone thing.Sometimes I feel better afterwards and sometimes I just start all over again.lol

123tamara
123tamara 2010-08-04 14:03:17 -0500 Report

if you are going through menapause that is a problem with the hormones and also the moods could be a thyroid problem really i was cukcuoo and woundered why and my thyroid was real offf and it regulates everything diabetes depression ect…

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