Just Got Diagnosed? How are you FEELING?

Dr Gary
By Dr GaryCA Latest Reply 2011-06-18 12:38:19 -0500
Started 2010-07-10 22:21:44 -0500

Hi everyone, I am a therapist and educator who specializes in working with people who are newly-diagnosed with chronic and catastrophic medical conditions, their families, and caregivers. I joined diabetes connect yesterday. My clients facing diabetes are coping with a lot of issues — treatment compliance, lifestyle management, relationships, finances. They are also dealing with a lot of emotions around their diagnosis, including disappointment, fear, anger, sadness, guilt. I encourage them not to neglect their emotions while they are dealing with all of the other challenges. Pretending not to have feelings, thinking that you should only 'think positive,' doesn't make the feelings go away. I encourage my clients to become Fighters — to be prepared for the road ahead by acknowleding their feelings, getting informed about their condition, building a support system, getting connected spirituality, and having a vision for the future. All of these elements work together to provide a foundation for living life to the fullest. Want to join with me in talking about what your dealing with and sharing some ideas?

101 replies

christmassprite 2011-06-18 12:38:19 -0500 Report

Hello Dr. Gary. Welcome to the site. I have not gotten into a discussion before but I think it is about time. I mostly use this site for recipes. I try to cook better and that is helping my husband too. I see my doctor and endocronologist. I have been diabetic for over ten years, you would think I would get it by now. I am the only one in my family who has this. I was shoocked when I found out I had it. I am one of those people who HATES needles, not just dilikes them. I am on long and short term insulin. My sugars keep swinging. First they are low, and I can't always tell, then they are high and now they are low again. We spred my meds out more but will I always be like this? christmassprite

YSO 2011-06-18 11:02:04 -0500 Report

I always used food as a way to manage my stress on the job. After 35 years, I finally got to retire. My blissful mood came crashing to a halt 3 weeks later when I was told that I was now diabetic. I felt that I had been cheated out of the pleasures of my retirement years! Now I focus on finding creative ways to get exercise, and find foods that won't make me sick.
I'm on a mission to have fun, so I swim, take dance, walk in the park, etc. I have found that I would rather eat 2 tablespoons of something I enjoy, than a whole plate of something I do not enjoy. I order out, or cook what I like and divide it into mini freezer packs. I have found that I can be satisfied with just a taste of my food favorites. One burrito has become 8 mini snacks with salads. My sugar levels and my weight are going down, and the doctor is pleased. I did have to give up soda pop. I don't miss the 3 Cokes daily as much as you would think. I've also become a spice expert! I can make anything taste great, with the right combination of veggies and spices!
Perhaps this disease (wake up call) will eventually turn me into a much healthier person.

donna50 2010-09-10 22:24:54 -0500 Report

hi dr gary i have had diabetes for about four years and have had no luck withcontroling my sugers my doc gets sxcitgd if they are under 300 but its taking its toll o n my mind and body i have loss over 70lbs and ihardley can eat anything with out becoming ill can you give me any thing i can do

SUNNYSAL45 2010-08-05 15:19:40 -0500 Report

Hello Dr. Gary, my name is Sally. I was diagnosed with diabetes 2 1/2 years ago. I also have hypothyroidism and high blood pressure. I have been having a problem with my diet and controlling my blood sugars. I prepare my meals at home, I eat a lot of vegetables, some fruits and mostly chicken and fish. My protein in my urine is 3+. Can you give me some advise on my diet. I do know that I need to exercise, but I work as an office asst. and I sit at my desk all day.. I do appreciate any advice that you can offer me.. Thank you , Sincerly Sally

PetiePal 2010-08-02 11:34:22 -0500 Report

I think I'm on a good road. I was diagnosed on August 23rd and since then I've:

-Seen an endocrinologist/diabetes doctor
-Tested Blood sugar 90+ times thus far (usually morning, before/after meals 2 hours and bedtime)
-Started Metformin and Glimepiride
-Brought my sugars down below 200 (they range 100-180 now)
-Enrolled in a Diabetic Support Group
-Read 3 diabetic books
-Modified my diet and trying to adhere to 15g carb snacks, 45 meal plan
-Signed up for diabetic learning class at local hospital this Saturday
-Made an opthamologist appointment
-Trying to set up an appointment with a nutrionist
-Taking regular nightly walks with the dog to get some more exercise

Swbtab03 2010-09-30 15:27:05 -0500 Report

very good pete, I myself too joined a second class of advanced nutrition classes, my second class is tonight at my local hospital. just wish had better support at home with family. Got a few good friends at work that help me, more difficult at home, too many temptations what the wife buys

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-10-01 21:51:16 -0500 Report

Hi Swbtab03. Just wanted to jump in and say that I am sorry to hear you aren't getting much help at home. When you are surrounded by food that isn't on your diet anymore, it is that much harder to stay on the path. I'm glad you at least have friends who help you out. I am hoping for you that the hospital class offers not only information but some support from people who are going through what you are going through. Plese keep us posted!

PetiePal 2010-09-30 15:43:01 -0500 Report

I've actually got my hospital follow up appointment next Tuesday evening. Was supposed to be Sat but too much going on I had to reschedule!

So basically it's 1 hour with the nurse 1 hour with the nutritionist as a follow up to the whole day initial session back beginning of the month.

Things have been good so far and the online group tends to help (just an IRC chat room) during the day. Diabetics learn from other diabetics which really is the truth.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-08-02 18:23:53 -0500 Report

Hi PetiePal, You are definitely a role model for adopting the Fighter's attitude toward your diagnosis, by covering the most important bases: gathering information, establishing a relationship with your healtcare team, making diet and lifestyle changes, being compliant with your treatment regimen, and building in emotional support. Congratulations on being prepared for the road ahead. Have you always had this approach to life's challenges? I would be really interested to know how you got this momentum going in your life. Thanks a lot for posting!

PetiePal 2010-09-30 15:44:25 -0500 Report

Thanks :) I'm only 28 and I'm too young to have something like this deem things about my life so I'm trying to take control and read as much as I can and hopefully get off the meds since they're not high dosage and working well.

