A Newbie Just Diagnosed

By Katsarecool Latest Reply 2011-04-27 10:44:14 -0500
Started 2010-06-26 22:18:25 -0500

I just wanted to vent a bit as I was recently diagnosed and am putting a brave face on to protect my kids and they are letting me get away with it by not acting all that concerned. Heck this is a pattern with us since I was initially injured 11 yrs ago. Mom's smiling so it must not be that bad.

I know what to eat and what not to eat. That is a start. But I live on social security and food budget is strained now by the different foods I have to eat. I don't often cook because I have nerve pain (not related to diabetes). So I have to mostly prepared but healthy food. So it is close to the end of the month now. Ug!

I haven't received my meter or supplies yet except the metaformin. So stuff is going on inside me, I am unaware of it and it does scare me very much and I cannot talk about it to my adult kids. And they don't want to hear it I think. I does concern them as they could eventually get it.

I think I will be reassured when I get my meter and supplies and can test what is going on when I eat or don't eat, exercise or not.

I have a feeling I am not alone with my worries and that is why I joined.

Thanks for listening to my rant.

Nancy Ann

28 replies

hollysmom1 2011-04-27 10:44:14 -0500 Report

Welcome! I was (re)diagnosed last July and have found this site to be a great support to me. One of the issues I still have is making my husband really understand the dietary restrictions I have. He still thinks I just can't have anything sweet, but we're working on it together!
You'll find lots of information here and I would suggest you just keep coming back! You'll also find friends here, and that is one of the best benefits!
Good luck as you travel this journey…

pixsidust 2011-03-20 00:27:14 -0500 Report

When I found out I cried.

You have to sit your family down and talk with them. You admit putting on a brave face and having this dynamic of not sharing or burdening your children. Ask them over and sit them down in a serious way, tell them how you feel, how you are scared and how you do not have extra money for buying different food.

You have to break the cycle. Do not assume all you are is a burden. My son loves me thank God and cares what happens to me. How are your kids supposed to be close to you if you do not let them close?

I am so sorry for your diagnosis, the feeling of being afraid, everything that you feel. Its hard and I can not tell you that some fear is not justified. Do the best you can. In St Louis we have a senior food delivery called meals on wheels. My grandma had it for $25 a week. They brought one meal, lunch that was usually big enough for two. So she got dinner out of it. They will custom make meals for special diets. Find if they have one in your area. Call the senior center for your community and they can tell you
if this service is available and the cost.

Stay connected here and involve your friends and family. You will find you are more important than you think

heaven32 2011-03-19 22:57:13 -0500 Report

i had to get a 2nd opinion to check if i have diabetes so they said i have them but the problem i'm having is i don't have a job to pay for a meter or supplies which scares me so much… i don't know what things to eat or what not to eat

ston3xc 2010-06-28 07:52:37 -0500 Report

Welcome to the site! Sounds like your kids just need a little diabetic 101! you have come to the right place! As you learn more about your options and your health conditions, you can incorporate them in your life and as a mother you will be an example, especially for your grandkids.

GabbyPA 2010-06-27 22:34:19 -0500 Report

Sounds like being brave is a common thing. That can be good, but sometimes getting the kids involved can be a great benefit. Especially if there is a chance that they are on the list of having it as well.

The way you eat is how everyone should eat pretty much and having some fun with the kids and new foods and a new healthy option of living can be a great boding time. It cuts down the fear and gives them some power in the knowledge that they kind of know what is going on with mom. It really can reduce the worry if you turn it into a positive thing and not a scary thing. Then the brave face can take a break and you all can find an extra depth of love and care inside the family. It is a great thing.

There is a member here whose little girl, 9 years old, knew what to do to help mommy one day at church as the adults either stood around and stared or walked away. That is a moment that could have been horrific for her daughter, but instead, it became a moment of great confidence for her.

I don't mean to say I know how to raise your kids, but I just thought it might be a new approach that could give them a little power in knowledge. I hope I have not said too much.

Katsarecool 2010-06-28 03:38:56 -0500 Report

Gabby you have done a good job. The problem is my kids are between the ages of 41 and 34 so they have a mind of their own. I think eventually they will come around and maybe they are not talking about it because of fear; fear for me and for themselves. Fear can do some strange things to thought processes. I went to the grocery store and bought some healthy snacks today. More importantly hung out with my 4 yr old grandson (the youngest who is the light of my life) in the toy dept. the best place in Wal Mart!!!!!!!!!!!!! We bought some glow bracelets to wear. Thank you so much Gabby!

GabbyPA 2010-06-28 16:42:20 -0500 Report

LOL!! I guess I should have asked...I forget that our children no matter how old are still our KIDS. I am sorry...=) Glow bracelets sound good!

