What Do You Do When...???

monkeymama
By monkeymama Latest Reply 2010-06-18 22:51:21 -0500
Started 2010-06-18 19:55:09 -0500

I have been fighting and struggling to take control of my diabetes. Making sure I take all of my BG, eating the right amount of carbs for my diet, getting LOTS of exercise. I have the appropriate good balance of minerals and supplements I take each day. Yet, I have hit a road block in my fight with my diabetes. My diet plans is working GREAT for me but this road block I am talking about has to do with my oldest daughter (which she is 12 going on 23…I'm sure this is said by others too…). let me explain more in detail before you throw your eyes brows and questions of how she is a effector here.

I buy all of the groceries in my home. I plan my meals out accordingly and with flexibility. I purchase foods that are healthier for everyone in my house. Some of those foods are still to high for what my diet guidelines fall. Therefore, I also purchase foods that are healthy & great for me to intake. I put these foods well up and out of the reach of my children. Along with pointing out and telling them Not To Eat these foods. There is ALWAYS food in my house for them.
My oldest daughter feels the need she has to eat ALL of the foods that were purchased for me to eat. Than when there is no food for me to eat. I am forced to eat the foods I know that are higher in carbs then what I can have. Because of my sons weight issues (per his doctor & dietician) I have a routine of 3 meals and 3 snacks. If they are wanting more then I have always asked that you ask. I understand that kids have growth spurts, I understand all of that stuff. I also understand I am dealing with a child with other serious personal issues. Issues I have been CONSTANTLY talking to her doctors about.

Please do not get me wrong here. I love my oldest daughter to no end but this is hurting me as well. I have tried to change how often I shop to once a week. I was told to lock these things up not just because of her but because of other issues. AGAIN, the whole money thing. I am soooo furious and angry here.

I do excellent EVERY MONTH till all of this starts going on. We stopped asking the reason(s) why because we already know this answer. I am thankful I am going to be talking to someone starting Monday to help me with various issues. The things that are going on right now is above and beyond what I am able to handle. I am almost at a breaking point of wanting to walk away from EVERYTHING I have worked hard to do. I will take the blame when I do something I know I am not suppose to do but I refuse to take it when I am not the one doing it. I am lost and refuse to be told and lectured and said it is my fault for when I things like this happen. It's all over…if things do not start changing i my home… I am done…I am giving up on it all. I am sorry. I fight to find the positive but this is breaking my heart trying.


9 replies

bettymachete
bettymachete 2010-06-18 22:14:36 -0500 Report

Bless your heart. Please don't throw in the towel. Children are frustrating. These special foods are crazy expensive sometimes, so I have been having the same "I can't eat what you can" discussions with mine, but even then sometimes it doesn't work. I haven't lost it yet but I am sure there will be a day where I will go to get a snack and will have none. You sound incredibly stressed, please take some time to relax.

Hugs

Betty
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monkeymama
monkeymama 2010-06-18 22:46:35 -0500 Report

I have been able to find reasonable & affordable priced foods for my dietary needs. Believe me when I say this, I can make $450.00 - $500.00 last a whole month for a family of five the way I shop and still get what I need for ME. Thats why I was saying the whole money thing for us.

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2010-06-18 21:55:40 -0500 Report

My prayers are for you and your family.
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JoAnna

monkeymama
monkeymama 2010-06-18 22:51:21 -0500 Report

Thank you JoAnna!!! I really needed to know there are people who do care. Despite my trust issues and having guard rails that are so far tightly up. The VERY FEW friends I have where I live are not "true" friends. They just use me because of my kind and loving heart I try to do for others.

Harlen
Harlen 2010-06-18 21:32:42 -0500 Report

lol a lock works good too?
just get the foods you can eat ??? see ow long they last ?
Kids will kill you in the long run lol

even my wofe dosent know where I keep my snacks lol
Best wishes
Harlen
PS Keep up the great work

RAYT721
RAYT721 2010-06-18 21:31:20 -0500 Report

Monkeymama… I just wrote you an email. Is it "safe" to send to your home email??? I would not want to jeopardize your privacy if your messages are not private. Please let me know. I have insight to shed that I think you may benefit from.

petals
petals 2010-06-18 20:44:51 -0500 Report

I am so sorry that you feel this way, my heart actually hurts for you. I wish that I knew what to say to you. Please don't quit, don't give up!! You have inspired me to take better care of myself. Can you hold out to Monday? You can e-mail me if you want to talk some more. rubydee66@yahoo.com small, my prayers are with you.

monkeymama
monkeymama 2010-06-18 21:43:52 -0500 Report

My heart felt thank you to all. I had to fight back the thoughts and almost buying a one way ticket today. There is so many words and that I wish I could say but is hard to put into the right words to make it all clear. I've tried to walk away, I try to find other things to take my mind off but it is still there. Hugs to all and again thank you from my heart.