I think it's grown over time really. When I see something I want I really dedicate myself to learning as much as I can about it, inundating myself if you will. I figure the more I know the easier it is to make quicker decisions and get back to living. Eliminate the obstacles and they're no longer obstacles!

carebear1 2010-07-30 15:09:48 -0500 Report

hi everyone, i am very newly diagnosed with diabetes. June of this year. I am 45 and I also just lost part of my right foot. My life has changed 200,000 degrees…
I went into the hospital for a bug bite on my foot and found out then that I have type 2 diabetes and lost part of my foot the next day. I am looking for some help on my medical bills can anybody suggest who to call? I have tried calling different places and I am not getting any help
Thank you Karyn

realsis77 2010-07-30 12:28:33 -0500 Report

Hi I was just diagnosed with type two diabetes two weeks ago. I want to say the most important thing is to have a good support system. This site is my support system. Its important to be able to ask questions as they arise and just know others are dealing with the same issues. This site is very important to me because I don't really have the support I need elsewhere. There are so many emotions we go through espically denial and that could be harmful if there is not any support for that person. So as a "new diabetic" I say its most important to be able to reach out and have others reach back!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-08-02 18:32:17 -0500 Report

Hi, I really appreciate that you took the time to let us know that you are out there. I totally agree with the importance of making sure that you have a good support system in place with others who can offer you information, inspiration, and just let you know that they relate to what's going on in your life. Diabetic Connect is a great resource for any kind of support that you need. It's normal to experience denial when you are faced with a medical diagnosis. And as you suggested, getting emotional support is an important step in moving past the denial. On Diabetic Connect you are in the company of a lot of caring people who are here to travel with you on the road ahead. Stay in touch!

Lakeland 2010-07-28 20:15:40 -0500 Report

I remember— it was a year ago I got diagnosed, I just woke up & went blurry. I seen 4 of traffic lights & the lights where I worked looked like rays of sun shining down 5 feet from the ceiling.

I'm battling chronic pelvic pain, no doctor has been able to help me with that, so the day before I drove 9 hours to see a doctor in another state, I called him for my records & he said my urine showed my sugar levels were at 1000. typical for a diabetic. I told him, I'm not diabetic. I didn't know it at the time, I had no other symptoms.

My sugar at mom's house wouldn't register in her meter. The doctors office registered 550. He wanted me in the hospital that night and gave me horror stories about diabetic coma's and things, I had inlaws coming so I couldn't go. Then all he told me was to"be careful of what I ate". I was afraid to go to sleep, I didn't know if I'd wake up.

The doctor gave me a number to call about getting into diabetic classes, so I called & this course was booked so the next one began in 10 weeks.

Now I'm angry, I'm told I could go into a coma & then they say we'll see you in 10 weeks. I tried to remain calm but now I don't trust the doctor, is this a joke?? hospital now or take a class in 10 weeks. I thought the guy would give me insulin to drop my numbers but he just gave me metformin & said to test. I'm still angry. apparently if being on medicine & being at 400,300, is ok???

after talking to the lady to schedule myself in the next set of classes, I told her how high I am, & she offered a one on one to come up & go over things. So I did. then she starts talking ot me about carbs & what I'm alowed to have. Again I'm getting angrier, my dad was diabetic, potatoes were out & breads were out, now she's telling me I can have them, I told her, you either lied to my dad or your lying to me now. she explained that the rules changed they know more now. Ok.

I took it seriously, my dad died of kidney failure due to diabetes, my brother almost lost a foot due to diabetes, my other brother has no feeling in his feet because of it. I knew it was serious. I did what I was told & lost 30lbs. my a1c went from 10.3 to now 6.2

Diabetes has been easier to accept than my chronic pelvic pain. diabetes for now doesn't hurt so I can live with it. My chronic pain that I'm despretly searching out doctors for, Isn't close to being resolved yet. I've allowed my self to go through 4 surgeries with no guarentee of relief, but just a hope of relief. My one doctor wrote me & said your chronic pain needs to be viewed like diabetes find what drugs work to make it managable and stay on a medicated schedule. He's told me to stop my normal routine, I like yard work & golf, mowing, but because it causes my pelvic floor to spasm, I have to stop doing it. Diabetes doesn't stop me from doing anything except having the large piece of cake.

I remember the first time hearing I had diabetes. I guess the inability to get my chronic pain under control makes the diabetes a piece of cake (pun intended).


Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-29 14:50:35 -0500 Report

Hi Lakeland. I am truly sad to hear about the challenges you are facing right now. Diabetes and chronic pain is a rough combination. I am not a physician, but I can speak to the importance of emotional support. I have clients with chronic pain who have benefitted from meeting with me on a regular basis to talk about their emotions, anger being one of them. They tell me that having a safe place to talk about what's going on with them emotionally, has been a big help in managing their condition. We also talk about making treatment decisions, communicating with caregivers, getting informed, and other issues. Making some kind of a spiritual connection can also be helpful. The support you can receive through Diabetic Connect is a good starting place. You might also want to think about meeting with a mental health professional, or joining a support group, in your area. Please know that you are in my thoughts, and stay in touch with us!

mdcgardner 2010-07-28 11:46:35 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed as borderline diabetic in Feb. of this year after visiting my dr for dizzy spells (sudden and rapid drops in BS). My A1C was just 1 tenth of a point below tha diabetic level. I went for a fasting 3hr glucose test and at the 3 hr point it was still about 15 points over what my dr said it should be. I was told to check 7x a day and watch what I eat. With help from my brother who is a dietary manager at a hospital I was able to find that along with limiting carbs and sugars I needed to make sure that I took in enough protein to slow the release of the carbs and fiber to break them down. I found real quick that I could not tolerate regular pasta or breads so I made the switch to whole wheat/grain which seems to be tolerated a little better. Over time I was able to link the drops in BS to caffiene intake so I switched to the half caf coffee. I cut all sugar from my coffee and also cut out all sodas and sweet tea. Over the next 3 months I brought my A1C down 2 tenths of a point and lost 20 pounds. My dr was pleased but said I needed to continue what I was doing (but only check 2x a day) and come back in another 3 months to be rechecked. I am now able to know even before I check whether or not I ate something that spiked my BS too high because I will get a terrible headache. Hopefully in the coming weeks when I see my dr again Things will be looking even better.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-29 14:52:06 -0500 Report

Hi, thanks for checking in. I'm glad to hear that you are working closely with your physician to find a strategy that works for you! Best wishes to you!