Katsarecool 2010-06-29 03:22:48 -0500 Report

Thanks Gabby!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah our kids will always be our kids. Been when they are older the often buck the system especially daughters who try to persuade their mothers that they are now smarter. LOL Yeah they are smart but I got twenty years on them. LOL

monkeymama 2010-06-27 13:03:57 -0500 Report

Hello there Nancy and welcome to our community here. Being diagnosed can be a emotional roller coaster for people. I have money issues in my home. We live off of my little boys disability, food budgeting for 5, and whatever my husband makes (long story why). Eating right does not have to be expensive or drain you dry. There are many ways of eating healthier and within our limits. I would be more than willing to share some of my secrets. I would also recommend reading Rays "Money Matters" posts (just posted part 1 last week). He's explaining resources and how to's to save money. It has been a GREAT info post for a lot.
I am not sure what kind of relationship you have with your adult kids. Have you ever given thought to talking to your adult kids to see if they will care to know? You will never know unless you try. You might be surprised. Best of wishes to you and again welcome

gregsteele 2010-06-27 09:56:12 -0500 Report

Welome to DC here you will find the kindest ,most wonderful supportive people youve ever known i was lost till i came here as the others have said , you need to share at least some of these issues with your children for their support, advice and to give them a heads up on the possibility of them getting this disease when you get your meter it will help tremendously in reducing your stress level dont forget stress will cause your bg to rise as well as what you eat good luck and keep us posted love to all GREG

Katsarecool 2010-06-27 16:38:36 -0500 Report

thank you Greg! I found out here that BG rises with stress. I was shocked. But it is a learning process for sure.

alanbossman 2010-06-27 07:50:57 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC community, you made the right choice in joining this site. You can get lots of help and support here. I dont know what state you live in but your metformin can be free at some stores like meijer and publix, and at a wal mart 10 dollars will get you a 90 day supply. I agree with Petals you need to talk with your children and be honest about your diabetes so they know they need to keep watch of their health.

Katsarecool 2010-06-27 12:47:14 -0500 Report

Thank you Allen and appreciate the support and frient invite! I have my medicare prescription drug coverage paid by medicare thank goodness. I think I paid $1.80 for 30 days.

petals 2010-06-27 00:59:49 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC!! You are in the right place for support. We all worry about this disease does to us and the money that it cost to eat,diabetic supplies and doctors. Try to be more open and honest with your children and with yourself. Your children should be concerned with their mom's health, that is their medical history after all. I am here for you , any time.

RC Hodge
RC Hodge 2010-06-26 22:54:54 -0500 Report

Nancy Ann,
You are not alone in all this. There are sooo many things that can worry and frighten us and I just want you to realize that you are doing the best thing you can do which is to battle the ignorance by asking questions. You will find peace and comfort in finding others who share the same fears and doubts and problems. I too know what it's like to barely get by. I raise chickens in Wisconsin and we are just getting started here and so all our money is tied up in that. Thank god for Medicaid and the way they pay the hospital and prescriptions. I just had my left big toe AMPUTATED AND THAT WAS A SCARY DEAL TO SAY THE LEAST. Any way I just qwant to encourage you and tell you if you wanna chat then add me as a friend and I'll be happy to be in touch. Be encouraged. read Joshua chapter one verse 9. Anyway, take care and write when you can. Rc

Katsarecool 2010-06-26 22:59:01 -0500 Report

thank you so much RC for your kind words of support. It does help to know we are not alone. I am sorry to hear about your toe. I hope you are recuperating well and have lots of support of your own!

RC Hodge
RC Hodge 2010-06-27 00:22:36 -0500 Report

I think we get back what we give out so I guess the support I need will come as a result of the support I give If that makes any sense. But I do think that I do get a lot of support but most of the friends I have do not really understand my disease nor do my close family members. I guess maybe that is partially a result of my own ignorance and inability to educate them due to my lack of knowledge. So I guess it becomes my responsibility to do the groundwork and educate them to what I need from them. Can you relate to this? I think sometimes I get offended when they, my family, don't take a more active role in understanding my diabetes but then when my wife begins to question my eating habits or etc, I find I have a tendency to become offended at her. I don't really understand myself sometimes. I know I have a lot to learn and a lot to share about all of this. So maybe as a community we can grow together as a family of sorts to become better diabetics for ourselves and each other as well as our families. Write when you can and thanks for your kind words. RC

RAYT721 2010-06-26 22:25:45 -0500 Report

I can so totally understand the physical, emotional and financial situation that you're in. Glad you are here. It's okay to keep some of your personal fears and frustrations to yourself but your kids should know a little bit about Mom's condition(s) for their own medical histories. When it comes to two heads being better than one, they are adults and they may have some insights on ways to help but they must be in the loop in order to know what should be done to help you. Please feel free to add me as a friend if you ever want to talk, run ideas past me, or just have a few minutes to get to know each other. This place truly is a group of genuinely concerned people who know what you have and will be going through. We're in it to win it!!!

Katsarecool 2010-06-26 22:30:56 -0500 Report

Thank you so much! I just knew I came to the right place. My middle daughter is already displaying some health issues; she is way overweight, feels very tired constantly and just had sugery to remove her gallbladder and she does not eat right as she is a very busy mom! I worry about her a lot.

RAYT721 2010-06-26 23:52:53 -0500 Report

The more you and the kids keep from each other, the less you can accomplish together. You've got a built in support network while many of us are here to make families. It is so important for you all to communicate with what is bothering you. Communication is a two way street. The kids may not want to bother you with their problems as you've confessed that you don't want to bother them with yours. Hey, kiddo… that's what family is for… in good times and bad. I've been at the computer so much today that I wish I could take my eyeballs out to soak them so I am going to head to bed. Please think about what I'm saying. Maybe a family meeting is in order. We're not just a bunch of militant diabetics here. Your family can get lots of tips and advice on a number of subjects that affect their lives, your life and even their children's lives. There's strength in numbers. Welcome to our family!!! I'm the dopey grandfather that people just roll their eyes when I speak. :) :) :)