Armourer 2010-07-27 00:39:12 -0500 Report

Had my monthly visit with the doc today. He is stumped as to why in the last seven weeks I've gained 18 pounds. See since June 1 I've kept a log of what I eat each day, and the average is a thousand calories, then three weeks ago joined a gym so I could get is shape to get in shape. The reward is gaining 18 pounds. I don't eat meat, so finding protein is very difficult. I only have $50 a month for food for me, my family of four others gets $200 a month. They won't eat anything I do, so for years we haven't eaten as a family. Trying to have four meals a day on $50 a month is not much. Especially since many items cost more. I'm the first in my family on both sides to have diabetes, and have had it for 13 years, believed what brought it about was a massive brain-stem stroke at age 39. I was an award winning photojournalist but have been on disability last 13 years because of diabetes, depression, and sciattic nerve damage. I bring in no income to help with anything, and this is truly the great depression for me. I've volunteered to help high school photo classes, but no go cause the teachers are threatened by my experience. Many of the foods other diabetics can eat I can't. I basically can't have carbs at all of any kind. Just to get BG down into normal levels I take about 200 units a day. Often can't afford meds, went to VA ten years ago and the again a year ago and was told the same thing, "Your records states you were never in a combat zone, so your five years was a waste of your life, we don't care about you." Took twenty years after Vietnam to find patriotism, in one minute it went crashing down. Have absolutely no support from family or extended family. I quit going to family parties cause I was told not to bring my own food. One Thanksgiving I drank two cans of V-8 while the extended family chowed down. For me the biggest success came two months ago when I discovered Quinoa, a complete protein that replaces rice. For some reason I process this well and my BG drops to normal when I have it. But it is expensive and might have to cut it out down the road. Find support, hang in there, accept the need to change, then change. And remember it is a meal at a time and a walk 45 min a day.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-27 14:45:46 -0500 Report

Hi Armourer, I really appreciate that you took the time to post about what's going on in your life and the challenges you are facing with keeping your diabetes under control. And I'm sorry to hear about the lack of support both from the VA as well as from your extended family. As I have written in previous posts, sometimes family members don't know how to react in a supportive manner, or they just don't want to have to feel acknowledge how they might feel in your situation, and so the react by putting up a wall. Have you tried approaching certain family members, who might be more open and able to listen, and talk to them about what's going on with you and how you need to bring your own food to family events? Sometimes finding someone who can be an advocate for you, and run interference with other family members, can help. Just a suggestion. It also sounds like you might be somewhat isolated from support. I would recommend finding some new social outlets, including a diabetic support group, to talk with people who will understand what you are going through and maybe even offer some suggestions. If you are feeling some depression, I would also suggest getting in touch with local mental health resources. I am glad you are part of Diabetic Connect. As you wisely said, change is part of life. We are standing by to serve as your virtual support group.

Armourer 2010-07-29 22:59:32 -0500 Report

Thankyou for taking time to respond. I saw my therapist yeasterday and he admitted as others have in the past, there is nothing they can do for me. No family member will be supportive I'm afraid. But thanks for listening.

Guardianstone 2010-09-30 12:33:07 -0500 Report

I am a 10.5 year USAF vet, and my husband ia a 15.5 year man. We were both in during the cold war. We have both been told by VA that we wasted our time. We were both working toward retirement. We belived we were fighting for the rights of Americans. To be told that we were a burden, a waste of space, a albatross and worse was like telling us we were traitors to our country. Stop pretending you can't work. Stop taking what real vets need.
Where did we fail to do our duty? How dare anyone say I was a waste of space. What right did they have to deny any honorbly discharged vet medical care? Oh . . . I forgot we did.
Since 1986 I have been asking these questions. I haven't gotten any answers. We are still disabled, now worse then ever.
I do understand your frustration. We are lost in the forgetfulness of time. No longer wanted. We know that we were necessary.
Please accept my salute to you as an honerable vet.
God bless
Guardian stone

Armourer 2010-09-30 15:13:24 -0500 Report

Thank you for your kind response! I know that there are tens of thousands like us, who are out there too. I salute all of you, thank you for your duty and sacrifice!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-08-01 10:59:02 -0500 Report

Hi Armourer, I would still encourage you to avail yourself of a good listening ear, a mental health professional, support group, clergy person. I am not sure what your therapist might have meant by 'helping' you. Finding someone who can talk with you about how you are feeling, and maybe provide an alternate perspective on life, can be invaluable. That may not be helping you in the sense of 'fixing' your problems, but talking to a caring person who can listen without judgment can in itself be a help. Don't go through this alone.

Mrs. Chief
Mrs. Chief 2010-07-26 23:55:16 -0500 Report

I find my BG higher in the AM after fasting then they were when I went to bed the night before. I know that it is that the liver dumps sugar but what can I do to prevent this. I tryed eating a couple crackers or have eaten 6 almonds, but that doesn't help. The only thing I find is if I have my BG 170 to 190 when I go to bed, & I try not to have my BG every that high. I am not on any meds. or insulin and have been controling with diet & exercise and with doing so have lost 18 lbs in 20 weeks.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-27 14:50:59 -0500 Report

Mrs. Chef, thanks for posting. I am not a physician, but as I always recommend, I hope that you are communicating often with your physician as you work on keeping your BG under control, and that he/she knows about your rapid weight loss. Just expressing some concern here. Best wishes to you!

Juliana Costa
Juliana Costa 2010-07-22 13:31:58 -0500 Report

I found out that I am diabetic 3 weeks ago.
I am struggling with a radical change on my diet, and it has been really hard to figure out what I can eat, what I can't.
Would you know how do I found a Diabetes Educator in New York City that I can go to ? (I tried google and I could not find it)
thank you !

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-22 21:43:16 -0500 Report

Hi Juliana.

That is a very good question. I know that there is a local chapter of the American Diabetes Association in NYC. You may want to go to their Website and get their phone number and give them a call. I'm sure they can help you with local resources. You can go to www.diabetes.org. Here is the contact info:

New York - New York
333 Seventh Ave.
17th Floor
New York, New York 10001
(212) 725-4925
fax: (212) 725-8916

I would encourage you to give them a call and see how they can help. Please let me know how it goes?


crazeknot 2010-07-20 22:55:10 -0500 Report

Yeterday, I found out a good friend of my was diagnose with diabetes. She is 60 yrs. old. while we were talking, my hearth went out to her. She is depressed, besides herself & has to learn how to take care of herself. So, I want to thank, you Dr. Gary,for leading me to some great information with this site & forums. I don't want everone to think I'm the one with diabetes. But told me good friend, I'll help her out anyway I can. With way her needs to change her diet, excerise & depression again Thanks Dr. Gary!!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-22 21:45:00 -0500 Report

Wow, what great news! Thanks so much for letting me know that I have been able to be helpful to you. That is really encouraging. Please keep in touch!

stellysue 2010-07-20 03:37:21 -0500 Report

I have always wondered what makes some people so caring and compassionate. Thank goodness for folks like you, Dr. Gary! I spent most of last weekend laying on my couch or in bed, feeling like this is just one more reason to give up the ghost. My doc says I need to change my eating habits before my numbers reach the tipping point. I am not overweight, A1C was 5.7 and glucose was 102, but T2 killed my mom and my sister is diabetic too. I live on the west coast, what's left of my family is back east, lost my husband to heart disease 9 years ago, have been unemployed for 16 months with no end in sight and feel pretty hopeless! Now I see that others react the same way I did and I can have a support system, even if only through a website. Thank you all!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-22 22:02:51 -0500 Report

Stellysue, I really appreciate knowing that this discussion board has been helpful. I don't know anyone who hasn't had times when they didn't feel like doing anything except lay on the couch. Feeling crummy sometimes is just part of being human, especially when it seems like life is kicking you from all directions, as you have been experiencing. When I read your posting, I could really feel the sadness and loss. There are a lot of things in life that we don't have any control over, and that can feel pretty hopeless. But I also sensed that you are someone who has a strong fighting spirit. After all, you reached out for help here. And yes, you do have a strong support system here on Diabetic Connect. I would totally encourage you to stay connected here on Diabetic Connect. I would also encourage you to find some support locally, possibly through your local American Diabetes Association chapter, or through a local hospital, or through your local mental health system. Keep reaching out! There is a lot of support out there. It also sounds like your doctor wants to encourage you to take the best care of yourself that you possibly can, so that is someone else in your corner. I have found that when people are getting good emotional support, and staying compliant with their treatment, their self-confidence and positive outlook on life also increases. Keep being a Fighter. And keep us posted! I am sending you lots of positive thoughts!

critterlover 2010-07-20 02:54:38 -0500 Report

Hi, my name is MaryPat and I was diagnosed last week with T2. I have many family members who have T2 diabetes, heart disease and CAD run rampant in my family on both sides (maternal/paternal) and I am so irritated with myself/my body for succumbing to this diabetes now, along with the heart trouble. Grrrr! My finger sticks are showing over 190 most times and I test 3 x day. I am not really sure what to eat anymore! I look forward to learning everything I can and making some rapid progress in getting that serum leverl down, below 100, is what I am aiming for as that is what my Mom always tried to keep hers at… under 100. I take some other Rx drugs for depression which make the fat gain a very rapid one. I have asthma. I have heart valave trouble and some blockages which were not going to be treated yet, on last exam but I am over due for another cardiac cath plus the usual tests such as echo, stress test, etc. I so appreciate the honesty here, allows me to be honest too. I appreciate you kind folks taking the time to share from your hearts! mp

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-22 22:03:34 -0500 Report

MaryPat, you are with the most supportive group of people that I know. Stay connect and keep us poste!

Janet62 2010-07-19 15:49:02 -0500 Report

I was just diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes in April, found out while having kidney stone problems. I was devistated. When I went into the emergency room at hospital I was tested and my glucose level was over 300, but my supper of a Culvers Cheeseburger meal right before hand didnt help, eating on the run caught up with me. Now with a low carb diet and exercise, Im mostly in the 100's, low and high, or once in awhile just slightly over 200 if I had a special treat that day. My before meal goals are a little higher, but my post after meals are mostly in the goal range by the dieticians goal standards. I'm not on any medication yet due to a couple higher liver readings, that have been slowly improving since the kidney stone surgery. Dr wants to make sure thats in check first. My dr will have to put me on meds down the road but is more concerned with the liver count going normal first. I had acccepted the diabetes after I started feeling better and dropping weight, but then my dietician said if I want to I can start doing insulin shots, I told her absolutely not, as my doctor told me that I didnt need to go down that road in the first place. But after she told me this I started feeling down and started crying. She should not interfere with what my dr thinks. I told her my sugar level can go up easily also because we are having a rough time with our adopted special needs daughters, they are going through many transitional phases in their life and don't handle it emotionally well. My daughter in my profile picture in red t-shirt Im concerned about, she doesnt like exercise, and is getting overweight in the stomach, Im afraid she will end up with the diabetes or high cholesterol, because one of her meds may cause weight gain and high cholesterol, my other daughter is fine, she walks alot. My picture of me is on the right of my daughter. This is all thats going on in my life right now.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-22 22:16:34 -0500 Report

Hi Janet, I am glad you took the time to post a message. You really have a lot going on, I can see, both in terms of your physical as well as emotional health. I am not a physician, but I am concerned about what's going on with you emotionally. You have a lot on your plate! I think that one thing that could help you is to find a safe place to talk about your feelings, and your relationship with your daughters. I would suggest talking to a counselor or therapist who could provide a sounding board, and to help you to cope with the challenges you are facing, as well as help you develop a strategy for helping your daughters to cope with their own emotions. You might want to get in contact with your local mental health resources to help you find a counseling resource. A support group for parents with special needs children might also be helpful. I would also encourage you to continue to work with closely with your physician on managing your diabetes, which it sounds like you are doing. Coping with stress and other emotional challenges is important to staying healthy. Diabetes Connect is a great place to stay connected ande exchange ideas. Keep in touch with us!

0tina0 2010-07-19 12:09:26 -0500 Report

Welcome Dr. Gary and I am so happy you joined. I look forward to your input. I joined a while back and I come here every day to read posts and find new ideas. I am type I but unlike most everyone else it's from pancreatic cancer and surgery to remove the pancreas. I find lots of helpful advise. I really do quite well and I work every day. I have good days and bad days and I find that when my BS is bad it is directly related to my poor choices. The other thing that makes my BS rise is getting mad…LOL…Stress is not a good thing.

I do most of my reading from work so I don't reply to alot…but that doesn't mean I'm not here…Kisses to ya'll…Tina

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-22 22:27:51 -0500 Report

Hi Tina, some fantastic advice in your post. Managing stress and coping with emotional challenges are key to helping to keep your moods steady from day to day, I agree. I hope you aren't being too hard on yourself, we all make some bad choices. We all have some 'issues' that result in inviting more stress into our lives. But recognizing what triggers our own stress and anger reactions, and learning to cope in new, healthy ways, can make each day better. Sounds like you are on your way. Any secrets you want to share on how you cope with the stresses of life? I am always looking for new ideas!

Thank you!

TAR Jewel
TAR Jewel 2010-07-18 05:32:40 -0500 Report

Hello. I was diagnosed as T2 last month after spending 4 days in Icu. I had a blood sugar level close to 500. I am a little frustrated because I was eating healthly before being diagnosed. I was told by body makes sugar but doesn't know what to do with it. How does your body stop knowing what to do with it? I have lost my appetite and feel a sense of dread when it comes to eating. I was told I should eat 5x's a day but this is not happening because I can not force myself to eat. I'm just wondering could their be something else wrong that is causing a rise in my BSL and perhaps I am not a diabetic? I am checking it but have not had a high reading and therefore take no meds. I have no history of diabetes on either side of my immediate family, nor do I have high blood pleasure. Please share your thoughts with me!

Kirla 2010-07-18 08:22:14 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed last year with fasting blood sugar of 366 and an A1C of 14.1. I started to drink lots of water and to eat lots of low carb vegetables (Broccoli, Cauliflower, Cucumbers, Cabbage and salads). My blood sugar reading dropped pretty quick.

By testing before and after each meal I was able to see what foods were spiking my blood sugar and either cut back or quit eating foods that spiked my blood sugar over a certain amount. I had to quit eating bread, pasta, potatoes and most foods that had more than 5-6 net carbs per serving.

We are all different and what works for one may not always work for everyone. That’s why testing what you eat is so important. By testing you will learn what spikes you and will be able to cut back or eliminate it from your diet.

Welcome to Diabetic Connect.

Good luck

NUCAT 2010-07-19 14:22:01 -0500 Report

Yesterday, I took my kiddies to a playgym. I thought I as going to get a wrap for lunch. Turned out it was the wrong playgym. This one had no such option. So I went with the chicken salad. The problem was the chicken came breaded. So I decided it would be an experiment and went all in and polished off my son's leftover french fries. I'm newly diagnosed. Two hours later my sugar spiked to 303.

I guess that means no taters for me :(

The good news is after a turkey wrap from Subway today, and a greek yogurt w blueberries, I tested reasonably well. I can live with that a lunch staple. Tomorrow, I'll see what whole wheat pasta does to me.

SueIzzy 2010-07-27 09:48:55 -0500 Report

You should feel blessed to be able to have a wrap, I can not seem to tolerate them, and miss them terribly. I have however, found a "white" bread that does not spike my BG… Arnold's Premium Italian. I was so excited when I discovered this bread and that I could actually eat it, I have always been a big big fan of bread & pasta's. It has been the hardest adjustment to make since being diagnosed 3 years ago. I have also found that I can also tolerate Egg Noodles, and that seems to help with my pasta cravings.

I think that becoming a Diabetic makes us become our own personal scientist, it is a learning lesson to figure out what works for us individually, and once we can do that, it makes dealing with this situation less stressful.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-27 14:54:19 -0500 Report

Sue, some wise words here. Knowledge is power! The more you know about your diabetic and its treatment, and how to work with your own body, the better. Thank you!

MAYS 2010-07-18 08:59:17 -0500 Report

Good Morning and Welcome to Diabetic Connect !
What is possibly going on inside of your body that is causing your blood glucose level to rise is the result of your liver releasing glycogen into your bloodstream.
Glycogen is a stored form of glucose that is utilized by the human body for a quick burst of energy and \ or stressful situations (fight or flight), the liver will release this for a number of reasons, mainly stress related, our bodies are under constant stress as diabetics, we associate stress as coming from outside sources, yet we are under constant stress internally.

Yes you are a diabetic, with a bsl close to 500, you should follow your doctors advice, diabetes and it's possible complications are both very serious:



There is no cure for diabetes, but you can manage it and live a very rewarding, productive life, avoid the route of diabetes denial, you will only be hurting yourself.

Take care of yourself and manage your diabetes.


soro1964 2010-07-17 09:16:33 -0500 Report

Hello, Just joined yesterday. I am a male 45 yrs old i have T2 insulin dependent. diagnosed this month, but i know i have had it for some time from the symptoms. I did not have insurance until my ssdi was approved and got Medicare. I also suffer from congestive heart failure, malignant hyper tension, enlarged left ventricle. i am a stroke and heart attack survivor, i have had 3 strokes and 5 heart attacks went into kidney failure 2x. Last week i had a heart catherization and they found a 80% blockage in my rca and a stent was put in. I have 3 other blockages but they are at 30% and they will not stent them till they hit 80%. At times its like I am alone and fighting all this, my girlfriend is wonderful and always there but still alone as she doesnt really know what i am going thru.

I have been reading everyones post and i now know I am not alone and I feel like I can find the support I need. Thank- You for reading my post


MAYS 2010-07-17 09:35:33 -0500 Report


Welcome to Diabetic Connect !

Yes you will find information and you will discover that this is a great source of support and friendship.
We know what you are experiencing, because we experience the same things also, so browse the site, make friends and be prepared for the outpouring of support that only the Diabetic Connect Family can give.


Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-18 12:36:13 -0500 Report

Dr Gary Today at 2:31 pm report
Hi Mike, Glad you stopped by and posted here. As Mays said in his post, you will find a lot of support here from people who really understand what you are going through. You have a lot of challenges right now. It sounds like you have been coping with a lot of medical issues, and now diabetes. Diabetic Connect is a great first step. Please stay in touch with us and let us know how you are doing, and reach out for support whenever you need it. It sounds like your girlfriend is trying to be there for you, which I agree is wonderful. Our loved ones often feel their own fear and helplessness when we are facing healthcare challenges. Some are able to be good listeners even if they all they can do is listen. That in itself is a gift. I have also seen loved ones who are so overwhelmed by their own fear and helplessness — and the mistaken belief that they have to 'fix' the problem — that they try to avoid any discussion at all. What I have learned is that it can be helpful for an individual who is dealing with a medical diagnosis to reassure their loved ones that they only have to listen, they don't have really understand what he/she is going through because they can't, and they don't have to 'fix' them in any way. Just be there. I suspect that is what your girlfriend is trying to do for you. You are very fortunate. I would also recommend that you consider finding a support group of some kind for individuals who have been diagnosed with diabetes. There, you will find people who can listen as well as share their own experiences. This will give you some additional heft on your support team. Stay in touch!

Sugar Free Wench
Sugar Free Wench 2010-07-15 14:20:01 -0500 Report

Hi..I just joined this group a few minutes ago. I am T2 and was diagnosed in Jan. of this year. However, I have been treated (unsuccessfully) for malignant hypertension since I was 19..am now 56 yrs. old. I have had such a long string of health issues I can't begin to cover them here…including toxic pregnancies. No doctor ever mentioned Syndrome X to me, no one ever warned me that if you have hypertension at an early age it can be a precursor to diabetes. I was never told that once I had high cholesterol, diabetes would be my next hurdle. I would have listened and done something about it much sooner. I refused medication for diabetes because of my tendency to be the one in a million with a bad reaction to meds. I had also learned with syndrome x its possible to be overmedicated because of doctors who don't make the connection and end up treating all 3 problems til you die from overmedication.
I am conquering the diabetes with diet (a stricter version of a candida diet), now see numbers ranging from 94 - 130…but am experiencing extreme fatigue, which I first blamed on the heat, then being overworked but now feel its connected to the diabetes but not sure why now..when I am having such low numbers…even my blood pressure has gone from common reading of 250/150, to consistent 160/90 and lower. I feel fine otherwise, just need about 52 naps a day to get thru a day…exercise is a joke right now. I went from a size 16 - 18 pair of jeans, to now a loose size 12. I don't weigh myself so I'm not sure how much weight loss that is but people do comment that I look like I have lost considerable weight. I eat several times a day, so it's a healthy weight loss, not a starving. I am having no actual anger issues about this condition, but rather frustration… I kept going to the doctor and pleading for help with my sugar addiction, telling him it surely must be behind my health issues and blood pressure and elevated enzymes in my liver. I was told it wasn't a problem unless I wanted to lose weight. I wasn't unhappy being overweight, so I wasn't motivated for a purely physical appearance reason. I'm frustrated that I didn't listen to my own instincts which were trying to tell me I was ruining my health by such a lousy sugar-loaded carb-loaded diet. Doctors need more training in nutrition! A person can be very obese and the doctor won't say a word about diet.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-16 14:45:33 -0500 Report

Hi Sugar Free, glad you checked in here. I am a therapist and not a physician, but this is still a great place to connect and share ideas. I did just wnat to ask if you are working closely with your physician on the fatigue you are experiencing? I suspect you are, but wanted to encourage you to make sure that your physician is aware of any side effects or other symptoms that come up for you. (I suspect I am preaching to the choir but wanted to double check.) Take care!

Sugar Free Wench
Sugar Free Wench 2010-07-18 02:16:55 -0500 Report

I'm pretty much doing this with the help of a nutritionist, and on my own…I do check in periodically…okay..rarely with the diabetic clinic…but I'm not really under care of my primary doctor…he referred me to the diabetic clinic but mostly, the diet I am on is different than what they offer there, so not much they can do for me either. I tweeked the diet and am feeling better today. If I can't figure things out myself or with my nutritionist, I would go see a doctor…and did just recently get bloodwork done…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-24 20:30:15 -0500 Report

This is great news. That connection between maintaining the optimal diet with how you feel physically and emotionally is amazing, right?

Judylyn18 2010-07-14 15:18:23 -0500 Report

I have just figgured out that I have Low Blood Sugar. I can not seem to find much information on this. I am the one that figgured this out not the Dr.'s…They where thinking I had Minears disease or something like it. I was having dizzy spells I was put on Meclazine which is for Vertigo. I had an allergic reaction to it so they put me on Valium. I was also having bad head aches, which as i figgured out was the first sign my sugar was dropping. They had me on 3 differnt medications for that. Well it just so happens that my boyfriend is diabetic with type 2 controlled with pills. I started to have a dizzy spell and told me check my sugar before I took the medicine. I did and it was at 47. So I drank OJ and had some peanut butter and was able to bring it up. Now mind you, this was AFTER I had ate a bowl of ice cream. The next time it happened my reading was 36 and the next time 24. I need help and information. Please help me if you have any suggestions it would be most appriciated.

Beachy 2010-07-14 08:16:46 -0500 Report

I have been borderline diabetic for over 2 years now. I also have a thyroid condition and take medication for this and severe Fibromyalgia. I watch my diet and exercise as much as I possible can, but I cannot get rid of the excess weight. My husband on the other hand, who has been eating my same diet, has lost over 30 lbs. It really bothers me that I continue to watch what I eat and drink and still the weight just hangs on. Anyone have any ideas, would be greatly appreciated.

qmissy2000 2010-07-13 17:25:32 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed in April with Type 2 diabetes and I was so angry and scared that I went into denial and refused to take the meds or check my sugar. I still feel angry but am eating better and checking my sugar. When will this anger go away? Any idea or suggestions?

qmissy2000 2010-07-13 17:25:22 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed in April with Type 2 diabetes and I was so angry and scared that I went into denial and refused to take the meds or check my sugar. I still feel angry but am eating better and checking my sugar. When will this anger go away? Any idea or suggestions?

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-14 14:41:57 -0500 Report

Hi, this is a great question and thanks for asking it. A lot of my clients feel anger at their diagnosis. Let's face it, it's totally unfair, like many things in life. As you said in your note, you went through a denial stage and refused to be treatment compliant, but moved past that. I would be interested to know how you got past your denial -- what did you tell yourself to encourage yourself toward becoming more compliant with treatment? Please let me know! I am sure others could benefit from your experience. I have a feeling you decided to go with the flow and do what you need to do to feel better and stay on top of your condition. Fantastic. As far as the anger goes, what I think is important is to be honest about your emotions, as you have been here. Feelings are just feelings, and when we express them, they lose their power to control us. I don't know if your anger will ever completely go away, but what I have experienced is that by staying on track with your treatment, you're going to feel better physically and emotionally (we all know how ups and downs with sugar levels can affect emotions). And over time, newly diagnosed patients often develop a sense of acceptance as they adjust to their 'new normal' and their diabetes becomes a part of life as they know it. But I would really encourage you to find a safe place to express how you are feeling, through Diabetic Connect, of course, and you may want to think about getting involved in a support group as well as keeping yourself educated. Knowledge is power! Congratulations for staying on the path with compliance. And stay in touch!

Caroladkins 2010-07-12 21:15:08 -0500 Report

Hi I was diagnosed about a week and a half ago with type 2 diabetes. I lost a brother to type 1. Well he was a step brother, but a brother the same. I am mad and dissappointed in myself for letting myself go. I know this can be corrected, but having a hard time finding low cal and low carb recipes. Also how many carbs can a diabetic have in a day? I have been looking for well the whole time. Are there any answers out there?

Kirla 2010-07-12 21:58:16 -0500 Report

This is what I found worked great for me.

I found that drinking lots of water and eating lots of low carb vegetables helped lower my blood sugar fast. After being diagnosed I started to test before and 2 hours after each meal to determine how the foods I ate affected my blood sugar. After my numbers came down a lot I started testing 1 hour after eating and was able to fine-tune my diet even more. My A1C went from 14.1 to 5.9 in just a few months. My last 4 were all below 6.

By testing what I ate, I found that I had to give up all bread and grain products, potatoes, pasta, rice and most foods that contained more than 5-6 net carbs per serving.

I write how I controlled my blood sugar on my website. I even talk about how and what I eat. Click on the link below. It may help or give you some ideas. Then again it might not. I figure it can’t hurt to at least try some things. This is what worked for me.


Good Luck

mzbratkid 2010-07-12 20:52:31 -0500 Report

Welcome Dr.Gary> I am new here as well.`
Just got Diagnosed? yeah after yrs of being sick!!!! How I am feeling? Mad as hell and tired of Dr's .T2 is not my only illness it's just another in a bunch of others. "I encourage my clients to become Fighters"——-I am so tired of being a fighter or told to be a fighter, hello we do because we have no choice to fight or everything kicks our butts…Lets get real here the hardest thing to deal with is Dr's that really don't seam to care or listen to us. We try to learn about our conditions from our Dr's and most of them don't take the time to help. I don't know about others but after a Dr's visits. I am not the nicest person to be around because after I see a Dr they have a way to make you feel stupid and dumb..My family loves me and they know always know if it was a good appointment or not by whats for diner.
I feel thankful for places like this were people can come together and share and support each other. It just would be nice to walk into a Dr's office and walk out feeling like you visited people who really care. Don't get me wrong my main care provider is great she doesn't always understand.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-13 10:53:38 -0500 Report

Hi, I really appreciate your honesty. Believe me, I know what you are going through. In our world of managed care, physicians are really pushed into limiting the time they spend with patients. The stories that I hear from patients who can't seem to get the time and attention they need from their doctors, and the stories from doctors who tell me that the numbers of patients they have to squeeze into an hour and the pressure that they feel... there are a lot of frustrations on both sides. Also, to be honest, some doctors are better at handling interpersonal situations, and answering questions, than others. As a result, doctors often, intentionally or not, give patients a quick lecture and maybe a scolding and hope that they are helping patients to be compliant. As you said, even under these circumstances, the doctor may be an excellent practitioner. And I agree with you. Why can't patients get what they need without everything seeming like a battle? I am glad you are here! You will get emotional support as well as have an opportunity to exchange ideas and coping strategies with others. I always recommend that newly-diagnosed patients have a variety of resources on their team, of course their physician and nursing staff for treatment, but also other resources who can offer guidance on diet and exercise, ideas for day to day coping, and -- the role I play with clients -- emotional support. With a well-rounded support system, you won't be in the position of having to place 'alll of your eggs in one basket' with your doctor. Everybody on the team can make a valuable contribution to your well-being. By the way, to me, being a Fighter isn't about 'doing battle.' It is about making sure that you are focused on having a solid strategy in place and having the knowledge and resources in place to be prepared for the road ahead. We are here to help you do that. And I hope this helps! Please stay in touch!!! Gary

LennyDenny 2010-07-12 13:21:01 -0500 Report

Welcome to the family - You are right, dealing with all the emotions that go along with all the conditions can be quite a struggle. I find that family and friends have been the best medicine. When I had my heart attack I found out just who my friends really were. 7 years later still fighting. Yes I'm struggling some times to deal with the diabetes, but I found out recently that my heart failure is worse that expected and the asthma and emphysema is getting worse. A strong faith can be one of the best ways to stay strong. Know the facts, alway ask questions of the drs. and never let a questions go unanswered. I know that becoming a member of this site has been a great help. If you are not a fighter you must become one. Don't hesitate to talk to whoever will listen. Welcome again.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-14 14:46:30 -0500 Report

Thank you! I think you have hit upon three key tools to help cope with your diagnosis -- emotional support, information, and making a spiritual connection. You have really had some hard news to deal with, and it sounds like you are making good use of these tools. Please keep us posted on how you're doing!

BEBUBBLE 2010-07-12 10:18:54 -0500 Report

Hi Everyone,
I am new here and I am newly diagnosed with T2. Well maybe not newly. I was told by my doctor I had it about 4 years ago. She put me on Metformin. It gave me diarrhea for weeks. I told her and she said that there wasn't anything she could do. So needless to say I stopped the Metformin.
Recently (June2010) I got a new doctor and she was very patient and explained everything to me clearly and found meds that work for me. At first my numbers were in the 600. But now I am handling the life changes very well. I changed my eating habits, get a lot more exercise and tiring to let stress go. But I have a nagging question (stress) in the back of my mind. I think I understand that this is a catastrophic diagnoses. Does this diagnoses (TYPE 2) mean I will more than likely die of complications of Diabetes?
I take Juniva, Avandia (am, once a day), and insulin: Lantius (pm, once a day). My numbers have come down to the mid 100's.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-12 12:08:21 -0500 Report

Hi, first of all congratulations on stick with your treatment. It sounds like making a move to a doctor who you are comfortable with and trust, and who is willing to work with you to find the best treatment regimen, made a lot of difference in terms of helping you to stay on the path. Finding a healthcare provider that you can communicate with is important. You've also made some important lifestyle changes. I suspect you feel a lot more in control of managing your condition. You asked me some questions about your meds. I am a mental health professional but not a physician. However, I would really encourage to keep track of any questions that you have for your physician in a journal where you also keep track of how you are feeling, especially when you experience any changes in how you feel. I would recommend taking this journal to your doctor's appointments and using to help guide the conversation and to make sure that you get your questions answered. I hope you will sit down with your doctor and get her opinion. Knowledge is power! Thanks for posting! Stay in touch!

beccabook 2010-07-11 21:46:09 -0500 Report

Hi, I just joined. I was diagnosed in 2003 (right after I turned 40) but have been on oral meds since. Last year my levels started flucuating and my dr wouldn't adjust my meds. Last month I started a new dr and she is great. At the beginning of June I went to the ER and my glucose was 759. Yeah, they wondered how I was walking around. That is when I looked for a new doc. She ran lots of blood work, my A1C was 14.5, and last week she started me on insulin. My levels are slowly coming down, but still not good. I am logging my levels and will let her know next week and she will adjust the insulin if necessary.

Question for you all: Has anyone had tremendous eye improvement? I have worn glasses since I was 10, can't see far away. Last month I noticed that wearing my glasses wasn't necessary, and couldn't even see with them. I went to the eye doctor and my eyes are "better than 20/20". LOL They aren't perfect, but tons improved. He said to come back when my diabetes is under control and he will retest me.

tabby9146 2010-07-11 20:18:58 -0500 Report

welcome! I had some trouble dealing with it, but not too much and it didn't take too long, but I certainly understand those that it takes them years to come to terms with it. I suppose since mine was caught early, when you are doing okay it isn't so hard to accept it. I feel so much for those that are not doing okay and are struggling. I don't know how I will handle it years from now when it progresses. I do have a strong faith, and it has helped me through so much so I think I will do ok. Glad you are here!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-11 21:21:57 -0500 Report

Hi, thanks for being my first responder. I totally appreciate it. It sounds like you are staying top of your condition, staying compliant. Having a spiritual connection can be incredibily helpful. If you have a chance, I would really like to know how you came to terms with your diagnosis. I am sure others on the board would also like to know. I think that everyone finds their own path. Stay in touch!

Nspired 2010-07-11 13:01:09 -0500 Report

I'm very new to this, (first post) Being diagnosed about 3 months ago was more annoying to me than anything else. It didn't hit me quite as hard as being told I had lung cancer 20 months after I stopped smoking. (Had the right upper removed and have been fine since, took a while to get my breathing back, but doing great now) I took the diabetes more as a wake up call to get more active and eat a much healthier diet. I am now exercising for 45 minutes 5 days a week a watching my diet closely. I have lost 25 lbs and have a goal of 20 more by September. I feel better now and have more energy than in the last 10 years.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-11 21:31:43 -0500 Report

Wow, you are totally a Fighter. You have faced a catastrophic medical diagnosis and mobilized all of your inner resources, it sounds like, so you were that much more prepared to deal with your diabetes. Looking at your diabetes diagnosis as a wake up call is a great example of accepting life on life's terms, and taking action. Congratulations! Thanks so much for your posting. If you want to let me know how you initially reacted to your diagnosis, I think others could really benefit from hearing your story.

Kirla 2010-07-11 13:01:03 -0500 Report

Dr Gary

This is what I found worked great for me.

I found that drinking lots of water and eating lots of low carb vegetables helped lower my blood sugar fast. After being diagnosed I started to test before and 2 hours after each meal to determine how the foods I ate affected my blood sugar. After my numbers came down a lot I started testing 1 hour after eating and was able to fine-tune my diet even more. My A1C went from 14.1 to 5.9 in just a few months. My last 4 were all below 6.

By testing what I ate, I found that I had to give up all bread and grain products, potatoes, pasta, rice and most foods that contained more than 5-6 net carbs per serving.

I write how I controlled my blood sugar on my website. I even talk about how and what I eat. Click on the link below. It may help or give you some ideas. Then again it might not. I figure it can’t hurt to at least try some things. This is what worked for me.


Good Luck

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2010-07-11 21:34:56 -0500 Report

Your story is a good example of the importance of compliance! One of the biggest challenges for those newly-diagnosed with diabetes is making the lifestyle changes that are necessary for feeling good and staying healthy. I will check your blog, thank you. I am incredibly hypoglycemic (both parents were Type II diabetics), and I have also found that the key to feeling better is controlling carbs. Thanks for your posting!

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